I’m absolutely ecstatic to be featured for the fourth time on Yahoo! Finance!
It seems so ironic that as my wedding season is simmering down, there’s an entire crop of soon-to-be engaged brides out there. While I’m taking a deep breath, lounging in front of Netflix and chilling the fuck out, you, bridey, are gearing up to plan the biggest event of your life. Did you hear me? THE BIGGEST EVENT OF YOUR LIFE. And whenever you’re tasked with anything of that magnitude, like managing a huge event at work or planning your family reunion or even a mega Christmas dinner, odds are you raise your hand and ask for help, right? Seems like the most logical thing to do. But, here’s the thing… So many of you don’t ask for help, from a professional, when you’re planning your wedding. You automatically dismiss the biggest piece of the wedding planning puzzle as superfluous and too expensive. But, you shouldn’t, and here’s a million more reasons (actually, just ten really good reasons) why you need to hire a wedding planner to help you get through it.
Reason 990: You’ve never planned a wedding before, and while you think it’s going to be magical with unicorns floating everywhere as you sip champagne, it can be fucking brutal and stressful. So, hire somebody who does this for a living and can create a version of your wedding so fantastic that you can’t even believe it’s your own. Bridey, think of a wedding planner as a curator or guardian of the biggest day of your life; somebody who always has your best interests in mind and will absorb your wedding planning stress so that you can enjoy being engaged.
Reason 991: Raise your hand if you have a lot of spare time. Um, I’m guessing not, right? But, if you have an extra 15-20 hours in your week to put towards wedding planning, then by all means, don’t hire a wedding planner. Although for those of you who don’t have those extra hours, hire a wedding planner so that she (or he) can spend her time so that you don’t have to spend yours. I mean, c’mon bridey, you can’t even get your ass to the gym consistently without juggling your day appropriately!
Reason 992: A wedding planner will do it better than you. Plain and simple. Bridey, I am a wedding planner (writer, blogger, mother, etc.) who knew nothing about building and maintaining a website, so you know what I did? I hired somebody who does know how to do it even though there is a TON of information about how I could do it myself. But, you know what? Fuck that! Because a professional will do it better than me, just like hiring a professional wedding planner will plan your wedding better than you.
Reason 993: Shit will go wrong leading up to your wedding day or on the day itself. And having to deal with that craziness while you’re friends and family are flying into town, and while you’re trying to enjoy some down time really sucks. So let somebody else handle these “fires” so that you don’t have to. Let somebody else be your problem solver… Consider it your insurance policy.
Reason 994: Budget. Yuck! Such a dirty word… But, certainly an important aspect of wedding planning. And because you’ve never planned a wedding, I think it’s fairly safe to say that you don’t know what things like wedding flowers or a DJ or fancy linens cost, right? Right! But, a wedding planner does know what things cost, and can direct you according to your budget. The budget you two created together!
Reason 995: Can you say impartial? Or neutral party? Or mediator? Bridey, there will be times when you need somewhat of a referee to help you though a tough planning experience. Maybe you and your fiancé are at odds with who gets to provide a toast at your wedding or maybe you’re politely going round and round with your soon to be MIL about décor. Whatever the case may be, let somebody else be the voice of reason so that things don’t get ugly.
Reason 996: Inside information anybody? Bridey, I don’t expect you to know what you’re doing in my world. Because it’s just that, my world. And, similarly, I’d have no idea what to do in your world. But, if I found myself in your world, wandering around in unknown territory, you can sure as hell bet that I’d get help navigating from somebody who knew where to go. So, hire a wedding planner and use us for our inside scoop!
Reason 997: Details. Details. Details. I fucking love them. And, most of “my kind” do too. And you know what one of my favorite parts of wedding planning is? Creating the timeline. Some of you might have just had a panic attack while thinking about all of the moving parts, but I LOVE a good timeline, and seeing it all come together. It’s like following a script… All you, bridey, need to know how to do is read.
Reason 998: Ever wonder who handles all of the “stuff” at the end of a wedding? Stuff like making sure your gifts/cards make it back to your guest room or that the family photographs make it safely back to where they came from or even the whereabouts of your veil? Without a wedding planner, you and your exhausted (and potentially drunk) groom do. Unless you have a wedding planner. Bridey, not only will a wedding planner handle all of the “day of” stuff, but they will handle the logistics on the backend too.
Reason 999: Because you will absolutely look back and wish you had hired a wedding planner. Be 100% present on your wedding day and the days leading up to it. Let somebody else worry or you.
Photo by Sweet Ice Cream Photography
I've stopped apologizing. Seriously. I'm done apologizing for stupid shit. Sure, if I make a mistake or if I owe somebody an apology, then I will apologize to them, but other than that? I'm all done. I'm done apologizing when it's unnecessary. And you know what, bridey? You should be too. Seriously, ever find yourself in somebody's way at the store and realize that your very first instinct is to say, "I'm sorry"? Have you ever stopped and wondered why? Because, are you really sorry for looking at the same t-shirt or cereal as somebody else at the same time? I'm not. But, we are wired to think that we are inconveniencing somebody somehow simply by standing where we're standing. And lately? If I'm not done looking at the t-shirt in question (or reading the cereal box), then I'm not moving, and I'm not sorry. Good for you BB, but... how is this relevant to wedding planning? Well, bridey, you do it all the time! You apologize unnecessarily, and then you don't apologize when it's necessary!
