The Ultimate Dress Code Guide for Wedding Guests

This post is in conjunction with  Harry’s . When it comes to etiquette + dress code, I called on the experts to help steer you in the right direction. You’re welcome!

Every wedding is different. The type of occasion you’re hoping to plan will likely influence how you and your guests are expected to properly dress. Getting an understanding of what kind of function it is and the group of people attending, will better your decision-making about how you should stylize yourself among your peers.

Depending on your invitation you’re going to want to decide right away. With that in mind, use our tips below to complete your bad-ass look for the big day.

White Tie vs Black Tie

At the most formal level of a wedding, the expectation is that guests will be asked to abide by either white or black tie standards. Let’s start with white tie. This is the fanciest and most formal of any wedding dress code. It is known to be the “best of the best” look. For men, a tuxedo with tails, a white dress shirt, and a white tie are required. However, be sure to check the invitation as it may list other requests as well. Likewise for women, selecting your most elegant dress as if you’re attending a gala will be your best bet. Many white tie functions have strict restrictions and requirements so just be keen to abide whatever the bride and groom might ask.

On the other hand, black tie weddings are the most common dress code at weddings. While black tie is a step down in formality from white tie, it is still a very formal event. At these kinds of functions, men should be expected to wear their nicest black tuxedo with an accompanying white dress shirt and black tie. If you want to mix it up with a bow tie, try it out as it can add a little pizazz to a pretty standard look. For women, your options are open. Whether you go with a formal gown or a dressy cocktail dress, this will be when you have to evaluate the kind of wedding and make your choice from there.

Formal vs Casual

If black or white tie is not the vibe you’re going for, the next expectation would be a “formal” dress code. The beauty of a “formal” wedding is that you are welcome to dress with a black-tie wedding if you choose. While it’s not entirely necessary, you won’t look out of place. For ladies, there is no real difference between black tie and a formal event. This means you can go with either an elegant dress or something more casual. Heels or flats are both acceptable and can match your outfit perfectly, just remember to keep your comfort in mind.

The same goes for male guests. At a formal even you have the option to either go all out and wear a tuxedo, but if you won’t look out of place if you opt for a dressed-down look in a nice shirt and tie.

Other Necessities

No matter the dress code, there will be other necessities on your checklist that you’ll have to take care of for the big day. While your outfit will be the majority of your look, the “extras” that will make you stand out should not be forgotten, and can truthfully, make or break your outfit.

For men: Facial hygiene will be most important for male guests as they prepare their look. Starting with their hair, you should be sure that your hair is cut and styled to perfection to prevent any messy situations and potential bad photographs. Likewise, make sure your facial hair is just on point as your hair. Whether you choose to tame your beard or completely shave it off, make sure you shave and upkeep with top-line shaving products days before the wedding to give you the best look.

For women: After it comes to picking out your dress, you’re going to want to decide how to accessorize yourself to match your outfit. Starting with jewelry, you’re going to want to pick something that matches the occasion. If it’s more of a formal event selecting appropriate earrings and necklaces to match the vibe make more sense, rather than fun-colored or flashy, which would better fit a more casual scene. 

In terms of makeup, be sure to decide on how you want to do your makeup and make it match the function. For example, if your wedding is outdoors you may want to do less makeup with a more natural look, rather than you would for a wedding indoors. Don’t ever overdo your look and remember that everyone at the wedding is close friends and family so you shouldn’t stress about applying too much.

Photo by Mark Zamora on Unsplash

Don't Let the Size of Your Wedding Dress Dictate Your Self Worth!

That’s me before the party I attended last week in a wedding dress! And, without makeup!

That’s me before the party I attended last week in a wedding dress! And, without makeup!

“Oh my goodness, you look beautiful.” said the sales woman to the bride in the princess wedding gown.

“I think this is it. But...” her voice trailed off.

“But, what? You truly look remarkable.” she said in a high pitched chipper voice.

“It’s a 14.” the bride said quietly.

“Look past the size. This is the second time you’ve tried on this dress over the past week. I’m thinking this ‘the one’. Forget about what size it is. It doesn’t matter.” said the sales woman.

“You’re right!” she said with a twirl.

