An Intimate Courthouse Wedding, A Stunning Headpiece a Beautiful Couple

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Julia + AJ were married in Georgia's Marietta Courthouse in a super small, super intimate ceremony... The ceremony was so small that it was just the two of them. Yup! Just the B+G! And, if you could see me now, bridey, you'd see a big smile painted on my red lips, hands together clapping (in-between typing) and uttering "YES!" under the stench of my coffee breath. I applaud Julia and AJ's decision to not succumb to the pressure of getting married in front of 200 of their nearest and dearest, and simply make "their day" 100% about them.

Don't get me wrong.... You know that I LOVE a gorgeous wedding filled with exciting details, tons of bells and whistles and piles of friends and family, but I also love it when a B+G recognize what will work for them, and run with it; they don't give a shit about who's going to say what about their plans, they just do what's right for them as they walk down the aisle on the first day of their marriage. So, go... Enjoy this beautifully personal wedding!!

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The ultimate look of happiness and accomplishment! Not to mention the GORGEOUS headpiece!! 

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LOVE.THIS.PIC.

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Thank you Julia + AJ for sharing your very intimate and very personal day with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

PhotographerAline Marin Photography
Other Location: Piedmont Park

An Underwater, Alice in Wonderland Themed, Trash the Dress Session...

I have to say that in all of my years wedding planning, event planning and writing for Bitchless Bride, I have never, ever seen anything this fucking cool in my life. While I'm hoping that you, bridey, trash your dress after you're happily married, for some, it doesn't quite work out that way. Sometimes, a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do, and sadly that means trashing her dress because the wedding never happened. And, why not turn something utterly painful into something utterly fabulous? Why not celebrate a difficult decision with empowerment, creativity and friendship? Well, that's exactly what Mallorey did. She called off her wedding, and then trashed her dress in a way unlike any other...

Mallorey collaborated with some seriously talented vendors to tell an imagined story of Alice Returning to Wonderland to prepare for her wedding day. Kasey, of One Sweet World Images, is an experienced underwater photographer (um, obvi) with an undergraduate degree in theatre, so needless to say, this girl has one badass imagination and talent! Bridey, you want different? You want extreme? Well, look no further... Enjoy!

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How cool is this? The Hatter is underwater reaching through the frame! 

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It truly looks like Mallorey is falling, right?

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Hold please... Can we just talk about the dress? I mean, it's fucking fantastic! Hardly trashed!

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You gotta have tea with the Hatter!

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Remember, bridey, this shot is taken underwater! OMG! I can't even!!!! WHOA!!!

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Seriously!!! Check out her makeup! It's A MAZ ING!!

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Thank you everybody who had a hand in this FABULOUS trash the dress sess!! The photographs are incredible, and Mallorey, I congratulate you on your divine strength.

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: One Sweet World Images
Event Planner: Fête and Frivolity Events, LLC.
Beauty: Spivey lane Salon
Bakery: Sweet Things DFW
Submitted via Two Bright Lights

A Super Soulful, Super 70s Inspired and Super Romantic South Carolina Wedding

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If a picture is worth a thousand words, then we should multiply this one is 100! Right? I mean, I don't know about you, but it's pretty obvious that the B+G, Ashlee + Mike, are madly in love. Seriously, just look at this photograph! And while you're at it, scroll down and look at the rest of them! Bridey, there are so many incredible details that will feed your desire for inspiration that I promise you, you will keep coming back to A+M's wedding for enlightenment when you feel lost. I cannot get over how well these two managed to incorporate the soulful 70s into their wedding (without making it feel overdone or cheesy!).

The B+G met in kindergarten. Even at a young age, Mike already already had some serious game, and was casually dropping in on the Ashlee's Girl Scout meetings (led by his mom). The two remained friends throughout college and ultimately became romantically involved. And, we are so glad they did! Bridey, enjoy this wedding filled with love, soul and glam! 

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Ashlee, your makeup is phenomenal! OMG! Lovin' your lips!

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You know exactly what she's saying even without uttering a word, right?

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Mike, 100% loving everything about your look! Especially your amazing smile! 

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I mean... Talk about an entrance... This is absolutely exquisite! 

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It's so clear that these ladies are having a fantastic time celebrating and supporting their friend...

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Best.shot.ever.

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OB SES SED with the décor! OMFG! You had me at gold...

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First dance was to Bootsy Collins, 'I'd Rather Be With You.' LOVE IT!

