From the desk of Wonder Planner:
Budget. It’s a dirty word. I admit it. Hey, it’s even a dirty word to me and I am an event planner. I live with budgets every day. But budgets are a reality, and because most of us don’t have millions of dollars to pour into our wedding day (trust me, it would make my job a lot easier!), it’s necessary to sit down with your calculator BEFORE you start meeting with wedding vendors, and figure out the numbers.
Too many times I meet with client’s (or a client’s parents) who have grandiose dreams about what they envision their wedding day to look like…how they want it to feel….how they want it to smell….and most of the times these dreams include 12 foot high floral centerpieces, carpeted dining tents, live swans, and Michael Buble singing their first dance song. Oh, and the budget is $10,000. Okay, so that might be a little bit of an exaggeration but you get the idea.
Don’t get me wrong; I can create that dream day for you. I can have Michael Buble flown in to sing your first dance song, and we can roll out the carpet under those dining tents, and even hand feed the swans if you really want to, but that’s going to take a substantial budget, and since we’ve already accepted the fact that you don’t have millions to “make it rain”, it’s time to adjust your thinking because I’m not a miracle worker.
So here’s my recommendation to all of the newly engaged couples out there…. It’s called research. Budget research. Most of you are clueless about what a wedding costs, and that’s ok, but you need to get educated on the subject, before you start meeting with your wedding vendors. Familiarize yourself with the average costs that vendors charge for their services. And if your parents are the ones footing the bill, then they also need to familiarize themselves with the costs associated with a wedding. Weddings are a lot different and A LOT more expensive than they were twenty or thirty years ago. Trust me on this one.
You need to go into your vendor meetings with a general idea about what the costs associated with a wedding will be, so that when you see the price tag on a dress, or get a quote from a photographer, or pick a five course dinner with a caterer, you won’t pass out, or send me multiple emails describing how you need me to “negotiate” with these vendors to get them to fit within your budget, or provide therapy sessions between you and your parents to help them understand pricing structures in the industry.
People, weddings aren’t cheap, and even the cheap weddings aren’t cheap! As a planner, I can help you create your budget. I can show you where to manipulate it, where you can cut costs in certain areas and cushion others. I can recommend the best vendors to work with that will fit within your budget. I can take the ideas that you have and create an amazing night that you will adore, but you need to understand that it will be done working within the budget you have given me. After all, keeping you within your budget is what I do. But, I can’t create a “David Tutera: My Fair Wedding” on a $10,000 budget. Not gonna happen.
So, keep the tissues at home, sit mom and dad down to discuss money before you schedule your appointments, and come financially prepared to your vendor meetings!