Wedding Planning + Side Hustle or Hobby = Wedding Planning Bliss

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Bridey, did you read the title and have a mini panic attack? Did you read the title and think, “isn’t this the same person who wrote, Why Planning Your Wedding Actually IS a Full Time Job!”? Did you read the title and think, “That bitch is crazy! How can I possibly add one more thing to all of my things?!!”? Trust me, when I wrote the title of this post, I realized that I was going to have a whole lot of explaining to do! But, here’s the actual thing, we get through the shit we don’t particularly enjoy so that we can move on to the shit we really do enjoy. Right? It doesn’t matter what “it” is, because the truth is, we all need motivation to get through the hard parts of life. So, we dangle the carrot of joy in front of our eager belly when we need a push, when we need a kick in the ass, when we need to finish whatever the fuck is weighing us down so that we can focus on what truly makes us happy. And, a lot of the time? It’s the shit we do on the side... It’s our side hustle or our hobby that becomes our “temple”.

So, bridey, time to get a hobby. Get a little somethin’ somethin’ on the side (obviously in the non-cheating sense of that phrase!!). Go do something that brings you joy; that makes you happy. For some of you, that may mean making some extra cash to put towards the wedding or an over-the-top wedding dress or some extravagance related to the wedding, and for others it’s truly just for fun; an escape from the planning which will allow you to separate yourself from the stress. But, whatever the case may be, go get your hustle/hobby on. It’ll save you... from YOU. But, no matter what your hustle/hobby is, bridey, dive in. Go crazy. Let go. Allow it to seep into your soul.

When I was discussing this hustle/hobby mission of mine with one of my friends, she asked, “So, what would I do? What would your hobby be?”. And after some serious consideration, the last bite of dessert and a swig of my cocktail, I told her that if I were in the midst of wedding planning (my own wedding, not yours), I’d take a class. Something I really look forward to; something scheduled. A class like martial arts or cooking; something that built on what I had learned the previous week so that making excuses for missing my new hobby would be uncomfortable. In my early 20s, I went to culinary school to become a pastry chef (see the extremely large pic of me below in cake class), and while I completed the program, I didn’t pursue the dream (because it became clear to me that I belonged in the front-of-the-house, engaging with people, not chatting in the back-of-the-house where my colleagues simply tolerated my enthusiasm), and my skills are super rusty. I’d love to take a cake decorating class, and update my skill because when I’m in the kitchen, I’m at peace, I’m focused on what I’m doing, and the noise of the rest of the world is quiet. 

 Yeah, I made that cake, and those amazing white chocolate flowers!!

Yeah, I made that cake, and those amazing white chocolate flowers!!

That brings us back to you, bridey. What are you going to do to quiet the wedding planning noise? To be at peace? To make a little extra money? To learn something new? The options are pretty endless, seriously, just Google it, and you can see for yourself. The thing is, it has to excite you not stress you. The whole point of this is to escape, not to bring on additional stress. So, go… Get a hobby. Go hustle. Go be happy. I’m giving you permission to enjoy your life while planning your wedding… Got it? Good! Then stay Bitchless! 

Photo by Clark Tibbs on Unsplash

An Incredibly Polished Wedding Oozing with Glam + Sophistication + Class

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I look at this photograph and while I know it’s not the traditional “post opener” kind of pic, I couldn’t help myself. I feel like this photograph absolutely captures the spirit of the B+G. It’s like they got caught in a moment that was just for them, and yet we have the privilege of getting a glimpse. So, I just had to show it to you, immediately, instead of waiting for the scroll! Anyway… Amy + Nick’s wedding day was lavishly gorgeous, dripping with exquisite details that will have you completely awestruck. As a wedding planner + writer, I love everything about this wedding. Every time I scroll, it’s like somebody is whispering sweet (and sort of dirty) nothings into my ear.

A+N hosted their wedding at The Bluestone, a cool venue overflowing with simple complexity (totally one of my better descriptions!). Guest were stunned as they arrived to the ceremony, taking in the beautiful sweeping + floral arbor, elegant glass vases lining the steps up the altar and the sheer magnitude of the total experience. But, it didn’t end there… The reception was totally GLAM. And, OMFG, just wait until you see A+N’s perfect (like seriously perfect) cake! Bridey, take all of the inspiration you can from this wedding. It all started with a FAB couple, and ended with good taste an quite a bit of joy…

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OMFG. That dress! Those windows!! Totally gorgeous!

