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    Tuesday
    Dec292015

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Bridey, Five Ways Not to be a Nightmare Disguised as a Daydream

    Yup, I totally just stole a line from Taylor Swift, but why come up with another awesome line when one already exists? Right? Anyway, the point is, right now, so many of you are recently engaged (ahem... Christmas), and while I truly believe that you don't think you're a nightmare, inevitably, the majority of you? Yeah, you're going turn into a fucking nightmare, and totally think you're a dreamboat. The fix? Well, leave that to me. Here are five ways to avoid turning into your very own nightmare disguised as a daydream:

    1. Bridey, remember that just because you are getting married doesn't mean that everyone else is. All of your friends and family? Well, they're probably in different phases of their lives, and therefore it shouldn't be surprising to you that after the allotted "honeymoon" phase of your engagement, you will lose their undivided attention. Because some friends? Well, some are jealous of what you have, some are having babies, some are getting divorced, and some just don't give a shit about your wedding! So, bridey, remember that this is your phase, and not everyone is in it with you. 

    2. Be a good listener. Those phases I just mentioned? Well, your friends and family will probably want/need some air time once you've finished talking about what's on your mind. Yes, bridey, you're newly engaged and dying to talk and obsess about every painstaking detail of your wedding day, but your friends have shit happening in their lives too. So, listen! And care! Give them the floor once in a while. Breathe. It's not about you all of the time...

    3. Uh-oh... The P word! Um, I'm talking about perspective!! Yup! You're wedding is one day out of your entire life, bridey. One.fucking.day. And there's a ton of shit you'll probably have to overcome with your partner after that one day. Personally? I dealt with nearly losing my hus to pulmonary embolisms (less than a year after we were married). And then there was the whole IVF journey. What a shitshow... (Yeah, you spend all of your 20s trying NOT to get pregnant, and when you're finally ready, you can't! WTF?) And then several ups and downs thereafter... So, while I look back at my wedding day fondly, I usually find myself reflecting on the marriage, and our concrete foundation, not the day.

    4. You don't know shit. You are new to this whole wedding planning bit, so quit pretending like you know everything. Do your research. And, no that doesn't mean "pin" your research, I mean really do your research, bridey. Research your wedding as if you're going to spend the equivalent of a down payment for a home on one day... Oh wait... You are! So, own it bridey! Own the shit out of your wedding! Know what you're getting yourself into. Make a point of understanding what things cost in the industry. Hire professionals to help you do so. Either way, educate yourself, and do it honestly! Act as though there was a price tag on every pin. 

    5. Be fucking nice... to everyone. Because, bridey, in my world? You are a nightmare first, and then, if you're lucky, you become my daydream. And, if you're nice and genuine? Then people (inside of the industry and out) will genuinely want to help you plan your wedding. They will care about the details, they will care how you feel about the linen or food or wedding cake, and most of all, they will care about you! But, if you treat everyone like crap, then you will get crap in return. 

    Got it?

    Image via magic4walls

    Wednesday
    Dec232015

    Real Wedding Wednesday ~ An Unfussy, Super Classy, Completely Bitchless Wedding

    Wanna know why I fucking love Sara? Because when Sara envisioned her wedding, she wanted an "unfussy" (my new fave word), stress free day with lavender accents + friends and family. Period. And, that's exactly what Sara and Chris' wedding day was all about. No fuss, no stress and surrounded by the people they love. Bridey, the cool thing? Their wedding definitely looked like they fussed over the details.

    With it's beautiful soft colors, perfectly arranged garden chairs, manicured grounds and a modest elegance captured throughout the entire day, I'd certainly believe that there could have been some stress while planning. But, when you marry your favorite person in the world (which is clearly evident by the pics) the little things really don't matter. Enjoy!

    WOW! The lace and beading on Sara's wedding dress is breathtaking.Totally love this pic! Still not quite sure what they're looking for though! You look quite dapper, Chris! Sara, you look like you're up to no good...The raw emotion encapsulated in this photograph just put me over the edge...Hell yeah!!!! We did it!I'm sure that the advice got better and better as the night wore on.I can't help it... This cake topper makes me laugh out loud.Such a pretty cake. I love the middle layer with the soft Swiss dots.Break it down!
    Thank you for sharing your stunningly gorgeous wedding with Bitchless Bride!!

    Industry Peeps:

    Photographer: Mathew Irving Photography
    Cake Designer: Azucar Bakery
    Reception Venue: Stonebrook Manor
    Bridesmaid Dresses: The B Boutique
    Dress Store: The Green Bride

    Tuesday
    Dec222015

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ A Vendor Vent... A Plea to the Wedding Industry

    Style Me Pretty weddings are pretty, aren't they? But here's the thing: they look as though they were all photographed by the same photographer! Somehow, the trend has morphed into this film photography copycat technique where a cut off cropped shot of a bride's hands with her bouquet has become a standard in every wedding photographer's shot list.

