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A 100% Romantic, Totally Modern, Fabulously Fun and Super Colorful Austin Wedding

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I think you can already tell by this pic that Mary + CJ's wedding was fun, right? Totally! These two crazy cats (I have always wanted to say that!) live in D.C. and had a destination wedding in Austin, Texas. How fucking awesome is that? I mean, I love a good destination wedding to a tropical paradise, but I love seeing B+G's break out of the box a little bit and go somewhere that's fun and easily accessible. And Austin? So much fun! And there's SO much to do when you're not getting your wedding on. M+CJ purposefully selected each location so that their guests were within walking distance of downtown Austin. Now how considerate is that?!

Bridey, you know I am a sucker for the details. And the A MAZ ING deets captured in this Austinalicious wedding? Hot damn, they're good! From the lofty venue, to the long tables, to the lighting (a topic I have preached about over and over again on BB) to the "cake"... I'm almost speechless. Almost. Anyway, you get it. Now, go get inspired! I did! Not gonna get married again, but a trip to Austin is certainly on the table! 

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I really can't even. Can you? Now, look down!! OMG!

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Mary, you are stunning! I LOVE your wedding dress!!

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Meanwhile...

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The church is so beautiful and grandiose! 

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YAAAASSSS!!!! 

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Can we just talk about how smashing Mary's back looks in her dress? Damn, girl!

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Sexy.

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See what I mean about the details? Totally breathtaking and glorious!

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LIGHTING IS EVERYTHING! (just saying)

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Such a great angle...

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Go Mary! LOVE IT!

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Yes this is a cool pic, but look in the right corner. Now look down. See the cake??

Fuck yeah! Talk about a cake cutting!!!!! Love how fun it is!!!

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Thank you for sharing your fun and fabulous wedding with Bitchless Bride! Thank you for being so fantastic!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Jake Holt Photography
Lighting: ILIOS Lighting
Band: Matchmaker Band
Floral Designer: Verbena Floral Design
Caterer: Royal Fig Catering
Design + D├ęcor: Loot Vintage Rentals
Equipment Rentals: Premiere Events
Event Venue: Brazos Hall
Event Planner: Pearl Events

Bridey, Why You Really Need to Give Me a Call!

Bridey, let's face it, wedding planning is stressful, time consuming and overwhelming. Right? And Bitchless Bride has dedicated four years to helping brides around the world to combat the bullshit, and drop the 'zillatude from your repertoire. But, you know how I can really help you? Call me. Phone moi. Talk to me! Let me steer you in the right direction before you lose your mind. 

Not to brag, but since I've launched Bitchless Bride Coaching in June, I have helped dozens of brides-to-be go from ass backwards to awesome. I have helped these brides to establish a solid plan, understand the next steps (and how to achieve them), and most of all, feel comfortable with the wedding planning process. Because as we all know, it is a process!

Bridey, if you're feeling a l'il cray, then please let me help you; schedule a time to talk to me! I have deliberately priced the wedding coaching sessions so that the bank will not break, and so that you can feel good about this "purchase". Let me turn your wedding planning into something that feels manageable instead of stressful. Bridey, you're literally only one call away from changing the course of your wedding day.

Follow this link to bridal bliss...

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The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ The BEST Advice from the BEST Wedding Vendors in Boston!

Bridey, today's post is like hitting the jackpot of wedding planning. SERIOUSLY. If you are recently engaged or are in the midst of planning your wedding, stop what you're doing, and focus because you are about to be educated by the BEST in the wedding biz! I asked some of my absolute FAVORITE vendors in the Boston area to share the best piece of advice about planning a wedding, and these peeps? Well, they completely spilled the beans. I mean... There is so much wedding planning goodness in this post, that I could fucking chew it!!!

I rarely say cheesy shit like this, but this is a must read!! So, are you ready to learn? Ready to say, "Thank you, Bitchless Bride!!" Good! You're welcome! 