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Amy, your wedding dress + veil is ridiculously amazing! And, your flowers are bad ass!

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Ever wonder what the photographer said to make them smile? Or, is that just me? Meanwhile, below…

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Cheers! But, please, not too many shots!

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Totally obsessed with this fabulous idea!!

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Whoa! Such a lovely altar…

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It’s official!!!

Great shot, but what I can’t help looking at are the bridesmaids dresses. I love the soft pink. It’s playful and elegant at the same time.

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Time to party!

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See what I mean about the perfect cake? I love all of the gold A+N have at their wedding!!!

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A+N, thank you for sharing your elegantly FABULOUS wedding with Bitchless Bride!!!

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Photographer: Peppercorn Photography
Reception Venue: The Bluestone

When Quitting Your Wedding Feels Like the Only Option, and How to Persevere

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“You’ve come too far to quit.” she said. “Push yourself!” she screamed into the mic attached to her headpiece. I was in spin class and wanted to fucking die. My whole body was sore from boot camp the day before, and my legs felt like noodles. Plus, it didn’t help that we were doing all sorts of fancy moves like pushups, side to sides, etc., ON THE BIKE, and I felt like a total jackass, because coordination is definitely not one of my strong suits. I was completely flailing. I had nothing left to give; nothing left in my body, and all I wanted to do is get the fuck out of there. But, something clicked when she uttered those words into that headpiece. Something made me continue to move my ass even though I didn’t think my muscles would listen to my brain. And, so I did. And I didn’t quit. I persevered, and I pushed myself even though I thought I couldn’t get it done.

You know how I did it, bridey? I went at my own pace. Because she was right, I had come too far to quit. So, I slowed down just enough to feel my heart settle back into my chest, and did the best I could with the fancy shit (although, I do have a bruise on my collar bone…hmmmmm). The point is, that you’re 100% going to feel like quitting one or more times during your wedding planning. It’s overwhelming. It’s stressful. It sucks sometimes. It’s not always what you expected it to be. But, don’t quit. You’ve come too far to quit! Don’t screw up everything you’ve already accomplished because you’ll only make it worse for yourself when you come back to it. Just slow down. Take a breather and let your heart settle back into your chest. Sometimes that’s all it takes. Breathing. Breathing is key.

I find myself saying that a lot these days. “Breathe. Take a breath.” Bridey, we’ve all become so programmed to GO! GO! GO! that so often, we forget to breathe while we race to the altar. And, frankly? That’s bullshit. I don’t care if your wedding is tomorrow or next year. Go at your own pace. Don’t allow yourself to succumb to the pressure of feeling like you have to accomplish everything immediately. Don’t put that kind of stress on yourself. It’s you versus you, not you versus every other bride getting married with better Instagram photos or a juicer Pinterest page. Fuck that noise! Appreciate the things you like, and then move on.

So what are you supposed to do if you’re having trouble getting over the wedding planning hump? Change your perspective; see it from an outside view. And, go long… What would your future married self tell your current engaged self as you struggle with this particular piece of your wedding planning? She’d tell you that, no matter what, you’re still going to marry to your sig other, and to take a break. Come back with a fresh set of eyes after you’ve taken some time to focus on you. Or, perhaps she’d tell you to plan your wedding out of order. The reality is that the order in which you plan your wedding is flexible. Crazy, right? Stuck on food selection? No problem. Just work on the color scheme/florals/linen instead, and come back to the food after you’ve had some time off. Can’t determine your bridal party? Worried about hurting feelings? Perhaps you shouldn’t have one… I don’t know, but what I DO know is that you’d be amazed at how easy these choices can be once you’ve given yourself permission to breathe and quiet those inner demons.

Bridey, you’ve come too far to quit. Push yourself. And maybe that means pushing yourself to a yoga retreat or girls weekend or romantic weekend, but either way, do push yourself because you WILL persevere! You can do this! 

