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Casting AWESOME Engaged Couples for a NEW Docuseries!!!!

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Bridey, this is only the second time I have agreed to share a wedding casting call with you (and, trust me, I get asked A LOT!). WHY? Why not help your FABULOUS ass get famous AND receive help planning your wedding? Well, I don't usually promote casting calls because more often than not, I find TV shows in the wedding space to be a complete and utter abomination of an industry I love (and love to hate). Usually these shows are an over the top celebration of bad bridal behavior, and it pisses me off. But, working with a hilarious wedding expert + her peeps? Ummmm… A MAZ ING! And while the hilarious wedding expert is not me (sad, but true), it’s the super funny + incredible Jamie Lee! I 100% appreciate her work, and that of the production company, ITV America, producing the show. So, here I am, sharing with you, because I want you to succeed! So, check out the two fliers below, and tell me how it all turns out!!

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Brideys! Are you sold yet? I am! I’ll TOTALLY get married again just to have the chance to be around these peeps! And, look down… Seriously? QUEER EYE!!! Yaaasssss!!!

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You’re welcome!

XO,

BB

When Starting Your Wedding Planning Feels Insurmountable… Why Starting in the Middle (or at the End) Can Change your Perspective… A Personal Anecdote + Some Advice

“UGH!!! I’m so FRUSTRATED!“ I whined loudly. “I have the idea, I know what I want to say, but I cannot get it out of my head and onto the fucking paper.” I said banging my head on the desk

“So, don’t start at the beginning.” My husband said causally. “Start in the middle or at the end.

“Oh my God! You’re a fucking genius. Why didn’t I think of that?” I said. 

“Because, I’m smarter than you.” he teased.

But, the thing is, I did. I did think about starting in the middle; just not for the project I was struggling to begin... I thought about that for you, bridey, in an earlier post about quitting your wedding planning. But, this recent stroke of genius (thanks to my hus) got me thinking that perhaps I should help you to change your perspective. Change your focus, and start your wedding planning from the middle instead of from the beginning. Or at the end instead of the middle. Or at the beginning because that is what works for you. I mean, sure there’s etiquette, and timelines and “suggestions”, but if it doesn’t work for you, then fuck it! It really doesn’t matter where you start. Start wherever the inspiration is flowing. Just start. That’s what I did, and it totally worked. 

Just like you, bridey, I felt (and still feel) completely overwhelmed by this project because I’ve never done it before, and I really have no idea what I’m doing. I’m in unfamiliar territory, and hot damn is it uncomfortable! Right??! And, although we’re in the midst of two completely different obstacles, it’s an obstacle nonetheless. But, starting in the middle changed my trajectory, it changed my path, it made this project feel like something I could absolutely accomplish, but at my pace and in my own way. 

It felt a lot like when I started the BB podcast. I had no idea what the fuck I was doing. Like zero idea. I knew I wanted to host my own show, and say whatever felt right (for me, but more so for you, bridey), and this was how I was going to do it. Over the years, I had been in bed with a few networks, trying like mad to bring Bitchless Bride to TV, but their fear of out-of-the-box concepts and something different than what’s already out there stifled my dreams, and my dream for you. So, I took the plunge! I jumped right in. And, I hired professionals to make it sound FAB, edit + produce it, and now it’s all mine. 

So, now, I’m starting this new and extremely intimidating project (attempting to write a pretty cool wedding show with a kickass production company), and it’s scary. And, until my hus suggested that I start in the middle, the struggle was VERY real. But, then I started. In the fucking middle!! And, unlike the podcast, where I jumped (more like leapt into a trust fall), this needed some more finessing, more thought, and a lot more structure (if you listen to my podcast, you know what I mean!). 

So, my advice for you, bridey? Listen to yourself. Where do YOU want to begin? What part of your wedding planning excites you? Then start there! You’ll be amazed at how quickly that excitement morphs into the planning the next step, and the next and the next. Your own excitement can be self-contagious (think I just made that up!). It will push you forward, and you may even enjoy the process! Just be sure that if you have your heart set on a particular venue/band/photographer, to give yourself enough time to secure them or that you’re date flexible (i.e.: Friday, Sunday or off season). Otherwise, dive in! Got it? Good! Then stay Bitchless!

