The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Bridey, Don't Go Away Mad, Just Go Away!
Based on the title of this post, and this FAB photograph, you can totally tell that I'm a product of growing up in the late 80s and early 90s. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that some of you have no idea what the hell I'm talking about! I quoted a Mötley Crüe song... Just click on the link if you're curious (and be prepared for some really bad music). Anyway... I was chatting with a friend of mine and we decided that sometimes it's easier to tell the bitch to go away (now) as opposed to suffering through whatever may be in store for the future. I mean... Hopefully she won't go away mad, she'll just go away... Better now than a week before the wedding, right?
My friend went so far as to say that she'd PAY a particularly brutal client to get out of her life, and when I balked, she said something that struck a chord... "You can either buy happiness today, or pay the price for a bad decision in the future." Holy shit! Right? Good point! And in the wedding industry, paying the price for a bad decision can last for a long fucking time.
Bridey, this is not limited to vendors firing brides. If you aren't feeling the love with a vendor you've hired, then cut the cord and move on. Fire them. Trust me, the sooner the better. Life is too short and weddings are too expensive for you to be unhappy. I mean... Sometimes it's worth losing a little money to gain a lot of happiness. However, it works both ways, so don't be surprised if one of your vendors gives you the axe. If you're a giant pain in the ass or demanding more than they are willing to give (or that you are willing to pay), then you could be on the chopping block. There are a few brides I wish I had been smart enough to get rid of early on instead of suffering through the wedding planning, and I know I'm not the only planner who feels this way.
Look, it will be an awkward conversation, and it will be uncomfortable, but the outcome is worth it's weight. We are so sensitive to hurting somebody that sometimes we don't do what's best for everyone involved; the greater good. Seriously, think about all of the couples who stay together (and shouldn't) simply because they are afraid of hurt feelings when in the end, both of them would be much happier apart.
While you and your vendor are not dating (at least I hope not for obvious reasons!), you are entering into a relationship once the contract is signed, and sometimes it's not the right fit. So, rather than stick it out unhappily, move on even if that means you have to pay your way out. Because money can buy you happiness today, and happiness today is much better than suffering in the future. Agreed?
Image via Lake Lanier Weddings Blog