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How fucking cool is this? And how fabulous is this painting? Wow!

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It's official. I am seriously crushing on Ashlee + Mike.

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Thank you Ashlee + Mike for sharing your soulful, romantic and lovely wedding with Bitchless Bride!! 

Industry Peeps:

PhotographerLavish Moments Photography
Floral Designer: American Floral
Makeup Artist: Beats By Tae
Dress Store: New York Bride & Groom
Hair Stylist: Pure Glam Virgin Hair
Event Planner: Rich Occasions
Equipment Rentals: Something Borrowed Event Rentals
Reception Venue: 701 Whaley

Please Don't Come to My Wedding... How Cutting the Guest List Means Cutting the Cord

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“Please don’t come to my wedding,” she said jokingly, although with a bit of truth behind her words. I laughed with her because I understand how out of control the guest list can become, and when those invitees whom you thought were not going to accept your (strained) invitation decide to grace you with their presence, along with all of those guests you knew were going to come to your wedding, the budget struggle and the lost prospect of an intimate wedding suddenly become very, very real. Bridey, the guest list is probably the hardest part of wedding planning you will encounter because it affects everything. Every decision. Every selection. Every dollar.

So, what is a bride to do? How do you cut the guest list so that you don’t have to cross your fingers every time an RSVP arrives? How do you do it without hurting feelings? Honestly, you don’t. Somebody is going to be hurt because they weren’t invited even if they had no intention of going to your wedding. That’s just how it goes. And it sucks, but that’s the reality of it. So, I need you to do something for me. Imagine a world where you got to decide who would be in attendance on one of the biggest days of your life. Really think about it. Now, write it down. Who’s on that list, bridey? Close family, friends, etc.. Right? Awesome. Now, stop thinking about who’s not on the list and start thinking about how you’re going to handle your ideal guest list. Because, this is it! And for those who didn’t make the cut? Too bad. Remember, you don’t have to apologize, you just have to understand the consequences of your actions and figure out the balance between the two.

Bridey, the truth? No bullshit? Those you don’t invite will be pissed off and hurt, and potentially hold a grudge against you for the rest of their life (and yours). So, the question becomes, are you willing to cut the cord? It’s completely possible that some of these people will never speak to you again, un-friend you on FaceBook, and fall off entirely. And honestly, this might not be a bad thing. Perhaps it’s even an opportunity to filter out the people in your life you’ve been dying to let go of, but haven’t quite found the right excuse. Well, I’d say that by not inviting them to your wedding you’re pretty much sealing the deal!

Although, what about those who you still adore, but didn’t make the cut simply because by inviting them would mean that you would have to invite the string of relatives associated with them (to keep it “fair”)? Sadly, they might end up being collateral damage, however if you’re able to have an honest conversation about your reasoning, then you could potentially salvage these relationships. But, there is no guarantee, and that is what you have to internalize and decide how important certain relationships are to you. And, only you can answer that question.

Look, I know it’s not easy, be that as it may, it’s still your wedding, and your choice. In my opinion, down the road… you’ll end up filtering out those people who really don’t matter to you or make much of a difference in your life (family or not) simply by living. That’s how it goes. So, why not cut the cord now and mark your wedding day as the day you didn’t succumb to the pressure of being all inclusive even at your own expense (literally and figuratively). Got it? Good! Now, go write your list! And good luck!

Image via Lanty

An Amazing Greek Wedding So Good the B+G Forgot They Were Hosting!

“It was really a huge party, one of the best parties I've ever been to, so good I eventually forgot I was the host. By the end of the night we went crazy. I guess that's what a wedding is all about, isn't it??” said Nicoletta, the fucking awesome bride! I mean, holy shit, right? THIS is what Bitchless Bride has been preaching since inception! This feeling, this story, this wedding 100% embodies the truth behind your wedding and your marriage! Have fun and love your sig other. Plain and simple. Plain and fucking simple. Enjoy your wedding so much that you forget you’re the host. I really couldn’t have said it better myself.

Bridey, there are so many goodies in this wedding I hardly know where to begin. I seriously wanted to show you every.single.photograph, but somehow I was able to narrow it down. From the al fresco ceremony and kickass cocktail reception to the absolutely insanely GORGEOUS décor, this wedding not only stole my heart, but my soul too. Enjoy! And scroll on to learn more about how Nicoletta and Dimitris met!

WOW! Nicoletta, you are stunning!

