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    Tuesday
    Apr142015

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Don't be a Bitch on Your Wedding Day! 6 Tips to Get Rid of the Bridey Bitch!

    I've written quite a bit about how to not be a bitch while planning your wedding, but it dawned on me that I haven't really touched on why it's so important not to be a bitch on your wedding day. Bridey, I think it's safe to say that your wedding day is filled with a tangled web of emotions; happiness, elation, excitement, fear, anxiety, etc.... All perfectly normal... And, sometimes when we're filled with that kind of emotion, it's easy to go one of two ways... Euphoria or bridaldemia, and it's up to you to choose the better of the two.

    The reason I'm mentioning this? Well, after an extremely busy weekend filled with two weddings, and everything you can think of in between, I realized that my very lovely brides each took on one of the two aforementioned emotions. And, frankly, I was shocked. Both were super detailed oriented, although easy to work with during the wedding planning (they must be avid readers of BB), and both had relatively supportive families. So, what made one bride go batshit crazy on her wedding day and one continue to be her fabulous self? THAT is a good fucking question!

    And while I don't have the answer, I can tell you who had a better wedding day experience. If you guessed bridey B, then you guessed right. Bridey B was relaxed and happy. She took in each and every moment of the day, totally let go of "wedding planning mode", and slipped into something much more comfortable, her wedding day. While Bridey A was argumentative with anybody who dared crossed her path. Honestly? It was strange; something I didn't see coming based on our planning experience.

    So, bridey, I got to thinking about what can we do to alleviate Bridey A from presenting herself on your wedding day, and here's what I came up with: 

    1. Alcohol. Just kidding!! Well, sort of... I hate to admit that it was the first thing that came to mind! However, if you are careful not to get piss drunk, then there is nothing wrong with a cocktail as you are getting ready to walk down the aisle. Just be sure to nourish yourself with delicious food and plenty of water, and surround yourself with your favorite ladies!

    2. Timing is everything. As a planner, I build a TON of extra time into the getting ready piece of the wedding day. I do this because inevitably there is always something (or someone) who will throw you off track, and there is nothing more stress inducing than being late. So, give yourself a lot of extra time.

    3. Breathe. Seriously. What's done is done, bridey, so freaking out about the details on the day of your wedding will get you nowhere. Simply relax and breathe. Remember, that at the end of the day (quite literally), you will have gotten married to the man (or woman) you are going to spend the rest of your life with, right? How awesome is that? YAHOO! So, don't allow your anxiety and nerves to win. It will show through in your photographs, and for what? Shit that won't matter...

    4. Let it go. Oh dear God. UGH! I just started singing that fucking song...

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    Friday
    Apr102015

    Fantasy Friday ~ An Outdoor Winter Ceremony on a Candlelit Mountain Top

    Look how beautiful!!! Seriously, could ya' bust? Totally reminds me of my fantasy bachelorette party post!! Now, imagine getting married on a mountain top, and then partying the night away at this beautiful venue. Right? Can I get a, "fuck yeah"?!! Seriously, talk about a memorable evening (or weekend!)! And, know what I absolutely love about Jessi (and Nick)? This girl had the balls to get married outside (as in host the ceremony outside!!) in March! WOW! That's pretty impressive and unique! Although, when you see all the incredible deets, bridey, you won't be too surprised.  

    Pepper, with Pepper Nix Photography, (my new FAVE and FAB photographer!) asked the bride quite a few questions about her wedding plans, overall experience, etc. My favorite? Scroll down and see Jessi's advice for future brides.... Clearly, Jessi was a Bitchless Bride! Enjoy! 

    Hello GORGEOUS canary diamond... WOW!!!I love this photograph...OBSESSED with the shoes and the gold toes!Why a Mountain Wedding? Nick and I love to ski. It is something we have been doing since we were very young. Additionally, when we first started dating it was something we did together several times a week. We also love, love, love the mountains, fresh air, and fantastic perspective their majesty brings!