Photo by Heather Miller on Unsplash

A Glamorous, Bohemian, Luxurious, and Super Sultry, Hawaiian Styled Shoot

Today, I feel like STICKING IT to this awful, Northeast weather. Snow? Really? Fucking snow? I’m not ready for it yet… So, instead of showing you the winter wedding I had planned for today, I switched gears and decided to show you something beautiful (not that the other post wasn’t beautiful, but there was snow in it!), something magnificent, something crafted and collaborated in Hawaii. And, even though we don’t go outdoors, you’ll still feel the openness and airiness of being outside because of the exquisite design and décor.

Bridey, there is so much fabulous inspiration captured in this styled shoot, that I will seriously be mad at you if you don’t take some of this deliciousness and incorporate it into your wedding. There’s color, there’s romance, there’s metallics, there’s greenery, there’s an A MAZ ING wedding dress... OMG, take your pick and run to the altar with it! When talented vendors get together and create beautiful scenery, it’s our job to do something about it, right? Enjoy!!

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Totally gorgeous! How could you NOT want to sit at this stunning table??

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Yaaaaassssssss!!! A million times yes!!!!

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This is extraordinary. It’s SO simple, but entirely elegant and beautiful.

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See what I mean about feeling open + airy?

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That dress!!! Those flowers!!! That table!! Oh my!

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I’ll be honest… When I first saw this pic, I thought the bride wasn’t wearing a top… And, I’m totally okay with that! But, she is! It’s just hidden behind the bouquet.

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Thank you to this group of very talented vendors for sharing a piece of Hawaii with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Amity Mason Photography LLC
Equipment Rentals + Signage: Pueo Designs
Macrame: Tied by the Sea
Design + Décor + Florals: Feather and Fern Maui
Location: Lahaina Loft

A Kickass and Awesomely Low Key Wedding Under a Willow Tree...

I mean… THAT’S a fucking KISS! And, I LOVE it! Right? (OMG!! I even write the word RIGHT! I’m supposed to work on saying that word less according to the Bitchless Bride podcast!) Anyway, meet Stacy + David, the B+G, who lost everything they owned in a house fire a year before they said “I do”. Bridey, imagine losing your home, your belongings, and having to completely rebuild while planning your nuptials. YIKES! Such a sad and difficult time… So, it’s not surprising to me that one evening, as they sat on the porch, watching as the sun disappeared behind the horizon, they decided it would be a beautiful experience to get married at sunset. Fast forward to a Tuesday in August, S+D were married an intimate ceremony on the family property. The only guests in attendance were close family and friends, seated in white chairs next to a pond, and below a weeping willow tree. 

Bridey, you know that I tend to go on and on about perspective on Bitchless Bride because it’s incredibly important for you recognize that you’re not only planning a wedding, but an ever after too. Right? And, just think about what this B+G had to endure before getting married, and think about how they persevered unscathed, together (literally + figuratively)… You’ll hear from Stacy throughout this post, and she’s a fucking rockstar. So, listen + learn + enjoy!

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Stacy: My bouquet was stunning!! We went to the local florist (A.H.Christiansons), and asked if they could do succulents because I knew for sure I wanted those. I'm pretty laid back and wanted to go with the flow about almost everything. They did such an amazing job taking the multiple different photo ideas I took to them, and made my unique bouquet. All the different flowers they used really matched our rustic and outdoor wedding so well. They also made the boutonniere have a little succulent and rose to match my bouquet.

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Stacy! You’re SO super cute! I love your tattoos and your tank!

Stacy: Even though we did a super small simple wedding, I knew I still wanted the traditional wedding dress. I knew I needed a strapless dress to show off my tattoos! The dress I got was strapless, had a sweetheart neckline, and was multilayered. It had a champagne colored under layer with a layer of ivory lace and a layer of simple beading. It had a long train, but not too long. As for the groom, he is tall and skinny so we decided to get a custom tailored suit. He went with a nice grey suit and got to customize the liner and everything!

Stacy’s dad drove her to the ceremony in his restored Jeep…

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WOW! Look at that stunning willow tree!!

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Stacy: I could not wait to finally get married! My house is actually right next to my grandparents where we got married. My dad drove me over in his old, blue jeep to then walk me down the isle. The best part of the day, was getting to marry my best friend with our closest family there.

