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    In Sickness and in Health... Before the Wedding

    {Photograph via Jennifer Brotchie Photography}

    So, remember that freebie I mentioned a while back in my "Listen Up" post? You know, the wedding I am planning for free because the bride and groom are my friends? Well, it is coming up this weekend and I could not be more thrilled for several reasons, but most of all because the groom is healthy. The groom is alive, and not in pain. And for that, all of our hard work feels absolutely incredible. This truly is a celebration not only for the union of two people who love each other, but for two people who have already been through sickness and health together. Not to mention a groom that survived a major surgical operation with flying colors, and loves to show off the scars. 

    Brideys, I'm sure you are totally sick my overuse of the word "perspective", but I cannot help myself! Perspective, perspective, perspective! We all know that perspective can be a total bitch at times, but it can also be an eye opener and a reality check too. Seriously, this bride has been through more with her fiancé than most of us will be go through with our husbands. The crazy part of this story? She has been totally calm during the wedding planning, irregardless of some of the stupid and annoying obstacles we have found ourselves up against (we'll save that for another post). And frankly, if she went a bit cray cray because of the bullshit we've encountered, I would forgive her. Not just because she is my friend, but because this wedding is a symbol of their strength, love and the desire to overcome something that goes well beyond just planning a wedding. It's about being healthy and happy.

    Too many of us take our significant other for granted when we should accept their idiosyncrasies and love them for who they are. Do you really think that when faced with a life or death situation you'll be wishing that you had picked different flowers for your bouquet? Or that you really should have gone with the beef instead of the chicken? I doubt it. 

    Brideys, I am not trying to minimize how important your wedding day is or that the planning isn't a big deal, because it is. It is a shit ton of money, time and effort, but it's also important to remember that after the wedding comes the marriage. So the next time you need to take a few deep breaths and deal with some of the nuances of wedding planning, remember how lucky you are to be able to plan without worrying that your soon to be spouse will make it to the alter.

    Were you or your significant other up against life or death during your wedding planning?

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    Although I cannot completely relate, my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and within this past year we've had to cope with his father having a massive debilitating stroke, his mother abandoning the family afterwards, and he and I having to take over the role of caretakers for his sick father and two teenage brothers. It is hard to get through troubling times when the vows have yet to be set in stone but I wouldn't change the past for anything. It goes to show that if you can make it through this, you were meant to be. Cheers to this couple and I hope for the best in their bright future.

    November 5, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBrooke

    Hey Brooke,

    I'm so sorry that you and your fiancé are going through such a troubling time. Sounds like you two are not only strong, but certainly meant to be. Some people would have walked away as somewhat of a defensive mechanism, so kudos to you for being so supportive.

    I hope when your wedding day comes, it is beautiful and everything you hoped it would be. But, no matter what, it's nice to know that you have such a solid foundation to build upon.

    Thanks for sharing...


    November 5, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

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