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    5 Important “Bridal Traits” I Learned from My Favorite Bride

    As much as I attempt to educate you brideys with my anecdotes, crazy bitchy bride stories and a few nightmares, I think it’s only fair that I tell you a bit about one of my absolute favorite brides (like ever). Not only was she super cool, gorgeous and fun, but also really smart and trusting… of me, and the vendors we picked TOGETHER! She embraced the wedding planning process; the good the bad and the crazy, and walked around like she had a secret. Like a badass. You know that feeling… It’s like nobody can touch you, you feel almost invincible and awesome (TOTALLY the way I feel in Vegas!).

    So, about half way through the planning process I asked her what her secret was. How was she able to keep it all together so well during this process? Because it wasn’t just the wedding she was dealing with… She was writing her thesis, her father was ill, and although her mother was supportive, her energies were spent taking care of her husband. My brideys response… “Hmmmm… I guess that as much as I am excited about the wedding, I am even more excited about Aaron. The wedding plans can go hell, but at least I’ll be married… to him.” I seriously bowed down to her after listening to this response because I was absolutely floored! 

    After our appointment, I thought a lot her graceful demeanor and how she just seemed to “get it”. And it dawned on me, that while she was definitely madly in love with her fiancé, she also seemed to understand that as much as she was looking forward to the actual wedding, there was life afterwards. Here’s a glimpse of what I learned from her:

    1. I’ve said this before, but it’s worth repeating. Love your fiancé. Don’t be rude or snarky in front of strangers and vendors. It makes us (your vendors) think you’re not gonna make it, and why should we put all of this work into planning something when divorce seems inevitable. 

    2. Don’t expect a discount just because you asked for it. Listen, you can’t blame a girl for asking, but know when to quit. There’s nothing worse than somebody who gives into you just to get you to shut up! Or if they get fed up, tell you to suck it and look elsewhere!

    3. Bridey and I had several conversations about how everybody she loved was going to be in the same room all at once. And frankly, there’s usually only one other time this happens, and it’s a bit morbid (you picking up what I’m putting down?) Got it? So take it all in and enjoy no matter what happens!

    4. Remember that oftentimes there’s a fantastic reward for your wedding planning efforts… It’s called a honeymoon! And usually it’s somewhere warm with palm trees, and always with lots of “just married” sex (and on that note, you must read Gynecologically Speaking to prepare yourself!)! 

    5. You’re married and you just threw a huge party to celebrate… SO CELEBRATE! Enjoy yourselves because it will be among the fastest days of your entire life. 

    Brideys, absorb this. Because this bride should win an award for her extremely amazing attitude and overall understanding of the big picture.

    What do you think? How are your wedding plans going? Are you keeping this in mind?

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    Reader Comments (6)

    I have been having a very difficult time with the grooms parents and trying to get them excited and involved in our wedding planning and then one day it hit me. No-one is going to care about my wedding as much as I do. I cant change them and I will have to adjust. I walked into our home one day and found my finace sweeping the floor and dancing to a song on his I-Pod (he had no idea I was there) I stood back against the door and watched him dance around, smiling and realized it isn't about anyone else but us. I would marry him in a garbage dump if I had to. I love this article.

    October 25, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterZT2014

    Hey ZT2014,

    You are absolutely right... Nobody is going to care about your wedding as much as you do. You can't create excitement or make people care when they are not built that way. But... you can do EXACTLY what you did... You had a moment. You saw a glimpse of your fiancé in his weird little world, and it made you love him even more. How awesome is that?

    ZT2014, garbage dump and all... you have each other. You might stink (ha!), but you have the foundation to make it work and work well.

    Thank you for your comment!

    Tons of LOVE to you for "getting it"!


    October 25, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    I love how blunt you are. I am a straight shooter myself and I find your blog quite refreshing. I have heard about #3 several times and how almost overwhelming it can be when everybody's all together. It really struck when you said that the next time this will happen will be my funeral. It is morbid however I must say that it really puts things into perspective for me.

    Thank you for always keeping it real. I learned a lot today from your post.

    October 25, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterButtercup Wedding

    Hey Buttercup!

    Yeah, #3 is a bit tough, but true so enjoy it! I've seen so many brides ruin their day obsessing about the details AS THEY ARE HAPPENING, and not truly living in the moment... What a waste...

    Thank you for your comment! SO glad you learned a lot today!


    October 25, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    My partner is an undertaker, and being surrounded by funerals on a daily basis really does bring you down to earth. I often hear people discuss family weddings from the past at the wake, as it is a reason to be with family like at no other time. Yes funerals are sad, but afterwards people celebrate life, and oftentimes the life they are celebrating started at a Wedding which then created the family that is together again.
    The circle of life.

    November 16, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCara

    Hey Cara,

    Nothing puts it into perspective quite like a funeral, right? Enjoy the people at your wedding. Enjoy yourselves at the wedding. And enjoy the wedding!!! Because the next time these peeps are altogether because of you... Well, let's just hope that won't be enjoying themselves...

    Thanks for your comment!


    November 18, 2012 | Registered CommenterBitchless Bride

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