I am a wedding planner, wedding podcaster and wedding blogger. I surround myself with everything related to weddings, and it’s pretty safe to say that I’m deeply immersed the wedding world. But, until last week, I was not as immersed as I had previously thought. After all of these years, I totally missed something. Shopping for a wedding dress. Or the extreme experience of shopping for a wedding dress. You know, the experience of trying on several wedding dresses in several different sizes, several different styles and several different shapes? That one. Oddly enough, it’s an experience I had last week at a popular wedding dress chain.

As most of you know, I eloped. And while I didn’t end up wearing my wedding dress on my wedding day, I did try on wedding dresses with my mom, and shockingly, it was super easy. My pre-children body lent itself to a perfect A-Line dress; one that I found almost immediately. We were in a small little store off the beaten path, and the only two people in the shop (aside from the owner). It was luxurious. It was perfect. And, it was a total anomaly. I dodged a bullet without realizing I need to duck. Because my experience then, versus my experience trying on wedding dresses last week, was vastly different.

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Drinking from a unicorn straw!

Last week, my experience was fun and miserable at the same time. It tested my normally confident and secure self, and made me question if I should even be trying on dresses at all. I mean, I’m not a bride. The dress was for an industry party that required guests to dress, “so extra” or over the top. And, I was going as a Bitchless Bride! So what the fuck was I doing trying on these dresses that made me feel shitty? Seriously, why make myself miserable for the sake of a party? I didn’t HAVE to go as a bride, I wanted to. But, I pushed through it. And I made myself push through because if I were a (real) bride like you, I’d have to find a dress, and that reasoning gave me the determination I needed to keep going. It forced me to change my perspective.

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LOVE LOVE LOVE Danielle Duane, Jill Person + George Horemotis!!! We were EXTRA AS FUCK!

Once I decided that I wasn’t leaving without a dress, I started pulling every style, shape and size. I told myself that I wasn’t going to look at the evil little tag with the bullshit number testing every fiber of my self confidence. Because it wasn’t real. It wasn’t consistent. And it sure as hell wasn’t worth completely undoing years of self love for one fucking dress. So, I pulled sizes ranging from 6-16, and some were enormous and some I couldn’t pull past my thighs. And suddenly I was having fun. Well, in-between the sweating from pulling the dresses, trying them on and my irritated skin, it was fun. But, I learned something that day that I’ll never forget. I learned how powerful it was to change my perspective. My mood literally went from self loathing to fuck it in an instant. And, since I PREACH perspective on the podcast + blog, I thought I’d practice it.

Bridey, my experience could have set me back years. I mean, this experience was far worse than shopping for jeans. And we all know that jean shopping is no picnic. But, the decision to give zero fucks about a meaningless number in a dress and the decision to keep moving, changed my entire experience. It changed everything. I walked out of there with a dress (and earrings and a necklace and a headband veil). And that night at the party, I fucking rocked it! I was a badass Bitchless Bride! The best part? Several people thought I was wearing my actual wedding dress! Little did they know that I bought it the day before, and guerrilla taped the hem(s) so I could avoid falling down.

OMG… Jenny Williamson, Michelle DeVoe, Jill Person + George Horemotis! Yaaaassss!!!

OMG… Jenny Williamson, Michelle DeVoe, Jill Person + George Horemotis! Yaaaassss!!!

I’m sharing this story with you because I hope that by reading this article, you’ll remember to dose up with a shitload of perspective before you begin your wedding dress journey. Go in strong and stay strong. Ignore the bullshit “size” in the dress and go for what fits and feels good! Got it? Good!! Stay Bitchless!

Casting AWESOME Engaged Couples for a NEW Docuseries!!!!

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Bridey, this is only the second time I have agreed to share a wedding casting call with you (and, trust me, I get asked A LOT!). WHY? Why not help your FABULOUS ass get famous AND receive help planning your wedding? Well, I don't usually promote casting calls because more often than not, I find TV shows in the wedding space to be a complete and utter abomination of an industry I love (and love to hate). Usually these shows are an over the top celebration of bad bridal behavior, and it pisses me off. But, working with a hilarious wedding expert + her peeps? Ummmm… A MAZ ING! And while the hilarious wedding expert is not me (sad, but true), it’s the super funny + incredible Jamie Lee! I 100% appreciate her work, and that of the production company, ITV America, producing the show. So, here I am, sharing with you, because I want you to succeed! So, check out the two fliers below, and tell me how it all turns out!!