Photo by Johnson Wang on Unsplash

Bitchless Bride’s Top 11 Wedding Day + Wedding Planning Regrets

Let’s face it, we all have things we’ve come to regret in our lives, right? Because retrospect is a powerful, powerful phenomenon, but also because we are older, and we’ve come to realize that some of the stuff we obsessed over or prioritized, were just stupid. And, we, you and me, are really the only ones who can look back at our lives, recognize our mistakes and (hopefully) learn from them, right? Sort of. While I can’t undo the losers you (and I) dated before finding your sig other, I CAN offer you some pretty compelling advice about what other brides deem as their wedding day + wedding planning regrets for you to learn from and avoid. Some regrets are serious and some are silly, but both can leave a damper on your day. Ready?

1. Don’t be a bitch! You know this is a total hot button for me, but more than that, nothing good will come from being a ‘zilla. Nobody will want to help you. Nobody will respect you. And, nobody will want to be your friend. (And, nobody will want to come to your wedding!) So just be friendly. You’ll be amazed at what good can come from simply being human. Plus, you’ll regret it. I think it’s fair to say that no matter what the situation, we always end up regretting our shitty behavior. Right?

Side note? A friend of mine shared with me that I would have “hated her ‘zilla ass” because of how she behaved while planning her wedding, and also on her wedding day. Looking back, she 100% regrets her shit behavior, not only for obvious reasons, but because when she thinks about her wedding day, memories of her bad behavior squash the good memories. Yikes! So, just don’t be a bitch!

2. I am a fancy shoe wearing whore. I love anything super high, and super fance! I love the glitz, the glitter and the glam. But, not wearing comfortable shoes on your wedding day is a mistake. Because we all know that when our feet hurt, it can truly make you feel awful. Definitely an emotion you want to avoid on your wedding day. So, what are your options? Go for lower, more comfortable shoes or bring a replacement pair for after you’ve walked down the aisle/take photographs/danced your first dance. Oh, and put them in the freezer until you wear them. I know it’s crazy, but just do it. You can thank me later!

3. I am all for saving money with talented friends or family members, but not hiring a professional to do a big job (photographer, DJ, caterer) is a huge mistake! A mistake that you will regret when you have shitty pictures, or the entertainment sucks and nobody is dancing. Bridey, call in favors for the DIY elements that are simple, and leave the big jobs to the professionals. Got it!?

4. Who’s guest list is it anyway? Who’s wedding is it? Is it yours? Or your mothers? Sorry MOBs + MOGs, but the pressure you’re putting on the bride and her sig other is bullshit. It’s upside down. This is a celebration; an expensive one. A once in a lifetime gathering of people that want to share in it’s beauty. And, it’s unfortunate and sad when there are too many of the wrong people, and not enough of the right ones. So, fuck etiquette, and listen to your soul. You know who should and shouldn’t be on that list. Take charge, bridey, and fight the good fight! And, if you can’t (because of family dynamics, money, etc.), then strategically place your tables at your reception. Have your favorite people near you, and the others further away… 

5. A long, boring, and generic ceremony. Waaaa waaaa. Those suck. Right? Plus, it’s totally possible that you will be bored too! And, there is nothing worse than being bored at your own wedding, so add some spunk. Write your own vows, have a classical guitarist/harpist/banjo player, bring your heritage to your ceremony or even somebody else’s. Just make it memorable for you and your guests!

6. This one is tricky because I know that there is some superstition around seeing each other before the wedding. But, I will share with you, bridey, that seeing your sig other before the wedding will ease the pressure of walking down the aisle and falling apart at first glance, AND will allow you to get several of your photographs taken before the ceremony so that you two can make it to your cocktail hour (see #10). Plus, staging a first look is a pretty surreal opportunity. You can feel what you are going to feel, together, without 300 eyeballs on you. Think about it…

7. Relinquishing control to the wrong hands. Remember #4? Same idea. It’s lovely that your mom, or sister, or future MIL or future SIL want to help you plan the wedding. It really is… until it’s not. Be sure that the people helping you are actually helping you, not just creating (or recreating) a day that is less about you and your sig other, and more about satisfying their own needs. Find your voice (nicely), and use it. This is your day. Your life. This day represents who you are as a couple. Not what anybody else thinks it should be.