    Lovin' the ass grab!I love the wedding dress and the snow boots!I had all my bridesmaids pick their own dresses. I told them blue, above the knee, and no sleeves. They all picked out dresses that were incredibly flattering and somehow it worked out. Additionally they all wore printed black tights. I bought them coats and boots to keep them warm. One of my bridesmaids, Christina, made muffs (instead of flowers) and we all had a fantastic time making crass poses with them. (HA! Obviously, BB LOVES this!)

    So so so cute! What brand new elements did you bring to the day? Getting married outside in the snow. The planner was a bit apprehensive, but I stuck to my guns and am glad I did.Best pic ever!! Did you follow that tradition and if so, what did you use? Yes, yes, yes...Old was my mothers ring in my bouquet, new was my dress, borrowed was ring from my aunt Ginny that she wore on her wedding day, and blue was my shoes.

    Any advice you have for future brides? Take a deep breath when you are up front and look at everyone who is supporting you. Two, don't get so caught up in the details that you forget what you are doing, joining two people together. Three, surround yourself with people you love...don't be obligated to invite people or put people in your bridal party who you don't want there. Four, hire someone to do things the day of...it was the best decision we made. Five, make a weekend of it. We did a pub crawl on Friday night and it was so fun. We had many activities and stayed together, so it felt like a vacation!

    Look at this room, bridey! OMG! So warm and beautiful without being overdone!Such a romantic couple!What did you serve? A sit-down plated dinner of our signature pistachio nut encrusted Utah trout with local wild mushroom and truffle mashed potatoes, grilled filet mignon and a vegan friendly grilled polenta cake napoleon with a smoked tomato puree. We wanted something less traditional, so we opted for a brown cake with swirls. Honestly, Nick and I were hanging out with my aunt and she asked us a couple questions about what we liked and what we absolutely didn't want. In the end we told he she had complete creative control and the cake was deish! So many people came up to us and told us it was the best cake they had ever had, maybe it was because there was no fondant! 

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    Wednesday
    Apr082015

    Real Wedding Wednesday ~ An Exquisite, Black & White Wedding at the Mandarin Oriental, Boston

    We've all heard the phrase or even said that we were going to, "roll out the red carpet", right? Well, imagine if you, bridey, were going to roll out the black carpet? And, that black carpet was going to be used to transform a space so magnificent as the ballroom at the Mandarin Oriental in Boston for your wedding? I mean, holy shit... That's exactly what Paula and Greg did (well, their group of incredibly talented wedding vendors anyway...). This kickass group of industry peeps created the most A MAZ ING black and white wedding; one that will leave you absolutely drooling over the details. 

    Bridey, close your eyes and imagine a shiny black dance floor, mirrored tables (seriously, who needs linen when you have mirrored tables!), an insanely GORGE floral installation (which doubled as your wedding altar), charger plates that I totally would hang in my house, etc. etc. etc.... Oh wait! Open your eyes! Silly me! Just scroll down, bridey, scroll down and prepare to be blown away. Enjoy!!

    Paula... Wow! I can't... It's too good... This bouquet seriously brings tears to my eyes! And look down... I love tying sentimental value into something so special.This is awfully romantic!We did it! We signed the Ketubah! Let's go get married!Exquisite. Simply exquisite chuppah!!I love how her parents catch her half way down the aisle.Ghost chairs... LOVE!

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    Tuesday
    Apr072015

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ FLASHBACK: Am I Supposed to Tip These People???

    ***Brideys, for those of you who have been reading Bitchless Bride since inception, then you should recognize this post. This was one of my very first posts on BB; one that received 19 comments (when I had like no fanbase!). The reason I'm sharing this with you again? Because I'm proud of you, bridey! So many of you have been inquiring about who to tip, so that rather than reinvent the wheel, I thought I would share it again. Right? So, just read it and learn!!! And, don't forget to tip your vendors! (And check out all of the comments!!)***

    November 29, 2011:

    "Am I supposed to tip these people?" I will never understand why this even a question. The question SHOULD be, “Who should I tip, and how much?” not “Am I supposed tip these people?” Think about it… Tipping is a token of appreciation and gratitude for a job well done… Perhaps it isn’t as obvious to those of you not in “the industry”, but to put it into perspective… Would you leave an incredible dinner at your favorite restaurant without tipping? Well, consider this the dinner of your life. So, express your sincere gratitude to those lovely people that had a hand in the most important day of your life with some cash. Put this as a line item in your budget from the get-go. Please note, it’s important for me to state that if you don’t feel as though you received extraordinary service from any of these professionals, then skip it. But for now, allow me to take you back to grade school... Who? What? When? Where? Why?

