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    Tuesday
    Jun092015

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ FLASHBACK: A Tale of Two Mentalities

    ***Here we go again... I seem to be working with quite a few newly engaged brides, and therefore, I thought I would educate you a bit on educating your bridesmaids. But, why reinvent the wheel? Right? I loved this post, bridey, so, just read it!!! It will give you some insight into those bridesmaids of yours... ***

    February 7, 2012 

    It was the best of times, it was the worst of times… Unfortunately, some of your bridal party might feel this way after participating in your wedding. Don’t let this Charles Dickens mentality get the best of you! Brides, you must be clear with the friends and family you choose to be in your bridal party. Let them know what your expectations are at the beginning so that they have the opportunity to turn down your lovely offer, and sit with the rest of us in the pews if they are not willing to or do not want to live up to your dream.  

    Okay, stop being a bitch and listen… Think about it this way… You know when you don’t want to do something or you don’t understand how to do it, so you just don’t do it? Well, welcome to the psyche of about 95% of your bridesmaids (and I’m sorry to say, possibly even your maid of honor… aka: MOH). Depending on your age, your bridal party may be inexperienced, uninformed and probably doesn’t understand the enormous undertaking they signed up for when they eagerly accepted their role as your bridesmaid. I promise you, in most cases, it’s not that they don’t want to do all of those bridal things for you; it’s just that they don’t know how or even that they have such great responsibilities. That’s where you come in. Educate them. Be involved (but, not too involved), offer guidance and advice, but don’t overdo it. Remember, similarly to your fiancé, they cannot read your mind. So tell them that you were thinking Vegas or NYC for your bachelorette party, that you want a hotel bridal shower and that your MOH is to act as a liaison between you and your mother on your wedding day. Start kicking ass if they start to slack knowing your expectations, but not before.

    Looking back (way back) into my early 20s, I am embarrassed to admit that I completely failed as a bridesmaid for one of my besties. She was among the first to get married and I was clueless. I actually missed her shower because I was hung over (not a proud moment), didn’t go to her bachelorette party (or even help to plan it) and only gave $100.00 for her wedding gift. And I call myself a planner…? Right? But, I had NO idea the immense responsibility I carried with that ugly dress. Had I known, I would have taken a seat with everybody else, or asked a few more questions about her expectations in the beginning.

    So please, once you finally decide who gets to wear the dress, make your voice heard! Tell them what you want, and allow them to make it their choice if they are up for the task. Got it? Good. You’re welcome.

    Friday
    Jun052015

    Fantasy Friday ~ A Sexy & Sentimental Engagement Shoot

    Bridey. This engagement shoot is so lovely and loving that I have no words. In fact, I am going to let Amber, the bride, share with you a 'lil something she wrote to Daniel...

    "Here I am, standing at the brink of our wedding day and I haven't felt a single fear. I've not worried once that I will ever miss a day of your love. I find comfort in your feet on mine at night, because we prefer to sleep back to back, and on opposite ends of our bed. There comes a time in your life after becoming a parent that sleep is important and our "I'll meet you again in the morning time" turns into an average thing. I know that just because we aren't always physically "open" for touch that we are lacking something. I find myself everytime I lay with you, I know that where I am today is not where I would be without you. You keep me level headed when I am beyond a breaking point and clouded behind stress. You are my hot shower in the evening when I wash away the last bit of my day. You are my comfort, and you are my roots that ground me. I love you, I need you, I appreciate you."

    What a beautiful shot..."Meet you again in the morning"... with a smile on my face.OMG! What a GORGEOUS babe!!Um... Sniff sniff... This pic is simply moving...Such a beautiful (and cool) couple and little family!! Thank you for sharring with Bitchless Bride!

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    Photographer: JC Guzman Photo

    Wednesday
    Jun032015

    Real Wedding Wednesday ~ When Runners Wed... On Your Marks, Get Set Go!

    OMG! Just wait until you see Emily and John's send-off! Seriously! It's something that in all of my experience planning weddings I have never seen! Stumped? I'll give you a few hints. See those neon running shoes? Well, they're going to need them. And, it's something that I, nor my sig other, would ever do in a million years (well, not without making complete asses out of ourselves)! Figure it out yet? No? Well, don't worry! Scroll down to the very last pic, and you will see just how phenomenal Emily and John's send-off was!

    Anyway, besides the fucking FAB send-off, the DIY deets and the sheer whimsical feel of pretty much every single detail of Emily and John's wedding day, you bridey, will fall in love with the whole package. As I was putting this post together, I found myself getting completely lost in the soft colors, the beautiful day and the nearly perfect execution. So, have at it! It's just so good!

    Amazing dress, and fantastic beaded sash!It's just so lovely!Whimsy, right?I am OB SES SED with the B+G! Obsessed! I LOVE how they walked each other down the aisle!Perfect bubbles.Yeah... You know it looks good!! I'll have two, please!Super light and airy...GORGE cake! Totally amazing (and you know I love the "B"!!)!

