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A Lovely, Laid Back and Rainbow-Tastic Colorado Wedding

Since BB's inception, I've written quite a bit about what it means to be a good bride. I mean... Bitchless Bride has dedicated over four years to educating brides all over the world on basic (and sometimes extreme) bridal etiquette, how to behave as a bridey babe, and what it means to be a favorite amongst your wedding vendors, all while still achieving those bridal milestones. So, when I put it out there that I was looking for brides who were easy to work with, totally "bitchless", and a photographer FAVE, I received this fucking amazing, rustic chic wedding of Michelle and Patrick. 

As you scroll along, it won't take much for you to see why I love the M+P so much. For starters, I love that Michelle had her bridesmaids wear whatever the hell they wanted! I know that's not for every bride, but let's be honest, we all know what looks good on us, and what doesn't, so wearing a kickass dress that you feel good in certainly allows a true glow to shine through in photographs. That coupled with the low key yet totally rusticy, barn wedding (with an A MAZ ING wedding cake!) had me love them even more. Plus, we all know that when it rains on your wedding day, it's good luck. Luck or not, it still fucking sucks. But... It doesn't suck so much when you get two rainbows out of the deal! Right? Totally deserved by the B+G! Enjoy!

Seriously? Can we please talk about how fantastic these bridesmaids dresses are??

Damn, girl! You look great!

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This is what boys do before they get married...

It really doesn't get better than this!

Totally love this badass shot!

Simple. Fabulous.

Whoa. Those clouds mean business! But! Look down!! DOUBLE RAINBOW!!

I can't...

Lovin' the escort cards and guest book!

Doesn't the space look exquisite? So simple, and yet so elegant... BTW... Those are bottles of hot sauce!

Um, hi. Holy hell with the ruffled cake! 

Hooray!!!

Thank you for sharing your FAB wedding with BB! Totally love you two!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Susannah Storch Photography
Venue: Raccoon Creek Golf Course

A Laid-Back and Lavish Beach Party Wedding with the Coolest "Cake" I've Ever Seen!

Judging solely on the shoes, you can already tell that the B+G are pretty laid-back and pretty cool, right? Right! And, because we already know how cool these two are, I bet it wouldn't surprise you if I told you that Kimberly and Thomas' families are close friends, would it? Because, that's pretty fucking fabulous, right? Aaaaanddd.... as if that wasn't awesome enough, all the B+G really wanted on their wedding day was for their family and friends to have a good time; a big party! I mean... They even hired Mike Freas, the photographer, because, "...we really enjoyed your personality and we had a feeling that if you were just hanging at our wedding as 'a friend', that you would totally fit in."

It was a difficult task, but Kimberly and Thomas meticulously weeded their guest list down from 300 so that could have only their "closest people" attend the wedding. LOVE IT! Aside from their FAB story, there are some gorgeous deets to inspire you as you plan your own wedding, bridey. Oh! And, OMG... Just wait until you see their "cake"!! Enjoy!

STUNNING dress. It's even better on the bride!!

Love the shoes and the bouquet!

I love that the B+G invited the president to their wedding!!

Love the hair. Love the makeup. Love the bouquet. Obsessed with the dress.

That's "Pops", Thomas' father, and apparently, the life of the party.

I want to hug Thomas too!! Amazing reaction to seeing Kimberly!

So so so cute! Nice cleave too, Kimberly! You're 100% OWNING that wedding dress!Beautiful shot.

STFU with that dress!! I may be a l'il obsessed!

Such a lovely, passionate kiss!

How cool is this venue!!???

I love how Thomas rolled up his sleeves!

Meanwhile...

So, what do you think of the B+G's cake? HE'S ROLLING IT!!!! Look down!

Shut the FUCK up! That's gorgeous! That's amazing! That's all of my favorite adjectives combined!

