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    Tuesday
    Jul082014

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ All Weddings Are Not Created Equal – Comparison is the Thief of Joy

    Bridey, when it comes to what your vendors are going to provide for you, avoid comparing what you heard your vendors did for your best friend, sort of friend, acquaintance or somebody that you know. Because each circumstance is different... Perhaps the caterer threw in an additional passed hors d’oeuvre during cocktail hour for your friend because they received a shitload of short rib that they needed to unload or else it would go bad. Or maybe the florist your acquaintance used was late paying her rent for the very expensive studio she resides in and lowered her pricing so that she would win the business. Your friend got a free cheese display? Perhaps the catering manager at the venue comped the damn display because your friend is awesome and she simply wanted to throw her a bone. Or, you know what? Maybe, they’re all lying or embellishing the truth. Whaaaa? You don’t think that you girls are competing just a bit? So be happy with what you got because as Theodore Roosevelt said, "Comparison is the Thief of Joy".

    Whatever the case may be, bridey, I just can’t listen to it anymore! Remember when you told your mom that the whole class failed that stupid fucking geometry test and her retort was that, ahem (imagine your best mom voice), “I don’t care about the rest of the class, I care about you.” UGH! But, you totally remember, don’t you? Well, that is essentially what I am saying to you. When you approach your vendors with deals that they may or may not have made with your peers, it does nothing but piss them off in the same way it pissed off your mother. Because each circumstance is different!!! They are focused on what they are providing to you. And all weddings are not created equal! And frankly, all brides are not created equal. And... you guessed it! Not all "deals" are created equal!

    Bridey, if you want a freebie, the worst possible way you can go about asking for it is to say that of your friend, or whomever, got a deal and therefore you want one too. Seriously? That’s just annoying. Be straightforward. Be nice. Show some respect for the vendor with whom you are working, and leave everybody else out of the equation. If something is out of your budget, tell them, and if they are in a position to discount it or offer it to you complimentary, so be it, but let it be their decision. No matter what, if you have been a delight to work with thus far, anything is possible. I told Elizabeth Vargas that when we sat down for a chat. Basically, we (vendors) want to go above and beyond for those clients who treat us with respect. 

    Got it? 

    Good.

    Image via France Dress

    Tuesday
    Jun102014

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ I'm Not Going to Say, "I TOLD YOU SO!!!!"

    Yeah, I'm feeling kinda ranty today. Honestly, I'm fucking exhausted. I'm so tired of being the shrink, mediator, personal assistant, and hand holder. This wedding season has been awesome and brutal all at the same time! Seriously, I feel completely bipolar because one day, I am absolutely elated; lovin' life and my clients, and the next, I am down in the dumps wishing I had a chosen to do something else with my life. Something that didn't require so much brain power; something where my "product" wasn't dependant on people and their ever-changing ideas and opinions.

    This wedding season, I've had some truly amazing clients who really understand that there is life beyond their wedding day, and then I've also had some clients who are so self absorbed and seem to have some serious issues with sharing. That's an odd thing for me to say, huh? I guess it is... Why don't I explain with a story...

    Recently, I worked with a client who was absolutely OBSESSED with the fact that her gorgeous and extremely popular venue had the nerve to have another event booked in their ballrom prior to her big day. Outrageous, right? I mean, how could they have the audacity to maximize their profit on a busy Saturday in June? Yeah... hoping you're picking up on my sarcasm... Anyway, almost every single conversation we had either started with or ended with a diatribe, asking me if "I could believe that they had another party ending so close to the beginning of her wedding." Perhaps I am somewhat immune to a tight turn (meaning that the venue and vendors have a short period of time to flip an event space from one party to the next), but a two hour window is nothing; easy peasy. In fact, there are plenty of us (vendors, wedding planners, etc.) who have turned a room in an hour! But, no matter how hard I tried to explain this to my client, she would not HEAR me. And goddamn if I wasn't annoyed.

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    Tuesday
    Nov262013

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Don't be a Bitch! Keep Your Consultation Appointments

    Written by The Other Hot Pink Planner

    Dear Brides,

    As vendors we absolutely love scheduling consultations because to us, it means that people interested in our services and we get excited to meet with a new bride and/or groom! Actually, we love them so much that we offer FREE consultations for our clients (just so you know, not every vendor offers a free consultation, and now I can now understand why)... so when we offer FREE consultations, we greatly appreciate that you hold your end of that bargain and make it to your appointment, and on time. If you're not going to make the appointment, with respect for the other party involved (aka, me, your vendor) please call to say you won't be making it (with more than 20 minutes notice).

    You see, many of us don't have a store front (which is how we are affordable to you) therefore we don’t have set hours. This makes it easy for us to schedule and work around YOUR schedule and therefore putting our personal and family time on the back burner. So, please, brides and grooms, if you schedule a vendor consultation... Please don’t just NOT show up! If you found a different vendor for the service, fantastic! We completely understand and are happy for you! But, please respect our time and call to cancel rather than just not show up.