These two? Phenomenal kissers!! Like, I can’t even…

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OMFG with the hand on the face… Stacy + David, I LOVE you guys!!!

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OB FUCK ING SES SED with those boots!!!!

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Stacy: My best advise for brides to be, is bigger isn’t always better. Don't stress over the details; everything will work out. We didn’t set up our actual ceremony space until 30 minutes before the wedding due to rain. Our small intimate backyard wedding was the best thing we could have done. Not only was it mostly stress free, but it didn’t take a lot of planning or decorating. So don't stress and enjoy it! AMEN to that, Stacy!!!

CHEERS!

Thank you Stacy + David for sharing your BEAUTIFUL wedding with Bitchless Bride. I love your story!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Lindsay Dawn Photography
Bakery: Giant Eagle Bakery
Floral Designer: A. H. Christiansons
Submitted via Two Bright Lights

A Boho Meets the Beach Wedding Filled with Amazing Surprises, a Few Setbacks and a Brilliant Comeback!

See Kristen + Ben just walking along like it’s no big thing? Like they don’t have a care in the whole wide world? Kristen is just stunningly strolling in that fucking GORGEOUS wedding dress, avoiding pelican poop, while holding the hand of her handsome husband… No big deal. Right? Wrong. Amazingly enough, the story of this B+G is much deeper than this beautiful photograph. Kristen + Ben endured a ton of drama which could have turned their wedding planning experience into a living hell, but instead, was something they got through together… Well, together, and with their wedding planner. What “hell” am I referring to? Read it from the bride herself, and then go be inspired!!

From the bride: The best advice I could give a future bride would be to hire a wedding planner (especially if you are trying to plan a destination wedding). We had some major setbacks throughout the wedding planning process- Hurricane Irma- and along with that came two changes of venue, date changes, vendor changes, guest list changes and multiple invitations. Even though you may think you don't want to spend the money, it was well worth it for my sanity. Nicole from Simply You weddings was a rock star!

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Kristen! You’re incredible!! I love everything about you!!!

Bridey, are you dying over Kristen’s kickass wedding dress? I am!

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OMFG. That bouquet of flowers! I’m losing my mind! WHOA!

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From the bride: The most anticipated moment for me was seeing Ben, my fiancé's face, when we had the first look. It is just such a special moment to know that your about to commit to that person for life and I'm so glad Mike was able to capture that so well.

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From the bride: The first time I tried on wedding dresses at Olivia Bowen bridal boutique, I knew right away that I did not want to have a traditional wedding day style. I went with the Australian based designer, Made with Love, for my gown who I feel made the ultimate dress by incorporating a natural color pattern into the dress but still the traditional feel with an all lace gown. 

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Bridey, remember how this is plan B??? THIS is PLAN FUCKING B!! Just look how breathtaking this ceremony is!

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Sniff, sniff… I can’t get past this moment…

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Cheers!!! Two for me, please!

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The lighting, the venue, the wedding… OH MY!

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Kristen, I LOVE your facial expression here!

From the bride: I personalized the wedding with a gourmet donut bar including fresh fried donuts and just about any topping imaginable. The self serve bar included custom"to-go" bags that read "Glazed and delicious from the new Mr and Mrs". (PS- See the date on the bags? Different than the actual wedding day. I LOVE LOVE LOVE that they still used the bags with the original wedding date!)

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Thank you K+B for sharing your A MAZ ING wedding (part two). It’s clear that you persevered through the cray and had an incredible wedding day!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Freas Photography
Event Planner: Simply You
Transportation: Old Town Trolley
Cake Designer: Key West Cakes
DJ: DJ Buggy
Equipment Rentals: Keys Audio Productions, LLC
Floral Designer: Marathon Florist
Ceremony + Reception Location: Southernmost House
Hair Stylist: Bella Luxe Hair & Makeup

BB's Hard at Work... Get Ready for Something BIG!!!

Brideys, SO sorry I haven’t posted anything inspirational or helpful this week. I’ve had my head down working on something BIG, something HUGE, something ENORMOUS! Get ready for the Bitchless Bride podcast!!!!! Yup! The Bitchless Bride podcast is launching next Thursday, October 18, 2018, and I couldn’t BE more excited! Be prepared to learn + laugh your ass off when you tune in! Oh, and feel free to share this news with anybody who will listen!!! Stay tuned… Pun 100% intended!

