A Lush, Mountain Wedding Filled with Extraordinary Colors, Creatures + Décor, Disguised as a Rockin' Party!

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Bridey, Sarah + Andy's wedding looks absolutely nothing like this pic. Like, not even a little bit... I mean, if I told you that this pic was part of an engagement shoot, you'd believe me. Right? Well, it's not. Not at all. Not even remotely. This shot is of the B+G sneaking away for a few photographs after the ceremony, and before the RAGER that was their wedding reception. And, I mean RA GER! The kind of party filled with overflowing shots, men rockin' some HOT makeup, the bride with a bottle of booze on the dance floor, and clothes disappearing. Honestly? It's fucking awesome!!! And, the décor?? Dreamy. Delicate. Delicious. A complete contrast to the vibe, and for that, I am OB SES SED!

So, why did I choose to open this rockin' party of a wedding with this particular photograph? Because, I love that while these two clearly love to celebrate, they also clearly love each other. There is a tenderness and ease captured here that would 100% get lost in the scroll, and I really wanted you, bridey, to see every corner of this wedding day. Remember, you can have the wedding of your dreams, and celebrate with your friends and family, but please don't lose sight of the why. YOU TWO!!! Enjoy every.single.photograph. It's truly impossible not to!

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You're not imagining the glittered fabulousness... It's there, and it's wonderful!!

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I can't even with this wedding dress. OMFG!

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Sarah, you are incredible! Everything about your look is stunning. EVERYTHING!

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I feel like this pic could be in a perfume ad... "SexyFab".

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Totally breathtaking...

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You just can't manufacture this kind of emotion. These guests are not only in attendance, but they are present. 

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There is so much to love about this photograph!

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I mean... Such amazing tenderness between these two.

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WOW! Just WOW!

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Meanwhile, back at the ranch... Bridey, just look at how incredible this escort card "table" is! OMFG. It's so well done, that the planner in me is going to cry.

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Speaking of a crying wedding planner, the décor at this wedding is simply phenomenal. The details are absolutely exquisite!! I truly love everything about everything!

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Like, this is a summer wedding, and yet S+A are rockin' deer as part of their décor. How fucking awesome is that?

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It's clear to me (and probably to you too if you have even a shred of emotion), that the guests at Sarah and Andy's wedding WANT to be there to support the B+G and celebrate with them.

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I'm thinking that the photographer thought it was a good idea to get a group shot before things got super cray... Keep scrolling, bridey. All I gotta say is, HOT DAMN!

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I dunno know who she is, but I love her and would be holding her hand if I was lucky enough to be at this wedding!

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Soooooo.... YAAAAAASSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Party! Party! Party!

Look at the faces of the peeps in the background of these pics. Totally awesome!

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Sarah, Andy, you had EXACTLY the right mix of emotion and celebration (not to mention your incredible décor). Thank you for sharing the first day of the rest of your lives together with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Adam Kealing International Wedding Photography
DJ: DJ Mitch Fourtune @ Remix Weddings
Flowers: Beth Hohensee @ Studio Flora Diva
Dress: Cleo & Clementine
Event Venue: Hawkesdene

Reboot ~ Please Don't Come to My Wedding... How Cutting the Guest List Means Cutting the Cord

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“Please don’t come to my wedding,” she said jokingly, although with a bit of truth behind her words. I laughed with her because I understand how out of control the guest list can become, and when those invitees whom you thought were not going to accept your (strained) invitation decide to grace you with their presence, along with all of those guests you knew were going to come to your wedding, the budget struggle and the lost prospect of an intimate wedding suddenly become very, very real. Bridey, the guest list is probably the hardest part of wedding planning you will encounter because it affects everything. Every decision. Every selection. Every dollar.

So, what is a bride to do? How do you cut the guest list so that you don’t have to cross your fingers every time an RSVP arrives? How do you do it without hurting feelings? Honestly, you don’t. Somebody is going to be hurt because they weren’t invited even if they had no intention of going to your wedding. That’s just how it goes. And it sucks, but that’s the reality of it. So, I need you to do something for me. Imagine a world where you got to decide who would be in attendance on one of the biggest days of your life. Really think about it. Now, write it down. Who’s on that list, bridey? Close family, friends, etc.. Right? Awesome. Now, stop thinking about who’s not on the list and start thinking about how you’re going to handle your ideal guest list. Because, this is it! And for those who didn’t make the cut? Too bad. Remember, you don’t have to apologize, you just have to understand the consequences of your actions and figure out the balance between the two.

