Wedding Dress

Don't Let the Size of Your Wedding Dress Dictate Your Self Worth!

That’s me before the party I attended last week in a wedding dress! And, without makeup!

That’s me before the party I attended last week in a wedding dress! And, without makeup!

“Oh my goodness, you look beautiful.” said the sales woman to the bride in the princess wedding gown.

“I think this is it. But...” her voice trailed off.

“But, what? You truly look remarkable.” she said in a high pitched chipper voice.

“It’s a 14.” the bride said quietly.

“Look past the size. This is the second time you’ve tried on this dress over the past week. I’m thinking this ‘the one’. Forget about what size it is. It doesn’t matter.” said the sales woman.

“You’re right!” she said with a twirl.

I am a wedding planner, wedding podcaster and wedding blogger. I surround myself with everything related to weddings, and it’s pretty safe to say that I’m deeply immersed the wedding world. But, until last week, I was not as immersed as I had previously thought. After all of these years, I totally missed something. Shopping for a wedding dress. Or the extreme experience of shopping for a wedding dress. You know, the experience of trying on several wedding dresses in several different sizes, several different styles and several different shapes? That one. Oddly enough, it’s an experience I had last week at a popular wedding dress chain.

As most of you know, I eloped. And while I didn’t end up wearing my wedding dress on my wedding day, I did try on wedding dresses with my mom, and shockingly, it was super easy. My pre-children body lent itself to a perfect A-Line dress; one that I found almost immediately. We were in a small little store off the beaten path, and the only two people in the shop (aside from the owner). It was luxurious. It was perfect. And, it was a total anomaly. I dodged a bullet without realizing I need to duck. Because my experience then, versus my experience trying on wedding dresses last week, was vastly different.

Drinking from a unicorn straw!

Drinking from a unicorn straw!

Last week, my experience was fun and miserable at the same time. It tested my normally confident and secure self, and made me question if I should even be trying on dresses at all. I mean, I’m not a bride. The dress was for an industry party that required guests to dress, “so extra” or over the top. And, I was going as a Bitchless Bride! So what the fuck was I doing trying on these dresses that made me feel shitty? Seriously, why make myself miserable for the sake of a party? I didn’t HAVE to go as a bride, I wanted to. But, I pushed through it. And I made myself push through because if I were a (real) bride like you, I’d have to find a dress, and that reasoning gave me the determination I needed to keep going. It forced me to change my perspective.

LOVE LOVE LOVE Danielle Duane, Jill Person + George Horemotis!!! We were EXTRA AS FUCK!

LOVE LOVE LOVE Danielle Duane, Jill Person + George Horemotis!!! We were EXTRA AS FUCK!

Once I decided that I wasn’t leaving without a dress, I started pulling every style, shape and size. I told myself that I wasn’t going to look at the evil little tag with the bullshit number testing every fiber of my self confidence. Because it wasn’t real. It wasn’t consistent. And it sure as hell wasn’t worth completely undoing years of self love for one fucking dress. So, I pulled sizes ranging from 6-16, and some were enormous and some I couldn’t pull past my thighs. And suddenly I was having fun. Well, in-between the sweating from pulling the dresses, trying them on and my irritated skin, it was fun. But, I learned something that day that I’ll never forget. I learned how powerful it was to change my perspective. My mood literally went from self loathing to fuck it in an instant. And, since I PREACH perspective on the podcast + blog, I thought I’d practice it.

Bridey, my experience could have set me back years. I mean, this experience was far worse than shopping for jeans. And we all know that jean shopping is no picnic. But, the decision to give zero fucks about a meaningless number in a dress and the decision to keep moving, changed my entire experience. It changed everything. I walked out of there with a dress (and earrings and a necklace and a headband veil). And that night at the party, I fucking rocked it! I was a badass Bitchless Bride! The best part? Several people thought I was wearing my actual wedding dress! Little did they know that I bought it the day before, and guerrilla taped the hem(s) so I could avoid falling down.

OMG… Jenny Williamson, Michelle DeVoe, Jill Person + George Horemotis! Yaaaassss!!!

