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    Wednesday
    May142014

    Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Pacific Palms Destination Wedding

    When I receive a submission from the talented Hilary Cam, I get this ridiculous grin on my face. Why? Well, because Hilary seems to be the luckiest photographer I have ever known. Seriously, he always works with these remarkable couples in picturesque locations with really cool details. I adore his photos and the way each and every one tells a story within the story. Hilary is truly able to capture the essence of each bride and groom he photographs. So, maybe it's not that he's lucky after all. I believe it's called raw talent. 

    When you take in Melanie and Stuart's wedding in the gorgeous Pacific Palms, New South Wales, Australia, you will see Hilary's raw talent, exposed (sorry, couldn't help it...). These pics speak so loudly, that if I just posted these photos without writing a word, you'd walk away with a full understanding of exactly who Melanie and Stuart are and how their wedding was a brilliant representation of their relationship. What I will tell you is that Melanie is from Australia and Stuart is from the UK so this is a destination wedding. Enjoy!!!

    I love the robes.Hilary said that Melanie was super fun and smiled and laughed all day.Hilary Cam: We had a unique groom’s prep in the morning, rather than the classic shots of suits and ties Stuart wanted a more apt prep for a beach setting and so we headed to the beach with his groomsmen who had all travelled from the UK. Stuart got more of Boomerang Beach than he bargained for when he was thrown in the water.I've seriously never seen groomsmen have so much fun while "getting ready". Melanie and Stuart's invitation (designed by the groom) features a kookaburra and a robin holding a love heart – symbolic of an Australian and an Englishman falling in love. I mean... First of all, I love the invite, but the meaning is melt-worthy.

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    Tuesday
    May132014

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ What I look for in a Bride... 

    Recently, one of my brides asked, "BB, what do you look for in a bride?" Really, she did. And you know what? I was fucking floored. Because as an event planner, usually I am the one grilled with questions about my role in the wedding planning process, how my fees work, and basically, if I am worth it. So, to have the tables turned caught me a bit off guard. To be safe, I asked her exactly what she meant by "what do I look for in a bride" because, frankly, I didn't want to risk offending her if I put on my Bitchless Bride hat, and actually told her the truth. But when she said, "I want to keep my friends at the end of this thing..." I thought I would go big or go home. So here's what I told her:

    1. Remember to stay true to yourself. Create the wedding that is right for you and your sig other and forget everything else. I say it all of the time, but it's worth repeating. Ignore the noise. Politely nod when you receive unsolicited advice and move on. I mean, if you actually took every piece of advice given to you during your engagement, then your wedding would literally be about everybody else except you (two)!!

    2. Be kind. Be kind to your bridesmaids. Be kind to your family. Be kind to your vendors. Most of all? Be kind to your fiancé. Bridey, I can assure you that you will get so much more joy (and help for that matter) if you're kind those around you. Remember, talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words. So show the people who are important to you that they are in fact important to you.

    Let your bridesmaids off the hook. Give them a color and let them pick out their own dresses or throw a party for them as opposed to a bachelorette party.

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    Friday
    May092014

    Fantasy Friday ~ A Cat Lovin', Dog Lovin', Nature Lovin' and Simply Fun Lovin' Wedding

    Allow me to introduce you to Monique and Aaron. Aren't they a beautiful couple? Seriously, both have amazingly bright blue eyes, gorgeous auburn hair, and incredible taste. Not only in their significant others, but in how they chose to incorporate eveything they loved into one day. Bridey, as you dive into these cool ass pics, I want you to think about everything that is important to you, and how you can build it into your wedding. I mean, your wedding is meant to be about you and your partner, and it's so easy to get wrapped up in the craziness of the planning that we forget what it's all about.

    So, don't. Don't forget. Don't forget to make your wedding about what's important. The two of you! Alright, enough outta me! Time to enjoy the Monique and Aaron's lovely wedding.

    Monique, that's one hell of a tattoo!! And your figure looks AWES!I mean... Awwww... Gotta have a little kitty love on your wedding day!!Ta-Da!!! I love the explosion of color! Such a FAB backdrop!Wow! What a babe!! Monique, you look beautiful!This is too cute. Look how happy Monique and Aaron are to see their pup!!!Either those flowers are super potent, or somebody must have said something mushy...

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    Wednesday
    May072014

    Real Wedding Wednesday ~ The Fantastic Mr. & Mrs. Fox

    Kate and John Fox had their wedding at a local private high school. Seriously, they're probably the only people I know who would voluntarily go back to high school, right? But, how fabulously unique is that? I mean... Apparently, this was the first wedding held in the school, and I absolutely love that they chose to think out of the box! Anyway, the ceremony was in a chapel inside of the school and the reception was outside despite the rain! People always say that rain is good luck your wedding day, but as a wedding planner (and if you're a bride reading this), honestly, it's a pain in the ass! 

    Luckily, it only rained during their formal photographs, and a few volunteers held umbrellas over the cake. So ultimately, they had good luck (phew!), and the pics to prove it!! And with a name like "Fox", they just  HAD to incorporate their name into their wedding day! After all, how many people could say that their wedding is truly the day of the fox...?