Bridey, the truth? No bullshit? Those you don’t invite will be pissed off and hurt, and potentially hold a grudge against you for the rest of their life (and yours). So, the question becomes, are you willing to cut the cord? It’s completely possible that some of these people will never speak to you again, un-friend you on FaceBook, and fall off entirely. And honestly, this might not be a bad thing. Perhaps it’s even an opportunity to filter out the people in your life you’ve been dying to let go of, but haven’t quite found the right excuse. Well, I’d say that by not inviting them to your wedding you’re pretty much sealing the deal!

Although, what about those who you still adore, but didn’t make the cut simply because by inviting them would mean that you would have to invite the string of relatives associated with them (to keep it “fair”)? Sadly, they might end up being collateral damage, however if you’re able to have an honest conversation about your reasoning, then you could potentially salvage these relationships. But, there is no guarantee, and that is what you have to internalize and decide how important certain relationships are to you. And, only you can answer that question.

Look, I know it’s not easy, be that as it may, it’s still your wedding, and your choice. In my opinion, down the road… you’ll end up filtering out those people who really don’t matter to you or make much of a difference in your life (family or not) simply by living. That’s how it goes. So, why not cut the cord now and mark your wedding day as the day you didn’t succumb to the pressure of being all inclusive even at your own expense (literally and figuratively). Got it? Good! Now, go write your list! And good luck!

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A Unicorn Disguised as a Bride, Some Superhero Puddle Jumping, and a Whole Lot of Weddingy Awesomeness!!

Bridey, I don't care what people say about luck + rain on your wedding day, because you know what? It sucks. It sucks logistically, it sucks organizationally, and it sucks frizzily (I'm pretty sure I made that word up)... But, people feel like they have to say that to make the B+G feel better about a sucky situation. Right? And as a wedding planner, I'm the one dealing with the logistics, the reorganization and rockin' some seriously big hair. Anyway... I have to say, Marianna + Kyle are total rebels, and used it to their advantage. I mean... Just look at that gorgeous pic!! These two crazy cats were jumping around in the puddles and loving every second! And, obvi, I'm completely obsessed with her FABULOUS pink hair!!! 

Know what I love? I love that Marianna will tell you she's really a unicorn. I will tell you she's really a badass. But, actually, I think she's really a unicorn disguised as a bride and I find her magical... Marianna said that, "People used to tell me I would never get married with pink hair and a nose ring, but now I am married to my best friend." WTF?? Why do people say that shit? And, more importantly, why do we believe it? We shouldn't! And, thankfully, Marianna didn't believe that shit, and married a cool guy who clearly (based on the amazing pics below), gets her. Bridey, you are who you are, you'll marry who you marry, and your wedding will be amazing. PERIOD. Now, go... Get inspired!!! Two words: DONUT CAKE.

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Guuuuuurrrrlllll.... I LOVE your pink locks and your nose ring! LOVE LOVE LOVE!

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Kyle gave his groomsmen engraved pocket watches... 

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I love how Kyle is admiring Marianna in this pic!

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Yaaaaaassssss!

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Greatest.pic.ever.

Gorgeous. Completely gorgeous and magical...

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I might be in love this man...

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Oh my fucking goodness... How DELICIOUS does this "cake" look???

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This pic could easily be my mom and me... Sniff... Sniff...

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Thank you M+K for sharing your amazing wedding with Bitchless Bride! Together, you two are the best unicorn, superhero, puddle jumping duo I've ever seen!!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Le Image Photo
Reception Venue: Deity
Submitted via Two Bright Lights

Bridey, You Should Always be Truthful... But, Here Are 10 Wedding Planning Scenarios in Which the Truth is ALWAYS Quicker