OMG… Jenny Williamson, Michelle DeVoe, Jill Person + George Horemotis! Yaaaassss!!!

I’m sharing this story with you because I hope that by reading this article, you’ll remember to dose up with a shitload of perspective before you begin your wedding dress journey. Go in strong and stay strong. Ignore the bullshit “size” in the dress and go for what fits and feels good! Got it? Good!! Stay Bitchless!

Wedding Planning + Side Hustle or Hobby = Wedding Planning Bliss

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Bridey, did you read the title and have a mini panic attack? Did you read the title and think, “isn’t this the same person who wrote, Why Planning Your Wedding Actually IS a Full Time Job!”? Did you read the title and think, “That bitch is crazy! How can I possibly add one more thing to all of my things?!!”? Trust me, when I wrote the title of this post, I realized that I was going to have a whole lot of explaining to do! But, here’s the actual thing, we get through the shit we don’t particularly enjoy so that we can move on to the shit we really do enjoy. Right? It doesn’t matter what “it” is, because the truth is, we all need motivation to get through the hard parts of life. So, we dangle the carrot of joy in front of our eager belly when we need a push, when we need a kick in the ass, when we need to finish whatever the fuck is weighing us down so that we can focus on what truly makes us happy. And, a lot of the time? It’s the shit we do on the side... It’s our side hustle or our hobby that becomes our “temple”.

So, bridey, time to get a hobby. Get a little somethin’ somethin’ on the side (obviously in the non-cheating sense of that phrase!!). Go do something that brings you joy; that makes you happy. For some of you, that may mean making some extra cash to put towards the wedding or an over-the-top wedding dress or some extravagance related to the wedding, and for others it’s truly just for fun; an escape from the planning which will allow you to separate yourself from the stress. But, whatever the case may be, go get your hustle/hobby on. It’ll save you... from YOU. But, no matter what your hustle/hobby is, bridey, dive in. Go crazy. Let go. Allow it to seep into your soul.

When I was discussing this hustle/hobby mission of mine with one of my friends, she asked, “So, what would I do? What would your hobby be?”. And after some serious consideration, the last bite of dessert and a swig of my cocktail, I told her that if I were in the midst of wedding planning (my own wedding, not yours), I’d take a class. Something I really look forward to; something scheduled. A class like martial arts or cooking; something that built on what I had learned the previous week so that making excuses for missing my new hobby would be uncomfortable. In my early 20s, I went to culinary school to become a pastry chef (see the extremely large pic of me below in cake class), and while I completed the program, I didn’t pursue the dream (because it became clear to me that I belonged in the front-of-the-house, engaging with people, not chatting in the back-of-the-house where my colleagues simply tolerated my enthusiasm), and my skills are super rusty. I’d love to take a cake decorating class, and update my skill because when I’m in the kitchen, I’m at peace, I’m focused on what I’m doing, and the noise of the rest of the world is quiet. 

Yeah, I made that cake, and those amazing white chocolate flowers!!

Yeah, I made that cake, and those amazing white chocolate flowers!!

That brings us back to you, bridey. What are you going to do to quiet the wedding planning noise? To be at peace? To make a little extra money? To learn something new? The options are pretty endless, seriously, just Google it, and you can see for yourself. The thing is, it has to excite you not stress you. The whole point of this is to escape, not to bring on additional stress. So, go… Get a hobby. Go hustle. Go be happy. I’m giving you permission to enjoy your life while planning your wedding… Got it? Good! Then stay Bitchless! 

Photo by Clark Tibbs on Unsplash

An Online Wedding Dress "Shop" with Tons of Imagination, Tons of Spunk and No Bullshit

Soooo.... I must say, that I not only am OB SES SED with these stunning wedding dresses, but I am truly amazed at the idea behind the gown! Bridey, allow me to introduce you to Lyra Vega Bridal, an exquisite online wedding dress "shop" with non-exquisite prices. Lyra Vega allows you to try on your wedding dress in the comfort of your own home, eliminating the stress and illuminating everything you love about being a bride. Honestly? It's fucking genius. It's fucking smart. It's fucking awesome. Totally wish I thought of it... Here's a few words from the boss lady (and a pretty FAB coupon!!!):

Lyra Vega Makes Finding the Perfect Dress Oh-So-Simple!