8. Is a bridal party necessary? I don’t have the answer to this question. But, some of my brides have totally regretted the drama their bridal party brought to the planning, and to the wedding day. Sometimes, not having a bridal party is sweeter. It allows those who want to step up, step up without pressure, and with utter joy. Your friends and family will still celebrate you, but in a different kind of way. Think about it. (And, then picture the ceremony… You + Sig Other + Officiant = Pretty Awesome.)

9. Your wedding day will be the fastest day of your entire life. I’m not being dramatic, just honest. For all of the planning and money that goes into it, it totally FLYS by. So enjoy it. Love it. Savor it. Try to avoid getting wrapped up in some of the formalities + obligatory shenanigans, and instead be 100% present for every.fucking.moment because you’ll blink, and it will be over.

10. Try to talk to everybody at your wedding. I know that sometimes it’s easier said than done, but not getting a chance to talk to everybody because you spent too much time taking photographs or the guest list was to big, or because you didn’t have any time at the cocktail hour (a GREAT opportunity to chat with everybody) can leaving you feeling sad or guilty. And that that’s definitely not a lasting memory you want. So start talking!

11. I’ve mentioned this before, but your wedding day is a fabulous chance to hold hands with your sig other for the ENTIRE night. Don’t have separate evenings, bridey; not tonight. Hold that dude or girl tight and have the only time apart be when you’re indisposed. 

I hate to say it, bridey, but I could have added at least five or six more “regrets” to this list. But, I think I’ve covered the ones that seem to present themselves the most. And, like I said, while I can’t undo some of the losers you dated or that time you ran naked in the quad, I can undo these 11 regrets before you have the chance to regret them. So, you’re welcome!!! Good luck!

Photo by Dương Trí on Unsplash

A Rustically Colorful, Smashingly Romantic and "Foxy", Winter Wedding

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I'd like to introduce you to Rose + Eric, otherwise known as Ms. Rabbit + Mr. Fox. I'm not going to lie, I truly love it when couples have pet names for each other (my hus and I have a few names for each other, but definitely not is cool (or nice for that matter)!). And, in this case, I mean "pet" in the literal sense of the word! It all started because, one day, as these two were enjoying a lovely day in town, they spotted a red fox (um, holy shit!), something extremely rare in such an urban setting. Considering that Rose grew up in the woods, she took this "fox spotting" as a spiritual sign that it was time to tell Eric she loved him. So, she did. And, that is how it all began... From then on, Eric was the fox and she was the rabbit.

Anyway, bridey, I dare you to take this opportunity to be inspired! Don't be afraid to incorporate amazing attributes from other cultures into your wedding. R+E's wedding is exceptionally electrifying; inspired by Indian saree's and African colors. A MAZ ING, right?? And why not? There are no rules, just two people planning a day that symbolizes who they are together, and what they will be in the future. (Wow! That was deep!) Plus, there were several DIY aspects included throughout the wedding making it that much more personal and meaningful. Take a peek at Rose's shawl + the groom's tie. They were crafted by the Rose's mom. But, what I love the most (aside from the exquisite color, delicately beautiful wedding dress, DIY elements and every bit of décor)? Rose + Eric are clearly passionate for one another, and didn't go for broke to express that love and adoration. Enjoy!!!

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That's definitely the greatest look ever...

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STFU with those dimples, Eric! So dashing!

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Rose, there is something entirely angelic about you. You are incredibly stunning!

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Are you DY ING over the all of the color? I totally am!!

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Hot damn, that bouquet is absolutely splendid!

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Totally love that Rose is barefoot!

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Such a FAB shot!!! 

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Let's go do this!!!

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There is so much emotion captured in this shot. Seriously, look at each of their faces... Plus, I LOVE the amazing colors!

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Sexy. Passionate.

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Love the décor! Take a closer look at the mug.

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Love love love the mural!!

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Thank you Ms. Rabbit + Mr. Fox for sharing your exuberant wedding with Bitchless Bride! I love everything about it!!! 