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Brideys! Are you sold yet? I am! I’ll TOTALLY get married again just to have the chance to be around these peeps! And, look down… Seriously? QUEER EYE!!! Yaaasssss!!!

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You’re welcome!

XO,

BB

When Starting Your Wedding Planning Feels Insurmountable… Why Starting in the Middle (or at the End) Can Change your Perspective… A Personal Anecdote + Some Advice

“UGH!!! I’m so FRUSTRATED!“ I whined loudly. “I have the idea, I know what I want to say, but I cannot get it out of my head and onto the fucking paper.” I said banging my head on the desk

“So, don’t start at the beginning.” My husband said causally. “Start in the middle or at the end.

“Oh my God! You’re a fucking genius. Why didn’t I think of that?” I said. 

“Because, I’m smarter than you.” he teased.

But, the thing is, I did. I did think about starting in the middle; just not for the project I was struggling to begin... I thought about that for you, bridey, in an earlier post about quitting your wedding planning. But, this recent stroke of genius (thanks to my hus) got me thinking that perhaps I should help you to change your perspective. Change your focus, and start your wedding planning from the middle instead of from the beginning. Or at the end instead of the middle. Or at the beginning because that is what works for you. I mean, sure there’s etiquette, and timelines and “suggestions”, but if it doesn’t work for you, then fuck it! It really doesn’t matter where you start. Start wherever the inspiration is flowing. Just start. That’s what I did, and it totally worked. 

Just like you, bridey, I felt (and still feel) completely overwhelmed by this project because I’ve never done it before, and I really have no idea what I’m doing. I’m in unfamiliar territory, and hot damn is it uncomfortable! Right??! And, although we’re in the midst of two completely different obstacles, it’s an obstacle nonetheless. But, starting in the middle changed my trajectory, it changed my path, it made this project feel like something I could absolutely accomplish, but at my pace and in my own way. 

It felt a lot like when I started the BB podcast. I had no idea what the fuck I was doing. Like zero idea. I knew I wanted to host my own show, and say whatever felt right (for me, but more so for you, bridey), and this was how I was going to do it. Over the years, I had been in bed with a few networks, trying like mad to bring Bitchless Bride to TV, but their fear of out-of-the-box concepts and something different than what’s already out there stifled my dreams, and my dream for you. So, I took the plunge! I jumped right in. And, I hired professionals to make it sound FAB, edit + produce it, and now it’s all mine. 

So, now, I’m starting this new and extremely intimidating project (attempting to write a pretty cool wedding show with a kickass production company), and it’s scary. And, until my hus suggested that I start in the middle, the struggle was VERY real. But, then I started. In the fucking middle!! And, unlike the podcast, where I jumped (more like leapt into a trust fall), this needed some more finessing, more thought, and a lot more structure (if you listen to my podcast, you know what I mean!). 

So, my advice for you, bridey? Listen to yourself. Where do YOU want to begin? What part of your wedding planning excites you? Then start there! You’ll be amazed at how quickly that excitement morphs into the planning the next step, and the next and the next. Your own excitement can be self-contagious (think I just made that up!). It will push you forward, and you may even enjoy the process! Just be sure that if you have your heart set on a particular venue/band/photographer, to give yourself enough time to secure them or that you’re date flexible (i.e.: Friday, Sunday or off season). Otherwise, dive in! Got it? Good! Then stay Bitchless!

Photo by Heather Miller on Unsplash

A Glamorous, Bohemian, Luxurious, and Super Sultry, Hawaiian Styled Shoot

Today, I feel like STICKING IT to this awful, Northeast weather. Snow? Really? Fucking snow? I’m not ready for it yet… So, instead of showing you the winter wedding I had planned for today, I switched gears and decided to show you something beautiful (not that the other post wasn’t beautiful, but there was snow in it!), something magnificent, something crafted and collaborated in Hawaii. And, even though we don’t go outdoors, you’ll still feel the openness and airiness of being outside because of the exquisite design and décor.

