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    Work Hard, Play... Oh Wait, Work Hard

    The industry” is recovering after working the entire Memorial Day weekend. While most of you were busy barbequing, beaching, Hamptoning, and even attending a few weddings, the peeps in the wedding industry were busy tending to your every need. And man we were busy! You see, a long weekend for us means long hours, long days, and sometimes long faces. We are on our feet creating that beautiful day for you, but you know what? We fucking love it!

    As much as BB bitches about the crazy, bitch bride, the NON-CRAZY brides are what we live for… If you are nice to us, then we will give you as much as we possibly can because we WANT to make your day everything you imagined it to be, and then some! Hell, we might even get you a nice wedding gift! But, we also want to be compensated for our hard work, and fairly too. I really don’t know who started the whole negotiate with potential vendors until we are down on our knees begging for your business thing, but if I find them, then I’m gonna beat ‘em senseless (I won’t even take it outside)! It needs to stop.

    A few weeks ago, Lauren Grove, founder of the blog, Every Last Detail, wrote an incredible blog post called, Why You Shouldn’t Negotiate with Wedding Vendors. You couldn’t see me, but BB stood up from our Eames desk chair and gave Lauren a standing ovation! We all did. Because EVERY vendor is truly passionate about this topic. And, why shouldn’t we be? I mean it’s only our livelihood we’re talking about. And everybody IS talking about it!

    Paul Pannone of www.ewednewz.com wrote yesterday that the, “Rising cost of operation and consumers demanding more value for less money has some business owners admitting the future doesn’t look bright.” Sad huh? And insult to injury? Do you have any idea how infuriating it is for us to have succumbed to lowering our prices only to watch you spend several thousand MORE dollars than you anticipated at the venue, and then shrug it off as if to say, “Oh well… It is my wedding after all”? And I gave you a discount? Fuck you!

    In Lauren’s post, she offers a fantastic example of something you would never dream of doing:  “… telling the saleswoman at a Kate Spade store that you really love that yellow handbag that costs $300, and you only have $150, but you really really want it!” In a similar vein, you wouldn’t walk into Gucci, and demand that the sunglasses come WITH the scarf for the same price, would you? So why would you demand that our “extras” be included in our bottom line? In fact, it is even more offensive to us because most of us don’t have corporate backing…

    Bridey’s, do your research because I am not suggesting or implying that you that should get or feel ripped off. I’m just saying that you need to know that WE have done OUR homework, and offer competitive prices to our peers. If that’s not what you’re finding, then you are not comparing apples to apples. Period. There is no negotiating with the best, because if you try, you might find that nobody’s reciprocating. These are our prices. Take it or leave it bitch.

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    great post as always! xx

    May 30, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSara

    Awwww... Thanks!


    May 30, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    Wow! I always assumed that negotiating is just what you do when you are finding your vendors. I was advised by my maid of honor (who recently got married) that I should negotiate down to penny with everything. So what should I really do? I certainly don't want to offend anybody, but I also don't want to be in a position where I am paying an arm and a leg for something she got for a discount.


    May 30, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBetsy B.

    Hi Betsy,

    Thank you for your comment. Sounds like your MOH is a shrewd (any maybe even a tiny bit stingy?) woman! While I don't blame you for looking for the best price, keep in mind what BB wrote... Vendors have done their homework, and are completive with their peers. Odds are, they are presenting their best price to you.

    If you aren't pleased, then see if they can eliminate a particular service or services included in the package to drive their pricing down. If you are getting quotes that are completely different for the same service, then you are not comparing apples to apples.

    Hope this helps!


    May 30, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    I think it depends on what you're asking for, how much discount etc etc.
    If I got one vendor who was willing to negotiate a small discount - then I am more likely to use that vendor as well as recommending them to future wedding couples. plus - if say the photographer was the one to do it...then I'm probably also more likely to go BACK to them for any future kind of shoots (baby, anniversary etc etc).

    July 23, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterjustgotmarried

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