Thank you Kimberly and Thomas for sharing your fantastic wedding with Bitchless Bride!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Foto By Freas

Caterer: Catered Affairs of Key West

Transportation: Conch Tour Train

Bakery: Cupcake Sushi

Floral Designer: Duarte Floral Design

Equipment Rentals: Eventfully Yours Rentals

Ceremony & Event Location: Fort Zachary State Park

Officiant: Rev. Steve Torrence

Hair & Makeup: Studio Marie-Pierre

Flashback — Quit Your Bitchin, Bridey

I wrote this article for the Huffington Post in 2012, and I was inspired because of a particularly difficult bride I had the joy of working with, who literally drove me the brink of insanity. The reason I am sharing it with you today? Well, because in the last week I have heard several stories of brides behaving badly. Whining, complaining, and simply irritating the fuck out of everybody around them. I don't know if people tell me these stories because they know what I do, or what, but either way, I thought a simple reminder to QUIT BITCHIN' was in order... So, read up ladies!!

September, 2012:

After an amazing weekend filled with rehearsal dinners, beautiful weddings, “morning after” brunches, everything hurts; everything aches; everything cracks. I feel like an old lady hobbling around looking for my cane. But, the worst pain? My head. And my head hurts from too much thinking, and over thinking, and even MORE thinking, and not from drinking (like I’m used to). Seriously... The funny thing? My head doesn’t hurt because of the lovely bride and groom from the wedding this past Saturday... It hurts from the endless emails and texts I received from my UPCOMING clients that either ask or say the most ridiculous crap. Simply whining about everything because they feel “so taken advantage of”, and their “patience for this wedding stuff is running thin”. Really?

If you missed my post last week on Bitchless Bride, I mentioned that I had an addiction. That I couldn’t stop “using”, and that no matter how hard I tried, I was simply “addicted to yes“. And while I openly admitted to my horrendous compulsion, to enabling my brides, and to just “making it happen”, I must state for the record that I hate that I do it. I hate that it’s EXPECTED for me to continue to “use”. But, I do have my limits, and because it’s only the beginning of the fall wedding season, I have to pace myself. But, I need your help brideys.

Seriously, I need for you to quit whining... Quit whining about all of the aspects of planning your wedding that we have no control over. Certain prices are fixed. Certain aspects are truly non-negotiable. And emailing me every second of the day isn’t going to change that. Because even I can’t “yes” my way to changing the industry “norm”.

Like your wedding dress alterations? Yeah, they’re expensive, and oftentimes non-negotiable. You know why? Because you’re literally paying somebody to rip apart your very expensive wedding dress (yeah, the one that you only get to wear once), put it back together, and make it perfect for your perfect wedding day. Okay? This won’t be cheap. And I’m sorry, but if you want those unbelievable flowers on your wedding cake that “look so incredibly real”, then yes, you have to pay extra for them. And no, you are not being punished.... You’re simply paying for a service. You’re paying for a product. And you’re paying for time. So get over it or don’t get it.

I mean, let’s get real people. I refuse to believe that you’d walk into Valentino or Burberry and ask WHY the amazing dress in the window is so expensive when you could just make it yourself. Or HOW COME the sunglasses don’t come with the dress. Really? Come on.... Please. So why are you constantly surprised when the wedding industry demands to be paid for quality and time? I’m tired of apologizing for what every other industry “gets away with”.

Brideys, the minute you got engaged, you signed on an invisible dotted line, and although you might not have realized it, you signed up for all of the shenanigans that go with planning your wedding. But seriously, like you didn’t know your wedding was going to be expensive? I don’t care if your budget is $10,000 or $100,000. A wedding is not cheap. Seriously, look at the numbers... The wedding industry is a 55 BILLION dollar industry (in the US)… PER YEAR. It didn’t get to be that way because everybody is working for free. It got that way because you are buying an experience; you are buying talent; you are buying memories. And you know what? It’s fucking expensive. That’s it. PERIOD THE END.

So quit whining about it! It is what it is. Just resign yourself to the fact that you’re part of it now. Resign yourself to the fact that you don’t have to like it; you just have to stop complaining about it.

Image via YouQueen

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Truly Beautiful, Tented and Fabulous, Australian Wedding

OMG. Is that a field of lilacs? Probably not, because lilacs don't grow in fields, but whatever they are, they're purple and gorgeous, and so are the B+G, Lauren and Chris (well, the B+G are not purple, but... You know what I mean!). Bridey, I wish I attended this wedding. Not only was it in Australia, a country I haven't visited, but every single detail is dazzling! Like, jaw-droppingly gorgeous. When you see the tent, bridey, you literally won't know which end is up. Look up, and you'll gaze at the dangling flowers cascading from the "ceiling". Look down, and you'll see a beautiful, soft palette of magnificent flowers.