Bridey, there is so much fabulous inspiration captured in this styled shoot, that I will seriously be mad at you if you don’t take some of this deliciousness and incorporate it into your wedding. There’s color, there’s romance, there’s metallics, there’s greenery, there’s an A MAZ ING wedding dress... OMG, take your pick and run to the altar with it! When talented vendors get together and create beautiful scenery, it’s our job to do something about it, right? Enjoy!!

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Totally gorgeous! How could you NOT want to sit at this stunning table??

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Yaaaaassssssss!!! A million times yes!!!!

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This is extraordinary. It’s SO simple, but entirely elegant and beautiful.

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See what I mean about feeling open + airy?

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That dress!!! Those flowers!!! That table!! Oh my!

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I’ll be honest… When I first saw this pic, I thought the bride wasn’t wearing a top… And, I’m totally okay with that! But, she is! It’s just hidden behind the bouquet.

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Thank you to this group of very talented vendors for sharing a piece of Hawaii with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Amity Mason Photography LLC
Equipment Rentals + Signage: Pueo Designs
Macrame: Tied by the Sea
Design + Décor + Florals: Feather and Fern Maui
Location: Lahaina Loft

A Kickass and Awesomely Low Key Wedding Under a Willow Tree...

I mean… THAT’S a fucking KISS! And, I LOVE it! Right? (OMG!! I even write the word RIGHT! I’m supposed to work on saying that word less according to the Bitchless Bride podcast!) Anyway, meet Stacy + David, the B+G, who lost everything they owned in a house fire a year before they said “I do”. Bridey, imagine losing your home, your belongings, and having to completely rebuild while planning your nuptials. YIKES! Such a sad and difficult time… So, it’s not surprising to me that one evening, as they sat on the porch, watching as the sun disappeared behind the horizon, they decided it would be a beautiful experience to get married at sunset. Fast forward to a Tuesday in August, S+D were married an intimate ceremony on the family property. The only guests in attendance were close family and friends, seated in white chairs next to a pond, and below a weeping willow tree. 

Bridey, you know that I tend to go on and on about perspective on Bitchless Bride because it’s incredibly important for you recognize that you’re not only planning a wedding, but an ever after too. Right? And, just think about what this B+G had to endure before getting married, and think about how they persevered unscathed, together (literally + figuratively)… You’ll hear from Stacy throughout this post, and she’s a fucking rockstar. So, listen + learn + enjoy!

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Stacy: My bouquet was stunning!! We went to the local florist (A.H.Christiansons), and asked if they could do succulents because I knew for sure I wanted those. I'm pretty laid back and wanted to go with the flow about almost everything. They did such an amazing job taking the multiple different photo ideas I took to them, and made my unique bouquet. All the different flowers they used really matched our rustic and outdoor wedding so well. They also made the boutonniere have a little succulent and rose to match my bouquet.

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Stacy! You’re SO super cute! I love your tattoos and your tank!

Stacy: Even though we did a super small simple wedding, I knew I still wanted the traditional wedding dress. I knew I needed a strapless dress to show off my tattoos! The dress I got was strapless, had a sweetheart neckline, and was multilayered. It had a champagne colored under layer with a layer of ivory lace and a layer of simple beading. It had a long train, but not too long. As for the groom, he is tall and skinny so we decided to get a custom tailored suit. He went with a nice grey suit and got to customize the liner and everything!

Stacy’s dad drove her to the ceremony in his restored Jeep…

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WOW! Look at that stunning willow tree!!

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Stacy: I could not wait to finally get married! My house is actually right next to my grandparents where we got married. My dad drove me over in his old, blue jeep to then walk me down the isle. The best part of the day, was getting to marry my best friend with our closest family there.

These two? Phenomenal kissers!! Like, I can’t even…

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OMFG with the hand on the face… Stacy + David, I LOVE you guys!!!

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OB FUCK ING SES SED with those boots!!!!

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Stacy: My best advise for brides to be, is bigger isn’t always better. Don't stress over the details; everything will work out. We didn’t set up our actual ceremony space until 30 minutes before the wedding due to rain. Our small intimate backyard wedding was the best thing we could have done. Not only was it mostly stress free, but it didn’t take a lot of planning or decorating. So don't stress and enjoy it! AMEN to that, Stacy!!!

CHEERS!