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Photographer: XSIGHT Productions
Location: Winters Community Center
Submitted via Two Bright Lights

Why Ditching Your Wedspectations will Create Wedding Planning Bliss

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Bridey, do you have you ever have those fights in your head that never (thankfully) actualize in real life? You know what I mean… You set your internal stage for this big emotional “fight”, including (but, not limited to) each and every possible witty retort, amazingly shrewd comebacks, and “told you so” jabs, although when the real situation presents itself, all of the energy you put into this big to-do typically ends up being completely moot (totally love this word!). You have these unfounded expectations about what something will be or should be, but the truth is, you have no idea what to expect, so you automatically expect the worst. Right? We all do it. And, how many of those imaginary altercations actually happen in real life? Probably none. So, instead of being present and enjoying the present, you spent the last hour, or day or week wasting your energy on this bullshit concoction. How fucked up is that?

I hate to say it, but I see this kind of thing all the time in wedding planning. There’s this BIG expectation, this BIG feeling built up of what it should be like, or what you should be doing/feeling/experiencing, and because most of you haven’t done “it” before, the truth is, you really have NO idea what to expect. All you know is what you’ve absorbed via what I call, wedding osmosis. Wedding osmosis is the shit you’ve mentally stored away based on what you’ve seen at weddings you’ve attended, photographs you saw on Pinterest or Insta, or blogs, etc.… So, how do we adjust your reality so that you can enjoy preparing for this big event instead of building it up to be something terrifying? How can you start with a clean slate? Trust me, it’s possible, but you have to be willing to let go of your coo coo internal dialogue and start small. But, how?

Bridey, imagine entering the world of wedding planning without any preconceived notions? Zero assumptions. Clean slate, baby… What if instead of starting the process with these great expectations, you started the process with no expectations? HOLY SHIT! Could you do it?! Yaaaaassss you can! Ditching your wedspectations will create wedding planning bliss and change your experience tremendously! Because, it’s really simple. Just dare to go at your own pace. Dare to filter out the noise, and fuck the “rules”, fuck the pressure, and fuck anybody who attempts to wedding shame you about all the shit you are or are not doing. You do you. Period. By squashing your own inner beast and limiting wedding osmosis, you can take charge of your plans on your terms without going crazy, broke, insane and friendless.

There’s so much pressure for you and your sig other to get started planning at this ridiculously feverish pace, that not only will you forgo enjoying your engagement, but you won’t take the appropriate time to learn what the hell you should be doing to build a beautiful day. Hitting the ground running is one thing, but simply hitting the ground is something totally different. Baby steps will still get you to the end, and you’ll be better for it. So, take a deep breath. Take one day at a time, and ditch your expectations. I promise, you’ll be absolutely amazed at the outcome. 

Photo by Elena Koycheva on Unsplash

A Beautiful, 1960s Themed, at Home Wedding in the United Kingdom

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Bridey, I can't EVEN with this wedding. Like. NOT.EVEN.A.LITTLE.BIT. The story of Laura + Richard is so unbelievably lovely. And even lovelier? Is the way they decided to get married... On their terms, on a limited (yet determined) budget, and all while celebrating their love for the past, present and future. L+R met very young, and knew they were going to be together forever. One of the first things Richard said to Laura was that he was going to marry her! And he was right! They got tied the knot on their 10th anniversary of being together. But, my favorite part? They got married at home. Somewhere that's not just another venue, but in a place that means something to them. 

Laura said that, "For me this was just as much a celebration of the adventures we’d already had together as well as the promise to keep on sharing our lives. Budget was a big factor in our planning, we only had whatever money we could save up and for us borrowing money, or spending a huge amount on one day wouldn’t have felt right when we were still in a rented flat and hoping to buy our own home at some point. After looking at a few venues, mainly barns, I realised that everything we liked was completely out of our price range. Then it dawned on me, why pay for a venue at all. We weren’t planning on inviting a huge number of guests as neither of us like to be in the spotlight, so why not just have the reception at home. My mum agreed to host in her little garden...'' How amazing is Laura's mom!?? Right? I love the idea of being home! And, bridey, you will too after you see the details! Enjoy!

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OMFG! The headpiece, the dress, the bouquet. OH MY!!!

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The sheer excitement captured in these photographs has my eyes welling up with big, puffy (almost ugly crying) tears!

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Absolutely OB SES SED with the 'maids and everything they are rockin'. 

