Bridesmaids

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ FLASHBACK: A Tale of Two Mentalities

***Here we go again... I seem to be working with quite a few newly engaged brides, and therefore, I thought I would educate you a bit on educating your bridesmaids. But, why reinvent the wheel? Right? I loved this post, bridey, so, just read it!!! It will give you some insight into those bridesmaids of yours... ***

February 7, 2012 

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times… Unfortunately, some of your bridal party might feel this way after participating in your wedding. Don’t let this Charles Dickens mentality get the best of you! Brides, you must be clear with the friends and family you choose to be in your bridal party. Let them know what your expectations are at the beginning so that they have the opportunity to turn down your lovely offer, and sit with the rest of us in the pews if they are not willing to or do not want to live up to your dream.  

Okay, stop being a bitch and listen… Think about it this way… You know when you don’t want to do something or you don’t understand how to do it, so you just don’t do it? Well, welcome to the psyche of about 95% of your bridesmaids (and I’m sorry to say, possibly even your maid of honor… aka: MOH). Depending on your age, your bridal party may be inexperienced, uninformed and probably doesn’t understand the enormous undertaking they signed up for when they eagerly accepted their role as your bridesmaid. I promise you, in most cases, it’s not that they don’t want to do all of those bridal things for you; it’s just that they don’t know how or even that they have such great responsibilities. That’s where you come in. Educate them. Be involved (but, not too involved), offer guidance and advice, but don’t overdo it. Remember, similarly to your fiancé, they cannot read your mind. So tell them that you were thinking Vegas or NYC for your bachelorette party, that you want a hotel bridal shower and that your MOH is to act as a liaison between you and your mother on your wedding day. Start kicking ass if they start to slack knowing your expectations, but not before.

Looking back (way back) into my early 20s, I am embarrassed to admit that I completely failed as a bridesmaid for one of my besties. She was among the first to get married and I was clueless. I actually missed her shower because I was hung over (not a proud moment), didn’t go to her bachelorette party (or even help to plan it) and only gave $100.00 for her wedding gift. And I call myself a planner…? Right? But, I had NO idea the immense responsibility I carried with that ugly dress. Had I known, I would have taken a seat with everybody else, or asked a few more questions about her expectations in the beginning.

So please, once you finally decide who gets to wear the dress, make your voice heard! Tell them what you want, and allow them to make it their choice if they are up for the task. Got it? Good. You’re welcome.

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Kickass, Super Colorful, Mexican Themed Wedding

A fabulous cake topper. A fabulous cake!! And a fabulously unique and vibrantly colorful wedding. Bridey, if you want your wedding day to be filled with intense color and fun, then copy and paste Jamie and Vincent's wedding into that binder of yours and have at it. Seriously, I am so excited to show you this one to you because of how dynamic and cool it is (and because of the beer-serving donkey, piñata filled with shots, sensational accesories, etc.), but Jamie, who is in med school full time, created the most beautiful DIY aspects for the day proving that anything is possible. Seriously, what an overachiever!

But, most importantly... Jamie and Vincent's wedding completely tells a story of who they are as a couple and how awesome it is to create a day that is really about who you are TOGETHER!!! Enjoy! I certainly did!!

Um. SHUT.THE.FUCK.UP with the shoes! A MAZ ING!!!And the vivacious necklace!! Totally gorge!Probably my most favorite bridesmaids dresses ever. Flattering, fun and totally wearable again without screaming bridesmaid dress.Hello dapper Vincent. You look quite handsome! Love the shoes!Jamie, you are STUNNING. I love the white wedding dress matched with all of the color you're rockin'!A beautiful day and a beautiful setting for a wedding!THAT'S how it's done, bridey!! Got to love a good dip!Yeah. Don't worry, considering my love for cake, you know I have more pics to show you!

Fantasy Friday ~ A Ventura Beach, Ocean Front, Mismatched Bridesmaids Wearing Kickass Wedding

If I had to guess, I would say that the bride and groom are definitely water signs. And you know what, bridey, you’re probably going to agree with me after you browse these beautiful photographs. You see, Shelby and Daniel are avid water sports enthusiasts. Wake boarding and surfing is their passion, so it would only make sense to get married at the beach, right? Right. They wanted their wedding photos to reflect their love of the sea and the sand, and I would say that they did a wonderful job building their mutual charisma for the ocean into their wedding. 