Wedding Planners:

When you are newly engaged, you tend to become inundated with information overload and it can be daunting to say the least.  My advice to newly-engaged couples is to forgo the route of hiring all of your vendors until you’ve secured the right, professional, experienced wedding planner. Some couples feel it’s best to hire a “day of” coordinator and do the rest themselves, only to learn how much money could have been easily saved by avoiding costly mistakes and uneducated decisions along the way. The right planner should be your guide, your educator, your confidant, your representative along the way and you need to put your trust into this person as they do this every day and truly look out for your best interests from the start. 

Paula Marrero ~ Marrero Events 

My advice to new brides: Don't panic, it's all overwhelming at first but it's important to book the top 3 first-top priorities (if you're not working with a planner) are to find your venue, photographer and band--then breathe!  I also advise brides to wait to design the space until about 6 months before the wedding... You'll be able to have a couple months thinking about ideas, pinning on Pinterest , etc... I find that so many of my clients go in with one idea and once they've relaxed and see what is out there or trending in their wedding year they change their idea of what their wedding looks like--so ultimately they get what they want instead of what they thought they wanted--big difference! 

Amy Kimball ~ Amy Kimball Events 

Invitations:

Invitations are the introduction of your wedding to your friends and family; they set the tone for the event. You can’t just get a quote as there are a lot of factors to consider such as quantity, quality, type of inserts, type of print, etc. There is a lot more involved then most people realize. So, plan accordingly.

Mara Weiner ~ Allure Invitations

Cake:

Be your own "bride" ...don't worry about what family, in-laws, friends & co-workers want for YOUR WEDDING. Follow what YOU have wanted & dreamed about. 

Paula Kirrane ~ Icing on the Cake

Entertainment:

Once your venue is booked, the next step is to lock in your entertainment. In order to get the best DJ or band out there, you have to book well in advance. Remember, first and foremost? Your guests are going to remember if they had a good  time. That’s why good entertainment is vital.

Always ask your entertainment vendor about their other recommended services. This is how you get the best deals without making a laundry list of phone calls. They may already have what you need and could save you time and money without sacrificing quality.

Mike Amado ~ Entertainment Specialists

Photographers:

Lately couples are asking me if they should do the "first look". My answer is always YES! The first reveal is always so sweet. The moment is far more emotion and allows for a more intimate/private moment with just the couple. 

Some brides envision this grand moment when they are walking down the aisle, and the groom is sobbing… However, in reality, in a traditional formal setting with 200 people looking at you… The groom often looks like a deer in head lights. Not at all the magical moment you think it will be! So yes, do a first look! 

Lauren Killian ~ Person + Killian Photography

Don’t do a winter e-session! People look freezing, and are super uncomfortable. Nothing like having dirty snow and branches coming out of everyone's heads! Wait until the spring when the temperatures are higher, and the trees start to bloom. I highly suggest April-November.

~ Anonymous Photographer

Cinematography:

1. Make sure that your photographer and videographer work well as a team. Even better, choose a team where your photographer and videographer have worked together and enjoy the experience.

2. Ask your prospective wedding film maker how they operate during the wedding day. Will they have lights on their cameras? Will they be on the dance floor circling the couple during the first dance? Will they stand behind the officiant during the ceremony - Or will they stake out spots based on experience and fade into the decor?

3. Ask your toasters to limit toasts to under 5 minutes. 3 is even better. There’s not much they can say (that won’t be dumb or embarrassing) after a couple of minutes.

4. Invite your guests to leave their phones and cameras in their pockets or purses. You’re paying for pros to document your wedding - don’t let the amateurs get in the way!

5. When considering wedding cinematography, check out the sound  as well as the images of potential pros. Capturing pristine sound of your grandfather’s blessing and knowing how to integrate it with music and image, is a complex art form. Don’t settle for pretty pictures if you already have a photographer you love. When it comes to film making, sound is 60% or more.