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Laura said, "... I was inspired to have the wedding as homemade as possible, we would save money but it would also make the day unique and special. We have lots of creative friends who got involved and helped us in all sorts of ways.''

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Greatest.shot.ever.

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I mean... If that's not a beautiful couple... LOVE L+R!!

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Two things here... First of all, the bouquet. Totally gorgeous! Right? And the other thing? See Laura's' orange nails? I LOVE that she's wearing orange polish on her wedding day!!

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Richard, your a fantastic looking groom (and dude in general)! #Justsaying

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If you're taking your wedding home, then it's super important to incorporate elements of home in your décor. This B+G did a fantastic job with the details...

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Um, yes please!!! Looks delish!

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I don't know who you are, but I love you!!! Is one of those for me?

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I really don't know which pic is cuter... Look up. Okay, now look down. Right? 

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Bridey, THIS is utter happiness. Take it all in...

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Laura, you are stunningly beautiful, and your excitement and love is encapsulated in every.single.picture.

L+R, thank you for sharing your "homemade" wedding with Bitchless Bride!! Your wedding was truly incredible! 

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Berni Palumbo Photography
Venue: Private Residence

A Super Sexy, Super Inspirational, Lace in the Desert, Australian Styled Shoot...

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When I first saw this photograph, I felt like she could have been me. A woman walking through the desert, no clear path or direction, but definitely going somewhere. That's exactly how I've felt over the past few months. On a fucking mission, without a totally clear path or straight-forward direction, but definitely going somewhere. I've taken a break from showcasing weddings + styled shoots because I have been mission-bound (oh, you'll see!!), but without the clarity I'm used to, until now. Things are coming into focus, and it's a huge relief. Actually, it's a gigantic relief. Ever felt that way, bridey? Perhaps with your wedding planning? Where something just clicks, and boom... You're through the hard part and you know it can only get easier from this point forward?

All of that said, I thought I'd start sharing weddings + shoots again with a motherfucking BANG!!! I am OB SES SED with Hilary Cam Photography. He knows it, I know it, we both know it. I absolutely LOVE his take on beauty and aesthetics. I love how he takes something simple and beautiful, and turns it into a complete eye orgasm (yeah... I just said that!). Hilary said that he was, "inspired by the idea of the modern bride who bucks tradition, who’s not afraid of colour and loves the festival scene." Bridey, I urge you to take TONS of inspiration from this gorgeous shoot.I used the word orgasm, so obviously I mean fucking business! Enjoy every.single. aspect of this shoot! I 100% did!

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See what I mean about the eye orgasm? Simple, but not really. Right? A Moroccan inspired feast with dried fruit + nuts, and a delicious cake dripping in orange blossom and rose water syrups, topped with petals. 

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AMAZING!! Her hair is crowned in dried hydrangea... OMFG.

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First of all, her eyes. WHOA. And the jewels? Damn. Love the turquoise and silver are phenomenal. 

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#Sexybride

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LOVE this bouquet! I love the pastel earthy tones, flannel flowers, dried grass and roses. Notice the costume change?

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Everything about this shoot makes me feel complete and happy! Thank you for sharing with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Hilary Cam Photography
Dress Store: Asos
Bridesmaid Dresses: Boohoo
Makeup Artist: White Hair and Makeup Artistry
Dress Designer: Lenka Couture
Other: Breathe Bell Tents
Floral Designer: Visually Creative
Jewelry: Cynthier
 

The Offline Wedding Challenge... Can YOU Do It??

What if you were brave enough or crazy enough or loony enough or coo coo enough to take your wedding and your wedding planning offline? Like no online anything... No online planning. No finding your wedding vendors online, no Pinterest (yikes!), no free advice (including mine, and I’d fucking miss you, but sometimes you have to let go of the people you love), nothing. I mean holy shit, how would that even work? How would you manage to plan your wedding without these tools, these helpful tips, these “things” we’ve become so dependent on? Seriously, how the fuck did our parents do it? And well? Right? But, something tells me you’d find a way, and maybe, just maybe you’d even like it.