They say you get inspiration from unexpected places. In this case, my inspiration for this post comes from a quote I heard in the movie Cars 3. Yup! Cars 3… I honestly don’t remember which scene it was, just that there were a lot of cars discussing something car-race related, and one of them said that “the truth is always quicker”. I swear I had a fucking epiphany in that moment. I pretty much tackled one of my kids so that I could get to my phone fast enough to make a note before I lost it. And, that quote has stayed with me because it is SO relatable in so many situations in life. I mean, you should always make it a goal to tell the truth, but oftentimes the truth gets clouded with white lies or half-truths, usually because we’re attempting to spare somebody else’s feelings, right? But, what if you had the balls to always tell the truth; no matter what? What if you decided to be upfront, transparent and honest from the beginning of your wedding planning journey? What would happen? Allow me to educate:

1. Wedding Budget - This is the mother-load, bridey. Your wedding budget dictates everything else. Like, EVE RY THI NG else. Venue selection, the guest list, vendors, open bar, food, wedding dress, etc. So, cut the bullshit, and determine an actual budget; not an estimated budget, not a ballpark budget, but an ACTUAL budget, and who’s responsible for contributing. This conversation is usually best with some sort of alcoholic beverage, and props. Well, a spreadsheet at the very least. Remember, bridey, the truth is always quicker.

2. Guest List - It’s really very simple, or it can be. Who do you want around you on your wedding day, bridey? You get this one day, ONCE (well, maybe twice or even three times… no judgement). One day where you are lucky enough to have everybody you love under the same roof. So, make it count. Look around… Who’s there. Who’s cheering you on? Do you know everybody? Who’s (purposely) not there? Okay, were you able to capture that? Now, how will you make it happen when faced with resistance from family? How can you get through this painfully uncomfortable, usually brutal and awkward discussion? Tell the truth. Be brave. The truth is always quicker.

3. Skeletons in the Closet - We all got ‘em, but how you deal with them is what counts. Two words: Recognize and address. Say it with me, bridey… Recognize and address. You know what they are, so acknowledge them early on in the wedding planning process! For example, is your sister is a serial dater who you know will want her current flame at your very intimate and expensive wedding? Deal with it NOW! Parents went through (or are going through) a tumultuous divorce? Brutal. Talk about who’s going to walk you down the aisle, where everybody is going to sit, and if dates are allowed… This conversation is going to SUCK, but save yourself a lot of time (and pain and anguish) later. And, don’t save this beauty for the week before the wedding. The truth is always quicker.

4. Sig Other Responsibilities - I swear this is a precursor for marriage. Don’t set yourself up to be disappointed; be honest from the beginning. If he/she isn’t into “wedding planning stuff”, then believe them. Raise your hand if you need help, but don’t go assigning tasks and then getting disappointed when the follow through is lacking. The truth is always quicker.

5. Bridal Party - Who? Who do you want standing next to you on your wedding day? Now, who do you feel obligated to have standing next to you on your wedding day? Bridey, if you feel obligated, then I bet they do too. Suddenly they are obligated to contribute to bridal party shenanigans, showers and the like. Obligated to be excited about the bridesmaids dresses and then buy one. Obligated to show the fuck up. Imagine what would happen if you gently broached the subject with the “obligator”, and lightened the bridal party load? Might eliminate some stress and unmet expectations later, right? The truth is always quicker.

6. Bachelorette Party - I love Vegas. Probably because I got married there, but more than that, I love all of the bells, whistles, pasties, smoke and mirrors… But, if I’m standing up in more than one wedding this year, and I’m still working my way up the corporate ladder, my funds are limited. Bridey, while it is the responsibility of your ‘maids to make this happen for you, it is your responsibility to not be a greedy asshole. Your ‘maids will take cues from you. So if you know that three out of the six girls are broke, then suggest a local party with local fun, and save them the embarrassment. The truth is always quicker.

7. Weight - I hate this one. This is all about being honest with yourself, and obviously being honest with yourself is difficult. Bridey, if you want to lose weight for your wedding, then do it. If you don’t care, then you don’t care. The bottom line is really about how you feel on your wedding day, not how you look. You want the girl smiling in the photographs to be happy with herself, fat or thin, and only YOU can answer that question. Remember, the truth is always quicker.

8. Wedding Dress Shopping - Are you wondering why I included this? Because, over the years, I have heard all sorts of various viewpoints on wedding dress shopping. Some brides LOVE a huge entourage to accompany them to the bridal salon, while others would rather vom than have a group of girls expressing their opinions about their favorite lace or bodice or whatever. This is up to you, bridey. You determine who (if anybody) comes with you, but set the expectations early. The truth is always quicker.