    I really, really love these jewel toned bouquets!Look at Kate's father. His eyes are welling up...Fantastic kiss!Loving the green color palette!

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    Tuesday
    May062014

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ What Happens When You Stray... From Your Wedding Planner & Her Good Advice

    Dear BB,

    My name is Katrina, a very excited bride-to-be from Las Vegas. I’ve been a fan of Bitchless Bride for a good year now. I love your no-bullshit approach and I love the Vendor Vents. I’m a graphic designer for a huge gaming company in Vegas, so I know just how bitchy them bitchy brides can get.

    I will be marrying my Dashing Gentleman Friend in June, which means all the little details are coming together now. We’re having a small, happy, hopefully-fun, hopefully-sunny wedding in California. 30 family and friends will keep us laughing all day long.

    All my vendors are in the town where are are to be married; most of them referred from my super cool planner with whom I just clicked right away. Everything has been smooth and easy and fun. Now there’s just one teensy problem that I’m hoping you can lend your glorious insight to–or just tell me to shut up and let it be.

    I strayed from my planner’s referral once, for my hair/makeup artist, and now I regret it. I did it for the budget, which is tight and carefully controlled because Gentleman Friend and I are paying for everything. I did some research, consulted a few married friends, Yelped around and found a hair/makeup artist that had great reviews and was more in budget than my planner’s recommendation. Neither were outrageously priced, but saving a couple hundred here and there is a big deal for us. 

    She (let's call her H/MU) was quick to respond to my request for an estimate, which was cool because some others took three weeks. After the deposit was paid in January and the date booked, I asked to schedule a trial. I didn’t hear back for two months, during which I emailed her three times because I didn’t want to be a needy jerk. Plus I figured I had time and she probably didn’t have her summer schedule set just yet. In March she got back to me and we scheduled a date for the trial. 

    This week, my photographer put together a day-of schedule and I contacted H/MU to see if she was cool with it. She was, then was asking me when my trial was because she hadn’t written it down. And then she said “only hair, right?” Which was not right because not only did I ask for both, I emphasized that testing out my makeup was much more important than hair. 

    Now I need to figure out how to politely tell H/MU that she needs to get her crap together so I’m not sitting around on my wedding day with pretty hair and no makeup. The contract says four people for makeup + hair, but if she doesn’t follow through, we’re screwed. I don’t want to be an ass because it’s wedding season, it’s Southern Cali and she must have a life beyond other people’s faces. 

    Is it ok to ask to confirm my details? Should I just chill the hell out and talk to her at the trial? (I’m not sure if it will be H/MU doing my trial, she mentioned another girl’s name when scheduling.) Her emails are always super short, sent abruptly at 1:00 am and somehow riddled with typos despite being 10 words long. And at the end of all this, should this affect how much gratuity I give to her/her team? I love tipping generously, I think it’s the Vegas way. But it’s the overall experience that I consider and so far, she’s at a 4 out of 10. 

    I would appreciate any advice you have, bitchless or otherwise. 

    All the best,
    Katrina

    Dear Katrina,

    I totally understand why brides stray from every now and again from good advice, and usually it does come down to saving money (which I totally get), but this is exactly why we, wedding planners, wish you'd listen to us from the get-go. You see, now you find yourself in somewhat of a kerfuffle that needs fixin', and remember, the amount of time spent fixing this problem is probably worth the money you'd have saved if you listened to your wedding planner initally... But, enough about how you should have listened to your planner, because my goal isn't to tell you, that "I told you so", it's to help you out of this shitty situation. 

    Katrina, here are my thoughts... Call your wedding planner immediately. Have her do some nosing around to see if any of the H/MU peeps in her network are available on your wedding day (this may be difficult considering the timing). Concurrently, I want you to call your H/MU person and ask that she call you as soon as she can. Now, just a hunch, but I'm guessing that you will get her VM. If that's the case then I'd leave somewhat of a cryptic message that would pique her interest enough to call you back. Something like, "Hey H/MU person, there's been a change of plan and I really need to talk with you. Thanks a lot!" 

    If she doesn't call you back, then send her the same cryptic-type of email. You may have to be persistent because we (your wedding vendors) are in the midst of wedding season, and if your wedding isn't within the next week or two, she may not get back to you so quickly. If you do get her on the phone, be honest about your expectations of service. I mean, based on your email, you seem quite bitchless; I don't feel as though you're asking anything of her that wasn't promised to you from your initial agreement. And, it's only fair that she not only follow through, but she's got to instill confidence in you too. Tell her that. 

    Remind her that you hired her based on her awesome Yelp reviews and referrals, but if she continues to leave you feeling like you might get stood up on your wedding day, then perhaps you need to reevaluate. And then listen... See how she bounces back, and then make your decision. If you are still left with a bad taste in your mouth, then cut your loses and run. I hate to say it, Katrina, but you're probably out your deposit if you bail now, but if you're not comfortable, then it's well worth it. It'd be awful if this H/MU person left you (and/or your wedding planner) scrambling on your wedding day. Right?

    Please let me know how it all plays out!!

    GOOD LUCK!

    XO,

    BB

    Image via True Photography