Bridey, I realize what I am asking you to do. And, frankly, I don’t know how possible it is because we’ve all become so accustom to finding anything, and pretty much everything we need, want and don’t want with a swipe of a finger. Myself included!! So, why am I asking you to make it harder on yourself? How could I possibly ask such a HUGE “ask” of you during such a stressful time in your life? I mean, planning a wedding is hard enough, right? So much to do, so many details, so many things…

Well, I’m 100% convinced that taking your wedding offline will bring the humanity back into planning. You will have the opportunity to really connect with your vendors, your family, your friends and even your sig other. We have become so disconnected because of the ease of gathering information, that even a friendly phone call to inquire about flowers or catering or wedding cake can make you feel good about your choices; good about people in general. You’ll get a feeling that you won’t get by filling out a questionnaire online. You’ll get to FEEL. And, hopefully that feeling will be one of excitement and joy. It’s amazing what a good conversation can do for your soul.

My birthday was a few weeks ago, and it was a fabulous day! I felt like a queen on FaceBook, my phone was blowing up with texts, I got some amazing presents, but my favorite part? My oldest friend, who lives across the country, called to wish me, “happy birthday”, and we chatted for over an hour. I have known her since I was six years old, and although we don’t talk often, she is somebody who will be in my life forever no matter how much time goes by… And, outside of it being a great day because it was my birthday, that phone call made me so happy. She absolutely could have texted me with birthday wishes, but actually talking? Amazing. Do I expect you to feel this kind of joy after you talk with a potential wedding venue? No, but it’s more likely that the person on the other end of the call will make you feel happy and excited about your wedding in a way that a questionnaire can’t. It’s more likely that you will make a connection on the phone instead of online. It’s more likely that you will feel joy from actually speaking with somebody about a pretty important day in your life as opposed to typing about it…

So, where do we go from here? How do we do this? Honestly? I have no fucking clue! Ask your mom! Somehow she managed to plan a wedding without Pinterest. Although, I think a great place to start is by picking up the phone and calling instead of picking up the phone and swiping, even if it’s only to one of your vendors. Or, call your friend and ask who did her gorgeous flowers instead of texting her. Allow yourself to get lost in great conversation. 

Bridey, is this whole offline wedding challenge logical? Doable? Manageable? I don’t know, but what I DO know is that taking a break from the continuous, endless web of choices might help connect you to your vendors, your family and your planning. Please, take this offline wedding challenge, and call it an opportunity to really connect instead of submit.

Has anybody taken this “old school” approach? How’d it go? Who’s willing to give it a try??

Photo by Quino Al on Unsplash

Reboot ~ #RedWhiteAndYou! A Fabulous 4th of July Wedding!

Wish I thought of this hashtag! #RedWhiteAndYou! Right? Totally perfect for a 4th of July wedding! And, where better to host a 4th of July wedding than the 200 year-old Publik House Historic Inn in Sturbridge, Massachusetts? Talk about patriotic! Seriously, Marisa and Evan really tied every single detail together while planning their holiday wedding. I mean, the venue, the clothing, the food and the vibe... Completely SPOT ON! Just wait until you see the FAB U LOUS food they served! OMG!

Bridey, if you're planning a 4th of July wedding, then look no further than Marisa and Evan's photographs for inspiration. They did an amazing job without getting sucked into the potential tackiness that can present itself when planning a holiday wedding. So, enjoy! And... Happy 4th of July!!

Burberry and bling? Sign me up! 

I adore Marisa's wildflower bouquet! So vibrant and beautiful! Speaking of vibrant and beautiful, look down. Hi Evan. You're quite dapper!

Lovin' the red, white and blue!!

That'll totally take the edge off before walking down the aisle. 

These are some seriously fabulous escort cards! LOVE THEM!!

Let's be honest... I love me some delicious fancy food, but all American food like sliders, pigs and scallops wrapped in bacon are pretty fucking awesome too! 

Those centerpieces are so cool! Plus, they have candy, and candy is good!

Um, Marisa's mother made all the favors. I know, right?! She used local produce to make salsa, sauces, pickles, etc.

Fresh popcorn and cotton candy? Best.Wedding.Ever.

Thank you for sharing this FAB 4th of July wedding with Bitchless Bride! 

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Erika Follansbee Photography
Floral Designer: Michele Bernard Florals
Reception/Caterer: Publick House Historic Inn
Band: The Grift
Dress Store:Vows Bridal Outlet