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    Entries in wedding day (10)

    Tuesday
    Apr082014

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ How to Get Your Mom to Stop Texting on Your Wedding Day! Whaaaa? 

    Every now and then, I get an email from a distraught bride fretting over such a universal topic, that I feel like I would be missing out on an opportunity to educate all of you brideys, so today I am sharing it on Bitchless Bride. Below, you will see an email which I received from "Bridget" regarding her mother's obsession with her iPhone. Bridget is asking for some advice on how to handle her MOB's addiction with said phone, and wants to be sure that mama is present, both physically and mentally, for the big day. 

    I am getting married in about six weeks. While my mother and I don't have the perfect relationship, she has been phenomenal through the planning process. She has kept her personal opinions to herself and aimed to give my fiance and I the wedding we desire. She has been key to planning the event from 1,500 miles away.

    The problem? My mother is addicted to her iPhone. She is constantly texting, emailing, Facebooking and often during very important times. Much of this is because she runs her own business and doesn't have normal hours (I am sure you can relate), but she has yet to set boundaries. For instance, when I come home to visit, she is often on her phone during family dinner and movie night. I am afraid my wedding will be a victim of her addiction too.

    I am very worried that my mom will miss a momentous event in her and my life because she is so concerned with taking pictures she can text or post to Facebook. She has worked very hard and waited a long time (8 years of us dating) for this day and I want her to be fully present. I know I can't tell her what to do, not that would I consider that, but is there a tactful way to let her know I would like her to be engaged in the day and not so concerned with her virtual presence?

    Thanks,

    Bridget

    Dear Bridget,

    My very first thought, is that while it would be inapprorate to tell her what do to, you certainly CAN tell her how you feel. You don't have to be nasty about it, bridey, but you should definitely have a candid conversation about how you are feeling.

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    Tuesday
    Jan212014

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ I Should Have Been an Attorney

    I'm thinking I should have gone to law school. No really, I should have. I come from a family of attorneys and judges, and going to school for food science and pastry was probably not what my folks had in mind for me. Although, they always supported my originality (particularly around food... I used to dye my hair with fucking Kool-Aid! Oh, and it worked!), I would be making piles and piles more dough, and then I would feel more comfortable charging by the hour.

    Some event planners DO charge by the hour, and I am strongly considering changing the way I structure my business and getting on board with the whole charging by the hour thing. Because some of you brideys really take advantage when it comes to air time. If I divided what your wedding is worth to me from a dollars and cents standpoint, by the number of hours spent with you, on your behalf or on the phone with you, I would DEFINITELY be making more money if the clock started running the moment I said, "Hello." Harsh, but true. Would you feel as comfortable pouring your heart and soul out to me or dwelling on some very small stupid detail if you know that each minute was going to cost you $5? I don't think so. I think you would most likely curb the bullshit, get to the point, and move on. Right?

    Yes, I love what I do. Yes, I care about what you think. And, yes, I do like you, bridey. But, sometimes I feel like you need to consider that time is money, and that I am a business; no matter how small or how personalized, I do what I do to make money. Don't you? So, when you keep me on the phone stuck on something that we have discussed over and over again that won't make a fucking difference in the overall scheme of your wedding day, it's all I can do not to reach over and grab the egg timer. I mean it... Go talk it through with your fiance or best friend, because at least they can drink when they are with you, and politely (or maybe not so politely) tell you to stop obsessing over the small shit, and focus on the enormity of what a wedding means.

    Bridey, all I am saying is to please be mindful of your wedding vendors. We are too polite to tell you to shut your mouth, but our time is just as valuable as yours. So, put a sock in it, or I'm gonna break out that egg timer.

    Image via Pokerati

    Tuesday
    Nov262013

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Don't be a Bitch! Keep Your Consultation Appointments

    Written by The Other Hot Pink Planner

    Dear Brides,

    As vendors we absolutely love scheduling consultations because to us, it means that people interested in our services and we get excited to meet with a new bride and/or groom! Actually, we love them so much that we offer FREE consultations for our clients (just so you know, not every vendor offers a free consultation, and now I can now understand why)... so when we offer FREE consultations, we greatly appreciate that you hold your end of that bargain and make it to your appointment, and on time. If you're not going to make the appointment, with respect for the other party involved (aka, me, your vendor) please call to say you won't be making it (with more than 20 minutes notice).

    You see, many of us don't have a store front (which is how we are affordable to you) therefore we don’t have set hours. This makes it easy for us to schedule and work around YOUR schedule and therefore putting our personal and family time on the back burner. So, please, brides and grooms, if you schedule a vendor consultation... Please don’t just NOT show up! If you found a different vendor for the service, fantastic! We completely understand and are happy for you! But, please respect our time and call to cancel rather than just not show up.

