So, I'm working with this amazing bride. She's sweet, kind and rocks s sense of humor that gives me belly laughs. On the other hand, I'm working with a bride who sometimes makes my skin crawl with each snarky email, short, terse voicemail and cringeworthy verbal diatribes. The crazy thing? It's the same fucking bride! Same chick. True story. And the worst part? In true Jekyll and Hyde fashion, she lacks consistency on a consistent basis. I never know which girl I'm gonna get. It's a brutal, sometimes abusive relationship and I'm sick of it.
I don't know how her fiancé deals with this shit. 'Cause I'm about to lose my fucking mind. Seriously, if you're going to be a bitch, then be a bitch. And, if you're going to be awesome and funny, then be awesome and funny. But, this Jekyll and Hyde crap? I hate it, and I'm about to go coo coo on her ass. Because frankly, I got rid of this kind bullshit in my life a long time ago. I don't associate with people like this anymore; I'm too old and don't have the patience. Not too mention it's exhausting.
You're probably wondering why I don't say something to her, right? I mean... I am pretty outspoken, and honest, right? Well, I've come pretty close (on her good days). We've broken bread together, drunk wine together, and gushed about her wedding ad nauseam. Sometimes I feel like she is a girlfriend rather than a client, but that's the key, bridey. She's a client. If she was a friend of mine, either we wouldn't be friends, or this convo would have taken place eons ago. But, as I've learned over my career, it's a very fine line between girlfriend and client. It's not my place to call her out. I just have to grin and bear it (quite literally).
Bridey, know why I am sharing this with you? Well, aside from the great sense of relief I get from writing it down? Because, I KNOW that there are a few of you out there who may not admit it aloud, but know that I am talking about you. And if this is at all familiar, then just recognize how tiring and unfair it is to whomever is on the receiving end. Nobody will want to do anything for you if they aren't quite sure which you they are going to get. And you know what? This goes well beyond your wedding vendors. It bleeds over to your friends (ahem, bridesmaids) and family too.
So, moral of the story? Be consistent. Be nice. And drop the Hyde from your Jekyll. Got it? Good!
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