Music and Lyrics

Music and Lyrics... What can I say? I LOVE LOVE LOVE this stupid movie! And of course I LOVE Hugh Grant, but that’s not what I want to write about. However, this movie got me thinking about song lyrics, and about how many weddings have I worked and attended where the first dance music was about divorce, breaking up or death. Right? Oops! Yeah, that’s a serious fuck up.

Hmmm… what songs are you talking about Bitchless? I’d sure like to avoid them on my big day. Well, bridey here a few popular first dance songs that could make you cry, and for all of the wrong reasons:

1.“This Year’s Love” by David Gray:

I mean, the first verse goes like this: “This years love had better last. Heaven knows it’s high time, and I’ve been waiting on my own too long. But when you hold me like you do, it feels so right. I start to forget how my heart gets torn. When that hurt gets thrown, feeling like you can’t go on.”

a. OMG! He sounds like he is going to jump off of the nearest rooftop! "This years love had better last" or else I am going to kill myself?

b. And next year's love? Same person?

2.“Paperweight” by Joshua Radin:

I LOVE this song, and everybody will tell you that it was from the movie “Dear John” because they are unoriginal, when actually it was in the “The Last Kiss” first. Just sayin’…

Anyway, here are the first few lines: “Been up all night staring at you wondering what's on your mind. I've been this way with so many before, but this feels like the first time. You want the sunrise to go back to bed; I want to make you laugh. Mess up my bed with me. Kick off the covers I'm waiting. Every word you say I think I should write down, I don't want to forget come daylight.”

a. First of all, don’t talk about messing up your bed with dirty sex in front of your parents.

b. Secondly, “Every word you say I think I should write down, I don't want to forget come daylight.”  Because that paperweight ain’t heavy enough to keep you in my messy bed for more than a night.

3. “True Love Will Find you in the End” by Beck or Wilco:

a. Not gonna harp on this too much…All I need ask… True love will find you in the end of what?

Brideys, no matter what you end up choosing, make sure that it truly encompasses who you are as a couple. But no matter what, make sure that it’s appropriate, celebratory music. Not music reserved for drowning your sadness in a bottle whiskey at some bar somewhere. Okay? How about a few of these? 

They are completely obvious choices, but totally appropriate (I’ll put a star next to my faves):

1. “At Last” by Etta James – Totally obvious. Totally been done a million times, but still a lovely song.

2. “Lucky” by Jason Mraz – Again, totally obvious, but still love it.

3. “Wedding Dress” by Matt Nathanson – LOVE**

4. “You Are The Best Thing” by Ray Lamontagne – Another of my faves**

5. “Fly Me to the Moon” by Frank Sinatra – Somewhat obvious, and if you do this song, then please, take dance lessons! Frank wouldn’t want it any other way.

6. “In My Life” by the Beatles – This is a great song. It’s nice for a wedding, but it will always remind me of a montage during a mitzvah.

7. “Marry Me” by Train – Do I even have to say it? But, it is lovely (and corny).

8. “God Gave Me You” by Blake Shelton – I know this will surprise you, but BB is not much of a country song lover. That said, this nice for those of you who are. (And Blake is pretty easy on the eyes.)

9. “It Had to be You” by Harry Connick Jr. – I love him, and although this song will always remind me of “When Harry Met Sally”, it’s still a fun first dance song.

10. “Never My Love” by The Association – I do love this song… **

11. "Grow Old with You" by Adam Sandler (Robbie Hart) - LOVE LOVE LOVE!! **

PS- PLEASE DO NOT DANCE LONGER THAN 1½ MINTUES! TRUST ME! IT’S A LONG 1 ½ MINUTES FOR YOU AND FOR EVERYBODY ELSE. YES I AM YELLING.

BB wants to know... What is your first dance song? What was your first dance song?

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