    The truth? It sucks because just like you, we have lives. We have families. But what we don't have? Time to spare! So, be considerate to others, especially your vendors (and your potential vendors). Just because you are a bride doesn't give you the right to be inconsiderate! You're not the only ones in the world getting married. You aren't better than the next bride, and you don't get special treatment because you're getting married! And bare in mind, if you chose to have a no call/no show to a vendor appointment and you happened to really like that vendor's work, don't be surprised if they're now 'booked' for your wedding day.

    (I HAVE to add my two cents... The other side of this equation? Make an appointment with your vendors. Don't just walk into a hotel, florist, DJ, etc. and think that because they are in the service industry, that you will be seen, and immediately. Just like you, your vendors maintain a schedule, and also schedule appointments with other brides. I mean... Would you ever just walk in and expect to see your dentist or doctor? Probably not, because you know that they don't give a shit that you were "just in the area"... So, let's go back to the basics, brideys... PHONE FIRST!!)

    Thank you, 

    The Other Hot Pink Planner*

    *Check out another vent from The Other Hot Pink Planner here

    Image via Become a Top Wedding Planner

    Tuesday
    Jul092013

    The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ I Wish I Was Still on Vacation

    I wish I was still on vacation. I wish I still had a cold drink in my hand, and the smell of sunscreen soaking into my skin. Ahhhh... You feel that? Who's with me? Right? Ugh. And then reality hits... HARD. Instead of sipping that delicious cocktail, I'm sitting in front of my computer wishing the first email I came back to was telling me how wonderful I have been to work with, not "Now that you're back from your trip, there is a lot we need to discuss..." Fuck me... C'mon...

    The truth, bridey? I didn't miss you. Not. One. Bit. Because I was busy taking care of myself (for a change); my needs. I was planning what I was going to do the next day, not obsessing about the intricacies of how many steps it is from the top of the aisle to the alter or if, "it'll look weird if I wear my wedding band on my right hand before we exchange vows." Really? 

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    Wednesday
    Jan302013

    Real Wedding Wednesday... Truly A Blushing Bride

    I am so thrilled to present this wedding to you brideys! Not only are the photographs fantastic, but the bride and groom are super cool! I love their story, and I love how the bride was able to completely depend on her groom to get shit done for the wedding when she was busy dealing with a crazy work schedule. If that's not a sign of a stong relationship, then I don't know what is!

    Um, all I have to say is wait until you read question number 7! I asked Rory, the bride, if anything went wrong (that she was aware of) at the wedding, and I, me, Bitchless Bride, the honest chick with a trash mouth, BLUSHED as I read her response!!! Let's just say that when a priest uses the word, "penetration" during the ceremony, it gets awkward! I can only imagine how it felt for the bride and groom (not to mention all of the guests!). 

    You all know that I am a sucker for cotton candy, and I am so impressed with the bride and groom for having some fabulously, sticky yumminess prepared to order at their wedding! So... please sit back and enjoy the story and the beautiful pictures and VIDEO! Yup! There's a lovely video for you to watch too! 

    1. Bridey, how did you meet your spouse? (The short and sweet version please.)

    We met my freshman year of college almost 20 years ago. He was a sophomore. We ran in the same circles, but never dated. There was always an attraction, however, and we managed to keep in touch over the years and through different cities and other relationships.

    2. How long were you together before you were engaged? 

    We got together New Year’s Eve 2008 and we got engaged three years later.

    3. What was the length of time between the engagement and the wedding?

    About 8 months.

    Rory + Corey Wedding Highlight from Sugar Farm Productions on Vimeo.

    4. Where did your wedding take place? (venue, city and state) 

    The wedding took place in Emmitsburg, MD at St. Anthony Shrine. We held the reception across the border in the Pennsylvania countryside at my husband’s parents’ property on the Conewago Creek in New Oxford, Pennsylvania. We hosted an outdoor reception with a tent on the lawn at the height of summer.

    5. If you had to rate your wedding planning experience on a scale of one to ten with one being shitty, and ten being awesome, how would you rate it? 

    I would say about an 8. . . I had a great time, but it came at a very stressful point in my career.

    6. What was your favorite part of the wedding planning process? Least fave?

    My favorite was creating a binder full of inspiration tears from magazines and online research, picking the color palette and the overall theme, which for us was “The Gilded Garden-Party”. I would say my least favorite was budgeting. I have champagne taste and we were paying for most of the wedding ourselves. . . I really wanted to serve great food and wine. In the end I was able to do so with some really great (friend) connections! As for décor, I was able to rely on the natural setting. . . All the greens of the lush countryside. . . it was so beautiful.

    7. Did anything go wrong (that you were aware of) at your wedding? If so, we’d love to hear about it. Allow us to learn from you, bridey! 

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