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    Tuesday
    Mar032015

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ FLASHBACK: I'm Not Going to Say "I Told You So" 

    ***For those of you who have been reading Bitchless Bride for the past few years, then you should recognize this post. The reason I'm re-posting? Well, let's just say that you perhaps you didn't learn your lesson the first time around. Because 2.5 years later, although I'm working with a different bride, I find myself in a similar situation. So, why reinvent the wheel? Right? This was a fantastic post (if I do say so...) So, just read it!!! Because, bridey, I cannot stress enough how important it is to tap into the network of the people you hire to help you plan your wedding. Or else, why bother, right?***

    October 2, 2012:

    I'm not going to say "I told you so", even though I am absolutely DYING to scream it at the top of my fucking lungs!!! Seriously, I am aching in my soul to tell this bride that she should have listened to me. And although I am a powerful source of knowledge, and definitely not afraid to put people (brides and vendors alike) in their place, I cannot force anybody to do anything once their mind is made up.

    So here's the deal brideys, please please please take this to heart. If you hire a wedding planner or have a fantastic relationship with the wedding coordinator at the venue where your wedding is being held, then do yourself and everybody a favor... LISTEN TO THEM. Take their advice, and run with it. Because we do this every day, and you don't. I would never sit at your desk and pretend to know or understand the complexities of each task you manage, so please don't pretend to know and understand all of the aspects that go into wedding planning, even though you've seen it on TV. 

    Last night, I had to have an "emergency meeting" with the florist for the wedding I am producing this weekend. The worst part (besides being our 4th meeting with her in five weeks to determine direction)? I was adamantly opposed to using her from the very beginning. Although I thought her aesthetic was lovely, I had my doubts about her, hmmm... how to say this... mental state? Basically, she couldn't articluate her ideas (so that we could fully understand them from a non-florist standpoint), and by the time we finally received a contract from her, it was on a word doc, not locked and missing some key elements such as:

    1. The date of the wedding.

    2. Particular services rendered (kind of a big deal).

    3. The groom's name.

    4. Liability clause, hold harmless clause, basically ALL clauses.

    5. Etc. Etc. Etc.

    So, after I completely rewrote the contract to satisfy my comfort levels (ie: this bitch wasn't going to screw us by not showing up, etc.), I told bridey that I had some serious concerns. And after several rounds on the not-so-merry-go-round, bridey decided to move forward with this lovely, yet completely scattered florist.

    Please brideys, part of the reason you hire a wedding planner is to take advantage of the people we know. Use us. Use our network. And for the millionth time, it's not because we get a kickback (although it is nice...), it's because we trust them to show up, to creatively produce, to provide a clear direction, and to do their fucking jobs. If my bridey had gone with a florist in my network; somebody I have worked with on several occasions, we seriously could have eliminated hours of complete anguish, and stress for THE BRIDE (and for me too, but...)

    If I had more time, I would tell you about the country bumpkin photographer who is unfamiliar with the venue, and yet has not carved out time to come to the big city to do her homework, and is now freaking out. BUT, because I have to go fix and coordinate all of these details that could have completely been avoided with my trusted group of peeps, I can't get into it. 

    Bottom line? Listen to the people who are trying to help. Explore every vendor in our network before using choosing to look elsewhere. And then, and only then, go find somebody else if you aren't satisfied. Got it?

    Friday
    Feb272015

    Fantasy Friday ~ A Flashy, Fun, Blue Shoe Wearing, Cherry Red Chevy Rockin' Engagement Shoot

    Envy. That's all... I am completely and totally envious. Seriously, I just can't get enough of Leah's hair. Right?? It totally makes me want to go back to my teenage years and rebel (well, a little bit more). The only time I got my hair a teeny, tiny bit this fire engine red was when I dyed it with... KOOL-AID!! Yup. I dyed my hair with fucking Kool-Aid! And it worked! I don't know what's worse; that I dyed my hair with a popular (at the time) tasty bevy or that it fucking worked!! And, according to wikiHow, apparently, I was WAY ahead of my time! (Bridey, if you're interested in trying it, you must use the unsweetened packets vs. the sweetened.... TRUST ME!) Anyway, back to Leah and her fabulous hair and this cool ass shoot!

    Between the red hair, the cherry red Chevy, the blue stilettos, the Golden Retriever and the heat between Leah and Matt, I just couldn't help myself. I HAD to share this engagement shoot with you, bridey. Because, if you're interested in having an engagement session, then take a few pointers from Leah and Matt. Shake it up! Change your clothes, bring props (the Chevy does count as a prop, right?) and get into it! Or else why do it? Right? So, doll, have fun scrolling!

