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Deals and Discounts... Should You be Asking Your Wedding Vendors for a Discount?

Bridey, I’m friends with pretty much all of my wedding vendors on FaceBook, and recently, a fellow vendor posted about how it’s almost inescapable for a bride and groom not to ask for a discount these days. Somehow, it’s become instilled in their DNA because of all of the free (and usually shitty) advice out there suggesting that couples must immediately ask if vendor pricing is flexible. Seriously, I’d say that at least 60% of recently engaged couples come out and ask for a discount before learning what they are receiving. They gear up for negotiation as if they are walking into a used car dealership… Like as wedding vendors, our prices are fluid, and adjustable and if they’re not, then they should be. But, why? Why has this become the “norm” in the hospitality industry? I mean, has it really come down to the fact that if we don’t automatically offer a discount, then we’re not being hospitable? Well, fuck that.

Look, I have said time, and time again, that, “if you don’t ask (for a discount) then you don’t get”. And, I still believe it. But, just like everything else in wedding planning and in life for that matter, one must use advice carefully and thoughtfully. Seriously, maybe I should have added the caveat that you must listen and understand the terms of the provisions before jumping the gun and asking for a discount. Perhaps once you learn more about what the vendor you are considering hiring for your wedding is offering, it won’t occur to you to ask for a discount simply because their pricing is fair for what you are receiving. Forgive me… I really thought I didn’t need to highlight this particular point, but apparently I should have. 

Bridey, think about it like it’s foreplay… Give your wedding vendors a chance to finish before the encore. Plain and simple. For example, the FB friend I referenced? He said that, “Couples always ask for a winter/off-season discounts. Don’t you think that this (winter) weather might be a little bit more stressful than a nice summer or fall day?” Bridey, really think about this… Picture your vendors driving to the wedding venue, loading in (and out) their equipment, and then safely getting home… in a snowstorm. If anything, you should be paying more for “off season”, not less. 

The exception? Wedding venues. Yes, you should still listen to their offerings, and not rush into asking for a discount, but in my experience, venues such as hotels, country clubs, etc. would rather provide a discount and have a wedding as opposed to no wedding at all, especially in their “off season”. Why? Because at the end of the day, these venues are a corporation with bosses to answer to, and monetary goals to meet and achieve, not an individual wedding vendor whose profession puts food on the table for their children. It’s a completely different animal. Usually, your photographer, videographer, DJ, invitation designer, harpist, pianist, wedding planner, etc. are one or two peeps trying to make a living. And, when you ask for a discount (immediately or not), you’re completely undermining their bottom line.

So, where does this leave us? Plain and simple, bridey, do you homework. Find out what the appropriate range for each wedding vendor, and then meet with them to find out why they fall on either side (or the middle) of the spectrum. If you love them, but they are truly out of your price range, then, and only then, ask if they have flexibility with their pricing. But, don’t be surprised if they don’t, because just like you, they have bills to pay and mouths to feed. Got it?

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A Lovely, Laid Back and Rainbow-Tastic Colorado Wedding

Since BB's inception, I've written quite a bit about what it means to be a good bride. I mean... Bitchless Bride has dedicated over four years to educating brides all over the world on basic (and sometimes extreme) bridal etiquette, how to behave as a bridey babe, and what it means to be a favorite amongst your wedding vendors, all while still achieving those bridal milestones. So, when I put it out there that I was looking for brides who were easy to work with, totally "bitchless", and a photographer FAVE, I received this fucking amazing, rustic chic wedding of Michelle and Patrick. 

As you scroll along, it won't take much for you to see why I love the M+P so much. For starters, I love that Michelle had her bridesmaids wear whatever the hell they wanted! I know that's not for every bride, but let's be honest, we all know what looks good on us, and what doesn't, so wearing a kickass dress that you feel good in certainly allows a true glow to shine through in photographs. That coupled with the low key yet totally rusticy, barn wedding (with an A MAZ ING wedding cake!) had me love them even more. Plus, we all know that when it rains on your wedding day, it's good luck. Luck or not, it still fucking sucks. But... It doesn't suck so much when you get two rainbows out of the deal! Right? Totally deserved by the B+G! Enjoy!

Seriously? Can we please talk about how fantastic these bridesmaids dresses are??

Damn, girl! You look great!

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This is what boys do before they get married...

It really doesn't get better than this!

Totally love this badass shot!

Simple. Fabulous.

Whoa. Those clouds mean business! But! Look down!! DOUBLE RAINBOW!!

I can't...

Lovin' the escort cards and guest book!