Dimitris: If I was ever told that I would fall in love with my future bride at first sight, I would probably laugh hard because I always considered this scenario is only plausible in movies. It's a lovely night in Milan, but despite it's loveliness you don't wish to remove yourself from the couch, your mates insist, so you decide to go all Jim Carrey, be a "yes" man and join them ; there you see her, standing out of the crowd, she's your definition of heaven and you've suddenly grown all sweaty, you want to approach her but your feet can't seem to budge, the night goes by and this beautiful stranger is about to leave, so you come up with the lamest possible excuse to follow her to the door and ask if the lighter you've just grabbed from your best buddy actually belongs to her. Turns out this move is the cheesiest tiny but eventually huge step that will transform your entire life and take it to the right direction.

No need for decorations when you have this!!

Ohhhhhhh..... Kitty!!!

This might be one of my favorite pics ever! Like, EVER! Look at the B+G. Nothing but sheer excitement and joy!

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OMG! That's some serious rice throwing! I mean, if you're standing on the roof, you mean business!

Is it weird to be in love with a couple? Just asking...for a friend.

Nicoletta: We arrived at our reception venue on a little fishing boat, and we instantly had a toast to our loved ones sipping some aperol spritzers, the night was still young and our party was about to begin.

I could seriously cry while looking at these photographs. The lighting, the décor the ambiance! Oh my!! Fucking spectacular!

LOVE LOVE LOVE the pink uplights!

Nicoletta: We wanted our wedding to be a true, heartfelt, endless party where all our loved ones would join us and have an unforgettable time.

Thank you Nicoletta + Dimitris for sharing your amazingly fabulous wedding with Bitchless Bride! I truly love everything about your day!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer:  Sotiris Tsakanikas Photography
Cinema + Video: Jim Grillas Films
Reception Venue: Lazarou Beach
Bridesmaid Dresses: Maria Konidi
Event Planner: The12Events

Dinosaurs, Corndogs, Real Dogs, a Fun Haus and a Wedding!

Bridey, know what I love? I fucking LOVE Nan + Robbie! I love that their wedding is filled with dinosaurs, corndogs, real dogs and a fun haus!! Right? Who else can say that? I mean, talk about breaking out of the wedding mold! Seriously, Nan and Robbie not only broke the mold and 100% included everything that meant something to them as a couple, but they smashed that boring-ass mold into the ground. And, I applaud them! 

However, while the mold might be broken, the traditions and the beauty of their wedding were anything but... I mean, Nan's dress is stunning and kickass, the décor and the tent are beautiful, and the day itself captured the essence of the B+G (corndogs and all). So bridey, I beg you to steal from Nan and Robbie (well, not actually steal, but do steal their ideas!). Steal their willingness and playfulness! Steal everything you can, and try not to take it all so fucking seriously! Got it? Now, go enjoy because this one is just SO good!

Nan! You are the cutest!!

This is a beautiful bouquet!

OMG! LOVE these socks! Seriously, who doesn't love a good dinosaur sock!?

Doesn't it look like the dog is smiling?

I can't even with this picture! Robbie's foot looks enormous! Right? And, where the fuck are they??

I have never wanted a corndog more in my life than I do now. 

I love the décor! It's so simple, but elegant and all-encompassing of who Nan and Robbie are!

#Getinmybelly!

OMG! Thank you Nan and Robbie for sharing your fun and fabulous wedding with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer:  Chris Withers Photography
Reception Venue: Long Bridge Golf Course
Submitted via Two Bright Lights

Turning Forty and Grabbing it by the Balls... Doing away with Benchmarks, Parameters and Timelines

A slight departure today, bridey... Because, I'm turning forty. Yup... Fucking forty! Right? Sounds so ancient to me! And, outside of asking myself how it happened and realizing that all of those "old people" (yeah… they were probably about my age now!) who said it would go by faster and faster with each passing year, I actually feel complete disbelief. How could I, the youngest person I know, be turning forty? And the bigger question is what do I have to show for myself? What have I accomplished? What mark have I left? Answer? More than I thought.

I’ve accomplished more than I could have ever imagined. More than thought I wanted. But, that's the problem with forty. I want more, and I wish I had already done more shit. But, life doesn't always work that way... Because life is a series of setbacks and obstacles and even if some those setbacks and obstacles are welcomed and awesome, they’re still setbacks and can certainly make it difficult to finish "on time". And as a person who's organized and prompt, this forty parameter bullshit pretty much sucks. So you know what? Fuck the parameters! Fuck the measuring sticks! What's with the benchmark bullshit anyway? Seriously, isn’t it time to do away with the saying, “By the time I’m (fill in age), I will have done XYZ.” Let’s stop attaching an age to our goals! Because when it comes down to it, age has nothing to do with it. Drive and dedication do, and even with the best laid plans, situations change and life continues to move forward no matter how old you are.