Lauren and Chris clearly worked with an incredibly talented group of vendors focused on bringing their dream to life. Bridey, if you hire the right vendors, and trust them, then your wedding will be amazing too! So, enjoy this stunner, and go get some inspiration!
Lovin' everything about this bouquet...
Seriously? These bridesmaids are stunning. Like, it's almost not fair!! Dammmmmnnnnn, girls!
Hi Chris. You're handsome.
The décor for the ceremony is so elegant and beautiful.
Love the way the B+G are beaming!! 
Again... Such a lovely looking bridal party! 
Love this shot...
I'm seriously such a sucker for how couples look at each other... But, I mean... Aspire to that, bridey!
Holy.Shit. with the fucking incredible décor.
WOW! Amazing... 
The upside-down bouquets are so awesome!
GORGE!

FAB dessert table! I want to dive right in!!!
True story. Thank you for sharing your beautiful wedding with Bitchless Bride!!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Blumenthal Photography
Venue: Sault Restaurant
Event Styling & Planning: A Lavish Affair
Wedding Gown: Suzanna Harwood
Groom’s Attire: Vera Wang
Flowers: Victoria Whitelaw
Cake: Cake Face
Invitations & Stationary: Adorn Wedding Invitations

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ The BEST Advice from the BEST Wedding Vendors in Boston!

Bridey, today's post is like hitting the jackpot of wedding planning. SERIOUSLY. If you are recently engaged or are in the midst of planning your wedding, stop what you're doing, and focus because you are about to be educated by the BEST in the wedding biz! I asked some of my absolute FAVORITE vendors in the Boston area to share the best piece of advice about planning a wedding, and these peeps? Well, they completely spilled the beans. I mean... There is so much wedding planning goodness in this post, that I could fucking chew it!!!

I rarely say cheesy shit like this, but this is a must read!! So, are you ready to learn? Ready to say, "Thank you, Bitchless Bride!!" Good! You're welcome! 

Wedding Planners:

When you are newly engaged, you tend to become inundated with information overload and it can be daunting to say the least.  My advice to newly-engaged couples is to forgo the route of hiring all of your vendors until you’ve secured the right, professional, experienced wedding planner. Some couples feel it’s best to hire a “day of” coordinator and do the rest themselves, only to learn how much money could have been easily saved by avoiding costly mistakes and uneducated decisions along the way. The right planner should be your guide, your educator, your confidant, your representative along the way and you need to put your trust into this person as they do this every day and truly look out for your best interests from the start. 

Paula Marrero ~ Marrero Events 

My advice to new brides: Don't panic, it's all overwhelming at first but it's important to book the top 3 first-top priorities (if you're not working with a planner) are to find your venue, photographer and band--then breathe!  I also advise brides to wait to design the space until about 6 months before the wedding... You'll be able to have a couple months thinking about ideas, pinning on Pinterest , etc... I find that so many of my clients go in with one idea and once they've relaxed and see what is out there or trending in their wedding year they change their idea of what their wedding looks like--so ultimately they get what they want instead of what they thought they wanted--big difference! 

Amy Kimball ~ Amy Kimball Events 

Invitations:

Invitations are the introduction of your wedding to your friends and family; they set the tone for the event. You can’t just get a quote as there are a lot of factors to consider such as quantity, quality, type of inserts, type of print, etc. There is a lot more involved then most people realize. So, plan accordingly.

Mara Weiner ~ Allure Invitations

Cake:

Be your own "bride" ...don't worry about what family, in-laws, friends & co-workers want for YOUR WEDDING. Follow what YOU have wanted & dreamed about. 

Paula Kirrane ~ Icing on the Cake

Entertainment:

Once your venue is booked, the next step is to lock in your entertainment. In order to get the best DJ or band out there, you have to book well in advance. Remember, first and foremost? Your guests are going to remember if they had a good  time. That’s why good entertainment is vital.

