Pressure… Pushing down on me…

First of all, please tell me you know that the title of this post are lyrics from David Bowie & Queen’s “Under Pressure”? Well, if you don’t, then we can’t be friends… Just kidding, but definitely click on this link and educate yourself on being cooler. Not to mention a much cooler bride….

Anyway, I want to have an honest conversation with you bridey about the pressure surrounding your wedding planning. If you’re recently engaged or have been in the midst of your wedding plans for some time now, then you are probably coming to realize that there is a ton of pressure encompassing your wedding plans. And you know where the majority of the pressure comes from? Think about it… I know a lot of you think it’s the media, or the several ridiculous wedding shows, or maybe even “the industry” in general for waving their big, fat, over-the-top weddings at you, and while these factors don’t particularly help, they’re not the problem. You want to know who your harshest critic is? Drumroll please… YOU bridey. You. And you know what? It’s understandable.

Some of you have been dreaming about this one-day your entire life. And although I eloped, I totally understand! For me, it all started with Barbie and her fucking wedding dresses, and escalated from there. Seriously, why do you think I do what I do? Hell, one Halloween I saw a little girl dressed as Strawberry Shortcake BRIDE! I mean, it was a super clever costume, but tell me that this little beauty won’t be completely obsessed when it comes to planning her wedding?! Right? 

Bridey, it’s normal for you to feel anxious, excited and even a bit critical when it’s finally time to plan the real thing as opposed to all of the pretend weddings you’ve planned growing up (or even last week)! I mean, with that kind of pressure, who wouldn’t feel stressed? But, I need you to ask yourself this question… “What’s the worst thing that’s going to happen?” Think about it. I mean REALLY think about it. To me, it would suck more to lose the man (because of the crazy bitch you’ve become during the wedding planning) than to have shitty food or screw up your place cards. See what I mean?

Listen, I know there’s a lot of pressure; most of it coming from you, but take a step back when you feel it boiling over and recognize that because you have thought about this day for so long, you’re not going to fuck it up. I promise. Just don’t allow yourself to get wrapped up in the small stuff or get completely obsessed with any one particular piece, and you will do great! Got it?

Brideys, what are you doing to prevent the pressure from getting to you?

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