I have had many adventures and interesting experiences in my life. And quite frankly, I’ve done much more than I could have anticipated. I'm married, I have two sweet and spunky kids (which I never thought I wanted, and then had to fight to have), I have friendships that go well beyond surface bullshit, I have a successful career, I'm generally happy, so why the fuck do I feel for want? Why do I feel like I should have accomplished or done more with my forty years on this planet? Because I have placed these bullshit parameters around my AGE. That’s why! Something all to common amongst us forty-somethings (omg, I'm a forty-something! Fuuuuuuccckkkkk).

We live in a society surrounded by both overachieving and underachieving assholes, and I guess I'm at the point in my life where I feel like I have to choose which asshole I want to be. Over or under? And I've never really considered myself either; I just go with the flow and allow myself to be open to possibilities and dreams. But, the thing about dreams is that they really can fucking suck. And they can suck the life out of you. And, you know what? Being a dreamer and having dreams are two totally separate things. Because, I've always been a dreamer. I've always seen the glass as half full even during the most tumultuous times in my life. But, having real solid dreams that you work towards every.single.day? Fucking exhausting. Fucking brutal at times... But, at the same time? These dreams are stomach-churningly (I know it's not a word, but work with me!) exciting. Like, first kiss exciting. So why would I ever want to let go of that feeling? Why wouldn't I want to keep on driving towards them? Why does it have to stop at forty?

It doesn't have to stop. Because if it did, what would I have to look forward to? Plus, I can't be a forty-year-old quitter. Right? I mean, it's tempting to quit sometimes, but I can't. I won't. So, know know what forty? Consider your balls grabbed and your parameters squashed. Fuck you and your dream crushing! ‘Cause this girl? Well, I’m just getting started!

Photo by Brooke Lark on Unsplash

When it Comes to Weddings, Size Really Does Matter. Five Ways Not to be a Pain in the Ass While Planning a Small Wedding...

Is it true what they say about size? That bigger is better and that size really does matter? Ten years ago, I would have taken a much more politically correct stance on this topic, and told you that size isn't important; that it's what you do with it that counts... But, as I get older, I've come to realize that size is super important. And no, you dirty dirty people, I'm not talking about penis size, I'm talking about the size of your wedding!! Don't get me wrong, I love a small and intimate wedding, surrounded only by those you really love, but usually, planning these small and intimate affairs is a bigger pain in the ass than the bigger more elaborate weddings. Why? Because there's more at stake and less buffer. That said, I do have some advice on how to not be a pain in the ass during planning. Look down.

1. First of all... Remember that while your party may be small, your attitude doesn't need to be big. And as I've written a hundred, million times before, your shit attitude will hinder your success and will only get in your way. So, while you may be falling apart on the inside (for reasons listed below), putting on a face and being nice to those around you will only make for a better planning experience. Trust me, I know it's hard, but as several wise women (and probably some men too) have said in the past, "fake it 'till you make it". 

2. Managing family dynamics can be more difficult with fewer people acting as a "distraction" to the big picture. And fewer people still means big opinions. And, if I had to guess, I'm sure you're fielding plenty of big opinions about a having small, intimate wedding. Opinions from your mom and dad or your soon-to-be in laws about all of the friends and family they can't invite. And that can be absolutely rattling. I get it. I really do, but, bridey, it's really simple. Stay strong, and remember why you made the choice to have a small celebration. Perhaps you wanted an intimate day and money in your pocket for your plans after the wedding. Or perhaps you don't love your giant extended family. Whatever your reasoning may be, remember it when things get tough. Own it when things get tough. Stand by it when things get tough. And stay strong when things get tough. Which leads me to my next point... The fucking guest list. 

3. Determining the guest list can be painful. You and your sig other are choosing to have a small wedding and unfortunately that choice comes with consequences. Don't get me wrong, I really love the idea of a small wedding; I get it... I did it (well, I eloped, but still dealt with a lot of the same issues as you!). And, I pissed off a lot of people in the process. But, deciding to essentially eliminate friends and family can be hurtful. So, be blunt. Don't dance around guest list. Be open with the people you're not inviting and tell them that although they're not invited to your wedding doesn't mean that you don't care about them. No need to get into budget conversations or reasons here bridey; you don't owe them an explanation or an apology, just the truth. And leave it there. The less you say the better. I've said it before and I'll say it again... You might be doing them a favor because maybe they don't want to go your wedding anyway.