9. DIY or DI-CRY - I am 100% a DICRYer. I always have these grand ideas about whipping up something I see on Pinterest (bridal or otherwise), and then crash and burn pretty awfully. Hence the crying… Bridey, there’s no shame on not being a DIYer. If you choose to become a DIYer, please practice and give yourself plenty of time to accomplish these tasks because they will always take longer than you think. The truth is always quicker. (And your truth might be to hire somebody else to do it…)

10. Open Bar - Yes! Oh wait, the budget. That pesky fucking budget. Can you afford to have an open bar? Can you provide an open bar all night? Can your crowd handle it (will they take advantage and turn into assholes)? How important is it to you? I’m pro open bar, but this is not a question I can answer for you, bridey, but, I know you know the answer. The truth is always quicker...

Bridey, you see why this one quote resonated with me do thoroughly? It is truly applicable in every situation, wedding planning and beyond. I recommend you keep this link handy if you need some encouragement as you plunge into these 10 wedding planning scenarios. When in doubt…the truth is always quicker!

Photo by David Thomaz on Unsplash

#TBT ~ Bitchless Bride Video #11 - Meet My Parents & Learn About Managing Your Wedding Budget

Brideys, back in 2012, before I comfortable spouting the truth, openly, I used to wear a hot pink wig and sunglasses to hide my identity. And, in this video, (one of my absolute FAVORITES) I somehow, I got my Dad + stepmom to wear hot pink wigs, sunglasses and rock the camera with some advice on your wedding budget. This originally posted in August of 2012, but is still SUPER relevant today. Oh! and Don't forget to check out the OUTTAKES! My dad had some trouble with his "part", gets frustrated, and swears like a lunatic... Totally priceless!

A Stranger Things Inspired Boudoir Sess Rockin' a Total Badass Babe!

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Bridey, meet Kaity. Kaity is amongst the bravest women I know. This FABULOUS lady did something so spectacular, so daring and so fucking amazing that she has inspired me to join her in her badassery, and make it a point to do something that scares me. Could be something little or something big, but I'm just going to fucking do it! I'll write about it when I'm done and then we can talk about what you did that scared the shit out of you! Anyway, this post is about more than a badass babe killing a Stranger Things boudoir shoot. It's about conquering self-deprecating behavior, owning who you are and running with that determination to kill our inner beast and replace it with self-love and acceptance.

Kaity said, "To me, self-love was forcing myself to come to terms with who I was, and committing to the fact that I was worthy, regardless of the worth that I was assigned by other parties. My assignment was forgiving myself for not meeting standards that were grossly unattainable, despite setting them myself. It was understanding that one bad interaction did not mean I was incapable of romance, and did not mean that I was unlovable... I had spent so long living under the “if you just lost some weight” mentality. As if a number on a scale would somehow give me the validation to be respected? I got this idea that I could love myself just like I was, in a body that I swore wasn’t worthy. Acting on the idea was an entirely different venture." A MEN sister! Bridey, please remember to love yourself NO MATTER WHAT, because you are worth it. We are ALL worth it... Stop letting fear paralyze your dreams, and go live them! Now, go get inspired by Kaity's awesomeness.

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Eggos still make me happy, but not as happy as they make our alien friend, Eleven, in Stranger Things.

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Holy heatwave! Kaity you are HOT HOT HOT!!!

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I always wanted blue eyes! Kaity, you truly are a hot fucking ticket! DAAAAAMMMMNNN!

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Is there a naughty school girl in Stranger Things? Do they need one? Just curious. Asking for a friend...

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Kaity. I applaud your bravery + badassery. You owned the SHIT out of this boudoir sess, and you are BEAUTIFUL! Congratulations on conquering your inner beast! Thank you for sharing your journey with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Jessica Hunt Photography
HairVIVID: Cut. Color. Style. 
Beauty: Pretty and Pinned
Venue: 701 Whaley

It All Started Because of a "Sarcastic, Tattooed Lady Who Loves Cheesy Horror Movies"

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Bridey, I truly hope you met your sig other because you were honest about who you are (and because you're a kind person, and super attracted to each other, obvi!). That's how Randall and Michelle met; because Michelle described herself as a "sarcastic, tattooed lady who loves cheesy horror movies..." on her dating profile, and was a "match" for Randall. And the rest? Well, you're about to scroll pics from their wedding day, so clearly it worked out well! I mean, you can 100% feel the emotion and devotion enveloped in this photograph, and frankly, I struggled to choose just ONE of these tender pics as the post opener...