6. If you desperately want a top notch film maker to capture your wedding, and have a limited budget, consider one of the following:

a. Grab pics from the HD / 24 Frames per second of the video capture and forego the photographer.

b. Hire the film maker you want and see if you can work out a payment plan that works for you.

c. Opt for the best film maker you can afford, ask them to produce a short highlights now, and wait until you’ve financially recovered to have them edit the feature film.

Naomi Raiselle ~ Generations Cinemastories 

Florist:

The Best way to trim your budget is to trim you guest list (it literally makes every line item more affordable - period, the end)! (AMEN!!!!!!)

If you "absolutely love and have to have peonies" - know that you absolutely MUST select a wedding date in May or early-June!

Bring as few people to each and every appointment that you book ... the less opinions, the less stressed out you will be!

~ Anonymous Florist

And there you have it... You're welcome, bridey!!! Now, all you have to do is listen to the professionals trying to help you.

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The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Designing My Dream Bride

The other day, a friend of mine asked me who my dream bride would be. Huh? Of course, I immediately asked if she was serious or if she was fucking with me. She assured me that she was dead serious, and then said, "if you could design your dream bride, what would "she" be like?" Oooooooo.... This was getting interesting! Right? If nothing else, it certainly got me thinking... What DOES my dream bride look like? And, with Christmas just a few days away, and millions impending proposals and engagements on the horizon, the timing of her question seemed appropriate. Just think... If even just 90% of you, brideys, read this post right after your engagement, then my job is done! So, here it goes... Bitchless Bride's Dream Bride:

1. My dream bride would remember who she was before she got engaged! Kinda the whole point of my blog, right? Just because you're engaged, doesn't give you the right to be a bitch. Remember, what you put out there is what you'll get back. So, bridey, if you're nice to people (vendors, bridesmaids, etc.), then they will be nice to you. They will do nice things for you. They will go out of their way for you. However, if you are a total bitch, then you'll get the bare minimum from those around you. Seriously, why would your bridesmaids go out of their way for you if they are beginning to hate you? Same goes for your vendors. If you treat them like shit, why should they go above and beyond? Right? Consider this a fact.

2. My dream bride would remember WHY she wanted to get married in the first place... Um, the dude or the chick your want to spend the rest of your life with... Your sig other! PERSPECTIVE!! See the girl in the picture? She's happy! And, you should be too! You're marrying the love of your life!! (And if you're not, then that's a whole other blog post!)

Bridey, I eloped, and I know that eloping isn't for everybody, but all I could think of at the time was that I loved my hus, and we had a shitload of family dynamics that could have presented themselves at the worst possible time. But, no matter what? I wanted to be with the dude. So, even if we had stuck to the plan and had a big wedding, all I wanted was him...

3. My dream bride would treat people with respect (friends, family, vendors). Piggybacking off of number one... Don't be a bitch. Treat people with respect. It's so simple and basic (human decency), and yet oftentimes it gets lost when the wedding planning gets stressful or emotions become extreme. Just remember to breathe, bridey, and be nice. It will be well worth it!

4. My dream bride would trust me (and all of the other professionals she hired) unequivocally. She would trust that if we are working together, that I know what I am doing, and let me do it. Don't get in my way. Don't think that because your maid of honor (MOH) got married a month ago that we should listen to her (or whothefuckever). Just let me take your dream, and run with it (with established boundaries, of course)!

5. My dream bride would skip the micromanaging bullshit. Again, you have to trust me, and let me present you with the applicable details. Bridey, your vendors are not going to share the nitty gritty with you, and honestly, you don't want to know all of the behind the scenes shit that you are missing. Just back off,

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Bitchless Bride's PSA

Why does the asshole always win? You know what I mean? It's always the asshole who gets a free meal because he was rude to the server. It's the asshole who gets special attention at the fancy hotel because he's scared them with the threat of a bad review (so they concede to his every whim). It's the asshole who is surrounded by "yes men" because people are so afraid of setting him off that it becomes easier to enable the shitty behavior instead of dealing with a disappointing outcome. Seriously, I want to know why this is okay; why this is accepted behavior.