Be honest: how many bridal stores have you been to and how many dresses have you tried on only to hate everything you put on your body? Oh and let's not forget the price tag! You're going to wear this dress for one day and yet pay a whole months' salary, where’s the rational in that? 

As modern day women, we work hard and play hard, we make smart choices, we break glass ceilings, and we do it all with style and grace – so when it comes to shopping for our wedding dress, why are we settling for painful visits to bridal stores and trying on a million dresses you don’t like, unrealistic pricing, or waiting in line to fight 50 other women at sample sales to score a deal? It is time that our wedding dress shopping experience reflected how far we’ve come.

Lyra Vega wants to change up the wedding conversation. By combining online shopping with the wedding dress search, they’re bringing convenience and transparency to the wedding dress shopping experience, while offering elegant, beautiful dresses with modern details.

Started by women who have gone through the every day grind, the Lyra Vega team understands how hard it can be to save up the cash to pay for a wedding, and they believe that every bride should feel as beautiful as they look on their special day, while preserving resources for more future chapters to come in life. 

Shipping is always free with Lyra Vega, and right now, Bitchless readers get to enjoy an exclusive discount ! Enter promo code “BITCHLESS” at check out for a 10% off your order!

Bridey, two words: You're Welcome!!!! 

A Laid-Back and Lavish Beach Party Wedding with the Coolest "Cake" I've Ever Seen!

Judging solely on the shoes, you can already tell that the B+G are pretty laid-back and pretty cool, right? Right! And, because we already know how cool these two are, I bet it wouldn't surprise you if I told you that Kimberly and Thomas' families are close friends, would it? Because, that's pretty fucking fabulous, right? Aaaaanddd.... as if that wasn't awesome enough, all the B+G really wanted on their wedding day was for their family and friends to have a good time; a big party! I mean... They even hired Mike Freas, the photographer, because, "...we really enjoyed your personality and we had a feeling that if you were just hanging at our wedding as 'a friend', that you would totally fit in."

It was a difficult task, but Kimberly and Thomas meticulously weeded their guest list down from 300 so that could have only their "closest people" attend the wedding. LOVE IT! Aside from their FAB story, there are some gorgeous deets to inspire you as you plan your own wedding, bridey. Oh! And, OMG... Just wait until you see their "cake"!! Enjoy!

STUNNING dress. It's even better on the bride!!

Love the shoes and the bouquet!

I love that the B+G invited the president to their wedding!!

Love the hair. Love the makeup. Love the bouquet. Obsessed with the dress.

That's "Pops", Thomas' father, and apparently, the life of the party.

I want to hug Thomas too!! Amazing reaction to seeing Kimberly!

So so so cute! Nice cleave too, Kimberly! You're 100% OWNING that wedding dress!Beautiful shot.

STFU with that dress!! I may be a l'il obsessed!

Such a lovely, passionate kiss!

How cool is this venue!!???

I love how Thomas rolled up his sleeves!

Meanwhile...

So, what do you think of the B+G's cake? HE'S ROLLING IT!!!! Look down!

Shut the FUCK up! That's gorgeous! That's amazing! That's all of my favorite adjectives combined!

Thank you Kimberly and Thomas for sharing your fantastic wedding with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Foto By Freas

Caterer: Catered Affairs of Key West

Transportation: Conch Tour Train

Bakery: Cupcake Sushi

Floral Designer: Duarte Floral Design

Equipment Rentals: Eventfully Yours Rentals

Ceremony & Event Location: Fort Zachary State Park

Officiant: Rev. Steve Torrence

Hair & Makeup: Studio Marie-Pierre

Flashback — Quit Your Bitchin, Bridey

I wrote this article for the Huffington Post in 2012, and I was inspired because of a particularly difficult bride I had the joy of working with, who literally drove me the brink of insanity. The reason I am sharing it with you today? Well, because in the last week I have heard several stories of brides behaving badly. Whining, complaining, and simply irritating the fuck out of everybody around them. I don't know if people tell me these stories because they know what I do, or what, but either way, I thought a simple reminder to QUIT BITCHIN' was in order... So, read up ladies!!

