From the desk of "Remington Steele"
"Hey! Take my picture asshole! I am the sister of the groom!" Yes, that's a fantastic way to ensure that you get a high quality photo of yourself.
Throughout the night, this girl was grabbing me, pulling me, yelling at me - all to take her picture - while the couple was enjoying their first dance, cutting the cake, giving a toast, you get the idea...
First rule of thumb - don't grab a photographer while they are taking a picture. We don't like that. Second, if you are not getting married, you are not the most important person at the wedding. Let the happy couple take centerstage and leave your baggage at the door. I know it is difficult. You have a lot of baggage. Maybe you are seeing two people share a happiness that you have never known. Whatever the case may be - shut up, sit down and put a smile on your face for one goddamn day! I have seen it from bridesmaids, mothers of the bride and groom, a best man or two - a few times a year, I am usually treated to someone who think that the wedding day is all about them. Surprise, it's not!
So back to the sister of the groom. "Do you know who I am?" she shouted at me.
"Yes, you are the girl who was sitting next to me in the hotel lobby while I was waiting to photograph the bride, complaining about the 'stupid' reading you had to do, how you didn't like the bride, and you hated the ugly dress you had to wear. Now please be quiet while I take some pictures of the couple cutting the cake." Photographers, we are around even when you think we aren't. Our job is to observe. We know when you are not really happy for the people getting married because you are feeling sorry for yourself. We see you when you are not at your best. So be nice, or we can take a picture of that moment.