    The truth? It sucks because just like you, we have lives. We have families. But what we don't have? Time to spare! So, be considerate to others, especially your vendors (and your potential vendors). Just because you are a bride doesn't give you the right to be inconsiderate! You're not the only ones in the world getting married. You aren't better than the next bride, and you don't get special treatment because you're getting married! And bare in mind, if you chose to have a no call/no show to a vendor appointment and you happened to really like that vendor's work, don't be surprised if they're now 'booked' for your wedding day.

    (I HAVE to add my two cents... The other side of this equation? Make an appointment with your vendors. Don't just walk into a hotel, florist, DJ, etc. and think that because they are in the service industry, that you will be seen, and immediately. Just like you, your vendors maintain a schedule, and also schedule appointments with other brides. I mean... Would you ever just walk in and expect to see your dentist or doctor? Probably not, because you know that they don't give a shit that you were "just in the area"... So, let's go back to the basics, brideys... PHONE FIRST!!)

    Thank you, 

    The Other Hot Pink Planner*

    *Check out another vent from The Other Hot Pink Planner here

    Image via Become a Top Wedding Planner

    Tuesday
    Oct222013

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ What's a Bridey to do When a Vendor isn't Responding?

    Hello BB!

    I’ve been a follower of your blog for a while now, even prior to getting engaged (I knew it was coming…)! 

    BB, I swear that I’ve followed much of your advice about how to be the best bridey I can be. That said, here's my story... I’m planning a destination wedding in Florida, and outside of a few hiccups along the way, wedding planning has been for the most part, okay.

    Except for one thing… Getting the person who is handling my reception at her restaurant to email me back in a timely manner. And I promise that I’m not that bride who writes an email at 7 am, and expects a reply by 7:05. I just want her to respond within the week. Is that too much to ask? I mean this has been going on for literally months. MONTHS! 

    Let me explain.

    The restaurant/venue is booked. The next time we are in Florida is for Thanksgiving week, and that is the last time prior to the wedding. Here’s everything that is outstanding:

    1. I have asked in previous emails about getting pricing for a musician to play during the reception, (the restaurant has a guy that plays Spanish guitar); she told me she would get a name and number to me, and has not.

    2. The menu at the venue changes with the change of seasons. Knowing that, I’ve been asking which menu we will be using, winter or spring (my wedding date is March 1st). No response.

    3. I swear that every email I have sent, (which really hasn’t been that many – 4 tops) I have always been cordial and always say something to the tune of that I appreciate your time and help, and so on.

    So, now summer goes by, and I send an email asking for the info I need and if we could set up an appointment to finalize things while we are there prior to the Thanksgiving holiday (as we are going to be in town). I sent that email a week ago… No reply. 

    I know I’m not her only client, but damn this is so frustrating! And it’s not like this is her first time at the rodeo, as I know they have several weddings, rehearsal dinners, etc. booked, and somehow that makes it even worse. My patience is starting to wearing the fuck out.

    Please help me in regards as to how to address her so that I can rectify this situation. All I really want to do is get things wrapped up. And at the same time, I don’t want her wishing she never booked me. 

    Help!!

    Sincerely,

    "Trying Not to Lose it"

    ***VENDORS, WEDDING INDUSTRY FOLKS AND BRIDEYS WHAT DO YOU THINK? PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT WITH ADVICE FOR "TRYING NOT TO LOSE IT".***

    Image via OutterInner

    Tuesday
    Sep172013

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Wedding Planner, Personal Assistant or Bitch?


    Last year, I wrote a piece similar to this for the Huffington Post, called Wedding Planner or Personal Assistant? And all I have to say is that I'm glad to know that I'm not alone. If other wedding planners feel the same way, then we MUST be onto something... Right? So, bridey, jot down a few notes... You'll need them!

    Written by the "Peeved Off Planner"

    I thought I'd include what this wedding planner wrote to me in the same email as the vent...

    Hey BB!

    I wanted to send you a little vendor vent. I am to the point of ripping my hair out from the past couple of wedding weekends I have had. I work my ass off and when brides start being demeaning I wonder if they are just incompetent or just bitches. So below is a vent. I can definitely expand on it, but I definitely will need a prozac and a glass of wine beforehand.

    I am your Wedding Coordinator, not your slave, personal assistant or bitch.

    The fact that it is getting to the point where I have to explain to brides what I DO NOT do is unfathomable. Brides, I am planning your wedding, I will be supportive to you over family feuds, bitchy bridesmaid and crazy mothers, but I am not your BITCH. I repeat, I am not your bitch, your slave, or personal assistant. My job is to make sure your wedding runs smoothly, so that you can enjoy the day.

    My job is not:

    - to make your nail appointment
    - pick up groceries for you
    - contact your mother about her plans because you just cannot speak to her any more

    Yes, I have had brides ask me to pick up groceries for them!

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