September, 2012:

After an amazing weekend filled with rehearsal dinners, beautiful weddings, “morning after” brunches, everything hurts; everything aches; everything cracks. I feel like an old lady hobbling around looking for my cane. But, the worst pain? My head. And my head hurts from too much thinking, and over thinking, and even MORE thinking, and not from drinking (like I’m used to). Seriously... The funny thing? My head doesn’t hurt because of the lovely bride and groom from the wedding this past Saturday... It hurts from the endless emails and texts I received from my UPCOMING clients that either ask or say the most ridiculous crap. Simply whining about everything because they feel “so taken advantage of”, and their “patience for this wedding stuff is running thin”. Really?

If you missed my post last week on Bitchless Bride, I mentioned that I had an addiction. That I couldn’t stop “using”, and that no matter how hard I tried, I was simply “addicted to yes“. And while I openly admitted to my horrendous compulsion, to enabling my brides, and to just “making it happen”, I must state for the record that I hate that I do it. I hate that it’s EXPECTED for me to continue to “use”. But, I do have my limits, and because it’s only the beginning of the fall wedding season, I have to pace myself. But, I need your help brideys.

Seriously, I need for you to quit whining... Quit whining about all of the aspects of planning your wedding that we have no control over. Certain prices are fixed. Certain aspects are truly non-negotiable. And emailing me every second of the day isn’t going to change that. Because even I can’t “yes” my way to changing the industry “norm”.

Like your wedding dress alterations? Yeah, they’re expensive, and oftentimes non-negotiable. You know why? Because you’re literally paying somebody to rip apart your very expensive wedding dress (yeah, the one that you only get to wear once), put it back together, and make it perfect for your perfect wedding day. Okay? This won’t be cheap. And I’m sorry, but if you want those unbelievable flowers on your wedding cake that “look so incredibly real”, then yes, you have to pay extra for them. And no, you are not being punished.... You’re simply paying for a service. You’re paying for a product. And you’re paying for time. So get over it or don’t get it.

I mean, let’s get real people. I refuse to believe that you’d walk into Valentino or Burberry and ask WHY the amazing dress in the window is so expensive when you could just make it yourself. Or HOW COME the sunglasses don’t come with the dress. Really? Come on.... Please. So why are you constantly surprised when the wedding industry demands to be paid for quality and time? I’m tired of apologizing for what every other industry “gets away with”.

Brideys, the minute you got engaged, you signed on an invisible dotted line, and although you might not have realized it, you signed up for all of the shenanigans that go with planning your wedding. But seriously, like you didn’t know your wedding was going to be expensive? I don’t care if your budget is $10,000 or $100,000. A wedding is not cheap. Seriously, look at the numbers... The wedding industry is a 55 BILLION dollar industry (in the US)… PER YEAR. It didn’t get to be that way because everybody is working for free. It got that way because you are buying an experience; you are buying talent; you are buying memories. And you know what? It’s fucking expensive. That’s it. PERIOD THE END.

So quit whining about it! It is what it is. Just resign yourself to the fact that you’re part of it now. Resign yourself to the fact that you don’t have to like it; you just have to stop complaining about it.

Image via YouQueen

Fantasy Friday ~ An Extravagant, Super Glitzy, Truly Stunning Styled Shoot

This striking styled shoot captures the elegance and opulence of an enchanting winter wedding, (yes, I know it's supposedly spring), but, you know what? I don't care! It's so fabulous and so glamorous, and frankly, it feels like fucking winter on the East coast, so why not post a GORGEOUS shoot to inspire my winter brides?!! Right? Anyway, this really is delicious. It's succulent and juicy, and easy on the eyes. And, OMG! Just wait until you see that stunning Ysa Makino wedding dress up close. You're totally going to freak!