    Who Should I Tip and Why?

    Tip anybody who had a hand in your wedding. I don't care if the woman who did your duchess ‘do owns her own shop. Do you love your hair? Well then tip her! I own my own shop too, and you know what? After a year of working with you, I shoulda charged more... A tip makes it all feel better.

    Tip the wedding manager in charge of your wedding at that fancy venue of yours. Why? Well, first of all, I can assure you that they don't make nearly as much money as you think they do. And, secondly you probably have no idea how many hoops they had to jump through to get the job done, and done well. Don’t forget the banquet manager.... This person(s) literally made the floor plan come to life for your wedding. And while we are at it… remember the head server (or captain as they are sometimes called), bartenders, servers, etc. Basically, the whole crew. And, don’t forget the chef! Especially if your food rocked! 

    Photographers, florists, DJs oh my!!! Yes, tip them too. All of them… The same rule goes for the photographers as with the hair peeps. Most own their own shop, and all of the verbiage online says to tip their assistant and not the owner. I completely disagree with this thought process. If you have a great photographer, it will show in pictures and can truly change the story of your album. Throw them a few bucks.

    A few more peeps to consider: officiant, limousine driver, and caterer…

    What should I tip?

    Listen, I know that your wedding probably costs a lot more than you anticipated when you initially started planning the details, and I am certainly not about to assume anybody’s finances. So my best advice to you is to use your best judgment. If you’ve chosen wisely, then the wedding professionals you’ve hired aren’t cheap, and the last thing you want to do is throw more $$$$ at them. However, if you feel like they’ve done an exceptional job, then show them. A tip is never expected, just appreciated. If you are uncomfortable giving them cash, go for an AMEX gift card or a gift certificate to a fabulous restaurant. 

    When and where should I give them their tip?

    Most vendors receive their tip at the end of the night. Designate somebody you trust (like one of your parents) to handle this for you. Obviously tip your hair and make-up people before they leave wherever you are getting ready. And finally, I’d tip the chef (or caterer), wedding manager and banquet manager a day or two prior to the wedding. By giving them their tip ahead of time, odds are they will want to “earn” it by providing even more exceptional service.

    There you go my bubbling brides… I hope this helps clear the air. Remember, every professional you’ve hired to be a part of your wedding day is in the service industry. In this country we reward good service, so quit being a cheap bitch and take care of the people that helped you set the tone for the rest of your lives!

    Friday
    Apr032015

    Fantasy Friday ~ When Fashion Meets Cupcakes Meets Super Glam Inspiration

    Look at her lipstick. Shimmery, gold and delicious! Yeah, yeah... I know it's the glitter from the cupcake, but a girl can dream, right? And, as you all know, when I dream, I usually dream in cake and cupcakes. So when I received this styled shoot which was photographed in a cupcake factory, I knew I had to share it with you, bridey! Fashion and cupcakes? Fuck yeah! But, this is even better than it sounds... There is so much inspiration in this cool ass shoot, that if you are going for a metallic theme or a vintage glam theme, or don't know if you even want a theme for your wedding, then scroll down!

    Seriously, there are so many stunningly FAB dresses and delectable cupcakes (and, let's not forget the yummy booze!) right below my 'lil blurb, that I need to stop writing right this second and absorb! And you know what? You should too, bridey! Enjoy!!

    Yes, I would like to have each of these gorge dresses! Wouldn't you??Um... OMG! See the crystallized sugar on the cupcakes? Holy shit!So so so pretty...A diff shotfrom the the opening pic... Kinda obsessed!Love the collar! And look down, bridey... Metallic tat?!!! Oh yeah!! PERF for your wedding day!

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