Thank you Stacy + David for sharing your BEAUTIFUL wedding with Bitchless Bride. I love your story!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Lindsay Dawn Photography
Bakery: Giant Eagle Bakery
Floral Designer: A. H. Christiansons
Submitted via Two Bright Lights

A Dark and Moody, Gothic-ly Fantastic, and Supremely Edgy Styled Shoot

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Soooo… I wanted to get into the Halloween spirit without getting super Halloween-y. Because, honestly, as much as I LOVE Halloween, I’m already over it. Why? Well… I’ve already eaten way too much candy, already dressed my kids up one-hundred-fucking-times (before today), and already spent a ton of money on this holiday. So, I’m fucking done. And, I still have to get through trick-or-treating tonight!! UGH. At least there is more candy to be had, and a well hidden flask… Buuuuutttt, I did want to show you, bridey, something dark, moody, edgy and all around amazing on Halloween, and this styled shoot was a happy medium between me + Halloween.

This styled shoot features a STUNNING, tattooed bride in a black wedding dress (YES!!), a totally HOT groom, minus the traditional tux or fancy suite, and absolutely awe-inspiring details, delicious enough to steal for your own wedding. I’m OBSESSED with the décor and how it totally contradicts itself, and basically the entire gloomy yet cool backdrop of an unkept farmhouse. Remember, bridey, this is YOUR wedding! If you see something inspiring (like everything showcased below), then DO something inspiring! Enjoy!

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This table is awesome! I love the “royal” chairs paired with the black goblets and gold chargers…

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These days, I’m seeing SEVERAL wedding rings that aren’t rockin’ (total pun) a diamond as a center stone. Look how FAB!

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Um. Hi. I love your dress. I love your makeup. And, I love everything about these photographs!!

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Remember how I said “hot” groom? Yeah…

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Seriously!!! That black wedding dress is truly fantastic!

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STFU with the fur!!! OMG.

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A giant “thank you” to Bethany Melvin for sharing this Halloween alternative, styled shoot, for me to present today on Bitchless Bride!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Bethany Melvin Photography
Dress Designer: Nicole Miller
Invitation Designer: b.invited
Event Designer: Walker Down the Aisle
Jewelry: Sticks & Steel
Tuxedo + Mens Attire: JH & Sons
Hair + Makeup: Sabreena Frances
Floral Designer: Elaborations
Equipment Rentals: Ideal Wedding and Events

A Boho Meets the Beach Wedding Filled with Amazing Surprises, a Few Setbacks and a Brilliant Comeback!

See Kristen + Ben just walking along like it’s no big thing? Like they don’t have a care in the whole wide world? Kristen is just stunningly strolling in that fucking GORGEOUS wedding dress, avoiding pelican poop, while holding the hand of her handsome husband… No big deal. Right? Wrong. Amazingly enough, the story of this B+G is much deeper than this beautiful photograph. Kristen + Ben endured a ton of drama which could have turned their wedding planning experience into a living hell, but instead, was something they got through together… Well, together, and with their wedding planner. What “hell” am I referring to? Read it from the bride herself, and then go be inspired!!

From the bride: The best advice I could give a future bride would be to hire a wedding planner (especially if you are trying to plan a destination wedding). We had some major setbacks throughout the wedding planning process- Hurricane Irma- and along with that came two changes of venue, date changes, vendor changes, guest list changes and multiple invitations. Even though you may think you don't want to spend the money, it was well worth it for my sanity. Nicole from Simply You weddings was a rock star!

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Kristen! You’re incredible!! I love everything about you!!!

Bridey, are you dying over Kristen’s kickass wedding dress? I am!

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OMFG. That bouquet of flowers! I’m losing my mind! WHOA!

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From the bride: The most anticipated moment for me was seeing Ben, my fiancé's face, when we had the first look. It is just such a special moment to know that your about to commit to that person for life and I'm so glad Mike was able to capture that so well.

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From the bride: The first time I tried on wedding dresses at Olivia Bowen bridal boutique, I knew right away that I did not want to have a traditional wedding day style. I went with the Australian based designer, Made with Love, for my gown who I feel made the ultimate dress by incorporating a natural color pattern into the dress but still the traditional feel with an all lace gown. 

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Bridey, remember how this is plan B??? THIS is PLAN FUCKING B!! Just look how breathtaking this ceremony is!