Bridey, if you can incorporate any of these details into your wedding, it will be superb! Perhaps you'd like to have the amazing dessert bar with the monogrammed cookies, or a glitterly wedding cake, or even the shimmrey wedding dress... Whatever it may be, bridey, this shoot really is something to behold! Enjoy!
I love the black and white invites!
One day (and probably soon), I am going to own those shoes!
Um. WOW!
So beautiful... Don't worry... There's more!!
So glittery and gold! LOVE IT!
Like... STFU with the dress... Right? I LOVE everything about it! I want to wear it right now!
Even the cake is sparkling at us!
The rose on the top of the cake is perfect finishing touch!
Gimme! Gimme!
OMG! So happy to share this truly amazing styled shoot on Bitchless Bride!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: B. Jones Photography//Equipment Rentals: AA Party Rentals//Floral Designer: Bella Fiori//Makeup Artist: Bridal Beauty Styling//Model: Fashion by Anita//Favors and Gifts: Flour Dusted Countertops//Hair Stylist: Hair By Leah Noel//Jewelry: Heidi Hull Designs//Event Planner: Manette Gracie Events//Dress Store: MeaMarie Bridal Atelier//Invitation Designer: Robinson Paperie//Equipment Rentals: Snohomish Rental Co//Apparel: The Black Tux//Reception Venue: The Fairmont Olympic Hotel//Cinema and Video: Traveling Light Pictures

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Classically Chicago, Beautifully Orchestrated and Simply Stunning Wedding

Isn't that photograph incredible? I mean, it's really amazing. The venue? The Rookery Building in Chicago. According to the website, The Rookery Building is "... one of the most historically significant buildings in Chicago." "...The Rookery seamlessly combines the flair of an era gone by with state-of-the-art building systems and technology. Designated a Chicago Landmark in 1972 after being added to the National Register of Historic Places in 1970, The Rookery is universally considered an architectural masterpiece." Um, I think they forgot, "An incredible venue for an elegant wedding..."

Technically, Nicole and Michael's wedding was a destination wedding. Nicole grew up in Chicago, and the two of them made their way back to her hometown for their wedding day. Bridey, I have to say that the details encapsulated in this wedding are so polished and so refined that I cannot wait to share it with you! The dress, the gold, the venue and the cake! OH MY!!!! 

First of all, I love the robes. Secondly, are they in the tub? LOVE IT!!
OMG, Nicole! That dress! It's really incredible! I love the intricate detail... You look GORGE!
Michael, that is seriously one of the cutest groomy pictures I've ever posted.
OMG. SO phenomenal! I am completely obsessed with that wedding dress!
Such unbelievable architecture!
It may be good luck, but rain on your wedding day is still annoying. The ceremony was originally going to be outside near Millennium Park, but at the last minute, the call was made to have the ceremony at The Rookery. Thank goodness for plan B!
Nicole, you are absolutely beaming! I LOVE IT!!
There's something about pics in the street that get me all worked up.
Badasses.
Holy shit with this venue! Totally beauteous!
I love all of the gold accents... So elegant.
What the fuck? Is that Bambi?
So beautiful.
Thank you Nicole and Michael for sharing your truly elegant and amazingly stunning wedding with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Michael Novo Photography
Event Venue: The Rookery Building

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ An Unfussy, Super Classy, Completely Bitchless Wedding

Wanna know why I fucking love Sara? Because when Sara envisioned her wedding, she wanted an "unfussy" (my new fave word), stress free day with lavender accents + friends and family. Period. And, that's exactly what Sara and Chris' wedding day was all about. No fuss, no stress and surrounded by the people they love. Bridey, the cool thing? Their wedding definitely looked like they fussed over the details.

With it's beautiful soft colors, perfectly arranged garden chairs, manicured grounds and a modest elegance captured throughout the entire day, I'd certainly believe that there could have been some stress while planning. But, when you marry your favorite person in the world (which is clearly evident by the pics) the little things really don't matter. Enjoy!