4. Hire a wedding planner. I know that you think you don't need one simply because your wedding is small, but your wedding planner can act as the perfect liaison for shit you don't want to deal with, and I'm not just talking about logistics. I'm talking about your mom whining about how you didn't invite Aunt Shirley or how sometimes glitches are more noticeable with less people. THAT'S why you here a planner. It's not because I don't believe in your planning abilities, it's fielding the bullshit that can get tricky.

5. Break tradition. Get rid of the formalities that aren't important to you. You're already breaking the rules by having a small wedding, so skip stupid shit. Skipping a DJ or band? Then get an amazing guitarist as entertainment so that you can have a first dance (if you want). No cake cutting? Fine. You should still have an amazing cake! That's one of the things I regret about eloping. We never cut the cake because we didn't have one! And I fucking love cake!!!! Anyway, all I'm saying, is that you've come this far... So, don't succumb to the pressure of "the norm" now! 

Bridey, you see a theme here? I'm telling you to stay strong and stand behind your decision. You're not doing anything wrong by choosing to have a beautifully small and intimate wedding. Just own your decision and kill any haters with kindness. You'll be surprised at how staying strong will empower your decision and your attitude! Got it?!

Photo by Scott Webb on Unsplash

An Insanely Colorful, Beautifully Unique Celestial Wedding

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It's not often that you get a confetti shot that's this good. No really, we all hope for the best when we pull the trigger on a confetti cannon, but usually they're touch and go at best. But, for Billy + Tony? Absolutely perfect! I mean... Even the photog said the guests were surprised at how well they worked! But, seriously, just look at that pic! That one picture completely encompasses pure joy (and surprise). Although the depth of their love is no surprise at all... B+T? Well, they tied the knot after thirteen years together!

What I love most about this wedding? Well, aside from the awesome celestial theme strewn throughout? My favorite part is that it's clear that every.single.person in the room is absolutely thrilled to be present. They are celebrating the union of two people who have loved each other for thirteen years, and who are clearly meant to be. And that is totally worth celebrating! Enjoy this celestially awesome wedding! I totally did!

Billy and Tony gave their grooms-girls Alex & Ani bracelets with charms of their astrological sign, and the men got cuff links with their astrological sign. I mean... SO FAB!!

Yeah... That's their constellation seating chart! LOVE IT!

Holy fucking confetti! I would absolutely love to have a confetti party!

I seriously love this cake. So simple, and so cool....

Look at how Billy and Tony are looking at each other! I'm such a sucker for "the look"!

Gotta love the cake battle!

A giant thank you to Billy and Tony for sharing their celestially awesome wedding with Bitchless Bride!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer:  Mak Rabbitt Photography
Floral Designer: Dannette's Floral Boutique
Dress Store: David's Bridal
Groomsman Attire: Men's Wearhouse
Officiant: Run to an Elopement
Reception Venue: The Bluestone
Cake Designer: The Suisse Shop

A Seriously Kickass, Game of Thrones, "Winter" Wedding

So often a bride will approach me and say that she wants something "different" for her wedding; something unique. She wants something "that hasn't been done before". And, more often than not, that statement leaves me in the position to disappoint my fair bride with that news that pretty much everything has been done before. However, then I immediately have the opportunity to surprise and delight her by telling her that even though it's been done before, doesn't mean that it can't be done again, but better. Right? Right! 

Take Abbey + Matt. They did something totally cool and "different" simply by doing something that has been done before, but done extremely well! They told their photographer, Uttke Photography & Design, that “We’re planning a non-traditional, Game of Thrones inspired wedding. Lots of gold, rustic backdrop and natural accents with a little flair. We’re trying to walk the fine line between being badass and kitschy.” And holy shit did they succeed in their badassery. From all of the cool DIY aspects to the crown Abbey wore... I mean, I can't stand the fucking awesomeness... And, even though it didn't snow in February in the Midwest and was 65 degrees (WTF?), it didn't matter. The B+G had such FAB details that the lack of snow didn't feel essential for the Game of Thrones theme to come to life. SO, go scroll, bridey! I will continue to enlighten you with the details as you go! Enjoy!

I can't even with these A MAZ ING invitations!!! Holy shit!

