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    Tuesday
    May312016

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ ***FLASHBACK*** Quit Your Bitchin, Bridey

    I wrote this article for the Huffington Post in 2012, and I was inspired because of a particularly difficult bride I had the joy of working with, who literally drove me the brink of insanity. The reason I am sharing it with you today? Well, because in the last week I have heard several stories of brides behaving badly. Whining, complaining, and simply irritating the fuck out of everybody around them. I don't know if people tell me these stories because they know what I do, or what, but either way, I thought a simple reminder to QUIT BITCHIN' was in order... So, read up ladies!!

    September, 2012:

    After an amazing weekend filled with rehearsal dinners, beautiful weddings, “morning after” brunches, everything hurts; everything aches; everything cracks. I feel like an old lady hobbling around looking for my cane. But, the worst pain? My head. And my head hurts from too much thinking, and over thinking, and even MORE thinking, and not from drinking (like I’m used to). Seriously... The funny thing? My head doesn’t hurt because of the lovely bride and groom from the wedding this past Saturday... It hurts from the endless emails and texts I received from my UPCOMING clients that either ask or say the most ridiculous crap. Simply whining about everything because they feel “so taken advantage of”, and their “patience for this wedding stuff is running thin”. Really?

    If you missed my post last week on Bitchless Bride, I mentioned that I had an addiction. That I couldn’t stop “using”, and that no matter how hard I tried, I was simply “addicted to yes“. And while I openly admitted to my horrendous compulsion, to enabling my brides, and to just “making it happen”, I must state for the record that I hate that I do it. I hate that it’s EXPECTED for me to continue to “use”. But, I do have my limits, and because it’s only the beginning of the fall wedding season, I have to pace myself. But, I need your help brideys.

    Seriously, I need for you to quit whining... Quit whining about all of the aspects of planning your wedding that we have no control over. Certain prices are fixed. Certain aspects are truly non-negotiable. And emailing me every second of the day isn’t going to change that. Because even I can’t “yes” my way to changing the industry “norm”.

    Like your wedding dress alterations? Yeah, they’re expensive, and oftentimes non-negotiable. You know why? Because you’re literally paying somebody to rip apart your very expensive wedding dress (yeah, the one that you only get to wear once), put it back together, and make it perfect for your perfect wedding day. Okay? This won’t be cheap. And I’m sorry, but if you want those unbelievable flowers on your wedding cake that “look so incredibly real”, then yes, you have to pay extra for them. And no, you are not being punished.... You’re simply paying for a service. You’re paying for a product. And you’re paying for time. So get over it or don’t get it. 

    I mean, let’s get real people. I refuse to believe that you’d walk into Valentino or Burberry and ask WHY the amazing dress in the window is so expensive when you could just make it yourself. Or HOW COME the sunglasses don’t come with the dress. Really? Come on.... Please. So why are you constantly surprised when the wedding industry demands to be paid for quality and time? I’m tired of apologizing for what every other industry “gets away with”. 

    Brideys, the minute you got engaged, you signed on an invisible dotted line, and although you might not have realized it, you signed up for all of the shenanigans that go with planning your wedding. But seriously, like you didn’t know your wedding was going to be expensive? I don’t care if your budget is $10,000 or $100,000. A wedding is not cheap. Seriously, look at the numbers... The wedding industry is a 55 BILLION dollar industry (in the US)… PER YEAR. It didn’t get to be that way because everybody is working for free. It got that way because you are buying an experience; you are buying talent; you are buying memories. And you know what? It’s fucking expensive. That’s it. PERIOD THE END. 

    So quit whining about it! It is what it is. Just resign yourself to the fact that you’re part of it now. Resign yourself to the fact that you don’t have to like it; you just have to stop complaining about it.

    Image via YouQueen

    Friday
    May272016

    Fantasy Friday ~ A Super Colorful, Super Fabulous, Amazing Rainbow Wedding, Rockin' Some Serious Pride! YEAH!

    OMG. Are you fucking falling over right now, bridey? Seriously, just look at this incredible ceremony setup. LOOK! Yes, I am totally yelling at you, but that's simply because I am 100% OBSESSED with Steven and Andrew's wedding. It's RAINBOW!!! And, I love rainbows... So much so, that in 2013, I put together a post called The Rainbow Connection. I thought was pretty fucking awesome, but now that I have had the privilege of sharing this with you, I realized that it hardly holds a candle to Steven and Andrew's kickass wedding! 

