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    Tuesday
    Jul242012

    Dog Days of a Disney Wedding

    As a Disney Bride blogger, I communicate with a lot of fellow Disney Brides, and I’m convinced that no one – and I mean NO ONE – gets as much DRAMA as Disney Brides do regarding their choice of wedding venues!

    Look, we get it that not everyone drinks the Disney kool-aid. But we do, and we think it’s DELICIOUS, and that’s why we chose to get married there. Comments like “You’re getting married at Disney? I hate that place,” have no purpose but to make us feel ashamed of our fandom. I’m pretty certain no one says “Oh, you’re getting married at a Four Seasons? That would be my worst nightmare.” This is not the time to get on your soapbox about price-gauging and long queues. I’m sorry you were deprived as a child and don’t understand the joy of flying elephants and twirling tea cups. So when we tell you we’re getting married at Disney, this would be a good time to take a lesson from Thumper: “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all!” 

    Another thing - We know it’s hilarious to ask if Goofy will be officiating or if Cruella de Vil will be the Maid of Honor. Just know that this is the one billionth time we’ve heard this “joke.” You’re not original or clever. And just because we are getting married at a unique venue does not give you the liberty to ask us how much it’s costing us. RUDE. Asking about money is just plain tacky no matter the venue or circumstances! 

    So whether it’s a theme park or a fancy hotel or the Masonic lodge or their own backyard, respect a couple’s choice of venues! It may seem weird to you, but it might have a very special meaning to the couple, and it’s THEIR wedding day, not yours, GEEZ!!! When YOU get married you can choose whatever venue YOU want! And we promise we won’t roll our eyes at you.

    Mindy

     

    Picture by Root Photography - www.rootweddings.com

    Reader Comments (22)

    AMEN! Just leave people alone to do whatever they want! Nothing makes me more angry as a wedding planner than when one of my couples asks me if I think what they are doing is "silly" or "dumb" or whatever... all based on the reaction or question, or needless editorial of someone else.

    Get married where ever you want and do it whatever way you want!

    July 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBrenda Swann

    Hey B,

    Right? I love it when Mindy says “Oh, you’re getting married at a Four Seasons? That would be my worst nightmare.” HAHA! But... for some couples getting married at the Four Seasons WOULD be a nightmare if that's not who they were as a couple.

    People need to learn to keep their opinions to themselves. Seriously! ESPECIALLY about your wedding. People are just rude. It's not just limited to brides...

    Love your honesty (as always) Brenda!

    XO,
    BB

    July 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    Thanks for letting me vent, BB! Mwah!!!!!

    This is fantastic! Mindy, thanks for venting for all of the Jewels!

    July 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCatherine

    Jewels! Oh you did not just go there, Catherine! Thanks for your comment!

    (For those not in the know, the official Disney Weddings facebook page refers to us Disney Brides as "Jewels" - which makes *some* of us giggle immensely.)

    I'm glad someone said it! As a fellow Disney Bride I couldnt tell you how often people roll thier eyes at me and think my wedding is tacking. Its not all screaming kids and strollers like the parks. They actually do have quite GORGEOUS weddings! Thank you Mindy, you are so right!! People need to keep to themselves!!!

    July 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBecca

    Mindy!

    You rock lady! I am always up for a good vent! Trust me, if BB doesn't like, I don't "print"...

    Frankly, nothing beats a happy bride, and if a Disney wedding is the dream, then fuck everybody else. Just sayin'...

    XO,
    BB

    July 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    Thank you so much for posting this Mindy. Disney brides deal with so much crap while planning their wedding. I know I went through every single thing that you mentioned. Isn't it funny how the people that criticized our weddings are usually the people that have the nicest things to say once it's over? We had some relatives that couldn't understand why we wanted to get married at Disney, but once it was over all they did was talk about how pretty everything was and how much fun they had.

    July 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMelissa Montes

    Great post Mindy! :) And yes, Thumper did say it best, didn't he? ;)

    July 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterHope

    Becca- I'm so glad you agree, thanks for your comment! Melissa- I know, right??? The same guests who tease and make jokes are the same guests who are first in line for a picture with Mickey and Minnie! Hope- yes, he sure did!!!! :)

    Preach it sister! If weddings bring out the worst in people, it seems Disney weddings bring on demonic possession level rudeness.

    July 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterJuli

    Haha, Juli! So sad but so true!

    Great post!!!! I was lucky and my family was supportive of my Disney Wedding choice...but you should see the looks people still give me and my family when they find out I was married at Disney...you would think I had stabbed their first born in the eye with a pencil.

    Thankfully even my family defends those looks and comments now because it was such a great event.

    But yes...two years later I still get "Oh how nice for you, I could never afford that" (with the look that goes with it)...or just the look of "really, you got married there?!?!?!"

    Bleh...to hell with them all, I wouldn't take my magical day back or anyone else's!!! Long live the Disney Bride!!!!!! :)

    July 25, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMichelle

    Yes Michelle!!! Long live the Disney Bride! I hate that you still get looks from people two years later. Ugh! Thanks for your comment!

    As a fellow "What, you're getting married at Disney???" person (not that I would have EVER said it out loud to whoever decided to get married there, I agree that it's your wedding day, not mine, so you can and should do whatever YOU want). But my opinions have changed since my last visit to the park, and since starting to read Mindy's blog. It has changed so drastically, that now I'm one of those people that, if possible, would get married at Disney. And I'd love to have Goofy or Donald officiating the wedding, no joke there. :)

    July 25, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAnita Boeira

    Hey Michelle,

    I'm with Mindy. I hate that you still get looks two years later! Those people can just suck it....

    Trust me, I've been to plenty of shit weddings (none that I planned of course), and I WISH I could have told them later on how bored I was or how many times I've been there done that, but I am way to classy to stoop that low... At the end of the day Disney girls, you are providing a truly unique experience for your guests, and creating a day that is true to the two of you.

    I say fuck the rest of them for not getting it!

    XO,
    BB

    July 25, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    Oh Anita, your comment made me tear up! The exact reason I started my blog was to debunk the stereotype of Disneyland weddings and I'm so touched that it's working! Thank you for your sweet comment, friend!

    Well said Mindy, my best friend is just nuts about Disney and wants to get married there. I say good on her for not snuffing her inner child and for not conforming to social pressure to grow up!...myself, I cant wait!

    July 25, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterDeniseDPhoto

    That's so exciting, Denise! And I know your friend really appreciates how supportive and excited you are. You will have a GREAT time at her Disney wedding! Thanks for your comment!

    We've all experienced flack for having a Disney wedding, but has anyone else experienced flack for NOT having the kind of Disney wedding that people assume you "should" have? When I wasn't going all out with the "princess thing" (no poofy dress, no Cinderella horse drawn carriage, no Tiara), I remember people looking at me like why I was even bothering having it at Disney if I wasn't going to do all that! To this day, I still sometimes hear comments of why I did this and not that. So in a way it's damned if you do and damned if you don't. :/

    July 25, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterHope

    That stinks, Hope! I don't recall ever getting comments like that, just comments about the "weird stuff" I was doing in general (tea length gown, ribbon veil). But you're right, when it comes to weddings people seem to have an opinion on EVERYTHING you do!

    I run a tuxedo store in Orlando and service Disney weddings.
    We do not increase our prices because its a Disney wedding.
    We also go to Disney and provide "Final Fitting" service right at the
    resort.

    Delivery, final fit and pick up all at Disney
    Stephen Schaffer
    Owner, Tuxedos To You
    407.267.3552
    www.tux2u.com

    August 7, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterStephen Schaffer

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