XO,

BB

Photo by Mikayla Mallek on Unsplash

A Super Elegant, Super Chill, New York Wedding, Rockin' Live Music + Cocktails

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Bridey, if you are completely stunned by this gorgeous wedding dress off of the hanger, just wait until you see it on the bride! OMFG! And, you know that I don’t usually open with a pic of the wedding dress (nothing against wedding dresses, but a nice photograph of the B+G is always a good way to start a post!), but I seriously think this one spoke to me. And, no, I’m not drinking at my desk or smoking or vaping or whatever… I was just moved by the beautiful details. Although, once you see it ON, it’s truly magical! Anyway, Nicole + Jon wanted a low key wedding with live music. How awesome does that sound, right? Well, that’s exactly what they got.

This B+G had their decided against a traditional wedding venue, and celebrated their nuptials at a restaurant. I gotta say, I like their style. Before my hus and I decided to elope, we put a deposit down at a FAB restaurant in Boston. Because not only did we love the food and ambiance, we wanted to break away from the ballroom, and celebrate in a space that felt more like us. That’s exactly what what N+J did! Enjoy this incredibly low key yet totally fantastic wedding!

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On occasion, Jon plays the bass in a wedding band…

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See what I mean about the details? A MAZ ING!

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The dress + the birdcage veil = STUN NING!

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Cheers!

Just look at those fabulous bridesmaids dresses! I LOVE LOVE LOVE all of the gold, and how they’re all different!

The dress is tea length! OMG! It just keeps getting better!!

Beautiful. Such a great shot!

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Great smooch!

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Lovin’ this B+G together!!!

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YAAAASSSSSSS!!!!

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I truly love seeing all of the guests happily dancing and celebrating with the B+G! Thank you Nicole and Jon for sharing your wedding with Bitchless Bride!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Casey Fatchett Photography
Hair Stylist: Fox and Jane Salon
Floral Designer: Adore Floral Design
Band: Rhythm Dogs
Dress Designer: Michelle & Henry Roth Bridal
Reception Venue: Public

An Intimate, Backyard Wedding Filled with Tons of Charm, Warmth and Some Mischief

On occasion, I can get a bit corny. It’s a rare occurrence, saved only for special moments, and today is definitely one of those days. Betsy and Suliko are a super chill, super romantic couple, and I am absolutely OB SES SED with them and their awesomeness. Seriously, they are like the couple of my dreams (totally corny!). First of all, they did something I could never do… They kept their relationship private for a very long time! Right? OMFG! Usually after a first date (provided it went well), I’d be blabbing to anybody who will listen. I couldn’t imagine keeping anything quiet, let alone meeting my soulmate! But, more than the cool nature of their relationship, the B+G got married in their backyard, right in the heart of Raleigh. The best part? They moved in less than a month before their wedding day! That alone is completely badass and totally risky!

Betsy and Suliko’s gorgeous wedding was made up of only their closest friends and family (20 people), and their friend Meredith, whom they work with, became ordained so she could marry the B+G. Awwwww…. Bridey, there are so many exquisite details for you to absorb. The mismatched chairs, the twinkle lights, the food, the cakes (yes CAKES!), their dog, Olive… But, my favorite part? I love that these two stayed true the nature of their relationship, and had a super lovely, super chill at home wedding, and did it well. Enjoy!

I LOVE LOVE LOVE the ceremony seating!

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Olive! You’re such a cutie!!!

This truly made me laugh out loud! When Suliko went to read his vows, he pretended that they were so long they spilled to the ground. Hence the mischief! YAAAASSSS!!

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They did it!! And Olive is just chillin’!

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So, I have cats, and they don’t do cool shit like this.

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See what I mean about the corny-factor? How could I NOT be corny about the B+G?!!

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First of all, I love the blue door! Secondly, Betsy wore a stunning David's Bridal gown, and added the ribbon sash tied around her waist. LOVE IT!

The MOG, Inga, made all of this totally delicious food!

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Love this beautiful, backyard table!

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Love a good cake smash!

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The garden gnome was a gift to Betsy from Suliko, and it kept making an appearance during the course of the evening. HAHA!