    Aside from all of the colorful deets (quite literally), I love that these two groom's are waving the rainbow flag, HIGH (well, they're signing it instead of a guest book!)!!! I mean... Love is love... Marry whoever the fuck you want. Love whoever you want. And be whoever you want! Now, go love this wedding like I did! (If you want to see Steven and Andrew's engagement shoot, and learn more about their story, click here.)
    Woot! Woot!
    Andrew, you are so ADORABLE! Like... OMFG!
    Awwwww..... So so so cute!!
    Steven... Such a handsome pic!!
    Like... OMG with the ceremony space!!
    Doves. That's all.
    The masks! WHOA!!! A teeny, tiny bit Tom Cruise in Eyes Wide Shut, but I love it!
    Amazing! Check out the bow tie!
    Tanner.
    Rascal.
    Fabulous wedding favors!
    AWESOME!!!
    Cheers!!
    W.O.W.
    Andrew, Steven... Thank you for sharing this amazing rainbow wedding with Bitchless Bride!

    Industry Peeps:

    Photographer: Mak Rabbitt Photography LLC
    Caterer: Cheers & Lakeside Chalet
    Ceremony Location: Cheers Chalet
    Cake Designer: Short North Piece of Cake
    Bakery: Short North Piece of Cake
    Dress Store: The Wedding Plantation
    Reception Venue: Lakeside Chalet

    Wednesday
    May252016

    Real Wedding Wednesday ~ An Italian Vineyardy, Insanely Beautiful, Fourth of July Wedding...

    Okay, so obviously I know that Memorial Day is coming up, not the Fourth of July, but either way, I thought it was appropriate to rock a flag on Bitchless Bride leading up to the holiday. And, this wedding is totally going to make you cry with delight! Yes, I just wrote that, but it's true! You see, Kathleen really wanted to have a destination wedding in Italy at a beautiful vineyard, but knew the trip would be difficult for her guests. Sooooo, she and her hus, Daniel, brought Italy to their wedding. And, you know what? They did an A MAZ ING job capturing the essence of Italy. The décor is spot on, and so is the vibe.

    Oh! Bridey, you know my love for anything cake, right? Well, just wait until you see the cakes that the B+G selected! Yes, CAKES!!! OMFG! Seriously, why don't I ever get invited to weddings with multiple cakes? Anyway... Enjoy this fabulously festive Fourth of July wedding! I'll let Kathleen fill you in on some of the deets!
    Um... Could you bust?
    The bridesmaids were Kathleen and Daniel's daughters... Sniff! Sniff!
    Stunning!!! Damn, girl!
    Hello, Italy... Welcome to Utah! LOVE how the chairs are arranged for the ceremony.
    This one... ADORBS!
    Kathleen: My Uncle John Lynch. When my dad passed and we got engaged I wasn't sure I wanted anyone to take my dads place. I decided I have been really close with my uncle my whole life, Uncle John loved my dad and held him with high regard and was honored to walk his niece down the aisle. He is also a retired Marine and a full time officer in the Sheriffs dept in Col. He is one of the few that gets asked to wear his Blues and march in NYC for the remembrance of 9/11. I remember coming down the stairs from my Bridal Suite and seeing him for the 1st time in his Blues, it was such a surprise and honor for me to walk with him as well. He looked very dapper; and it was perfect since it was July 4th.

    Awwwwww.....
    I mean... So beautiful!
    HAHA! Love it!! Totally something I would do!
    Kathleen: The décor was a mixture of Italian Vineyard and Vintage Romance. We had real grapes throughout all of our flowers. We used a collection of Cigar boxes we collected from all of Daniel's favorite cigars for our centerpiece flowers, along with garden vases and candle sticks, Wine Barrels, Chandeliers and twinkle lights in the trees to soften all the wood. We had King Ranch Wood tables with Cream lace runners on the adults tables- Fruitwood Chairs, Ivory with Satin Champagne overlays on the 4 Kids tables. Satin Champagne with Lace runners on all the High Boy Tables for the Cigar Lounge and Bar and also for the antipasti station. We had a brown leather loveseat and chairs with granite table in the cigar lounge on the deck with the bar and Italian Soda station...