Always ask your entertainment vendor about their other recommended services. This is how you get the best deals without making a laundry list of phone calls. They may already have what you need and could save you time and money without sacrificing quality.

Mike Amado ~ Entertainment Specialists

Photographers:

Lately couples are asking me if they should do the "first look". My answer is always YES! The first reveal is always so sweet. The moment is far more emotion and allows for a more intimate/private moment with just the couple. 

Some brides envision this grand moment when they are walking down the aisle, and the groom is sobbing… However, in reality, in a traditional formal setting with 200 people looking at you… The groom often looks like a deer in head lights. Not at all the magical moment you think it will be! So yes, do a first look! 

Lauren Killian ~ Person + Killian Photography

Don’t do a winter e-session! People look freezing, and are super uncomfortable. Nothing like having dirty snow and branches coming out of everyone's heads! Wait until the spring when the temperatures are higher, and the trees start to bloom. I highly suggest April-November.

~ Anonymous Photographer

Cinematography:

1. Make sure that your photographer and videographer work well as a team. Even better, choose a team where your photographer and videographer have worked together and enjoy the experience.

2. Ask your prospective wedding film maker how they operate during the wedding day. Will they have lights on their cameras? Will they be on the dance floor circling the couple during the first dance? Will they stand behind the officiant during the ceremony - Or will they stake out spots based on experience and fade into the decor?

3. Ask your toasters to limit toasts to under 5 minutes. 3 is even better. There’s not much they can say (that won’t be dumb or embarrassing) after a couple of minutes.

4. Invite your guests to leave their phones and cameras in their pockets or purses. You’re paying for pros to document your wedding - don’t let the amateurs get in the way!

5. When considering wedding cinematography, check out the sound  as well as the images of potential pros. Capturing pristine sound of your grandfather’s blessing and knowing how to integrate it with music and image, is a complex art form. Don’t settle for pretty pictures if you already have a photographer you love. When it comes to film making, sound is 60% or more.

6. If you desperately want a top notch film maker to capture your wedding, and have a limited budget, consider one of the following:

a. Grab pics from the HD / 24 Frames per second of the video capture and forego the photographer.

b. Hire the film maker you want and see if you can work out a payment plan that works for you.

c. Opt for the best film maker you can afford, ask them to produce a short highlights now, and wait until you’ve financially recovered to have them edit the feature film.

Naomi Raiselle ~ Generations Cinemastories 

Florist:

The Best way to trim your budget is to trim you guest list (it literally makes every line item more affordable - period, the end)! (AMEN!!!!!!)

If you "absolutely love and have to have peonies" - know that you absolutely MUST select a wedding date in May or early-June!

Bring as few people to each and every appointment that you book ... the less opinions, the less stressed out you will be!

~ Anonymous Florist

And there you have it... You're welcome, bridey!!! Now, all you have to do is listen to the professionals trying to help you.

Image via The Perfect Job

Fantasy Friday ~ Historic, Simple and Stunning... Welcome to Tori & Cory's Wedding

I never open with a pic of a wedding cake (no matter how much I want to because of my obsession with cake), but this shot really seemed to encapsulate the feel of Tori and Cory's wedding day (I know, right?! They rhyme!). It's warm, elegant and beautiful; completely reflecting how I felt while browsing these photographs. Bridey, please note the ease to T+C's wedding day as it should be a lesson to all brides-to-be. 

The B+G were married in Bramwell, a very historic part of West Virginia. And even though it rained on and off throughout the day, the sun seemed to shine at all of the right times (Shit! Now I'm rhyming!!). I mean... Who cares if it rains?! You're getting married! And, that's what counts! So, bridey, enjoy this totally inspirational wedding, not just for the color palette, cake or flowers, but for the loveliness of the B+G.
I cannot get enough of this bouquet!! It's absolutely stunning!Gorgeous shot!

Covered train station during the rain... How perfect is that?

