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    Rainbows and Unicorns

    So… I was going to write a post that is somewhat related to my Pinterest post on OneWed today (which will be up later), but I am not in the mood. So go read it on their site because it’s fucking funny and insightful. But, I am not in a Pinterest writing place. Because today on Bitchless Bride, I want to complain. And, while some haters think that BB complains everyday, this is different.

    You see, if I receive one more fucking email from some eager, early twenty-something year old about how it has always been her dream to work in “the industry”, blah blah blah… I am gonna puke. Because not to be a total bitch, but c’mon. Even I didn’t know I wanted to be in this industry. And I can tell you that everybody in “the industry” got here because we were rejected from all of the other industries. NOBODY aspired to be in the service industry, we all got here by accident. And when we have attempted to get out and hold down a “normal” job, we realize that once it’s in your blood, you can’t get rid of the need to please. So we come crawling back. Fucked up, right? 

    So, eager twenty-something year old girl who thinks that planning events is super glamorous, and that “a day in the life of a planner” is filled with champagne, rainbows and unicorns… Spend the day with me… oh no, not the wedding day when all of the work has been done… Spend the day with me when I am talking the bride off the ledge for two hours over the fucking invitations and some teeny tiny invisible dot on the letterpress or when we go several rounds about moistness of the wedding cake and, “are people are really going to eat the fondant”? Because THAT’S the shit that will drive you to the bottle and a ciggy in the back alley. And frankly, that’s only the icing on the cake (and not the fucking fondant, which people DO eat, and not for nothing… it can be peeled off of the cake prior to serving your guests… just sayin’).

    You got that twenty-something year old girl who has event planning dreams? After you experience ruining an expensive jacket because you got sauce on your sleeve when the kitchen needed an “extra body” on the line to plate dinner, THEN you can MENTION something about a dream you had to me, but until then, go see what it’s like to work behind the scenes at your favorite fancy restaurant or hotel. Probably not what you think it will be. But for now, quit clogging my fucking inbox with your dreaming. Get out of the classroom and into the real world before you send me your stupid cover letter and resume. Got it?

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    Hahaha tis the summer season of those emails, huh? It's kind of true- I had no preconceived notion about the wedding industry, and I didn't plan to be a part of it. I really did just fall into it. And those who set out wanting to be a part of it, that can be all fine and dandy, but experience is the absolute necessity, and THAT is what will determine success in the wedding industry. :)

    Hey Lauren,

    It is the season, and it's driving me nuts! Who are these people??

    I couldn't agree more! It is a complete necessity to gain experience by working your way up the chain to see how the service industry REALLY operates. We can be really mean and cruel, and either you got the balls to move forward or you get out while you can.

    Thanks for the comment!


    July 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    I interact with a ton of past brides and the second their honeymoon is over they announce they are taking some online classes or ordering a kit through the mail and becoming an event planner. I'm like, are you f-ing kidding me? Planning MORE weddings is the absolute LAST thing I want to do after planning my own! And sometimes fondant is yummy, so at least try it first, jeez!

    July 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMindy

    Ok, I am not an event planner, nor do I 'really' consider myself an industry insider - I'm a blogger. But - I do do all the editorial for Modern Weddings Hawaii and the site owner is a wedding planner and her stories have steered me clear of EVER wanting to do it. Her latest tale involved (of course) a destination couple, whose entire family and friends had flown out from Florida - big expensive wedding, called it off the morning of. THE MORNING OF THE WEDDING! I can't even imagine having to deal with that.

    I do however, feel sorry for those bright eyed twenty -somethings (hey, I'm still a (late) twenty something) - my hubby gets requests like that all the time (he's a scientist) and sometimes I encourage him to let them try it out, see what it's like. You never know who you might end up with - she might just jump into the cook line with you and throw herself in front of the evil jacket ruining sauce.

    Hey Mindy,

    Those chicks are the ones I want to fucking drop kick! They think that because they planned their own (successful) wedding that now they know everything there is to know about planing somebody else's. And you know what? THEY DON'T!

    Newly wedded brideys... consider yourself lucky if your wedding went well without the help of a professional. But don't use it as your ticket to become the professional.

    Thanks for your comment! GREAT point!


    July 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    Hey Sara!

    HOLY SHIT! The morning of the wedding? Like they didn't have their doubts BEFORE the day arrived? WHOA! Yikes! RUDE!

    As for the twenty-somethings... I used to feel badly for them... but after you give them a chance, and they don't show up, show up and are completely useless, or show up all sorts of fucked up, well then you stop feeling bad.

    The worst part? If you are lucky enough to find a diamond in the rough, they expect a promotion like 2 months after you give them a chance. Ummm... it doesn't work like that ladies. If you want something, then you need to experience everything you possibly can before you get to call it your own.

    Thanks for the insight! I love your comments!


    July 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    I am one of those 20-somethings. Unlike the girls with "the dream" I know how much work and drama goes into planning a wedding.

    I didn't "fall" into this industry. Everything I have been involved in has revolved around weddings. From my first job at 15 as a banquet server, to making cakes for weddings and assisting wedding photographer. I am now a certified hair and makeup artist and a certified wedding planner.

    Is it crazy? YES! Do I want to punch brides in the face for being dumb, too picky, just incredibly annoying? YES!! But as others have mentioned in other posts on this site, it makes you really appreciate the good ones.

    I love my jobs, but I completely agree with your post. MOST people have no ideas what it takes to be in any aspect of the wedding industry. It takes a lot of hard work, patience and tolerance!

    Don't write everyone off, like you said you have to find the diamonds in the rough... and they have to be in it to learn, not just to get ahead!

    July 18, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMeagan


    Applause applause applause... I am proud of you. Proud that you truly KNOW you want to be in this coo coo industry (and for wanting to punch brides in the face for being dumb, too picky and just incredibly annoying helps too)!

    It IS this breed of brides that truly makes you appreciate the good ones...

    And you're right Meagan, I won't write everybody off, but similar to those FEW brides that remind you of why you are in this industry in the first place, YOU as an ambitious, experience "diamond" are a rare breed...

    Thank you for your comment!


    July 18, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    "NOBODY aspired to be in the service industry, we all got here by accident. And when we have attempted to get out and hold down a “normal” job, we realize that once it’s in your blood, you can’t get rid of the need to please. So we come crawling back. Fucked up, right?"

    Story of my effing LIFE! Though I do enjoy my job, and the company I work for, I do miss rushing around with my head cut off, trying not to get get dijon mustard on my dress, making sure that event hosts aren't having a panic attack.

    But the worst thing is that even WITH events experience, it's still hard to get in "the industry".

    July 18, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLindsay

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