Really- it's ok to rant and be a bitch for tiny moment? I had to shoot a wedding at a Holiday Inn before you giggle, it's really lovely, it's in a downtown area with a rooftop terrace. I want to write Holiday Inn and tell them that brides don't want to say their wedding is at the Holiday Inn, but I digress.
So everyone is lined up getting ready to walk in, I'm so stoked my bride is half Hawaiian and half African American so she is lovely and perfect and charming... The sweetest girl, it's like she doesn't even know how bad- ass she is. Literally one minute before we they walk in, her pastor looks at me and says, "you aren't allowed up front, you have to stay in the back."
I looked at my bride and didn't say a word. So this was one of those times, I wish I..., I could have said,... I should have said...."We are at the Holiday Inn, you have no jurisdiction here." Or, "we are getting paid, you do your job and I will do mine." Can you imagine the bottled up rage I have? The next person who is unreasonable with me is going to get the wrath!
I really hate when officiants think they are the boss of the wedding. Sometimes they say, "it's ok to take photos wherever you like." No shit Sherlock, I'm grown I can do whatever I want. Now when I'm in a church, and let me say for the record, I'm really close to saying, "fuck that noise, I don't do church weddings." .... when I'm in a church, I do follow their antiquated rules. The meanest encounters have been the church marms and that damn preacher telling me what to do at a Holiday Inn. Feels good to let this go! Writing the words out, really makes me want to have a strict no church policy.
~ Holy Bowler
Brideys, how would you feel if your officiant told your photographer that they couldn't take pictures "up front"... ummm where you're like... exchanging vows?!!!