After a busy weekend filled with an amazingly beautiful wedding, tons of family dynamics, and plenty of booze, I wanted to share another dose of perspective with you, bridey. The only way I can reasonably get my point across is by quoting the Rolling Stones; a line I can clearly hear my father singing to me in my early days... "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need." Now that we're all going to be singing that for the rest of the day... Brideys, this is an important lesson. I mean it, please try to remember this phrase as you are working hard making the arrangements for your weddings. Don't let something you THINK you need steal your thunder. Don't let little disappointments capture your mojo. And if you find these little things piling up, then ask yourself this, "Is this going to matter in a year?" Will I give a shit about this particular detail a year from now?
Allow me to explain... Years ago, as I was going through a tough time or frankly what I THOUGHT was a tough time, my bestie looked at me and asked, "Is this going to matter in a year?" And my immediate answer was "Yes, it's going to fucking matter in a year." And then she looked at me hard, and said, "No really, is this going to matter in a year?" And then I punched her in the face. Obviously I didn't really punch her in the face, but I sure as hell wanted to!! But, mostly I wanted to punch her because I knew she was onto something that I wasn't ready to let go of. The truth? No, it wasn't going to matter in a year; I was choosing to focus on a small piece of the big picture, and I hated her for pointing that out to me. Just like you're probably going to hate me for pointing it out to you.
Fast forward to present time. My bestie, the one who asked me if this shit was going to matter in a year? Well, she's the same friend of mine who just underwent a proactive double mastectomy. And you know what I asked her before she went into surgery... "Is this going to matter in a year?" And she said, "Yes, this surgery is probably going to save my life." I mean... Talk about perspective...
So, brideys, when you're stressing about which chairs will go perfectly with your custom linen, or if the wedding cake is going to be "ombré enough", I want you, to ask yourself if this shit is going to matter in a year; is the stupid almost ombré wedding cake going to make or break my wedding? And you know what? I think you know the answer. Got it?
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