Let’s talk about where your wedding will be… When it comes to choosing the venue for your wedding, be sure you can afford it. Usually, the venue is where you will spend the bulk of your wedding budget, so be sure you don’t fall in love with a place you know you cannot afford. You can certainly try to negotiate the food and beverage minimum or rental fees, be careful not to over do it. Sure, you can have the poor catering manager revise multiple copies of the proposal until you are left with a two-course dinner and cash bar, but they will hate you, and you will hate your wedding. While I am a huge believer in “you don’t ask, you don’t get”, there is a fine line. Instead, choose a venue that fits your budget.
By choosing a venue you can afford, you will get so much more! It’s like that movie, “Sliding Doors”… picture yourself like Gwyneth Paltrow (right?)… If she makes the train, she comes home to find her fiancé cheating on her, moves out, and changes her life for the better. If she misses the train, she is stuck in a shitty relationship with bad hair and no change. You have to be open to the “what if”. What if I make a different choice? If you go with a venue you cannot afford, then you will be stuck with the bare minimum for not only the venue, but everything else too (and probably bad hair because all of your money will go to the venue, and not to a qualified stylist)… nothing good comes from the bare minimum. Although if you choose a lovely venue that fits nicely into your budget, then you can get a lot more of what you want without sacrificing the dream. See, now everybody is happy, and you can stop being a bitch and really start planning.