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    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Bitchless Bride's PSA #2... Be Pleasant While You Plan

    In October of 2013, I wrote a post called Bitchless Bride's PSA. It was all about how we as a society (both in "the industry" and outside of it) tend to let the assholes win. It's like, whoever makes the most noise gets the prize simply so that we can shut them up. And while, it still pisses me off that we are so quick to bend over for the dickhead who threatens the precious equilibrium, the other part of my PSA was to give more love and attention to those clients who actually deserve it. The clients who are lovely and respectful, but just need some help with the logistics or design of their wedding. So, today, I thought I would dive into who those people are, rather than focus on the assholes.

    Over the last few weeks, I have been lucky enough to have had lunch with a few fellow wedding planners, and as the conversation flowed (as it always does when you put two chatty women together), it came down to rooting for the underdog. Huh? The underdog? Yes!! The underdog, the nice bride (clearly, a bride who reads BB!). The chick who has kept the same persona since the day she hired us. The girl who sometimes starts her emails with, "I'm so sorry to be high maintenance, but...", although she is not high maintenance at all, or the one who feels badly about potentially being needy, but who isn't. Those girls!! "We" as planners, totally root for you! You are the ones we want to bend over backwards to help! You renew our love for what we do, and in a world of assholes, you have no idea how powerful your niceness is!

    I have been preaching this for years, bridey. YEARS! And, with each chatty conversation I have with my peers, it's so clear to me that I have been on to something. BE FUCKING NICE! I mean... It's something we all learned in kindergarten and seem to have forgotten as we have aged. Bridey, you will get so much more out of your wedding vendors (and people in general) if you're pleasant while you plan. And you know what? This is universal. Everybody I know feels the same fucking way. 

    Around the time I wrote Bitchless Bride's PSA, I had been re-reading a few posts from October 2012, and seriously felt sick. Because in 2012, I was absolutely writhing from the grips of a terrible client I had worked with for over 16 months. She was a fucking beast, and I should have fired her, but I was in way too deep... And, we (wedding planners), have all had one of those clients. The ones we totally bend over for, simply so that she will shut the fuck up, and go away for a bit. After the wedding, I was definitely questioning why I plan weddings for bitches who don't appreciate the hard work that goes into each event (hence why it is so important for the good ones to renew our love for our profession), and I vowed that I will never get in that deep again; that I would fire the next bitch who made me feel as though I am anything but her equal.

    Every single wedding planner I know has a story like mine, bridey. And it baffles me. Because, it's so much easier to get what you want (and even get a few things comped) simply by being pleasant while you plan... Got it?

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    Fantasy Friday ~ Sip-Sip Hooray! A Fabulous, Glamorous, Same Sex, Styled Bridal Shower Shoot

    I fucking love this styled shoot, bridey! Like, LOVE IT! Not only is there a ton of inspiration for you to feed off of, but it just goes to show you what a group of talented wedding vendors can do when they collaborate without boundaries (the boundaries sometimes being, you, bridey). When Laura Dee of Laura Dee Photography submitted this, she said that, “The idea behind this shoot was, "If Carrie Bradshaw married Charlotte York, how would that all look?" Well, I think they nailed it! It’s super glam, super fabulous and super kickass.

    Seriously, there are so many things I love about this shoot, but if I had to name a few, I would mention that I am totally OB SESSED with the build-your-own cocktail bar! I mean, the moonshine will definitely knock you on your ass, but who cares! When you have some awesome food to go with it (just wait until you see the GORGE cakes!), what’s a ‘lil moonshine… Right? That's what I always say... Also, sequined backdrop for the photo booth definitely got my attention! This entire shoot can be easily incorporated into modernly FAB wedding or shower. So, go enjoy this one… I sure did!

    Awwww.... That's tater tot, the one eyed pug. Um, yeah... You know my obsession with cake, and these are fucking awesome!Sip-sip hooray!!!! Love this idea! Love the bright menus!This is an incredible shot. I mean... It's so fucking amazing!Everybody is having such a great time. Well, I'm guessing the moonshine had a little to do with that...So cute!Bhaaaaa.... That's hilarious!Thank you for sharing Laura!

