Why does the asshole always win? You know what I mean? It's always the asshole who gets a free meal because he was rude to the server. It's the asshole who gets special attention at the fancy hotel because he's scared them with the threat of a bad review (so they concede to his every whim). It's the asshole who is surrounded by "yes men" because people are so afraid of setting him off that it becomes easier to enable the shitty behavior instead of dealing with a disappointing outcome. Seriously, I want to know why this is okay; why this is accepted behavior.
And, frankly, I'm no stranger to it... I always try to please the super bitchy bride/groom so that my life is easier later. Right? Isn't that why we all do it? So we don't suffer the consequences down the road no matter how bumpy the ride may be. I mean, don't get me wrong, BB ain't no pushover, but sometimes it's easier to concede than to fight the fight.
Well, as of today, I quit. From this day forward I feel encouraged to say "suck it" to the the assholes, and I choose to bend over backwards for the clients who actually deserve my attention and support. The ones who say "thank you for your help", the ones who recognize that I'm working my ass off for them, and realize that their requests take time to materialize. Those fabulous people. The ones who DESERVE it!
And you know what vendors and professionals of all sorts? You should too! If we all change our focus, then perhaps the nice guys will have a shot at winning every now and again. I mean, isn't that the way it should be? What if everyone actually stayed Bitchless?
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