The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ You're Pissing Me Off, Bridey

Seriously bridey? Can you please wipe that stunned look off of your face? I mean, I can't.... I can't even get into this again with you. What is IT, you ask. Well, I am so fucking tired of talking in circles about something so simple, that I can hardly write about it. In a nutshell? READ, bridey, read! Read your contracts, read your Banquet Event Orders, read your emails... Seriously, I need you to read your brains out, bridey so that you aren't completely blindsided by the decisions you are making now. Yes, I know that reading can be somewhat of a tedious task, but it's critically important so that you're not shell shocked with the invoices start rolling in. 

Bridey, even if you're working with a highly intelligent wedding planner (ahem); somebody who will steer you in the right direction with each of your wedding decisions, it's still important that YOU understand what's included (and what's not included) with every vendor you hire, and with every item purchased. I can only help you manage your expectations to a certain degree before I pass the baton and expect you to take a little bit of responsibility for your actions.

For example... I am working with a bride who is a bit of a flighty mess (which is why she hired me), and as we are closing in on her wedding day, she told me that she is "super disappointed with how it all worked out with the venue." She said that she feels like the venue is trying to "pull the wool over her eyes." OMG! Who says that? Right? Anyway, when I asked her why she feels so betrayed and taken advantage of by the venue, she said that there is a massive discrepancy between the food and beverage minimum she was given when she initially booked the space, to where her total is currently residing. I wanted to slit my wrists. 

Do you know how many fucking times I have gone through this with her? Seriously, I don't know what else I can possibly say to her to make her understand. Here are the facts:

* Flighty bridey lost control of her guest list. As of today, the number of guests is up 20% from when she booked her wedding.
* Flighty bridey chose to serve the most expensive entree on the menu, thus driving the per person cost up quite a bit.
* Flighty bridey switched to a more expensive bar package.
* Flighty bridey's guests will be toasting with a lovely and quite pricey champagne.
* Flighty bridey got crazy with the cake. SEVERAL bells and whistles drove the price up.

The list goes on and on, and no matter how many revised budgets I have emailed her (as well as the kind and very patient woman at the venue), she still doesn't understand why the price is "just so different" from the minimum quoted initially. See what I mean? This part of my job can be absolutely BRU TAL! 

So, bridey, my suggestion to you? READ! And you know what? Don't just read... Comprehend! And do so in a timely manner so that we can make changes before it's too late. Before you start feeling "disappointed" or "betrayed". Got it?

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