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Sniff, sniff… I can’t get past this moment…

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Cheers!!! Two for me, please!

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The lighting, the venue, the wedding… OH MY!

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Kristen, I LOVE your facial expression here!

From the bride: I personalized the wedding with a gourmet donut bar including fresh fried donuts and just about any topping imaginable. The self serve bar included custom"to-go" bags that read "Glazed and delicious from the new Mr and Mrs". (PS- See the date on the bags? Different than the actual wedding day. I LOVE LOVE LOVE that they still used the bags with the original wedding date!)

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Thank you K+B for sharing your A MAZ ING wedding (part two). It’s clear that you persevered through the cray and had an incredible wedding day!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Freas Photography
Event Planner: Simply You
Transportation: Old Town Trolley
Cake Designer: Key West Cakes
DJ: DJ Buggy
Equipment Rentals: Keys Audio Productions, LLC
Floral Designer: Marathon Florist
Ceremony + Reception Location: Southernmost House
Hair Stylist: Bella Luxe Hair & Makeup

An Funny Anecdote from a Beautiful Wedding... Proving Once Again Why Wedding Planners are a Necessity!

Bridey, you know that over the years I have strongly suggested that you hire a wedding planner no matter your budget, and no matter how large or small your wedding is? Well, I haven’t been blowing smoke up your ass. There are some seriously solid reasons to hire a wedding professional to help you with your wedding plans, logistics and the several other moving parts for your big day. And, as I have preached this sentiment over and over again on Bitchless Bride until I am fucking blue in the face, some of you still would rather wing it. And, I get it. I really, really do. We are not cheap. We feel unpractical. We feel superfluous. But, we are not. We are “fixers”, not in the Ray Donovan kind of way (we aren’t hiding any bodies or embezzling money), but in the true sense of the word, FIX. We clean up some pretty big messes, literally and figuratively, and we make sure that you never know there was a mess in the first place. And, frankly, that alone is worth our price, and then some.

I’d like to share an anecdote with you based on a recent wedding that went off without a hitch (pun absolutely intended)… Well, that’s what the B+G would tell you because they didn’t know what really happened behind the scenes. They didn’t know about how I re-iced part of their wedding cake after somebody literally rammed into it (before the B+G saw it), scooped dog shit off of the dance floor, filled a gaping hole in the floor of the tent with rocks so that ankles wouldn’t be broken, adjusted the diagram so that the tables matched the wishes of the bride (and people wouldn’t sit at the wrong table), and creatively hid some of the filthy linen that was provided by a third party vendor. Bridey, would these mishaps have ruined their day? Probably not. Would they have caused unnecessary drama and stress? Absolutely.

“Are you the wedding planner?”, she asked. 

Uh-oh… That was not a good question when the face staring back at me looked frightened and mortified all wrapped up into one. 

“I am.” I said confidently.

“I am SOOOOO sorry, but I just tripped and bumped into the cake.” she said with embarrassment (and fear). 

“Don’t worry, I’ll take care of it.” I said as I began heading towards the cake, not knowing what I was up against. 

HOLYSHITGODDAM. Yeah, that’s what I thought when I saw that fucking cake. I mean… She FELL into the cake. Seriously, I’m surprised she didn’t have frosting dripping from her elbow. Fuuuuuccckkkk…. So, I took a deep breath, remembered that I studied pastry a lifetime ago, and went into action. I borrowed a flat spatula from the caterer, stole icing from the extra cakes we had for service (the ones in which wouldn’t be seen by the guests), and fixed that cake. The guest was relieved and I was the hero that nobody would ever know existed. Phew!

“Is that shit?” asked the DJ. 

“Huh?” I responded.

“Is that shit on the dance floor?” he asked (again).

“Yup. That’s shit.” I said. 

SERIOUSLY? Yup. There was shit on the dance floor. Not human (THANK GOD), but dog shit. In retrospect, I really shouldn’t have been surprised. We were in a GIANT tent in a beautiful backyard and there were dogs. Not running around during the wedding, but I’m thinking they went out prior to, pooped, and were then stowed in the house. Somebody must have stepped in the poop and then headed to the dance floor. UGH. So, I got a hot, wet rag, dropped it on the floor (all very casually), and pretended to dance a little bit all while wiping the shit from the floor. Certainly a new experience for me.

