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    Wednesday
    Sep192012

    Delusional, Crazy and Entitled, Oh My!

    Written by the Pissed Off Planner...

    Seriously!?! I want to stick a firework up this bride's backside, and watch the explosions like a belated 4th of July weekend!! She is somewhat similar to BB's bride who would CC her on every email, but sadly her CC habit is not her only issue! But, that is where I'll start...

    This bride CC's me on every fucking email she sends! This morning, she emails me at the ass crack of dawn and then again before 9am to check if I got the first email she sent at 7.45am. And a third email asking for her timeline.... Her wedding is not until the end of November!! Bitch, I have EIGHT weddings to get through before I even look at your timeline!! Pull your head out of your ass, please!! You are not my only bride. And for the record bridey, it is not my job to lay out your tables and chairs. That is the job of the venue... and if you don't trust them to do it to your exact specifications, then maybe you have have stuck with your first choice!! 

    Let's move on to flowers, shall we? As much as I love the Karen Tran centerpiece pictures you emailed to the first florist (who ended up firing your crazy ass) they are not in your budget; you couldn't even afford one, and all the other things you're demanding for your tiny budget of $500 (Note from BB... WHAAAA??)! The poor second florist, who I'm sure is currently in line at CVS collecting her meds, got this email, " Would the fee be reduced some if you only deliver the arrangements and my coordinator does all the setting up? (EXCUSE ME?) Also, I want to ensure that it is identical to the bouquet in the picture. I want open roses, not real big, but not real tight." 

    Something tells me that this probably won't turn out exactly as she wants. I can see it now!! *take cover* 

    Also I really don't need to be CC'ed on an email to the venue asking if you can bring in a Chick-fil-A for your boy because he doesn't eat macaroni cheese!! WHAT 8 YR OLD KID DOESN'T LIKE MAC N CHEESE? 

    So there you have it! Brides, be realistic about your expectations and your budget, and don't insult your planner by telling her it's her job to set the tables, arrange the flowers, bake the fucking cake, etc., etc. (I mean I do that shit anyways, but only when I HAVE to) because if I'm there, then who's with you, bitch?

    Please and thank you xo

    Reader Comments (17)

    I'll take BB's thought and say "WHAAAAAAAA????"
    Oh boy.

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLiz Fields

    Hey Lizzy,

    OMG! $500 flower budget? Just go pick your own, right? I know, I'm rude, but that's nothing new...

    BTW... Pissed Off Planner... If her budget is $500 for the flowers, how can she afford you? HA!

    XO,
    BB

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    LMAO!! Took the words out of my mouth but I didn't want to be too rude. How the heck does she have a wedding planner with that budget?!?!?!?

    Please don't tell me this is a family/friend obligation!

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLiz Fields

    Maybe my fee is the reason she only has that retarded ass floral budget!?! Seriously though!! I am only her "day of coordinator" and the demands thus far probably means this will be a fucking train wreck of a loss for me! It pains me to say, but i have to return the $300 shoes to pay my rent! bahahahaha J/k those bitches are too worn in to return!!

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterA Pissed Off Planner

    Maybe she doesn't understand the definition of "DAY OF"...maybe she thought that meant every DAY OF the year planner. I think someone needs to send her a polite explanation.

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLiz Fields

    I LOVE that you're a "DAY OF" planner for this wedding, and it's September and you're already getting these emails. Just a friendly tip from one planner to another... I changed my "Day Of" package to be a "MONTH OF" package. It basically states that I don't want to hear from you unless we are within a month of your wedding...

    The "Day Of" shit tends to be much more trouble then it's worth... I also increased my pricing (building in an aggravation fee, and a time of the year fee)...

    XO,
    BB

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBitchless Bride

    Liz your comment made me laugh! This has been the case since early august!! I have told her, explained it till i'm blue in the face and half way through a 1.5L bottle of wine!! She does not fucking listen!! She insisted i attend the tasting, for what reason i don't know as i'm surely not going to get the $40 steak i tasted!! Grrrrr

    That is a fab idea BB I will be making BIG changes to my contract! As for the extra aggravation free - GENIUS!! (maybe enough for new shoes?)

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterA Pissed Off Planner

    I always wonder if these crazies read these posts, would they know we were talking about THEM??? Probably not!!! Somebody's sense of entitlement is out of proportion!!!

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBridal Bitch

    Pissed off Planner--You DEF need to make it clear in your contract. Obviously your work extends beyond just DAY OF because you do need to discuss the DAY OF with the Bride, but people seem to just generally have bad, narcissistic attitudes these days.

    And BB....heck no, they would have no idea. If they even had a hint of self awareness, we wouldn't be reading this post.

