So, bridey, there are like three scenes in this engagement shoot, and I love each and every one of them! It's a cultural, romantic and playful session all wrapped into one. Lately, I've been pretty obsessed with not having a boring engagement shoot, and Namrata and Jason totally succeeded in avoiding the mundane! As you enjoy the pretty pics, I'll let Namrata take it away and tell you about how she and Jason got together.
From the bride: We met on match.com; he sent me a cute message on if I had my pumpkin carved since it was around Halloween. It took a month of messaging back and forth and then I finally meet Jason in person at lemon bar in Atlantic beach.
Namrata, you are completely stunning! Lovin' the scenery...This is a steamy pic!Stunning...
You know what makes me laugh and feel annoyedat the same time? When I meet with a potential client, gaze down at her ring finger, and notice that there is no sparkly rock shining up at me. I immediately think that this meeting is a giant waste of time. And you know what? So does everybody else in "the industry". Bridey, if you're not engaged yet, please don't call me. I know... I know... "It's going to happen soon; it's imminent." But, you all think that. You all think that he or she will pop the question over the next romantic dinner or stroll down the beach, and while you're probably not wrong that it will happen at some point, you're still wasting my time. Because it's not soon enough for me to take you seriously. So, bridey, until you get the rock, get off my clock!
Look, I know it feels like I'm being really mean, but allow me to shed some light on the situation from the perspective of your wedding vendors. We're busy with weddings or events every weekend, but we also know that securing future business needs to happen even when we don't have time to spare. So, when you, bridey, call us and inquire about our services, we put on a face, go into our spiel, and sell our souls to make you like us over the phone. Because that's what we do. And, if the phone call was a success, then an initial meeting is confirmed, and you've officially made onto our books. Score!! (A bit of a side note? Now I make it a point to weave the whole "how'd you get engaged" question into all initial phone calls so that I can avoid these situations...)
Fast forward to the meeting...
Every now and then, I get an email from a distraught bride fretting over such a universal topic, that I feel like I would be missing out on an opportunity to educate all of you brideys, so today I am sharing it on Bitchless Bride. Below, you will see an email which I received from "Bridget" regarding her mother's obsession with her iPhone. Bridget is asking for some advice on how to handle her MOB's addiction with said phone, and wants to be sure that mama is present, both physically and mentally, for the big day.
I am getting married in about six weeks. While my mother and I don't have the perfect relationship, she has been phenomenal through the planning process. She has kept her personal opinions to herself and aimed to give my fiance and I the wedding we desire. She has been key to planning the event from 1,500 miles away.
The problem? My mother is addicted to her iPhone. She is constantly texting, emailing, Facebooking and often during very important times. Much of this is because she runs her own business and doesn't have normal hours (I am sure you can relate), but she has yet to set boundaries. For instance, when I come home to visit, she is often on her phone during family dinner and movie night. I am afraid my wedding will be a victim of her addiction too.
I am very worried that my mom will miss a momentous event in her and my life because she is so concerned with taking pictures she can text or post to Facebook. She has worked very hard and waited a long time (8 years of us dating) for this day and I want her to be fully present. I know I can't tell her what to do, not that would I consider that, but is there a tactful way to let her know I would like her to be engaged in the day and not so concerned with her virtual presence?
My very first thought, is that while it would be inapprorate to tell her what do to, you certainly CAN tell her how you feel. You don't have to be nasty about it, bridey, but you should definitely have a candid conversation about how you are feeling.
(The heart in the inside of the bride's wedding dress? Made from her father's work uniform (he passed away seven years ago). Her mom had it secretly sewn into the dress. A fantastic way to remember without getting too sad...)
Who knew that Gloucester, Massachusetts was such a fantastic location for a wedding? I mean, probably like you, I associate Gloucester with George Clooney and Mark Wahlberg looking especially scruffy and handsome in A Perfect Storm, not a seaside wedding locale! But, when I saw these pictures, I fell in love with the rocks, the ocean and bride (and her hair of course)!
But... I fell even deeper in love with the bride after I read her very honest, super funny answers to BB's questionnaire. Coffee may have even made its way onto my computer screen after I read the answer to question #9. I DEFINITELY wasn't expecting what I read, and yet I totally loved and appreciated her honesty. Seriously, if the wedding industry had bloopers (that were actually funny), this would certainly make the top five!
What I really loved? I loved how candid Betsy was with how she felt about planning her wedding. She found it extremely time consuming and stressful. Brideys, some of you won't enjoy the process, and that's okay! You can still have a lovely wedding even if you didn't like planning it! Betsy didn't, and her wedding was totally FAB! So, brideys, I hope you enjoy this whimsical seaside wedding and Betsy's candor... I know I did!
1. Bridey, how did you meet your spouse? (The short and sweet version please.)
Technically, we met in fifth grade. We had always bounced around the same group of friends throughout high school, and college. Then around the age of 26 we both bounced into the same group at the same time. He was oblivious, but I totally crushed on him for an entire summer before I finally made my move. What was my move you ask: Going straight up to him at a concert and telling him that we should make out. Real smooth huh?!
I love everything about this wedding. I love Wendy's amazingly gorgeous wedding colors. I love her wedding dress, her veil and her style. I love the simplicity of the wedding. But, most of all? I love that Wendy kept her cool throughout the wedding planning. She and Jay planned and executed their wedding with style and grace without the drama, when there very well could have been plenty (see question number 8!), AND... all on a tight budget!
Just look at these photographs! I mean... They tell a beautiful story about two people in love, and it shows with every shot! So, brideys, enjoy the eye candy, but most of all? I hope you walk away from this post with a little bit of perspective! You can have the wedding you want without breaking the bank, and you don't have to be a bitch to make it happen!
1. Bridey, how did you meet your spouse? (The short and sweet version please.)
Jay and I met shopping in Target. Well, I was shopping and he was working. I was chatting with a friend of mine who also works there, saw Jay and definitely felt the attraction. After I had left, Jay went up to my friend Travis and said "I don't know who that redhead you were talking to was, but I think I'm in love". Travis immediately texted me, but left it up to us to introduce ourselves. A month and many unnecessary shopping trips later, we finally spoke and set up our first date.
I find myself GLUED to these wedding photographs. An incredibly beautiful bride, a glowing groom and a wintery-tastic backdrop! Who could ask for anything more? Oh, a little more time perhaps? Yeah, they planned this wedding in three short months! I mean...
Jasna and Adam's wedding was at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont in March of 2012; the details of this wedding are absolutely stunning.