Ummm.... Can we just talk about Tori's nails? LOVE!Here we go!! Let's get married!What a cutie!! Super excited!!No more rain... 
Um... that's a great kiss! Just sayin'...Real men hold the train...This is a FAB cake topper! And the cake? Love the beautiful simplicity!Check out the faces on these two!!Tori and Cory, you are way too cute. Thanks for sharing with Bitchless Bride!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Jasmine Rose Photography
Floral Designer: Brown Sack Florist
Reception Venue: David's at the Club

Fantasy Friday ~ More Than Just a Rainbow Connection... An Intimate, Backyard Wedding

Holy shit with Claire's hair, right? Fucking amazing! Not only is it a perfect rainbow, but it's ombre too. I mean, that takes talent! And, it takes the right kind of girls to pull that kind of thing off, right?!! Anyway, welcome to Claire and Lane's Las Vegas wedding. Hosted in the backyard of a private home, these two did a fabulous job keeping their wedding day about the two of them. Claire and Lane knew they wanted a small backyard ceremony followed by an informal celebration, rockin' awesome food, drink and family. So... that's exactly what they did! 

Bridey, if you're looking for ways (and examples) to have a beautiful, simple wedding, then browse the pics. The cool-ass hair inspiration? Well, that's a freebie for those of you have the balls to pull it off. Enjoy!
Got to have a "before and after" wedding dress! OMG, I LOVE both of them and how different they are.Let's get a closer look at this stunning Pnina Tornai gown. I am obsessed with the corset!There's nothing like mama love!Lane, you look quite dapper yourself!The gold and royal blue look so elegant.I mean... That's utter happiness.

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Monkey in the Middle... It's a Real Bitch!

Bridey, I gotta ask you a question... Who's in charge? Who's wearing the pants? And, I'm not talking about your relationship with your sig other. Not only is it none of my business, but I don't give a shit. (I mean... For the sake of womankind, I hope it's an equal partnership, but again, none of my biz.) How you manage your relationship is your business, but what is my business is managing the details of your wedding. So, when your soon-to-be MIL calls me (or the venue, or the florist, or DJ, or the band, or the caterer... you see where I'm going with this), and wants to make significant changes to items we've worked hard putting in place, I get a li'l nervous. Therefore, I need to know, who's in charge?

Yesterday, I was boozy brunching with a friend of mine (God I missed mimosas while I was pregnant!), and when I told her about Bitchless Bride, she starting sharing some crazy-ass stories with me (that's usually the reaction I get when I tell people about BB). Anyway, she told me how a friend of hers had some serious issues with her MIL as she was planning her wedding. You're gonna want to sit down, bridey... Trust me.

So, this poor woman's MIL had the audacity to call the bakery and change the flavor and design of the fucking wedding cake. OMG! What the fuck is that about? Right? And, for some of you, the cake is like Holy Grail. It's the one thing you care about the most. You've invested tons of time and energy selecting the particulars, and then this bitch makes a single call and ruins it.

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Fashion-Forward, Super Stylish, Super Glam NYC Wedding

I've had the privilege of working with Ed from Zorz Studios, and as you are about to see, his work is positively sensational. His shots are unique, his perspective eccentric and his demeanor, lovely; something that emanates out of each and every photograph. That coupled with a truly electrifying and cool couple is a recipe for a some spectacular images!

Bridey, I have said it over and over again... Lighting changes everything! And, Dana & John's wedding is no exception. Yes the décor is beautiful, but it is eye-popping with the lighting. Trust me, you won't want to miss anything as you scroll. So, get ready for some fantastic inspiration, some holyshitINEEDthose shoes, and a ton of fun as you take in Dana & John's wedding!
The invitation? A mockup of New York Weddings magazine designed and printed for this kickass couple!OMG. Fucking GORGEOUS pic! Dana, your legs look A MAZ ING, and those shoes? WOW!CLB for men... LOVE IT!Dying over the look on her face!OMG... Dana totally looks like a princess! Totally beautiful!The B+G grew up on the same block and have known each other their whole lives. I love that they stopped for a drink before the reception!Amazing shot of the World Trade Center...Gotta have a few shots in Brooklyn where they had their very first kiss!That champagne thing really works!!Stunning!I love everything about the venue, décor and vibe! And as you know, bridey, I am particularly obsessed with the lighting! Completely changes everything!

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ From Microeconomics Class to an Amazing, Intimate, San Francisco Wedding

It all started in freshmen microeconomics class at Ohio University... And five years later? Dongli and Chengyuan are married in fabulous San Francisco! Their relationship took them across the country beginning in Ohio, then New York, and finally landing in California. 