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLiz Fields

    This bride sounds like a gigantic PITA and a bitch. But, if you want other brides to listen and learn from this, the commentors need to stop harshing on the $500 floral budget. For a lot of brides, in a lot of parts of the country, that's a lot of money for flowers. I think we all want these brides to see Day of Coordinators as a viable option for them. Lots of planners depend on broke brides and their Day of business to make a living. The point isn't that this bride only has $500 to spend on flowers, it's that she doesn't understand her budget, doesn't understand what her budget can get her, and she doesn't understand your role. She's a crazy bitch, but let's not write off every bride with a tiny budget.

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMarta (GigMasters)

    I agree! A lot of planners rely on these last minute day of broke brides. But it's these broke brides, who want the "best" of this and the "best" of that! But have no budget to back it up. Not only that, it's these brides who you bend over backwards for and do everything they ask of you, and you enable them in every request and every idea, that spills from their somewhat tiny brains!! Then...**boom** a shite review on Wedding Wire that you can do fuck all about (but that's a totally different rant) as thanks!!

    Anyway i have an update (cause this chick loves to invade my mornings and my afternoons) She has just sent me "my" schedule for the wedding day (guess she couldn't wait till her actual wedding month for mine) It goes something like this.... Hotel (check on bride) church decor, Hotel (check on bride again) Venue, Hotel (last check in on the bride) Then finally I push her stupid crazy ass down the aisle!!

    I'm so worn out and we are still a little over 9 weeks away!! NINE WEEKS

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterA Pissed Off Planner

    I agree that we don't need to rag on her for her budget, but it is correct that brides with that kind of budget need to know what they CAN get for their budget. I have started asking how much a bride wants to spend before I show her ANYTHING. I don't want to show her an invitation that will be $5.00 each when she only wants to spend $300 on 100 invitations.

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterStationery Slut

    Stationary Slut..I have worked with brides who have less than that for flowers (small intimate 35 guest weddings) I'm not going to bash her for her budget, however i will for her ignorance in willing to do her research. In one of our early conversations about floral's, even after explaining to her what she could expect to get for her money, she continued with pictures of elaborate bouquets and centerpieces!! I gave up in the end...as did her 1st florist!!

    September 20, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterA Pissed Off Planner

    I AGREE 100% WITH TELLING THE BITCH HOW IT IS. WHY WAIT FOR A "POSSIBLE CONFRONTATION? OR MAYBE A FABU REVIEW ON SOME LOSER REVIEW SITE THAT DAMAGES YOUR CAREER AND MAKES YOU WANT TO SEND A PILE OF SHIT TO THE ONE WHO LOVED YOU ENOUGH TO DESTROY YOUR CAREER -AWWWW HECK IT WASN'T REALLY YOUR FAULT BUT ISN'T SHE ENTITLED TO HAVE JUST ONE BAD DAY...UMM FUCK U AND THE DEVIL DOES WEAR WHITE....I MET HER AT LEAST A FEW HUNDRED TIMES.

    September 22, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterOn Your Side...100%

    While I totally appreciate your plight, I have to say... I have little sympathy for you in this case. From the sound of it, you've let her get away with calling the shots for far too long now...and you're now in too deep! Let me let you in on a little secret...it's called BOUNDARIES! A day-of coordinator doesn't GO TO TASTINGS, certainly doesn't advise on flower selections, and frankly shouldn't even be in regular communication with a bride 9 weeks away!!! It sounds like you need to totally overhaul your contract and specify exactly what's included in a day-of package (because trust me, I DO realize that some brides need it SPELLED OUT for them). And if a bride asks you to do something that's beyond the scope if what is detailed in your contract, you need to quote them ala carte pricing for such. Want ME to go w/you (day-of bride) to a tasting- $50. Want me to advise on floral selection-$50 per hour. And if you want to have detailed e-mail exchanges with me as far out as 9 weeks, book my month-of package and I *might* be willing to be a little more generous with communication.
    Oh, and her sending YOU a schedule of where you need to be the entire wedding day?!?! Umm, no ma'am! You best believe that I don't allow any such thing from my brides!
    Final assessment: yes, she's a raging lunatic who doesn't have realtic expectations but YOU should help establish that by at least not letting her run you over and call the shots!
    Sounds like you're a bit of a rookie...but a couple more dealings with brides like this and you'll learn. Boundaries are your FRIEND! You'll thank me for it later!

    September 24, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLittle Sympathy

    Having said all of the above, I am happy to report that I found someone whose day-of/month-of package includes some extras that are quite helpful to me as I finalize the plans. Still, because I know I haven't paid for full-blown planning, I am careful to keep my emails and inquiries limited to the services listed in the contract. I agree with the others; you definitely need to remind her of the terms of your current contract. You can offer to provide additional services as needed, but she needs to know she will be billed accordingly. Them's my unsolicited two-plus cents....

    September 30, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAM I Broke?

    I've been wondering if a wedding coordinator would be a good idea with helping keeping me in a budget. I'm still new to the wedding planning.

    February 28, 2013 | Unregistered Commenterjilleeann

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