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    Tuesday
    Feb092016

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ 7 Reasons Why Couples Divorce and How to Overcome Them...

    The other day, I ran into a groom whose wedding I had planned 8-9 years ago. Once it registered who I was, the first thing out of his mouth was, "Christin and I are still married!" After nearly choking on my gum, I said, "Good! You two were one of the good ones!" He thanked me and then asked, "You must wonder about that a lot... Like, if couples you've worked with are still married?" Another jaw dropping moment for me... But, yes, I do... ALL THE TIME! So, following a few pleasantries, chatting about our kids, etc. we parted ways, but I couldn't shake what he said to me. I mean... It's a perfectly valid question considering the shitty wedding statistics, right? Bridey, as you embark on the biggest day of your life leading up to your future, let's talk about how to over come the dismal marriage statistics, shall we?

    Bridey, the truth is that one out of every TWO marriages fail. Um, that's 50%! Holy shit, right? Pretty grim stats! I mean... We spend all of this time and energy dating, obsessing and finally committing, thinking we finally found the right one, and then BOOM! A few years after the wedding (that I worked my ass off planning), divorce. WHY? What changes after the wedding that didn't present itself before you said "I do"? Or better yet... Maybe nothing changed, and the little red flags were there the whole time.

    Here are a few well known reasons why couples divorce and my ideas on how to overcome them before you walk down the aisle:

    1. Lack of communication. This one always baffles me. Do you communicate now? Yes? Good! Well, then keep communicating. Not communicating so well? Then fight it out if you have to! Yell it out! Scream it out! But, no matter what, bridey, get it out! If something is on your mind, then do something about it! Shockingly, this tends to come easily for me, as I am a bit of a loud mouth, and the people in my life always know where they stand, but you don't have to be a loud mouth to communicate. Just do it, bridey. In your own way. Sometimes it's as simple as an email outlining how you feel. Hide behind the screen if it helps you tell your partner how you feel. Who cares how you do it, but just get it out there! Because if you're starting your marriage with shattered lines of communication, then ultimately? You'll be communicating via attorney after the wedding.

    2. Cheating. Why? I know I sound naïve when I say this, but WHY cheat? Seriously, besides the fact that cheating is the most cowardly, selfish and insensitive thing a person can do to somebody that they supposedly love, it's breaking the ultimate bond; the sanctity of marriage. A bond which both parties are about to knowingly enter into. So, keep your junk in your pants, and get in touch with why the urge to cheat is present in the first place. Bridey, if cheating is something that you're currently dealing with, then I highly suggest adjusting your focus from choosing your linen colors to reexamining your choice in partner.

    3. Money. There's a shocker. Right? People fighting about money? I think it's so sad how money has the power to make things weird and cause friction between people. And yet, it totally does! Throw in the differences in your spending (or saving) habits, then the whole money thing can definitely contribute to the great divide. Why people aren't up front with their expectations, money wise, astounds me. Bridey, you're about to spend a shitload of cash on your wedding,  but, when it comes to the everyday stuff like bills, and groceries, etc., you argue. For the love of God, start having REAL conversations about money before you get married! If one of you likes to shop, and one of you likes to penny pinch, this could be a real problem, so figure it out now or allocate a portion of your salary to your divorce attorney.

    4. The "we" is killing you. There's no "I" in "we". Bridey, you've lost your sense of self, and you're feeling the ramifications. It's really hard not to lose a piece of yourself when deeply ensconced with another person, but... TRY. Don't let go of your friends simply because you found "the one". Don't forget about the hobbies you enjoyed prior to getting into a relationship. Don't forget who you were before the rock! You're a big girl... You don't always need to do couple things. So, loosen your grip on "we", and focus on "me" every now and again.

    5. Sex. Or, lackthereof. Do I really need to say more? Just do something about it. This is the easiest fix on the list.

    6. Lack of effort. Um, you have to work at maintaining a healthy relationship. And, sometimes? It's fucking hard. We all fall into ruts, but it's how we dig ourselves out of the rut that counts. Bridey, put you're heart into your relationship in the same way you're putting your heart into your wedding plans. You gotta work at it... Period.

    7. Wrong partner. I'm about to tell you something you already know, bridey. He/she isn't "the one", and you know it. So, quit fucking around... It's not going to get better, so get out before you waste time and money getting married.

    Sadly, I could go on and on, but why bother? Bottom line, if it doesn't feel right, then quit while your ahead... OF THE WEDDING!

    Image via GCSE Religious Studies

    Friday
    Feb052016

    Fantasy Friday ~ No Shirt, No Shoes, No Problem... A Laid Back, Beautiful, Beach Wedding in Mexico

    "No frills or fancy things." Said no bride ever... Right??? But, Samantha did!! I know, I love her already! She and Joaquin strayed from a traditional wedding reception and opted for a lovely, intimate dinner with friends and family to celebrate their nuptials. Once everybody filled their bellies with delicious food and drink, they moved the party to Gitano for some music and dancing. How fun is that?? As a couple who love to travel and drink amazing wine, sounds like the perfect evening! Oh, a cool l'il side note? Their wedding day was the anniversary of the day they met four years earlier. I mean... 

