After a busy weekend filled with an amazingly beautiful wedding, tons of family dynamics, and plenty of booze, I wanted to share another dose of perspective with you, bridey. The only way I can reasonably get my point across is by quoting the Rolling Stones; a line I can clearly hear my father singing to me in my early days... "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need." Now that we're all going to be singing that for the rest of the day... Brideys, this is an important lesson. I mean it, please try to remember this phrase as you are working hard making the arrangements for your weddings. Don't let something you THINK you need steal your thunder. Don't let little disappointments capture your mojo. And if you find these little things piling up, then ask yourself this, "Is this going to matter in a year?" Will I give a shit about this particular detail a year from now?
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Today I'm struggling with an email I received from a bride who I KNEW I shouldn't have taken on, but I did because I just haven't learned my lesson! Actually, I can honestly say that I took it for the money. She's got a lot of it, and not only is that enticing for me personally, but oftentimes it makes for a super fun planning experience too. Well... USUALLY it does.
Anyway, recently, we visited several venues and received several proposals with the hopes of solidifying a space quickly so that we could move on to the fun stuff; decor! However, enclosed in her email was a wish list of sorts based on the spaces we saw. And it was shocking. Actually, it was undeniably, borderline horrifying. Because this wasn't just any wish list. This was a genie in a fucking bottle wish list. This was an "I'm smoking the fuck out of this crack pipe" list. As a matter of fact, it was more like an "I want everything for free, and I'm totally entitled to it because, I know you want my business, so fuck off" kind of wish list.
Seriously, I stood at my computer completely shocked. Because although I knew this bridey was going to be a bit of a challenge (code for what we industry peeps call a total pain in the ass), cheap wasn't really what I had expected. I mean, it's one thing to negotiate, but it's a whole other ball game to expect that you are exempt from paying for shit because you're getting married.
So, bridey, based on this ridiculous email, I thought I'd share with you a few secrets about negotiation:
I feel like every other week on BB I'm writing about some awful tragedy. A few weeks ago it was the marathon bombings in Boston, and now there is a whole other kind tragedy that is just pulling at my heartstrings one by one. This story is so completely heartbreaking that since I heard about it, I've been walking around feeling like I might puke my guts out. On Saturday night a limo carrying nine women on their way to a bridal shower burst into flames killing the bride and four of her friends. Thankfully, the other four girls made it out of the car before it became engulfed, but sadly, the other five perished.
Would you look at how damn sexy this woman is? Seriously. In case you haven't noticed, I really like sex. Whoops! Typo! Hope that bridey bitch from last Tuesday isn't reading... What I meant to say that I really like sexy, confident women who aren't afraid to show a little skin (or a lot of skin), but mostly, I dig those chicks brave enough to be comfortable in their own skin. Right? And Shante? Well, she's amazing. She's a super beautiful, super sexy, stunning woman who is just OWNING this photo shoot.
Brideys, because I love sex, I mean sexy boudoir shoots... I feel the need to keep showing you how truly fantastic they can be with the right photographer and with the right attitude. Do it for yourself or do it for your man, but just do it! Because when you're older and gravity has is beginning to weigh you down (or your breasts), you'll wish you had some pictures of yourself the way you used to be!
Are you completely in love with the veil like I am? I love it for this boudoir shoot, but I keep picturing how fab it would be in white, floating down the aisle.
Look closely at Shante's shoes. Not only do they scream FMP, but if you look at the heel, you'll see very subtle spikes. AWESOME!