Personally, I would have described myself as a "funny girl who exercises to support her cake-eating habit, and loves to dance (sometimes badly)". But, that's just me... Anyway, R+M wanted a very simple wedding that combined modern rustic with industrial, and that is exactly what they accomplished. Sooooo... they selected Highland Brewing Company because they loved the new event and rooftop spaces, and had a friend master the design and décor. Bridey, there is a ton of inspiration in this post, but my favorite tip from Randall? "Don't sweat the small stuff! Every couple will face a hiccup on their wedding day, but trust me, you'll laugh about it later." #TRUESTORY

AMEN.

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See what I mean about there being several pics that would have opened this post SO well?  I LOVE this photo!

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The brides look FAB, but can we just talk about all of the beer behind them?? I mean, I know it's a brewing company, but dear God!! YUM!

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DY ING over the shoes. DYING.

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Hell yeah! We did it!!!

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Cheers, Michelle!!!

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This is some serious dessert porn. Like SERIOUS. And, as a self-described cake (over)eater, OMFG! Throw in some donuts, and I'm going to need a moment alone...

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Michelle changed out of her military uniform into a wedding dress for the reception. Can you believe that Randall's dress is borrowed from her cousin because she loved the style?!!!

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I am obsessed with all of the fantastic shoe selections!!

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When asked about the most anticipated or special moment of their wedding day, Randall said, "Our first dance. I think we both underestimated our ability to learn a choreographed dance, but it was a special moment when we felt like the only 2 people in the room. Despite our dresses getting stuck together, hindering our ability to pull off the "big dip" at the end of our dance, it was truly an unforgettable experience for the two of us."

And another pic I almost opened the post with...

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I LOVE LOVE LOVE seeing a packed dance floor.... The entertainment can 100% make or break your wedding, and it's clear that R+M's DJ ROCKED!

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Thank you so much Randall + Michelle for sharing your kick ass wedding with Bitchless Bride!!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Joseph Dix Photography
Venue: Highland Brewing Company
Hair Stylist: Jeanne's Hair & Makeup Studio
Equipment Rentals: Classic Event Rental
Officiant: Rev Jacqueline Weiks
DJ: Spintastic Sounds
Bakery: Perfectly Pretty Sweets
Caterer: Dining Innovations

ReBoot! ~ Wedding Planning... A Job You are Completely Unqualified For??

Congratulations! You’ve just been hired to do a job you are completely unqualified for… Best of luck! I mean… What if that really was the case? What if you were hired to do a job in which you lacked the appropriate credentials and connections to be successful? Sounds awful, right? And, why the fuck would you accept that kind of responsibility knowingly? Well, for most of you, I just described the minute after you told your friends and family you about your engagement. Yup! Your engagement and plans to betroth has just become your brand new, shiny job; one that has you completely ecstatic, and terrified at the same time. One that looks good on paper, but can totally suck and suck the life out of you at the same time. Bridey, welcome to the most unqualified time in your life (well, unless you’re already a parent!!). Welcome to your engagement! 

I know, I know, I’m a bitch for ruining the moment, and I hate to rain on your sparkly, bridal parade, but better you have some warning about the next step as opposed to thinking that this experience is going to be 100% rainbows and unicorns. I meet very few brides who are totally excited and ready for the task at hand. Because planning a wedding is a lot of work and takes a lot of commitment. And, the brides that are totally onboard, are usually an event planner, a spreadsheet whore or a control freak (that doesn’t end so well) who has some serious issues with pretty much every stage of the game. So, where does that leave you? Don’t worry, bridey, you’ll be fine. Just allow me to educate you a bit…

Last year, I wrote a piece called, Why Planning Your Wedding Actually IS a Full Time Job, and one of the primary points highlighted in the article isn’t the actual planning of the wedding, it’s more about the anxiety and feelings of inadequacy when it comes to family dynamics and money. For some you, these are issues you may deal with daily, but when you are planning your wedding, they become intensified and daunting. And kind of like a new job (qualified or not), you’re faced with new situations, tons of decisions and several conversations that feel uncomfortable and borderline risky. Risky? Yes, risky. Because with each decision, your psyche fucks with you, and tells you that you’re risking the budget or that you’re risking the delicate equilibrium that is your immediate family or that you’re risking your friendships… And the thing is, bridey, you can’t quit. You can’t decide not to move forward. (Well, unless you’re me. I eloped, but that came with it’s own set consequences.) But, you can persevere. 