    Samantha and Joaquin wanted a wedding that was casual and comfortable. As a couple who truly compliment each other, Joaquin is quite the joker, and Samantha is a bit more serious, their wedding captured who they are as a couple without the stress or bullshit of conventional wedding planning. And these two? Didn't grow up in Mexico... This was a destination wedding! Joaquin grew up in Milwaukee and Samantha grew up in a small town in Minnesota. Didn't see that coming, did you? Neither did I which totally makes me love them even more!! Such great inspiration in this beautiful wedding! Enjoy!

    Holy shit would I love to be there RIGHT NOW!!! Looks beautiful!

    Love this pic of Samantha!
    TOTALLY obsessed with Samantha's dress. You look gorgeous!!!
    Joaquin, you're looking quite dapper!
    I could have designed this card myself... 
    When you're getting married on the beach, shoes are definitely optional! Those anklets? Fantastic!!!
    Hi. WOW.
    Samantha, Joaquin. You're a damn sexy couple.
    Seriously, all I see are the sparks flying!
    Love. Love. Love.
    A pre-cocktail, cocktail? Don't mind if I do!

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    Wednesday
    Feb032016

    Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Bohemian, Beautiful, Flower Crown Wearing, Intimate Wedding 

    Meet Kayley and Jeremiah. They got married on a somewhat murky, overcast day in October at the Aspen Hall in Bend, Oregon. And although it wasn't a "perfect" day, clearly these two didn't let a little mist get in their way. I mean... Isn't that a splendid photograph? Seriously, I feel like this shot is part of a styled shoot, and Kayley and Jeremiah are models. But, it's 100% real. THEY are 100% real as you can tell from the intensity emanating from the pic. (OMG, isn't Kayley's makeup sublime?) And, bridey? Wanna know why I have a couple crush on these two? Because the most important part of Kayley and Jeremiah's wedding was to celebrate with their closest friends and family.

    If you're looking for boho wedding inspiration, then Kayley and Jeremiah's wedding should satisfy all of your bohemian needs. From flower crowns, to a beautiful, rustic environment I'm sure that all of this jewel toned loveliness will guide you in the right direction. Enjoy!
    I am OB SES SED with these shoes!
    Seriously... I don't know which pic (look up, okay, look down) is sexier...
    BUSTED. Although, wedding days are long, so pizza is totally a necessity!
    Jeremiah... You're the CUTEST!! Who could blame you though... Kayley is truly gorgeous.
    OMG!! I want that flower crown!
    SO sweet...
    Let's go get married!
    First of all, LOVE the bridesmaids dresses (something you don't hear very often!). Secondly, those chicks are strong!
    So simple and cute.
    Clearly, everybody is having a great time!
    Best.photograph.ever. Thank you for sharing your beautiful, intimate wedding with Bitchless Bride!

    Industry Peeps:

    Photographer: Tim Gallivan Photography
    Event Venue: Aspen Hall
    Dress Store: Bella Brides
    Caterer: Cascade Catering
    Signage: Chalked.
    Floral Designer: Donner Flower Shop
    Makeup Artist: Lashes by Monique

    Tuesday
    Feb022016

    Bitchless Bride Video #2 - ***FLASHBACK*** Perspective is a Bitch!

    I thought it was time to resurrect one of my fave videos (from 2012!) in anticipation of all of the engagements which will inevitably take place as we near Valentine's Day. So, please don't hate me for speaking the truth!

    "Nobody wants to go to your wedding! We are not excited like you are."
    — Jerry Seinfeld

    Who cares about your wedding the way you do? Nobody... And you know what? Most people don't care at all... They don't even want to come. Just a little perspective...

    Friday
    Jan292016

    Fantasy Friday ~ A Totally FAB, Industrial Glam Styled Shoot

    If I were to look inward, I would definitely see a few themes coursing through my veins. One, I am totally in a Kate Spade place. My biz card holder is KS and says "let's do lunch", (they didn't have one that said, "let's do booze"), I have been rockin' some serious KS accessories, and I've been dancing around in some glittery KS shoes. And, including this fucking KICK ASS Kate Spade, industrial glam shoot, this is my second KS themed something posted in the last week... The other theme? I'm homesick for Chicago. Seriously, this month alone, I have posted three Chicago weddings. Perhaps it's because I am drawn to the beauty of the city or maybe it's coincidence, but either way... That's what's going on with me.

    Anyway, there is so much color, and texture and pure electricity captured this shoot that I really won't be able to give it justice unless I shut up and let you start scrolling. I can't even tell you my favorite aspect of these pics because every.single.photograph is sensational. I mean, bridey... Talk about inspiration! Enjoy this one because it's FABULOUS!WOW! These invitations are from Wedding Paper Divas! Love the stripes!!
    Can I get an OMFG? WOW! Oh my fucking God! The dress, the shoes, the textures! OH MY!
    I cannot get over this bouquet! So gorgeous!
    Again with the stripes! SO awesome! And, I love the cumberbund!!!
    I seriously don't know who's prettier!
    I love the rawness of the space combined with elegance of the chairs...
    STUN NING table! LOVE the gold cloth!! And the pink! And the MR. & MRS. I just love the whole thing!
    I am a stripes fanatic (you should see my closet, probably just like Kate Spade!), and the table runner is so amazing!!

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