Tuesday, June 26, 2012 in Attitude, Relationships, Sex Give it to Me Brideys
Sometimes a girl just needs to get laid. We need to get our “swerve” on. We want your hands on our bodies, and your mouth… well; you get the picture (sorry dad!). So, we put on some sexy music, light those scented candles and go to town. But, before I get all hot and bothered, I better get to the point! Basically, I want to talk about sex. Clearly. But, I want to hear about your sex. Specifically, your wedding night sex, and if you “did it” or not. Because there is a lot of pressure to consummate the marriage on your wedding night, but after a 16-hour day, you might not be feeling so sexy.
I mean, let’s not forget that having sex on your wedding night started with virgins, and while I have seen a lot of things during my wedding planning tenure, I can honestly say that have NEVER worked with a virgin couple. In fact, most of you exude sex. It oozes from your pores and makes me totally jealous that I’m clearly NOT having as much sex as most (if not all) of my couples. But, since we won’t be showcasing the bloody sheet from the balcony into the timeline of events (for those of you who have no idea what I am referring to, read this from Urban Dictionary), I really want to know what you think about sex on your wedding night.
If you read our post for OneWed today, you will see that BB gives you the dos and don’ts of consummating your marriage. I know it sounds strange, but similar to all of the other pressures of planning and executing your wedding, there’s also a lot of pressure to have sex that night too, and frankly some of you just aren’t into it. I mean, honestly, most of you wouldn’t come home after a long 16-hour workday and “have” to get laid. And if you think about it, as amazing as your wedding day is, it’s a long fucking day. Most of you will start with hair and make-up at 8 AM (if not earlier), and not get back the bridal suite until about midnight. Seriously, if that were a “normal” day, you’d totally be asking your man to rub your… feet and shoulders (perverts)! Not your ahem… So why have “obligatory” sex on your wedding night just to say you “did it”?
So, give it to me brideys… Who is planning to “do it” on their wedding night? And if you’ve already said your vows, then who did it on their wedding night and who waited until the next morning? This bitch wants to know! Please leave your comments for BB!!!
Reader Comments (21)
I am definitely going to do it on my wedding night! My friends actually have a bet because I am more of a morning person, but I am going do the deed!
Hey Rebecca!
You are too funny! I expect an email the next morning to confirm that the deed was "done"!
Good luck!
XO,
BB
I'm not usually forthcoming about my bedroom activities but this is a pretty important subject. Brides - you may not want to expect rock-your-world sex the night of your wedding. Although we did "do" it, it wasn't exactly...good. Not only was I exhausted, the groom was a little tipsy. I think the only reason we did it is because it was expected of us
Now honeymoon sex is AMAZING! And as a newlywed of only 3 weeks, every other time has been amazing as well!!
Thank you Ashley!
BB totally appreciates your candor! Right? Wedding night sex is not the best sex of your life by any stretch! But the honeymoon.... oh yeah! Loved me that honeymoon sex!
Thanks lady!
XO,
BB
I love this post! I felt horrible for not having sex on our wedding night, but I was so exhausted that I knew we would just be doing to please some old tradition instead of each other. And I am glad we waited until morning because it was beautiful, and even though I am far from a virgin, it really meant something. It really felt different than all of the other times.
Hey Bridal Bee,
Thank you for sharing! I'm glad you waited for something amazing instead of something just okay. I mean, in the end it should be about you two, and not "some old tradition"!
Thanks for your story!
XO,
BB
Listen up ladies, we did NOT do the deed on our wedding night and we are OK with that, lol. After getting up at 6am, constantly being on the go & 'ON' by the time you finally roll into home, all you want is the comfort of your loves arms wrapped around you as you drift off to neverland. Oh, actually the thing I wanted MORE then sex actually, was for hubby to freakin get me outta the dress already!!!
We did however, in the AM, have what we all should call, obligation sex. As in the, its expected of you, kind. Guess what, it too, was not our best showing. In the end, your tired, its how it goes and guess what, did doesnt matter!!
I do however agree 100000% with Ashley of BlushLoveWed, now Honeymoon sex on the other hand, now THATS MAH JAM!!!
Xo
Jess
Oh Jess!
I LOVE your honesty! Thank you! Who knew that this would be such a "hot" topic? Seriously! But, there is pressure to finish the night with a "bang", and frankly it sucks!
Again, that honeymoon? Oh yeah! It should be renamed, "I had sex like a bunny-moon"... Gimme some!
XO,
BB
So great to read this. Ive been married a long time and I don't think I have ever told anyone we didn't have sex on our wedding night (I've had a lot of conversations with girlfriends but that one never came up) I thought I was pathetic but I passed out. Lol
Hey Kaye!
Thanks for sharing! You have no reason to feel pathetic! As BB as mentioned, as well as a few of my other commenters have said, it's a long fucking day! And it's exhausting!
Hope that married sex has been good to you!
XO,
BB
BB- it gets better every year :)
Well since we're having a semi-destination wedding with our family... And staying in a vacation house together for the week... AND having our wedding on said house's property... I'm gonna go ahead and say NO, we won't. With parents and siblings in the house? Pass. Although our rental boudoir has a separate entrance, so I think we're going to scamper down to the beach and romp when everyone's asleep. :)
Hey Kim!
I love me a good romp!
And, I agree... Odds are you will have a sexless wedding night if all of those people are around.
Thanks for your comment!! Enjoy the secret romp!
XO,
BB
Ha!
That's awesome Kaye! Share your secret because a lot of my married friends say that it can be lacking after so much time together!
XO,
BB
You don't work with virgin couples anymore? Maybe that's why Brides are not getting laid on their wedding night..it's just another night..
Hey Terra,
Anymore? Try ever! Although I don't think THAT'S the reason why brides + grooms aren't "doing it" on their wedding night. They are exhausted, and would prefer to actually enjoy it the next morning!
Thanks for the comment!
XO,
BB
Dear Bitchless,
The next morning after the wedding sex?? Maybe the next night....I don't see why they even bother to get married anyway.....you can have sex anytime without spending thousands of dollars. We have lost the whole perspective of what "wedding" and wedding night means...it was supposed to be special...now I wonder!
Hey Terra,
I'm confused. How'd we go from having "morning after the wedding sex", to why bother getting married?
A wedding night can still be special without the sex. But, most couples are totally exhausted and might just want to sleep instead of "doing it". The morning after, they are still basking in the wedding glow, and it can be just as special to consummate the marriage 12 hours later.
As far as losing sight of what a wedding means due to all of the bullshit, I totally agree, and BB is working tirelessly trying to change that. I am using this blog to educate our brides so that they DON'T lose site of the meaning of the day.
Thanks for your comment!
XO,
BB
Dear Bitchless,
Yes, I agree, the Brides should never lose the meaning of the day! It is a special one indeed!
We actually abstained from sex for quite a while before our wedding night (longer than I actually feel comfortable with!) so I was gagging for my wedding night fun!
It was possibly one of the best romps we've had because we were both fired up from the days excitement, we were both gagging for it and it felt really special.
I say each to their own, it doesn't really matter if you do or you don't on the night, as long as you are happy :)