    Industry Peeps:

    Photographer: Laura Dee Photography
    Cake Designer: A Little Imagination Cakes
    Invitation Designer: AvantGarde Design
    Dress Stores: Bliss Bridal CT & Julie Allen Bridals
    Floral Designer: Datura: a Modern Garden
    Event Planner: ESTOccasions
    Event Designer: General Eclectic Rentals
    Specialty Foods: Onyx Moonshine
    Makeup Artist: The Beauty Bar
    Jewelry: theNOTCH jewelry

    Submitted via Two Bright Lights


    Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Stunning & Sexy Wedding in a Brand New Space

    I love this picture of Dominique and Jhade. It's sexy and delicious all at the same time, and it truly encapsulates who Dominique and Jhade are as a couple. Not to mention that I am absolutely in love with the pink uplighting. I feel like I constantly preach to my clients about the importance of uplighting, and as you scroll down, bridey, you'll see why. Lighting has the power to change the entire atmosphere of your wedding. It truly dictates how you're supposed to feel while enhancing the decor you have spent hours on perfecting.

    Anyway, if you ever want to test your patience and trust, then be the first to get married in a new space. That's exactly what Dominique and Jhade did. They had the very first wedding in Tre Bella's new room, Blu Cielo! And it is STUN NING! Soft and delicate with exposed brick and tremendous beauty. So, if blush and pink are your colors, bridey, then I would advise you to prepare to be inspired!

    I love the embellishments on Dominique's wedding dress!The exposed brick, the beautiful bouquet, the blue garter... Oh my!!WOW! Here's to the first wedding in Tre Bella's new room, Blu Cielo... And holy shit is it beautiful!Love how Jhade is checking Dominique out!! I really can't get over how raw and beautiful the space is...This kiss was FAB, but the they way they're looking at each other here? Fucking priceless!I love the pink uplighting!!

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    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Hey Bridey! Keep Your Bullshit Opinions to Yourself!

    "Your prices are outrageous!" Yeah, that's how the conversation began with this potential bride. (Told you I am losing faith in humanity.) Nice way to start, huh? She had called a day prior requesting information about wedding packages, etc., although without the willingness to share a bit about herself, her "dream" and most importantly, her budget. So, I got as much as I possibly could get out of her before she abruptly ended the call. I hesitated, but then said, "Fuck it", and emailed the wedding packages and pricing for her to review.

    Which brings us back to the beginning... "Your prices are outrageous!" Yeah, this bitch called back the next fucking day to share her feelings with me. Know what? I totally should have sent her the PITA wedding packages (they're ones which incorporate the Pain In The Ass fee). No, I don't actually have those, but it sure is tempting! OMG... I can only imagine how outrageous she would have thought my pricing was if I emailed those! Again, not that I have them...

    Anyway, here's the thing... Some of you may find certain wedding vendor pricing "outrageous", and that's perfectly fine. Don't use them. Choose somebody else. But, please, bridey, do us all a favor and keep your bullshit opinions to yourself! I mean... There's really no need to call back and preach your outrage. Just move on. But, keep this in mind... Most vendors who rank on the pricey side of the spectrum? Yeah, they got there because they're fucking worth it.

    I want you to do me a favor, bridey. I dare you to walk into Louis Vuitton and tell the chick helping you select the "perfect" bag that LV's prices are outrageous.

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    Fantasy Friday ~ A Picture is Worth 1000 Words

    They say that a picture is worth a 1000 words. And, I never really thought about what that really means, until now; until this very moment. Because I suspect that that when they came up with the phrase, they were talking about this picture. Meet Rachael and Eric, the B+G photographed above. Bridey, if I told you nothing else about them or their wedding, wouldn't you say that you kinda "get" them. That just by simply taking in the enormity of this photograph, you can get a feel for who they are and how they are together? 

    When Tony Gambino of Tony Gambino Photography submitted this wedding, he said, "They have the most tender and genuine love for one another - the kind that makes you want to be a better person, the kind that reminds you to tell the people you love how much you care about them." I mean... Holy shit, that's deep. And true. Bridey, there are gorgeous details captured in this wedding (just check out this insanely moving video), but I want you to walk away after viewing it, and strive to have a photograph which encapsulates you and your sig other just like this one does of Rachael & Eric. 

    Rachael, you're unbelievably stunning!Love this shot!Mama....Don't you just want to eat this kid??Sniff... Sniff...I love how Rachael's veil is blowing in the wind.

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