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    Tuesday
    Jun022015

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Speak Up Now or Forever Hold Your Tongue

    Bridey, it's time to speak up! It's time to use that big mouth of yours. It's time to put your pedicured foot down! Huh? WTF BB? Well, it's come to my attention that some of you are... meek. Yikes! OMG! Right? And, while I've done a ton of writing about how not to be a bitch while planning your wedding, I've not focused as much energy on when it's absolutely appropriate to get in touch with that inner bitch of yours and unleash! Maybe not unleash, but definitely stand up for yourself! To whom you ask?? Drumroll please... Your future, opinionated, meddling mother-in-law! Yup! I'm sorry to say that the stereotype exists for a reason, and if you don't stand up for yourself now, then you're essentially allowing her future bad behavior to win in every.single.situation for the rest of your life for as long as you both shall live. So, squash it now, bridey.

    I hate to say it, but some of your future mother-in-laws (MILs) have the power to destroy marriages. True story. And if yours is "helping" you and your sig other plan your wedding or worse, paying for it, then you must stand for yourself! I'm lucky... I happen I love my MIL (and I'm not just saying that because she's a fan of BB). But, this lady? She stood back and let us do what we wanted to do, and when we eloped, she was one our few supporters... Unfortunately, she learned the hard way that awful MILs can destroy marriages; that their power is strong enough to rock the foundation of a marriage and fuck it all up. The silver lining? She learned from her own experience, and has been nothing but loving and accepting of me (and my foul mouth) and my relationship with her son. Period. Like it fucking should be!!

    The reason I'm bringing this up? Well, outside of the fact that sadly, many of you are currently dealing with this shit, I've learned that if you don't start standing up for yourself as you plan your wedding, then it becomes like a fucking cancer.... And it grows and grows until it ultimately takes over your entire life. However, if you catch it early, then you have a better chance of surviving, and your quality of life improves drastically.

    Look, I don't care who's paying for the wedding, bridey, or how much it costs. What I care about is you and your sig other. And if your wedding day is going to mean anything at all or symbolize your glowing future with your hus, then make sure it's actually about the two of you and not your MIL. How? Start small, and fight the fights only worth fighting. Fight loudly enough so that your needs are getting met, but not loudly enough to bring down the precious foundation. Some of you may actually have to unleash depending on the severity of the situation, but do so only if it's a last resort. Because, as I mentioned, this "cancer" does not go away... It gets worse. 

    Got it? Good luck, and Godspeed!

    Image via Maestrano Blog

    Friday
    May292015

    Fantasy Friday ~ A Styled Shoot - Steampunk & Urban Awesomeness

    I'm freaking out over this cake! Right? Aren't you? It's so cool, and uber detailed that I can't stand it! I mean... There are dragon flies, keys and gears. Not to mention the magenta(ish) and turquoise colors... WOW! Last year, I posted a fucking amazing steampunk wedding, although instead of a "traditional" steampunk wedding cake, the B+G rocked a dragon... wedding cake. Holy shit! Either way, I'm completely impressed. Seriously, imagine if this (or a dragon) was in the middle of the room, bridey, just staring at your guest?!!! Talk about breaking out of the box! I'd say the box would officially be squashed! 

    Bridey, if steampunk isn't your thing, who cares! There is so much inspiration to be taken from this post, steampunk and otherwise. Simply scroll down and be prepared to be whisked away by the insanely vibrant colors, FABULOUS florals, table runner, lighting, gowns, etc.!! Have fun with this one! I totally did!

    Love the China and gold flatware!!Airbrushed gears anybody? How awesome is that?!!Bridey, lighting changes everything! Obvi, this is a styled shoot, but look how the pink lighting changes the feel of the space! Imagine what it would do for your wedding?!!!See the table runner? Pages from an old book.Holy shit with the cake! Right? HOLY SHIT!The flowers in this shoot are fucking amazing.WOW! Just, wow! Amazing flowers and is that a lightbulb? Yes it is! Super clever! LOVE IT!I'm kinda obsessed with her turquoise nails and gold jewels!FAB vintage typewriter!Great scene! Dying over the purple wedding dress!!!

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    Photographer:  Jayson Mullen Design & Photography
    Equipment Rentals: Campbell Tent & Party Rentals
    Floral Designer: megan connors floral and styling
    Cake Designer: ovenart
    Studio Venue: Paulk+Co
    Jewelry: Sarah Brobst Designs
    Tuxedo & Mens Attire: Savvi Formalwear
    DJ: Sequoyah Entertainment
    Hair Stylist: Southern Belle Beauty
    Dress Store: The Gilded Gown
    Heirlooms & Extras: vintage inspirations