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Thank you Besty and Suliko for sharing your awesome wedding, and letting us get a glimpse of your lovely relationship!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Rose Trail Images
Cake
Designer: Linda's Cakes
Dress: David’s Bridal
Floral Designer: Fallons Flowers

When Quitting Your Wedding Feels Like the Only Option, and How to Persevere

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“You’ve come too far to quit.” she said. “Push yourself!” she screamed into the mic attached to her headpiece. I was in spin class and wanted to fucking die. My whole body was sore from boot camp the day before, and my legs felt like noodles. Plus, it didn’t help that we were doing all sorts of fancy moves like pushups, side to sides, etc., ON THE BIKE, and I felt like a total jackass, because coordination is definitely not one of my strong suits. I was completely flailing. I had nothing left to give; nothing left in my body, and all I wanted to do is get the fuck out of there. But, something clicked when she uttered those words into that headpiece. Something made me continue to move my ass even though I didn’t think my muscles would listen to my brain. And, so I did. And I didn’t quit. I persevered, and I pushed myself even though I thought I couldn’t get it done.

You know how I did it, bridey? I went at my own pace. Because she was right, I had come too far to quit. So, I slowed down just enough to feel my heart settle back into my chest, and did the best I could with the fancy shit (although, I do have a bruise on my collar bone…hmmmmm). The point is, that you’re 100% going to feel like quitting one or more times during your wedding planning. It’s overwhelming. It’s stressful. It sucks sometimes. It’s not always what you expected it to be. But, don’t quit. You’ve come too far to quit! Don’t screw up everything you’ve already accomplished because you’ll only make it worse for yourself when you come back to it. Just slow down. Take a breather and let your heart settle back into your chest. Sometimes that’s all it takes. Breathing. Breathing is key.

I find myself saying that a lot these days. “Breathe. Take a breath.” Bridey, we’ve all become so programmed to GO! GO! GO! that so often, we forget to breathe while we race to the altar. And, frankly? That’s bullshit. I don’t care if your wedding is tomorrow or next year. Go at your own pace. Don’t allow yourself to succumb to the pressure of feeling like you have to accomplish everything immediately. Don’t put that kind of stress on yourself. It’s you versus you, not you versus every other bride getting married with better Instagram photos or a juicer Pinterest page. Fuck that noise! Appreciate the things you like, and then move on.

So what are you supposed to do if you’re having trouble getting over the wedding planning hump? Change your perspective; see it from an outside view. And, go long… What would your future married self tell your current engaged self as you struggle with this particular piece of your wedding planning? She’d tell you that, no matter what, you’re still going to marry to your sig other, and to take a break. Come back with a fresh set of eyes after you’ve taken some time to focus on you. Or, perhaps she’d tell you to plan your wedding out of order. The reality is that the order in which you plan your wedding is flexible. Crazy, right? Stuck on food selection? No problem. Just work on the color scheme/florals/linen instead, and come back to the food after you’ve had some time off. Can’t determine your bridal party? Worried about hurting feelings? Perhaps you shouldn’t have one… I don’t know, but what I DO know is that you’d be amazed at how easy these choices can be once you’ve given yourself permission to breathe and quiet those inner demons.

Bridey, you’ve come too far to quit. Push yourself. And maybe that means pushing yourself to a yoga retreat or girls weekend or romantic weekend, but either way, do push yourself because you WILL persevere! You can do this! 

Photo by Johnson Wang on Unsplash

A Rustically Colorful, Smashingly Romantic and "Foxy", Winter Wedding

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I'd like to introduce you to Rose + Eric, otherwise known as Ms. Rabbit + Mr. Fox. I'm not going to lie, I truly love it when couples have pet names for each other (my hus and I have a few names for each other, but definitely not is cool (or nice for that matter)!). And, in this case, I mean "pet" in the literal sense of the word! It all started because, one day, as these two were enjoying a lovely day in town, they spotted a red fox (um, holy shit!), something extremely rare in such an urban setting. Considering that Rose grew up in the woods, she took this "fox spotting" as a spiritual sign that it was time to tell Eric she loved him. So, she did. And, that is how it all began... From then on, Eric was the fox and she was the rabbit.