     

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    Tuesday
    May242016

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ ***FLASHBACK*** What if Your Vendors Reviewed You, Bridey?

    Recently, I had the opportunity to work with a truly amazing bride. She was friendly, organized and considerate of every single person who had a hand in the wedding planning. This chick was even friendly to those who didn’t have a hand in the wedding planning, but wished they did (like her soon-to-be MIL who I know was driving her crazy!). Totally a Bitchless bride! And, as I was placing the final touches at the venue, and bullshitting with the DJ, both of us said how great it was working with her because as we both know, it could go either way. And after we traded a few horror stories about crazy, bitchy brides of the past, he said, “Wouldn’t it be great if we could review them?” I stopped in my tracks... Holy shit. It would be great if we could review our brides. It would be fabulous if we could review our brides! It might even be life changing, for vendors and brides alike. But, how?

    Well, think about it, bridey... If there was an outlet, similar to YelpWeddingWire, etc. where following your wedding, your vendors could write a review about you and your behavior/attitude while planning, would that impact how you conducted yourself? Wait! Before you answer the question, allow me to keep going for a bit... What if this outlet was powerful enough to alter the course of your professional life? Similar to the way a negative review can wreak havoc on our business, a negative review could potentially ruin a fantastic job opportunity for you, bridey (like it does for us), get you fired (as it can for us), and completely soil your reputation as you know it.

    Imagine if a potential (or even your current) employer "Googled" you, and could read about how you treated your wedding vendors without hearing "your side of the story". Scary, right? Pretty fucked up? Yes! Because in their eyes? These reviews reveal a lot about how you behave under pressure, and how you treat people in the process... Bridey, if you were a raving lunatic or even had one looney moment, you'd probably have some explaining to do or maybe you'd miss a chance to land the next big career move; pretty damaging for some of you. Right?

    Now, bridey, answer the question... If there was a site for vendors to review brides in the same way you very publicly review us, would that change your behavior during wedding planning? Would it change how you treat people knowing that your behavior and conduct could leave a lasting impression not only on your vendors, but on your career too?

    Image via Box University Blog

    Friday
    May202016

    Fantasy Friday ~ An Intimate, Vintage Inspired Tennessee Wedding

    Bridey, do you know what the most suggested piece of advice is from one bride to another? Have fun on your wedding day! Relax! Enjoy every second. Well, that's exactly what Becky and Devin did... They enjoyed every.single.second. And, know what? It totally shows in the photographs! I mean... There is so much to love about this intimate, vintage inspired wedding, that I hardly know where to begin because I love all of the intricate details. Seriously, the deets are so meaty and delicious that I can't stand it! Just wait until you see the stunning, hand crafted bouquets, the wedding dresses, the gentlemen attire, etc.!! 

    The other super cool part of Becky and Devni's wedding? Well, the B+G have two gorgeous little girls, and they did an incredible job of making these beauties a huge part of their ceremony. After all, a wedding is about a union of two people, right? And, if these two people have two other people together, then everybody should be involved, right? RIGHT!! Anyway... Enjoy!!
    LOVE. Like... So beautiful and clever.
    That's the B+G and their two adorable little girls!
    Couldn't you see this pic in your mom's wedding album?
    I can't... It's just too good! Becky, your bouquet is really amazing!
    SHUT the front door...
    A single tear just rolled down my cheek...
    Okay... A few more tears... Whhaaaa? What can I say? This one totally got to me!
    Such a cool group shot!
    Can you tell that Becky is a model? Definitely owning these photographs! And, Devin? You're pretty easy on the eyes too!  Some of my fave wedding pics!!
    So simple and pretty. Know what? It's fucking red velvet too! Oh yeah! 
    Too cute!
    Hi. Yum!
    And now it's time for a costume change. WOW!!
    LOVE IT!
    Becky, Devin... Thank you for sharing your truly beautiful and moving wedding with Bitchless Bride!!

    Industry Peeps:

    PhotographerAnd How! Imaging
    Reception Venue: The Barn at Snider Farms