Dongli's parents were visiting from China, and so that they could attend the wedding ceremony, she moved up the date. Because that's not stressful... OMG! Next year there will be a big reception in Napa Valley, although this reception seemed pretty fucking awesome to me! Bridey, just wait until you see the beautiful outdoor ceremony, stunning long supper table and incredible venue! I can only imagine what the larger reception will be like in Napa! Enjoy!!

Hell of a view of San Francisco!Um... Can we talk about how gorgeous this bouquet is? Holy shit!Looks like a fun group of maids and men!Love this pic...Stunning outdoor ceremony space! Awwwwww.....I am completely in awe of this stunning table! I LOVE the ghost chairs, the amazing flowers and lovely charger plates!

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Stunning & Sexy Wedding in a Brand New Space

I love this picture of Dominique and Jhade. It's sexy and delicious all at the same time, and it truly encapsulates who Dominique and Jhade are as a couple. Not to mention that I am absolutely in love with the pink uplighting. I feel like I constantly preach to my clients about the importance of uplighting, and as you scroll down, bridey, you'll see why. Lighting has the power to change the entire atmosphere of your wedding. It truly dictates how you're supposed to feel while enhancing the decor you have spent hours on perfecting.

Anyway, if you ever want to test your patience and trust, then be the first to get married in a new space. That's exactly what Dominique and Jhade did. They had the very first wedding in Tre Bella's new room, Blu Cielo! And it is STUN NING! Soft and delicate with exposed brick and tremendous beauty. So, if blush and pink are your colors, bridey, then I would advise you to prepare to be inspired!

I love the embellishments on Dominique's wedding dress!The exposed brick, the beautiful bouquet, the blue garter... Oh my!!WOW! Here's to the first wedding in Tre Bella's new room, Blu Cielo... And holy shit is it beautiful!Love how Jhade is checking Dominique out!! I really can't get over how raw and beautiful the space is...This kiss was FAB, but the they way they're looking at each other here? Fucking priceless!I love the pink uplighting!!

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Five Truly Unique Ideas for Your Wedding... Go Ahead, Bridey (or Groomy), Dazzle Me!

So, the other day, a friend of mine showed me the most incredible wedding video. And it wasn't incredible because of some over the top, ridiculously gaudy bullshit or super lavish decor; it was incredible because it was unique and completely unexpected... for the bride and for the guests. What was it that has me so dazzled? Well, in the middle of the ceremony (right before saying "I do"), the adorable (and ballsy) groom broke out into song. Yup! This guy grabbed the mic from the officiant and started singing! And the coolest part? Well, let's just say that the groom wasn't the most talented singer I've ever heard. Honestly? I would say that his performance barely a step above karaoke, but that's not the point. The point is, he did something so fabulous, and so unexpected that nobody in attendance will ever forget it!

Oh, but it gets better, bridey! How? Well, about four or five of the guests stood up in their seats and sang with him. I mean, obviously this was planned, and probably practiced (did I mention the saxophone player?!), but what a fantastic surprise! Right? And the bride was absolutely floored! She just stood there watching with the most beautiful look on her face. Who knows? Perhaps she was horrified, but I have a hunch she was entranced and touched. Wouldn't you be?

Look, I'm not saying that you (or your groom) have to break out into song to have your wedding stand out from all of the others (although, it's a super awesome idea!); all I am saying is that if you are interested in doing something different, then it's time to color outside of the lines. Here are a five quick ideas to make your wedding a bit more unique:

1. Screw the classical music! Bridey, walk down the aisle to something fabulous... like a song with words! Stumped? Some of my faves are "Hallelujah" by Jeff Buckley or "Skinny Love" by Bon Iver (one of my favorite songs ever!) or the almost overdone, but still FAB "Marry Me" by Train.

2. Candy bouquets. Who said you need to walk down the aisle with flowers? Get whimsy! Grab a bunch of those twisty lollipops, tie them together and trot down the aisle!

3. Lose the traditional wedding food. Shock your guests and DON'T feed them chicken or beef. I mean, aren't we all a bit sick of fucking chicken and beef???!!