Anyway, bridey, I dare you to take this opportunity to be inspired! Don't be afraid to incorporate amazing attributes from other cultures into your wedding. R+E's wedding is exceptionally electrifying; inspired by Indian saree's and African colors. A MAZ ING, right?? And why not? There are no rules, just two people planning a day that symbolizes who they are together, and what they will be in the future. (Wow! That was deep!) Plus, there were several DIY aspects included throughout the wedding making it that much more personal and meaningful. Take a peek at Rose's shawl + the groom's tie. They were crafted by the Rose's mom. But, what I love the most (aside from the exquisite color, delicately beautiful wedding dress, DIY elements and every bit of décor)? Rose + Eric are clearly passionate for one another, and didn't go for broke to express that love and adoration. Enjoy!!!

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That's definitely the greatest look ever...

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STFU with those dimples, Eric! So dashing!

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Rose, there is something entirely angelic about you. You are incredibly stunning!

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Are you DY ING over the all of the color? I totally am!!

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Hot damn, that bouquet is absolutely splendid!

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Totally love that Rose is barefoot!

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Such a FAB shot!!! 

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Let's go do this!!!

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There is so much emotion captured in this shot. Seriously, look at each of their faces... Plus, I LOVE the amazing colors!

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Sexy. Passionate.

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Love the décor! Take a closer look at the mug.

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Love love love the mural!!

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Thank you Ms. Rabbit + Mr. Fox for sharing your exuberant wedding with Bitchless Bride! I love everything about it!!! 

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Photographer: XSIGHT Productions
Location: Winters Community Center
Submitted via Two Bright Lights

A Beautiful, 1960s Themed, at Home Wedding in the United Kingdom

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Bridey, I can't EVEN with this wedding. Like. NOT.EVEN.A.LITTLE.BIT. The story of Laura + Richard is so unbelievably lovely. And even lovelier? Is the way they decided to get married... On their terms, on a limited (yet determined) budget, and all while celebrating their love for the past, present and future. L+R met very young, and knew they were going to be together forever. One of the first things Richard said to Laura was that he was going to marry her! And he was right! They got tied the knot on their 10th anniversary of being together. But, my favorite part? They got married at home. Somewhere that's not just another venue, but in a place that means something to them. 

Laura said that, "For me this was just as much a celebration of the adventures we’d already had together as well as the promise to keep on sharing our lives. Budget was a big factor in our planning, we only had whatever money we could save up and for us borrowing money, or spending a huge amount on one day wouldn’t have felt right when we were still in a rented flat and hoping to buy our own home at some point. After looking at a few venues, mainly barns, I realised that everything we liked was completely out of our price range. Then it dawned on me, why pay for a venue at all. We weren’t planning on inviting a huge number of guests as neither of us like to be in the spotlight, so why not just have the reception at home. My mum agreed to host in her little garden...'' How amazing is Laura's mom!?? Right? I love the idea of being home! And, bridey, you will too after you see the details! Enjoy!

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OMFG! The headpiece, the dress, the bouquet. OH MY!!!

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The sheer excitement captured in these photographs has my eyes welling up with big, puffy (almost ugly crying) tears!

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Absolutely OB SES SED with the 'maids and everything they are rockin'. 

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Laura said, "... I was inspired to have the wedding as homemade as possible, we would save money but it would also make the day unique and special. We have lots of creative friends who got involved and helped us in all sorts of ways.''

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Greatest.shot.ever.

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I mean... If that's not a beautiful couple... LOVE L+R!!

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Two things here... First of all, the bouquet. Totally gorgeous! Right? And the other thing? See Laura's' orange nails? I LOVE that she's wearing orange polish on her wedding day!!

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Richard, your a fantastic looking groom (and dude in general)! #Justsaying

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If you're taking your wedding home, then it's super important to incorporate elements of home in your décor. This B+G did a fantastic job with the details...

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Um, yes please!!! Looks delish!

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I don't know who you are, but I love you!!! Is one of those for me?

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I really don't know which pic is cuter... Look up. Okay, now look down. Right? 

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Bridey, THIS is utter happiness. Take it all in...

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Laura, you are stunningly beautiful, and your excitement and love is encapsulated in every.single.picture.

L+R, thank you for sharing your "homemade" wedding with Bitchless Bride!! Your wedding was truly incredible! 

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Photographer: Berni Palumbo Photography
Venue: Private Residence