Venue

The Big C... It's Not What You Think

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This post will make you angry. This post will upset you to your core (at least I hope it will). This post will piss you off. But, most of all this post will open your eyes to everything I have been saying since BB's inception... Brides can be a real bitch! Seriously brideys, if you feel nothing after reading this, then you are in desperate need some help and fast! I feel passionately that this story will move you, and help put your world of wedding planning into PERSPECTIVE! And if it doesn't, then please... lose my number.

This is How It's Done... Writing a Glowing Letter to Management

Good afternoon Mr. General Manager,

Please excuse the tardiness of this note; however it's taken me a while to determine exactly how I wanted to praise an absolutely incredible manager I had the pleasure of working with at your venue. Ms. Sarah Smith and I began our journey together last August 2011 upon signing the wedding contract of Ms. Amanda Frank and Mr. Samuel Counter to be married at your venue on October 13, 2012. We signed the contract with your sales team after much back and forth finally agreeing on the terms and conditions presented to us.

Sarah was quick to reach out and introduce herself. I immediately found her to be extremely knowledgeable, friendly and encouraging. And that was just the beginning...

It’s a Hotel Not a Hall

I have to be honest with you bridey. When you call a hotel that provides their own food and beverage and ask to see their “hall”, the lovely sales manager on the other end of the phone instantly knows that you can’t afford to have your wedding at their property. You see there is a huge difference between a hall and hotel, and nothing screams “low budget” louder than asking to see “the hall” instead of the ballroom.

Bride + Planner = BFF?

Because Bitchless Bride received several well thought out and in depth comments about our “She’s Always a ‘Lady’ to Me” post, I thought I would respond with a few simple rules based on these amazing comments from the assigned wedding planners, vendors and brides.

Please note, when BB refers to the “assigned wedding planners” I am speaking of the hard working, often underpaid employees assigned by the venue to help you plan your wedding. This is NOT the person you, as the bride, hire as an outside consultant to assist you with all of the other details (aka: wedding planner).

She’s Always a “Lady” to Me

I want to stand up and applaud. I want to stand up and cheer. I want to jump up and down. You know why? Because of “Lady V”. Who? “Lady V”… She wrote a brutally honest response to a post BB wrote called “The Problem Planner”, and I need you, bridey to understand her point of view. You see, she works for a five star resort, and if you are getting married at a high-end venue or five star hotel, then I need you to think about her words when you feel your verbal vomit bubbling up.

The Problem Planner – Vendor Management 101

Today on Huffington Post Weddings, BB wrote about the “problem guest” and what to do about it. But what if the problem isn’t the guest? What if you, bridey, don’t like the assigned wedding planner from the hotel or venue? Let me clarify, this is NOT the person YOU hire to help you plan your entire wedding. This person is hired by the fancy hotel or venue to walk you through the menu, floor plan, logistics (taking place at their establishment), etc. Basically your wedding is happening in their “house”, and this is the assigned manager you are going to be working with on the details. But, what if you don’t like them? What should you do?

Why the Right Floor Plan Can Rock Your Wedding!

Person + Killian Photography

Brideys, I need you to retain this post, because it has come to my attention on several occasions that you all are super uninformed on one crucial wedding planning piece. When you read our post on OneWed, you will see that we are dedicated to helping you make your wedding better and different from all of the others. But, right now I really want to dive into our first point on the OneWed post.

Venue Ready?

It’s fucking 9 AM. Why is this day different from all other days? On all other days we go about our business, but today it’s 9 AM on your wedding day (for those of you who caught onto my “spiel” good for you!). You wake up, announce to your bridesmaids sharing your honeymoon suite, “Oh my God! It’s my wedding day! Let’s go check out the space!” STOP. Stop right there.

Lights, Camera, Actionless

You booked your wedding in a fucking warehouse. Well, basically… If you have chosen a cavernous, vast open space, then you know what? It needs lights. And not the overhead florescent ones, or else we might as well be at an AA meeting, sitting in a circle drinking burnt coffee and eating stale donuts… Specialty lighting, lighting that can transform the look and feel of the space into a spectacular event. Ladies, I’m sorry to have to say it, but if lighting is not in your budget, then this is not your venue.

Reeling It In

I don’t think there is anything worse than working with a bride who cannot get a grip on what she wants. And frankly, I'm not talking about the dumb dumbs either! (Although, oftentimes it’s the dumb dumbs that have the grandiose ideas that are just plain terrible, but at least they have a starting point.) I have worked with attorneys, doctors, dentists, marine biologists (really!)… You name it, and thinking back to our initial brainstorming sessions are enough to make me vomit all over my Tori Burch shirt! Go back to the basics girls! When somebody asks you how you envision your wedding day, and you say, “I don’t know”, we are in some serious trouble.

Choosing Your Venue

Let’s talk about where your wedding will be… When it comes to choosing the venue for your wedding, be sure you can afford it. Usually, the venue is where you will spend the bulk of your wedding budget, so be sure you don’t fall in love with a place you know you cannot afford. You can certainly try to negotiate the food and beverage minimum or rental fees, be careful not to over do it.