WOW! The lace and beading on Sara's wedding dress is breathtaking.Totally love this pic! Still not quite sure what they're looking for though! You look quite dapper, Chris! Sara, you look like you're up to no good...The raw emotion encapsulated in this photograph just put me over the edge...Hell yeah!!!! We did it!I'm sure that the advice got better and better as the night wore on.I can't help it... This cake topper makes me laugh out loud.Such a pretty cake. I love the middle layer with the soft Swiss dots.Break it down!

Thank you for sharing your stunningly gorgeous wedding with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Mathew Irving Photography
Cake Designer: Azucar Bakery
Reception Venue: Stonebrook Manor
Bridesmaid Dresses: The B Boutique
Dress Store: The Green Bride

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Stunningly Beautiful, Super Romantic, Mansion Wedding

I love this wedding, and I have a couple crush on Cindy and Dane. (Seriously, how could I not? Look at that dress! And, the dude's name is Dane. Total crush.) You know why, bridey? Because I heard that they were awesome to work with, insanely in love, super in sync and nice people. From a vendor perspective, it really doesn't get much better than that. Jackpot! Seriously, if wedding planners and other wedding vendors knew ahead of time what it would be like to work with each couple prior to the planning, the world would be a much nicer place. Working with lovely people who are genuine and genuinely nice is what it's all about, right? Or it should be for that matter!

Anyway, outside of the serious couple crush I am rockin', there are so many fab deets to share with you, bridey. I mean, the dress is total kickassery, but there is so much more! So, kick back, relax and enjoy the post!
I'm lovin' the subtle mint green Badgley Mischka shoes!I feel warm inside.Cindy, your wedding dress is absolutely incredible! I love the beading and the cut! You look amazing!This should be in a glossy... Cindy is GORGE and this pic is so FAB!!The "ring" boxes. Hell yeah! That's a great shot!!Such a fabulous way of politely saying, get off you're fucking phone during the ceremony. Such cuties!!

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Why Finding the Right Venue Can be as Difficult as Finding the Right Sig Other... 5 Ways to Overcome Venue Finding Hell

Bridey, one of the most difficult parts of planning your wedding is choosing the right venue. I mean, there are so many factors to consider, and people to please that what used to be a fun experience has turned into more of a daunting task. Sorry, but true story! So, rather than let it get the best of you (and quickly), get your shit together before you start your journey so that you don't end up wasting a ton of your time, and that of those trying to help you. How? Well, let me help you get started before you lose your mind!

First of all, bridey, do your homework. I know that it's super exciting to start the process of searching for the right venue, but before you can even begin researching potential venue sites, you and your sig other need to sit down and determine a few important factors. Do your homework! Because, now is not the time to be impulsive. Outside of the down payment for your house, this is going to be the next biggest expense of your life. So, don't fuck it up by being impulsive and reckless. Determine your budget (give or take). Determine an approximate number of guests so that you know which venues will work, and which ones won't. Determine reasonable accommodations and concessions for your guests... Etc. Etc. Etc.

1. Budget: I know that this is difficult, but bridey, it's the most important factor when choosing your venue. At the very least, try to figure out what you have to spend overall (wedding venue, wedding dress, flowers, transportation, etc.), and what you have to spend on your venue (where you'll spend approximately 50-60% of your total budget). Have a 'worst case scenario', and a 'best case scenario' mapped out, and be honest. Better to overshoot than undershoot when it comes to your budget.

2. Number of Guests: While there is no way to know the exact number of guests this early in the game, at the very least try to figure out an approximate number. Why? Well, if you begin visiting sites without knowing how many people you're going to have at your wedding, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. You'll fall in love with a place that will either be too cavernous or too small, and ultimately, you will need to start your search over. Why put yourself through that, bridey? So, chat with your sig other, poll your parents, and set some boundaries (based on budget)... Then go look!