And, frankly, I'm no stranger to it... I always try to please the super bitchy bride/groom so that my life is easier later. Right? Isn't that why we all do it? So we don't suffer the consequences down the road no matter how bumpy the ride may be. I mean, don't get me wrong, BB ain't no pushover, but sometimes it's easier to concede than to fight the fight.

Well, as of today, I quit.

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Five Crucial Wedding Appointment Etiquette Guidelines

I feel like I need to piggyback off of our Vendor Vent for today... It's an important topic, so if you haven't read it, bridey, then check it out. It's a touchy subject for the industry because we are really tired of being taken advantage of, particularly when it comes to appointments... Making them, keeping them, and fucking around with our time. Therefore you need to know the rules of engagement (sorry, couldn't help it!). Ready?

Wedding Appointment Etiquette ~ Five Crucial Guidelines to Follow:

1. Here's my absolute favorite... Bridey, don't ever just "walk-in" to a hotel, bakery, dress shop, photography studio, etc. expecting to be seen, and then get pissed off if you have to wait or are turned away because they can't see you. If you've purchased my wedding planning guide, then you know that this is a big no-no. I mean, you would never just "walk-in" to your doctor's office demanding to be seen, would you? No. And if you did, then the nice lady behind the counter would most likely put you in your place. So please, pay us the same courtesy and phone first. Make an appointment so that we can be prepared for your arrival versus feeling annoyed because you assumed that you could be seen simply because you walked in. 

Labor Day on the "Double"

Happy Labor Day brideys! Who's getting married this weekend? You? Anybody you know? Well, hopefully you are lucky enough to escape the woes of attending a holiday wedding and enjoy some time with your OWN family. But not matter what, I tip my hat to my fellow colleagues who are working this weekend (yours truly included). Because while you, bridey, suck in the last rays of summer, it's a "double double" for us.

A Penny for Your Tweet


Written by Marta, Editorial Director of GigMasters.com 

Dear BB,

Although I’ve written versions of this that were definitely rants, I feel like I’ve calmed down a little and now have “a discussion I would like to start with others in the wedding business.”

Fool Me Once, Shame on You; Fool Me Twice, Fuck You

So.... remember that post BB wrote as a my OWN vendor vent? You know, the one about how I got fucked over in front of my client when one of my vendors didn't show up for an appointment? Well, all of the feedback I received on BB and via my personal contacts said to give him another chance. We all agreed that because he was protecting existing business (he had to deal with an issue that would have effected the success of a wedding he had that evening, and therefore he did not make our scheduled meeting), then you HAVE to take care of the business you already have versus potential new business.

Why the Right Floor Plan Can Rock Your Wedding!

Person + Killian Photography

Brideys, I need you to retain this post, because it has come to my attention on several occasions that you all are super uninformed on one crucial wedding planning piece. When you read our post on OneWed, you will see that we are dedicated to helping you make your wedding better and different from all of the others. But, right now I really want to dive into our first point on the OneWed post.

All That Glitters Is Not Always Gold

From the Desk of "Goldilocks"... Bride AND Vendor:

I’ve peeked behind the curtain and…. Hum, I was really really disappointed.  To what am I referring to you ask?  In the bridal world, especially on the East coast, there is one spot that is a hands down wedding institution, a place that is a bridal rite of passage for dress shopping: I would say the name, but I don’t want to get in trouble with the ringmaster, so please use your imagination. For now, I will refer to it as “The Institution”.

Work Hard, Play... Oh Wait, Work Hard

“The industry” is recovering after working the entire Memorial Day weekend. While most of you were busy barbequing, beaching, Hamptoning, and even attending a few weddings, the peeps in the wedding industry were busy tending to your every need. And man we were busy! You see, a long weekend for us means long hours, long days, and sometimes long faces. We are on our feet creating that beautiful day for you, but you know what? We fucking love it!