Sorry to steal the “the floor” away from the awesome vendors who submit their true and truly horrendous stories to BB, but today I am the vendor and I need to talk about another vendor… and how he completely fucked me over.
While I won’t get into the super nitty gritty, in a nutshell, this vendor no-showed for a scheduled appointment. Yeah, a vendor I referred, and have used several times. Oh, AND the mother of the bride flew in to so that she could guide the bride with this particular aspect of the planning.
Here’s the thing… Yes, our meeting was scheduled for 9:00 AM on Sunday of Father’s Day, and yes we are right in the middle of wedding season. You think I wanted this ridiculously early appointment? Please, I didn’t get home until 3 AM… No, I’m not THAT kind of girl people… No “walk of shame” for me, I was working… Cause it’s wedding season? So anyway, I booked this knowing it was not ideal for anybody EXCEPT the bride. Because that’s what I do. I please the client even if it means that I don’t sleep.
At 7:30 AM that morning, this vendor called me and said that he was having some issues getting his shit out of the venue from the wedding the previous night, and he needed some of these items for a wedding taking place that evening. I was annoyed, but at the same time, as I mention in our other post today, shit happens. It always does. So I asked if he needed to cancel. He told me “no”, but could we meet at 10 AM instead? I told him that unfortunately, 10 AM wouldn’t work because we were booked with back-to-back appointments. He said, fine “how’s 9:30 AM”? Done.
So we waited, and waited and fucking waited… outside the warehouse drinking our coffee making that horribly uncomfortable conversation without really saying what we were thinking. By 10 AM, I finally broke through the bullshit, called him, and said that we needed to go (as nicely as I could muster through clenched teeth). I couldn’t risk messing up the rest of our carefully scheduled day because of this shit. So we left. And that was that. He said he was five minutes away...
My bride was surprisingly understanding considering the situation. I’d have been upset if I were she, more for the fact that her mother was in town specifically for these appointments, and this one in particular was a big deal. But, she knew that the timing was difficult (to say the least), and he while he should have just canceled the appointment due to these unforeseen circumstances, he was in a tough spot.
But, here’s the million-dollar question… Do I give him another chance (for this wedding)? I have used this guy for years without issue. And oddly enough, I like him because he is usually, totally OCD, and quite anal about being on time. And, not for nothing, I get that he had a fire to put out. But, if he fucks up again (again being on the day of the wedding), then I’m in big fucking trouble. So, I am really torn.
What would you do?