Another cool ‘lil tid bit? The wedding was held on the beach near their new home. I mean, how fucking FAB is that? Talk about having everything come together!! New home, new hus and a kickass wedding down the beach? Pretty cool! Plus, I’m a little obsessed with the colors scheme for this wedding. Seriously, Shelby did an amazing job choosing her palette! Coral and ocean blue! FABULOUS! Check out the mismatched bridesmaids dresses; they are absolutely GORGE. I totally love how they are within the same orangey color spectrum, and yet each are entirely different, but in complete harmony. Go see for yourself!!

Just LOOK at those bridesmaids dresses!! I really love them!Those are the RSVPs. Not only are they awesome, but I love that they are hanging up and that Shelby and Daniel's guests had the chance to write something fun on the card!!Such a fine looking couple! Love the pedi, Shelby!It really doesn't get better than that, huh? Great shot!!Lovely succulents!Amazing idea for escort cards! 

Because Bustling Doesn't Have to be a Bitch

{Photograph courtesy Person + Killian}

So, I like to think that I am really awesomely good at my job. I am super, annoyingly detailed, I provide excellent customer service, I write kick ass timelines, create and bring to life even the most complicated of floor plans, but there is one part of my job that rocks me every time! The damn wedding dress bustle. Because each one is completely different, and frankly some are designed better than others. I know it's a silly thing to get frustrated with, but it can take a lot of time for whomever is assisting with the process (and quite often, that's part of my job), and sometimes it can create tension where there was none.

Save Yourselves! Get Out Now!

Did you think I was lying? Did you think I didn’t know? Seriously, like I haven’t seen and experienced SEVERAL brides behaving like complete diva bitches when it gets to be their turn? C’mon… The day “The Reasons Why You Cannot Be a Bridesmaid” appeared on Gawker, BB received piles and piles of emails from our followers asking what I thought about the content. And not to sound like a complete asshole,

California Girls We're Undeniable

Story submitted and written by Broke Bridesmaid

Yeah, I will never, ever be in another wedding, ever again.

I had a friend, who lived in NY. I'm a Cali girl myself, but we got along so great that I thought we really did share similar views on life. When she asked me to be in her wedding in NY, I was actually excited.

I learned quickly... 50+ emails a day between all the bridesmaids. EVERY DAY. For TWO YEARS. If a bridesmaid didn't respond quickly enough to the bride's taste, guess who was asked to step in? That's right, me. Because I was the furthest one away, so the bride figured I wouldn't care if the other bridesmaids didn't like me.

The B-Team Bridesmaid... Second Choice Sucker?

A quick and dirty story submitted by the "B-Team" Bridesmaid:

My friend is getting married next summer. She and her fiancé are each going to have two attendants. I'm not one of the two she asked, and I'm perfectly fine with that. Attending a wedding is more fun as a guest! But then this weekend she tells me "Emily might not be able to make it to the wedding, so you might have to do it." 

Cast Off (kstôf, -f): One that Has Been Discarded

So, maybe I woke up on the wrong side of the bed or maybe the "passionate kiss" cocktails I was sipping on last night made for a "hot mess" this morning, but either way I am feeling bitchy. But, no matter what mood I am in, the conversation last night got me all hot and bothered as I was mulling it over while sucking down my morning shot of espresso.

"Duel" Maid of Honors

Story Submitted by "Misery Maid"

I was very surprised when a friend asked me to be her "Co-Maid of Honor." First of all, at that point we were seeing each other maybe 3 times a year despite living in the same city, and secondly, I'd never heard of a CO-Maid of Honor. Turns out, there's a good reason for that!

A Tale of Two Mentalities

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times… Unfortunately, some of your bridal party might feel this way after participating in your wedding. Don’t let this Charles Dickens mentality get the best of you! Brides, you must be clear with the friends and family you choose to be in your bridal party. Let them know what your expectations are at the beginning so that they have the opportunity to turn down your lovely offer, and sit with the rest of us in the pews if they are not willing to or do not want to live up to your dream.