Look, I promise to tell you when you need to apologize, but apologizing because you don't understand terms of a vendor contract or because you can't wrap your head around a service you are paying for? That's just silly! It's important for you to understand everything you are paying for and receiving, and frankly it's important for you not to apologize in the process.
Bridey, I know that I have spent a lot of time busting your chops for your sometimes entitled bullshit behavior, but I've also made it a point to educate you and stand up for you while you plan your wedding. Because I understand that it's difficult to plan a wedding on top of the countless other responsibilities you are busy juggling. I understand that most of you haven't had the pleasure of wedding planning, and therefore you have a lot of questions. It's normal, and it's okay. So, rather than apologizing for it, own it! You're not supposed to have all of the answers. You're not supposed to know what makes "the industry" tick or how attrition works in regards to food and beverage or guest rooms, etc.. So, it's completely acceptable for you to ask questions and get answers. No apology necessary.
When should you say you're sorry? Here are the top 10 moments when an apology is necessary:
1. Apologize when you're being an entitled bitch. We get it, you're getting married! It doesn't give you carte blanche to be mean.
2. Apologize for getting pissed off because a vendor had the audacity to work on Saturday and couldn't meet you when you wanted them to.
3. Apologize for not being flexible with your vendors (see #2).
4. Apologize for being rude to your mom, sig other, MOH, etc. in front of your wedding vendors.
5. Apologize for monopolizing all of my fucking time going over and over the flowers, décor, linens, etc., etc., etc., once we've already made a decision.
6. Apologize for not being able to make a decision. Promptly.
7. Apologize when you miss an appointment because you had to get to the gym. REALLY!?
8. Apologize for keeping me waiting (see #7).
9. Apologize when you say you need a "quick minute to chat", and an hour goes by.
10. Apologize for paying your deposits, final payments, etc. late.
Bridey, this list could be a hell of a lot longer, but what I'm hoping you'll take away from this article is knowing and understanding when you should apologize, and when you shouldn't. Got it? Good! Stay Bitchless!
Image via The Odyssey Online
I'm kind of obsessed with photographer, Charlene Morton. A few weeks ago, I featured another one of her FAB weddings here on Bitchless Bride, and when I saw that she had submitted another wedding, I was absolutely overjoyed! Not only are the bride and groom, Laura and Andrew, super rad, but all of the intricate, well thought out details are such a fabulous treat. Not too mention the fucking awesome bridesmaids dress, adorable groomsmen, and delicious looking drinks! Seriously, I just couldn't stop when it came to the number of photographs I just HAD to share with you today...
Brideys, I'll let Charlene take it away... ENJOY:
The morning of the wedding began at Laura and Andrews Bristol home, where the bridal party preparations were well underway. Hair and make-up artists had set up camp in the kitchen with boxes of rollers, brushes pots and powders. As we arrived the bridesmaids had their hair set and were all in coloured hairnets that held their curled and pinned hair-dos in place. The bridesmaids dresses were all vintage, and had been painstakingly sourced by Laura. Four long laced, prom style dresses (some of which had been hand-dyed pastel tones) were all authentic vintage, absolutely beautiful and were as if they were made to suit each of the girls. The addition of handmade flower corsages tied the bridesmaids together seamlessly. Laura had also sourced matching coloured vintage costume jewelry for each of her bridesmaids that were presented as gifts in dainty handbags she had hand sewn!
Laura’s 1940’s vintage dress had been sourced from America, and was found in a dusty trunk that had not been opened since the wartime. A really incredible find! The dress had been shipped to the UK and altered to reduce the skirt size to a more A-line shape to modernise slightly, and fit Laura perfectly; the delicate long lace arms and a high-laced neck. Preparations were a wholly relaxed morning of fun, smiles and friends.
We headed off to Leigh Court ahead of the Bridal Party. Guests had arrived and convened on the entrance steps, framed against vast sandstone pillars, and soaked them selves in the sun awaiting the arrival of the bride.
The grooms party arrived, each with flashes of 1940’s inspiration, from the quiffed fringes, to contrast brogues and black braces. Even the guests had joined in on the fun, with 1950’s style prom dresses, red lipstick and feathered hats. This wedding really was vintage done well.
Vintage cars transported the bridal party to Leigh Court and they were whisked away to an upstairs room to prepare for the ceremony. (Elements of the day like this created a really traditional feel to the proceedings, and including a greeting line after the ceremony). The sun was well and truly shining and remained bright well into the evening, allowing guests the pleasure of sitting outside and enjoying their pimms – probably for the first time this year!
Completely in LOVE with this kick ass dresses!!! I especially love that they don't match!