How? Here are a few quick suggestions:

1. Cut yourself some some fucking slack! You’ve never done this before (well, most of you haven’t), and there is no need to be so hard on yourself. Take your time, filter out the naysayers and the noise, put your head down and just do it. Oh, and… See #2.

2. Surround yourself with professionals. PERIOD. I’ve said it a million times, bridey! But, if you don’t know what you’re doing, then hire people who do. We don’t hesitate to do this for every other facet of our lives, so why should your wedding planning be any different? Wedding professionals like planners, gifted photographers, etc. will walk you though the tough decisions, and advise you when you’re stuck. So, put some extra dough in the budget and consider it your “piece of mind” fund.

3. Avoid the 3 Ps…. the 3 Ps. Pressure, precedence and perfection. They all suck, and most of the time they are usually self-induced. So let it go…

4. Be honest with your fiancé, yourself and your family. AT THE BEGINNING. Don’t leave room for “risky" behavior to butt in… Even in a job that has you feeling insecure, honesty really is the best policy.

5. Please have fun. I mean, it’s not fun a lot of the time, but this industry and wedding planning have become synonymous with fucking rainbows, unicorns, glitter and cupcakes… So, when you come across one of those things, enjoy it. 

So, bridey, are you going to quit this terrible job that your 100% unqualified for? Fuck no you’re not! You’re going to plow through, and own it because if nothing else, it will get you ready for another job you may not be 100% qualified for… Marriage.

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A Friendly Reminder to Love Harder, Be Kinder and Plan On...

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Brideys, I was going to do a funny and educational throwback today, but after absorbing the enormity of the news and attempting to explain why people do the crazy shit they do to my seven-year-old daughter, I thought I’d go a bit deeper and remind you how important it is to embrace perspective while planning your wedding. And not that a school shooting or people needlessly dying is a direct correlation, because it doesn’t even begin to touch that kind of emotion, but it IS a direct correlation as to how you can go about planning your wedding day; with love, kindness and clarity. Clarity is key. You’re getting married, and therefore you should celebrate your love. But, do it with kindness. Do it with respect. Do it with tenderness.

Sadly, we’ve continually been reminded (over and over again) how precious life is, and how little control we have over our destiny. And I hate that it takes awful occurrences like a school shooting to readjust our thinking and for us to love harder and be kinder. I hate that I worked so hard to have my children (thanks to IVF), and now I live in fear every.single.day. for their safety. I’m afraid I won’t be able to protect them from a pissed off, deranged individual with a gun. I’m afraid that if I teach my girl to be strong and stand up for herself that she’ll have to answer to a bullet. I’m afraid that if I don’t, she’ll have to answer to a bullet. Honestly, I’m just afraid. 

Bridey, I want to make it clear that I am not minimizing how important it is to celebrate the union of two people who love each other. I know how stressful and expensive planning a wedding is. But, I also want to make it clear that it’s not the only hurdle you and your partner are going to have to overcome. Every day, it’s becoming more and more apparent that you are about to embark on a shaky future with no guarantees, and it’s important that your foundation as a couple is in tact so that when you have to explain that “not everyone is good” to your children, you can do it as a union. A solid, strong union. And on those days, those terrible, terrible days... You'll be grateful for the person, not the party.

Because your wedding? It’s only the beginning. And it doesn’t matter if you’re spending $5,000 or $50,000 or $500,000. Just remember that when the party is over, you are responsible for cheering yourselves on, even when it’s hard and sad and unbearable. I want you to look back on your wedding planning experience and your wedding day knowing that you made those around you, and involved, feel loved and respected. Because anything can happen at any time… So be kind. Be compassionate. Be strong. And plan on... Gently.