That crown! That dress! I want one of each!

Love.this.pic.

Are you dying over these fabulous, sequined bridesmaids dresses? Seriously, I am OBSESSED!

STFU. Wow! Another something that I require one of each...

Such a cool way of displaying the escort cards!

Matt's dad made Abbey & Matt the thrones to sit in and enjoy their feast...

Gimme! Gimme! Gimme!

Love this beautiful photograph... So emotionally charged and real. Want to hear some advice from the B+G? "Take a moment to savor all of the love and support you feel on your wedding day as you are surrounded by the ones you love most. It’s the only time that they will ALL be in one place." SO true.

You had me at caramel... Actually, you will always have me with some caramel.

Thank you Abbey + Matt for sharing your thoughtful + kickass wedding with Bitchless Bride!!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Uttke Photography & Design
DJ: All Star Music
Veils & Headpieces: Blanca Veils + Howling Moon Headwear
Dress Store: Bucci's Bridal
Floral Designer: Jane Kelly Floral
Hair Stylist: Luxe Salon
Reception Venue: Rustic Manor
Caterer: Tall Guy and a Grill Catering
Invitation Designer: thing i drew
Equipment Rentals: Vintique Rental

An Open Letter to One of My Favorite Brides (and Grooms) Ever...

Recently I worked with one the best couples ever. Like in all of my years as a wedding planner, this B+G climbed their way to the top of my awesome list immediately. Why? Well, they were kind and respectful (to me and to each other), they valued my opinion as their wedding planner and the opinions of their other wedding vendors, and they had some serious perspective about what it meant to get and be married. Actually, all they wanted was to be married, to each other, and then move forward with their lives. I became involved simply because they needed some direction and advice on how to execute a low key yet lovely day. What started as a wedding consulting call, morphed into wedding planning, and resulted in friendship. I have no doubt that this couple will be in my life for a long time. 

But, what made them so special? What put them on my awesome list? Well, at first it was the union of our personalities and some serious open mindedness. Initially this bride called for my wedding planning advice. But, after chatting for an hour, she listened to what I had to say, and then acted on it. I mean, fuck yeah! I love when someone who calls on me as an "expert" actually listens to me and runs with my advice. Because my biggest pet peeve is working with a client who needs/wants advice, but then thinks they know more than I do. I mean, why call me if you (think you) know more than I do? Right? A few days later she initiated another call and then ultimately hired Bitchless Bride to plan her wedding!! But, what really got me about this B+G was their spot on perspective. Their excitement for each other was apparent and everything else took a back seat. They never got wrapped up in the bullshit. They never wanted to "make a big thing" out of their wedding. They simply wanted to be together.

Actually, what they wanted was for their guests to have an amazing experience coupled with delicious food and a fabulous celebration. And that's exactly what they got. I mean, like all weddings, there were a few curve balls with some wonky family dynamics strewn in the mix, and work stressors (um, and not to mention the four stitches the bride got above her eye a few days ahead of the wedding which slowly became more and more black and blue), but shit happens and in the grand scheme of things, they handled everything well. They handled everything well and in stride because it was never really about the wedding and the "big day". It was always about the marriage, and their life together following the event.

Bridey, the reason why I'm telling you about this experience is twofold. First of all, I'm obsessed with perspective. I'm in love with perspective. I'm married to perspective (couldn't help it!). And this B+G owned the shit out of their perspective. They are in love and want to be together through the good, bad and everything in between. And secondly, every.single.person involved in creating a kickass day for them was simultaneously rooting for them. There was nothing that we couldn't or didn't want to do for them because they were so lovely and special. And as a wedding vendor, you hold on to that feeling and you run with it! But, more than anything else? You give. And you give a lot. Because it becomes more than just "a job". It becomes magical.

Too Tired to Write, Too Tired to Post and Too Tired to Care

Bridey, when I wrote Why You Should Act Like Your Mother is Your Wedding Planner, I referenced that I was moving. Well, suddenly, it's upon us (two weeks until we are out of our house), and I'm fucking stressed. And while writing about and posting fabulous weddings would probably be a welcome distraction to the craziness that is my life right now, I am so tired at the end of the day (I mean... I AM turning 40 this summer (OMGF!!), and between my age + kids + work) I cannot get my shit together this week(s); hence, no new posts. But, don't worry bridey, I promise, I will be back to myself soon and the posts will be juicy. But, for now, I just want to get through the week, one day at a time. BBS!!

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