Doesn't the space look exquisite? So simple, and yet so elegant... BTW... Those are bottles of hot sauce!

Um, hi. Holy hell with the ruffled cake! 

Hooray!!!

Thank you for sharing your FAB wedding with BB! Totally love you two!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Susannah Storch Photography
Venue: Raccoon Creek Golf Course

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ A Quick & Dirty Etiquette Refresher for All of You Brides to Be!

I feel a rant coming on... And maybe it's because I'm on vacation next week and I feel my patience wearing thin or maybe it's because I'm feeling completely burnt out from the craziness of wedding season, but this bridey really pissed me off. Know why? Well, she was a guest at this particular wedding (I knew she'd be there), and not only did she ask me several questions about her own wedding, comparing décor details and whatnot and even a few logistical questions, but she serial texted me décor ideas that she liked for her own wedding or would things she would change, as I was in the midst of running the event. Yeah... Are you fucking kidding me?

So, my clients obviously knew each other, which is great, but when I'm running the event that I have put my blood, sweat and maybe even a few tears into, get outta my face. Seriously. Bridey, your day will come, and right now, I'm fucking busy making sure this event is flawless and as much as I like you, you don't matter to me right now. You hardly exist. Plus, your wedding isn't for months, and therefore I'm not focused on it as I'm running around checking every last detail for wedding I am orchestrating, TODAY!!!

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Bridey, You're Embarrassing Me

You know those moments when your with a friend or your fiancé and they're doing something so incredibly embarrassing that you wish you could casually slip under the table and disappear? Or better yet, rewind and totally eliminate yourself from the situation in the first place? Well, now imagine that horror in a professional setting. Much worse, right? Yeah... Brutal.

So... recently, I worked with a bride who, oddly enough I actually liked, but seemed to make it her mission in life to say or do something so insanely out of line during every single one of our appointments that I almost had to fire her. Because no amount of pre-appointment "coaching" seemed to help. Her verbal vomit would just keep spewing and spewing. There were several times that I wanted to slit my fucking wrists. I mean... It was so bad that following most appointments, I felt the need to call my vendors and apologize for my bride's behavior. What kind of shit was she saying... In public? To real people?

Here we go... BTW, keep in mind that this chick can afford the finer things in life:

Why You Should Hire a Photographer AND a Videographer...

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A wedding day is a very special day in a couple’s life, which is why it is so important to have a video recording of the event! Through photographs and/or videos: tears, toasts and tantrums (hopefully there won’t be too many!), are captured and preserved so that couples can look back on the day when they proclaimed their love and commitment to each other.

If you have a big budget and can afford to hire both a photographer and videographer, then that’s awesome! As many couples have expressed their regrets after not hiring a wedding videographer.

Once considered a ‘luxury’, wedding videography is now becoming more and more common as we embrace the digital age with ferocity. This is happening despite the added cost of hiring both a videographer and photographer; but you really can’t go without either as they both offer different value when capturing your big day.

Bitchless Bride Video #16 - We Appreciate Your Business, But We DON'T Consider Ourselves Lucky

Brideys, enough is enough! Stop the entitled insanity! Your vendors are thrilled to work with you, but surprisingly, they expect to be paid for anything additional you want throughout your wedding planning. Don't expect anything for free simply because you've already signed on the dotted line.

BB's video leaving you wanting more? Then check out today's Vendor Vent! "Stop Penny Pinching Me, Bitch!!

I'm Still in Recovery

Today I feel sick. Today I feel sad. And I know what this is all about... I have the after-wedding hangover. Irregardless of how much I fucking hated this bride, I worked my ass off for over a year making all of the details fit perfectly into this colossal event. I mean, I worked with her for sixteen months. SIXTEEN MONTHS! And even though she was a total bitch and pretty much every moment I spent with her was excruciating,

I'm Not Going to Say "I Told You So"

I'm not going to say "I told you so", even though I am absolutely DYING to scream it at the top of my fucking lungs!!! Seriously, I am aching in my soul to tell this bride that she should have listened to me. And although I am a powerful source of knowledge, and definitely not afraid to put people (brides and vendors alike) in their place, I cannot force anybody to do anything once their mind is made up.

Be Smart... Hire a Professional

Remember the phrase “don’t shit where you eat”? I know I am being vulgar right now, but it’s the only way I can think of that will get my point across. How about this… Don’t hire your friends or family to perform a service for your wedding. Don’t have your soon to be brother-in-law photograph your wedding. Don’t have your best friend who enjoys baking make your wedding cake. And don’t have your cousin disc jockey. You know why? Because they will fuck it up…