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A Rainbow Connection Brought to You by Cupid Himself + a Super Smart Maid of Honor

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Happy Valentine's Day, brideys (and grooms too)! If you know me at all, Valentine's Day is not my favorite holiday, but my personal issues aside, I am a HUGE fan of #redbottomshoes, and in this case, ALL of the people wearing them in this post! I decided to post this particular wedding today, Valentine's Day, because even though I think this holiday is the most contrived holiday ever, I do believe in love, and equality, and this post encompasses both. Ben and Michael have a kickass love story, brought to you by destiny and some smart and encouraging friends. PLUS, there is a lot of red (for Valentine's Day, of course!) because of the GORGEOUS Christian Louboutin shoes!

In a minute, I am going to suggest that you start scrolling for some serious inspiration, but before I do, I want to say that the grooms will be telling you their FABULOUS story because they are much more articulate than I am when it comes to their love... Enjoy, and Happy Valentine's Day! Okay, start scrolling!!

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I mean... Can I get a "HOLY SHIT"?!!! I want a pair of both!

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Our Love Story's Playlist ~ Some people believe everything happens for a reason. We take this mantra and another, to seek the good things in life, to heart. This is how our love story played out through a five song playlist: 1. Lady Gaga, The Fame. "LoveGame" ~ Cupid played a game that would take five years in the making. After two years, Cupid decided to shot an arrow at a concert in Houston, Texas, featuring Lady Gaga. We had just began talking via OkCupid and our now Maid-Of-Honor pushed us into trading numbers which lead to our first date.

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Seriously, one of each for me...

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2. Lady Gaga, Born This Way. "Yoü and I". Like most first dates, we both were a little awkward. It wasn't until we both expressed our mutual love for music and how it brings a smile to your face even when having a bad day. Our dates continued, ranging from picnics on the floor of a college dorm room, to the floor of our first apartment together, and eventually to the picnic where the proposal occurred.

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I am OB SES SED with these bridesmaids dresses! OB FUCKING SES SED!!

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3. Glee Cast, Glee: The Music, Vol.1. "Don't Stop Believing". On June 27, 2015, The United States Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriage. What we once thought would never be, suddenly became a reality. It was a birthday present for both of us as we celebrated at a Houston Pride.

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Ben + Michael, I LOVE you two together! 

Best.bridesmaids.ever.

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Look at all of those #redbottom shoes!!!!!

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4. Taylor Swift, 1989. "Welcome To New York". With the debut of The Great Gatsby,  the concept of elegance and love was an eye opening idea of exactly how we wanted to plan our wedding.

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5. Kesha, Rainbow, "Rainbow". Six years after Cupid played his game, we came together with family, friends, and loved ones at Kendall Plantation. Just as God places rainbows in the sky so we may see the beauty of all colors after a storm, we were granted our own rainbow. Now we look to the sky without any limit, and seek the good things in life. 

Some serious fun happening!!! LOVE IT!

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I'm crying over these shoes...

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Thank you Ben + Michael for sharing your awesome wedding with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Shelly Beck Photography 
Tuxedo + Mens Attire: Nordstrom
Bakery: 2 Tarts Bakery
Floral Designer: Botankia
Hair Stylist: Shag The Salon
Caterer: Absolutely Delicious Catering
Venue: Kendall Plantation

Five Important “Bridal Traits” I Learned from My Favorite Bride

Five Important “Bridal Traits” I Learned from My Favorite Bride
As much as I attempt to educate you brideys with my anecdotes, crazy bitchy bride stories and a few nightmares, I think it’s only fair that I tell you a bit about one of my absolute favorite brides (like ever). Not only was she super cool, gorgeous and fun, but also really smart and trusting… of me, and the vendors we picked TOGETHER! She embraced the wedding planning process; the good the bad and the crazy, and walked around like she had a secret. Like a badass. You know that feeling… It’s like nobody can touch you, you feel almost invincible and awesome (TOTALLY the way I feel in Vegas!).

#TBT ~ Bitchless Bride Video #1

Hello Brideys!! Happy planning! Soooooo... I've decided to bring back some of my of my older posts so that you newly engaged brides don't have to waste time digging around BB for some of my best "material". This GEM was posted on May 10, 2012! It was my first video blog, before I came out of the wedding planning closet, and therefore had to disguise myself (and my voice too). Enjoy, share and listen!