    I mean... FUCK YEAH!!! I need these shoes!Look at that hair!! OMG!!!Hot!Awwwwwww.... Doggie....

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    Wednesday
    Feb252015

    Real Wedding Wednesday ~ So Good... It'll Take Your Breath Away

    I don't know why, but this photograph completely reminds me of Reservoir Dogs. Right? Anybody else feeling it? Or have I completely lost it? I don't know... Maybe it's because of the angle or the way everybody is looking "just so", but either way, it's really cool and I love it. Plus, I feel like this pic is a glimpse into how FAB Erica and Matthew's wedding is. Truly, bridey, their wedding is so elegant and exquisite that it will take your breath away. 

    So, please feel free to lose yourself while browsing the spectacular details. Seriously, the mint cupcake tree, the amazingly designed long guest tables, Erica's dress (and shoes and veil), the perfect summer day (something that those of us on the East Coast are dreaming of daily), the wedding favors, etc. etc. etc. Bridey, if you're anything like me, then allow yourself to get lost. Enjoy!

    Absolutely LOVE the invites, etc.!
    Erica, you look AWESOME! I love everything about your dress, veil, makeup... You name it!
    Gorgeous couple.
    Those mint bridesmaids dress are FAB!!!
    STUN NING!
    The escort card display is really cool.
    Now, this is a favor I could totally CHOW!
    Seriously? This is amazing... Again, with the mint... LOVE LOVE LOVE!
    Thank you for sharing your beautiful wedding with BB!

    Industry Peeps:

    Photographer:  Lyn Ismael: Evocative Imagery of Love Stories
    Reception Venue: The Cambridge Mill

    Submitted via Two Bright Lights

    Tuesday
    Feb242015

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Same Shit, Different Bride

    Clearly some of you, brideys, just don't get it. Actually, you STILL don't get it because I've been trying to teach you how to avoid this behavior since BB's inception. You just go on your entitled way, copping your bullshit attitude with the people who are trying to help you. And, it's pissing me off. But, more than that, I'm getting frustrated and annoyed. With every five clients, there is always one who makes you question why you help people in the first place; why you still play in "the industry" and why you care so much about somebody else's wedding.

    Because it's the same shit, different bride. And, this time, it nearly through me over the fucking edge. Seriously, when I received her panicked message about how "her" venue had the audacity to host another party prior to her wedding, "and how could they do that?" and "there is no way there is going to be enough time for them to turn over the space to make my wedding perfect", I literally jumped up and down in frustration in my office. Nice mental picture, huh? BB, throwing a fit... And then, I became super grateful that I didn't answer the phone simply because she probably would have fired me for the tongue lashing I most likely would have spewed at her. Here's the thing, bridey. Based on her simple decor, minimal equipment and sheer number of guests, the venue could have booked twelve parties prior to her wedding, and it wouldn't have mattered. 

    The crazy thing? It all comes down to trust. Yup, it's a trust issue. Had this bride taken a step back and thought about the situation, she might have come to the realization that not only would I not let her down, but neither would the venue; an establishment who has been hosting events, parties and weddings for years. Because the one thing about those of us who have been around this industry for some time is that no piece of business is worth jeopardizing reputation and unleashing the wrath of a bride. Especially now with all of the outlets for public reviews (like Yelp!, etc.) and potential for a bride to chastise her vendors.

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    Friday
    Feb202015

    Fantasy Friday ~ The Darker Side of of a Bride

    Motivated by a wedding he saw in Mexico, Jason, with Juice Beat Photography, was inspired to photograph a beautiful bride dressed in a black wedding gown, or what he refers to as The Dark Bride. And seriously, I’m obsessed! The wedding industry has seen quite a bit of transition away from the traditional white wedding gown, thank you Vera Wang, and has begun to show that the darker side of a bride can be pretty fucking awesome. I have nothing against tradition, but it’s always nice to break it too. And how better to break tradition than with a black wedding dress?

    When I saw the gorge bride up against a wall of graffiti rockin’ her jewel toned bouquet of flowers, I was captivated. I LOVE that Jason used an abandoned house complete with broken windows, old furniture and walls covered in graffiti for the shoot. Super creative and inspirational! Enjoy!

    WOW! The dress, the flowers, the blue eyes... Totally FAB!Holy shit with the flowers! Kinda channeling Cyndi Lauper in this photograph? Right?The jewel tones of the florals really stand out against the black wedding dress!Scary fab veil...Screw the black dress.... Let me slip into something more comfortable...GORGE! I LOVE this shoot!!

    Industry Peeps:

    Photographer: Juicebeats Photography
    Floral Designer: Melissa Timm Designs