“There’s a hole.” a dude from catering staff said.

“In in bucket?” I couldn’t help myself! 

“No. In the floor near that guest table.” he said pointing to a FUCKING hole in the floor next to a guest table (that couldn’t be moved at this point in game).

“Ugh.” I mumbled.

What to do? What to do? ROCKS! There were tons of rocks on the property that I could stuff into that fucking hole. I had pockets in my suit coat… So, my assistant and I filled our pockets with rocks, dropped them into the hole in the floor, stomped on them, and took care of a potential liability. Again, a hero that nobody would ever know about.

“The tables are backwards.” I said as the rental company was leaving.

“No they’re not.” he said.

“Look.” I said as I showed him the diagram that the bride worked her ass off on.

“Oh.”

Yeah. Oh! That simple mistake could have cost a shitload of confusion as guests were taking their seats. So, I fixed it, and I have a large bruise to prove it. 

Bridey… All of this happened on the day of the wedding. Quite frankly, there’s a few more details I could share, but those were the highlights. And, after all of that hard work + planning that went into this FABULOUS event, those “things” that happened ON THE WEDDING DAY, could have very well undone everything. We went round and round over the logistics, food, music, budget, YOUNAMEIT!!!! So, even if you’re working with a small budget, consider hiring a wedding planner as your “happiness insurance”. Can’t afford a full-time planner? Then hire a “day of” or “month of” planner to help you, and to be there on the day of your wedding so that you’re not faced with potential disaster. Got it? Good! Stay bitchless!!!

Photo by Aidan Hampson on Unsplash

BB's Hard at Work... Get Ready for Something BIG!!!

Brideys, SO sorry I haven’t posted anything inspirational or helpful this week. I’ve had my head down working on something BIG, something HUGE, something ENORMOUS! Get ready for the Bitchless Bride podcast!!!!! Yup! The Bitchless Bride podcast is launching next Thursday, October 18, 2018, and I couldn’t BE more excited! Be prepared to learn + laugh your ass off when you tune in! Oh, and feel free to share this news with anybody who will listen!!! Stay tuned… Pun 100% intended!

XO,

BB

Photo by Mikayla Mallek on Unsplash

A Super Elegant, Super Chill, New York Wedding, Rockin' Live Music + Cocktails

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Bridey, if you are completely stunned by this gorgeous wedding dress off of the hanger, just wait until you see it on the bride! OMFG! And, you know that I don’t usually open with a pic of the wedding dress (nothing against wedding dresses, but a nice photograph of the B+G is always a good way to start a post!), but I seriously think this one spoke to me. And, no, I’m not drinking at my desk or smoking or vaping or whatever… I was just moved by the beautiful details. Although, once you see it ON, it’s truly magical! Anyway, Nicole + Jon wanted a low key wedding with live music. How awesome does that sound, right? Well, that’s exactly what they got.

This B+G had their decided against a traditional wedding venue, and celebrated their nuptials at a restaurant. I gotta say, I like their style. Before my hus and I decided to elope, we put a deposit down at a FAB restaurant in Boston. Because not only did we love the food and ambiance, we wanted to break away from the ballroom, and celebrate in a space that felt more like us. That’s exactly what what N+J did! Enjoy this incredibly low key yet totally fantastic wedding!

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On occasion, Jon plays the bass in a wedding band…

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See what I mean about the details? A MAZ ING!

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The dress + the birdcage veil = STUN NING!

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Cheers!

Just look at those fabulous bridesmaids dresses! I LOVE LOVE LOVE all of the gold, and how they’re all different!

The dress is tea length! OMG! It just keeps getting better!!

Beautiful. Such a great shot!

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Great smooch!

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Lovin’ this B+G together!!!

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YAAAASSSSSSS!!!!

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I truly love seeing all of the guests happily dancing and celebrating with the B+G! Thank you Nicole and Jon for sharing your wedding with Bitchless Bride!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Casey Fatchett Photography
Hair Stylist: Fox and Jane Salon
Floral Designer: Adore Floral Design
Band: Rhythm Dogs
Dress Designer: Michelle & Henry Roth Bridal
Reception Venue: Public