    And while it is so incredibly important to fulfill the dreams and desires of our clients, aren't we in a sense lying to them when we attempt to tell them that their weddings are unique?

    What about the other photographers out there with so much more to offer? What about the award winners of the different photography associations year after year? Take a look again at these such blogs and websites. You will not see any of their work on any of these sites. Why? Because their style is highly dramatic, theatrical, technical, artistic, and (gasp!!!) DIFFERENT. Imagine your wedding photographer capturing your wedding day to look unique to you and yours!

    What a concept.

    I have a prestigious award I earned from my work as a photographer (no, I'm not one of the world's best photographers I mentioned before, but if I named the award, you'd recognize it), and yet receive rejection email and letter after another because my style does not “fit” the popularity contest that is going on in our industry. Guess who else has the same thing happening to them? The award-winning photographers with masters of photographer certifications. Yup.

    So why aren't these photographers being featured on blogs, in magazines, and in bridal boutiques and shows? And why (dear god WHY) are burlap, lace, barns, and mason jars still a thing?!! Please don't play the budget card, because I've seen insanely elegant pulled off with a small budget.

    Give us something DIFFERENT. Give us all CHOICES. Show us EVERYTHING there is to offer out there, not just one style. Don't we owe it to our brides to educate them, rather than dictate to them what to choose?

    love,
    an award winning photographer

    ***What do you think fellow vendors?!! I'm dying to hear your opinions. Leave a comment here, FaceBook or Twitter.***

    Image via Money Crashers

    Friday
    Dec182015

    Fantasy Friday ~ When a Wedding Planner Gets Married...

    When a wedding planner gets married, odds are, the wedding is going to be fucking amazing. And Shanna and Josh's wedding? A MAZ ING! Like, soooooo gorgeous, and soooooo warm that I cannot wait for you to scroll down and see the exquisite décor! Bridey, you know that I am a HUGE fan of uplighting, and Shanna's pink and ivory palette is simply beauteous. For real... Don't forget to light your wedding!

    BTW... See Shanna's dress? The hint of pink? The ball gown? Isn't it stunning?! OMG, if I told you all of the amazing details of the B+G's wedding, then I'd be wasting your time. I mean, why talk about it when you can just scroll down and see for yourself? So, go... Enjoy this beautiful wedding!
    The dress and the bling... Yes, please!Shanna, you look beautiful in that incredible gown and jewels!Let's go!!!Josh! I LOVE how you're looking at Shanna! (Nice dimples, too!)Great sunglasses!!I mean... Talk about a glowing bride....Totally love that their wedding was at a tapas restaurant!Those are sparkly Christmas ornaments which doubled as place cards. I mean... Talk about a fantastic wedding favor! Okay. Ready, bridey? Look down!!RIGHT? Could this room be any more romantic or beautiful? The linen, the lighting, the flowers! OH MY!!
    Magnificent cake! And the room, glowing...Sniff... Sniff...Thank you for sharing your absolutely stunning wedding with Bitchless Bride!!!

    Industry Peeps:

    Photographer, Cinema & Video:  A Magic Moment Photography and Video
    Reception Venue: Ceviche Tapas Bar and Restaurant
    Floral Designer: RAINING ROSES PRODUCTIONS INC.
    Event Planner: Weddings Unique

    Wednesday
    Dec162015

    Real Wedding Wednesday ~ There's No Kind of Love like Twitter Love...

    Dar and Kerry? They met online. And, by online, I mean Twitter. Definitely not what you expected when I said that they met online. Right? Me either! And, here's another unexpected tid bit... Dar is short for Darlene (somehow, I didn't pick that up right away), and Kerry is a dude (didn't see that one coming either!). So, Dar retweeted something Kerry had tweeted, and then invited him out for coffee ASSUMING that Kerry was female! How fucking FAB is that??? Clearly, Dar was surprised by the man who showed up for coffee, but at the same time, thought he was adorable and smart. Talk about fate, right?? I mean... Holy shit! It doesn't get any fate-e-er (new word I just made up) than that!

    But, outside of the kickass story of how Dar and Kerry met, their wedding was also pretty kickass! The first look was on LaSalle Street next to the church where they had their wedding ceremony, followed by a patio reception at the Douglas Park Fieldhouse, with passed signature cocktails and hors d'oeuvres & a delicious buffet dinner. Love it! And, OMG! Bridey, don't miss the naked cake and FAB décor! Enjoy!
    I love it when brides wear flowers in their hair.You had me at sunflower...Picture of a picture! She's like, "Am I doing it right? Is this okay?"Bourbon bottles and branches... Love this shot...W.O.W. This cake is gorgeous. And, it's completely naked!Thank you Dar and Kerry for sharing your story and wedding with Bitchless Bride!!

    Industry Peeps:

    Photographer: True Grace Photography
    Reception Venue: Douglas Park Fieldhouse
    Floral Designer: FiftyFlowers.com
    Dress Designer: Jenny Yoo Collection Chicago
    Caterer: Jewell Events Catering