3. Aesthetic + Reality: Really pretty basic, no? Are you an ocean side bride or a hotel bride? Are you a rustic bride or modern bride? What do you see when you daydream? Narrow it down. Start where you think you will end. Got something brewing? Great! Well, now compare what you know about your aestheic against your budget (aka, reality). For example, I know I like modern furniture, but I also know that it tends to cost a shitload more than "normal" furniture. Ohhhhh..... yeah......

Okay, it's your turn, bridey. Want an outdoor wedding at a your parent's house? Sounds lovely! But, stop and think for a sec... Think about renting every.single.item. from forks to bathrooms to power generators (for the DJ, caterer, lighting, etc.)... Yup! Your guests will need to pee,

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Sentiment or Selfish?

I am going to hell for this one, bridey. But, not because I’m trying to be a complete asshole… I’m simply trying to defend you and your bridal integrity. Although, I know that no matter how I word this, it’s going to come out in a way that sounds shitty. So fuck it… Here it goes! The other day, I happen to catch one of the more popular wedding dress shows and even though I really wasn’t in the mood to “say yes”; I succumbed to the pressure of the challenge (of finding the right dress), and couldn’t stop watching. And, you know what? I actually learned something. No, really! I did! I learned not to take your whole fucking family wedding dress shopping with you, particularly your ailing, super opinionated grandma. See what I mean? I sound like such a jerk, but the truth hurts, doesn't it?

Anyway… I honestly felt badly for the bride. She was quite young (23 I think), impressionable, and sweet. The problem? She and her grandma had completely different views as to what her wedding gown should be, and nana, squashed just about every dress this girl loved. Wow. Brutal. Look, I am all for respecting your elders, but at what point does that respect start turning into a dictatorship? I mean… This lovely bride moved up her wedding date in an attempt to ensure that nana was going to make it to the wedding, and instead of appreciating the sentiment, nana was on a mission to get her granddaughter to wear the kind of dress that she wanted her to wear versus what the bride (um, the one walking down the aisle) wanted to wear. 

I don’t care how old you are, or what role you hold in the family, pulling shit like that? That’s not sentiment it’s selfish. And it doesn’t matter whether we’re talking about the wedding dress or some other wedding related issue, bridey, you must be strong enough to filter out the bullshit. Filter out the noise. Squash that shit. Tune out the constant stream of opinions. Or else your wedding starts to become about everybody else and not about you making choices that celebrate your life with your future sig other. It becomes about pleasing those who are impossible to please. So tread lightly, but politely tell them to “fuck off”.

Right? So forgive me if I think nana was out of line. At that point, you’d think that perhaps her dying wish would have been to make sure her granddaughter was happy (even if she hated the dress) instead of making the poor girl work so damn hard to find a happy medium. So, am I an asshole for calling a spade a spade simply because of who was calling the shots? Or can we move forward, woman up and stand up for what is important to us without feeling bad about our choices??

Image via The Wedding Specialists

Fantasy Friday ~ An Extreme Engagement Shoot

Yup! They’re filthy. They’re covered in mud from head to toe, and you know what? I fucking love it! Meet Kemper and Ben. They are extreme enthusiasts, and made sure that their passion for all things awesome was captured during their engagement shoot. As you browse these jaw-dropping photographs, you’ll see Kemper and Ben in some seriously compromising “poses”. We have some midair ski shots, mid-ride motorcycle shots, the muddy shots on the ATV, and a few mushy shots of them kissing. Apparently, this engagement shoot was actually a series of three sessions to make sure the talented Brian Smyer of Smyer Image could acquire all of the adventure you are about to see.

Bridey, if you and your sig other are driven towards anything out of the ordinary, bring it to your engagement shoot! Not only will you have some FAB pics to hang around the house, but you could display them at your wedding reception like Kemper and Ben did! BTW… Kemper purchased two wedding dresses; one for the shoot and one for the wedding. Totally genius!

I mean... Holy shit!! That's amazing!OMG! Kemper! Are you freezing?So cute (when they're all cleaned up!)!Here they go!OMG!! You can't even see them!Easy now...Take it off, baby!Hose her down!So awesome!!! Gotta love the dirty hands and passionate hearts!!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Smyer Image
Event Venue: Park City Mountain Resort