Weddings

Don't Let the Size of Your Wedding Dress Dictate Your Self Worth!

That’s me before the party I attended last week in a wedding dress! And, without makeup!

That’s me before the party I attended last week in a wedding dress! And, without makeup!

“Oh my goodness, you look beautiful.” said the sales woman to the bride in the princess wedding gown.

“I think this is it. But...” her voice trailed off.

“But, what? You truly look remarkable.” she said in a high pitched chipper voice.

“It’s a 14.” the bride said quietly.

“Look past the size. This is the second time you’ve tried on this dress over the past week. I’m thinking this ‘the one’. Forget about what size it is. It doesn’t matter.” said the sales woman.

“You’re right!” she said with a twirl.

I am a wedding planner, wedding podcaster and wedding blogger. I surround myself with everything related to weddings, and it’s pretty safe to say that I’m deeply immersed the wedding world. But, until last week, I was not as immersed as I had previously thought. After all of these years, I totally missed something. Shopping for a wedding dress. Or the extreme experience of shopping for a wedding dress. You know, the experience of trying on several wedding dresses in several different sizes, several different styles and several different shapes? That one. Oddly enough, it’s an experience I had last week at a popular wedding dress chain.

As most of you know, I eloped. And while I didn’t end up wearing my wedding dress on my wedding day, I did try on wedding dresses with my mom, and shockingly, it was super easy. My pre-children body lent itself to a perfect A-Line dress; one that I found almost immediately. We were in a small little store off the beaten path, and the only two people in the shop (aside from the owner). It was luxurious. It was perfect. And, it was a total anomaly. I dodged a bullet without realizing I need to duck. Because my experience then, versus my experience trying on wedding dresses last week, was vastly different.

Drinking from a unicorn straw!

Drinking from a unicorn straw!

Last week, my experience was fun and miserable at the same time. It tested my normally confident and secure self, and made me question if I should even be trying on dresses at all. I mean, I’m not a bride. The dress was for an industry party that required guests to dress, “so extra” or over the top. And, I was going as a Bitchless Bride! So what the fuck was I doing trying on these dresses that made me feel shitty? Seriously, why make myself miserable for the sake of a party? I didn’t HAVE to go as a bride, I wanted to. But, I pushed through it. And I made myself push through because if I were a (real) bride like you, I’d have to find a dress, and that reasoning gave me the determination I needed to keep going. It forced me to change my perspective.

LOVE LOVE LOVE Danielle Duane, Jill Person + George Horemotis!!! We were EXTRA AS FUCK!

LOVE LOVE LOVE Danielle Duane, Jill Person + George Horemotis!!! We were EXTRA AS FUCK!

Once I decided that I wasn’t leaving without a dress, I started pulling every style, shape and size. I told myself that I wasn’t going to look at the evil little tag with the bullshit number testing every fiber of my self confidence. Because it wasn’t real. It wasn’t consistent. And it sure as hell wasn’t worth completely undoing years of self love for one fucking dress. So, I pulled sizes ranging from 6-16, and some were enormous and some I couldn’t pull past my thighs. And suddenly I was having fun. Well, in-between the sweating from pulling the dresses, trying them on and my irritated skin, it was fun. But, I learned something that day that I’ll never forget. I learned how powerful it was to change my perspective. My mood literally went from self loathing to fuck it in an instant. And, since I PREACH perspective on the podcast + blog, I thought I’d practice it.

Bridey, my experience could have set me back years. I mean, this experience was far worse than shopping for jeans. And we all know that jean shopping is no picnic. But, the decision to give zero fucks about a meaningless number in a dress and the decision to keep moving, changed my entire experience. It changed everything. I walked out of there with a dress (and earrings and a necklace and a headband veil). And that night at the party, I fucking rocked it! I was a badass Bitchless Bride! The best part? Several people thought I was wearing my actual wedding dress! Little did they know that I bought it the day before, and guerrilla taped the hem(s) so I could avoid falling down.

OMG… Jenny Williamson, Michelle DeVoe, Jill Person + George Horemotis! Yaaaassss!!!

OMG… Jenny Williamson, Michelle DeVoe, Jill Person + George Horemotis! Yaaaassss!!!

I’m sharing this story with you because I hope that by reading this article, you’ll remember to dose up with a shitload of perspective before you begin your wedding dress journey. Go in strong and stay strong. Ignore the bullshit “size” in the dress and go for what fits and feels good! Got it? Good!! Stay Bitchless!

5 Wedding Planning Tips That Will Keep You (+ Your Sig Other) Sane as You Move Out of “Me” and Into “We”

Happy New Year, brideys!! And, a big ol’ Happy New Year to you recently engaged brides-to-be! If you’re reading this post, then I think it’s safe to assume that your sig other planted a shiny rock under your Christmas tree, menorah, kinara, or what have you. Am I right? Yes? Great! Well then, congratulations! And, welcome… Welcome to your new status, your new label, your new position, rank, order, footing, condition (I think that’s my fave!), etc.! Because that is what you are now, bridey, you’re a classification. The world views you differently (like it or not). The moment the word, “yes” slipped from your lips, you lost a little piece of your individuality quickly to be replaced with “we” statements. And, that’s okay, but it’s a big step and you probably need some bullshit-free instructions as to how the hell to get through the next year(ish) unscathed. Yeah? Cool! Here are my top five wedding planning tips that will keep you (and your sig other) sane as you move out of “me” and into “we”.

1. Bridey, sit down (and grab a cocktail). This “tip" is super important, and not just for you, but for those working with you to create the most kickass version of your wedding day. Ahem… Commit to the process or else it won’t work. PERIOD. You know that nothing good ever comes out of half assed, phoned in “work”. Right? And your wedding day is no different. You get what you give. And, if you give very little, then you will receive very little in return. It’s like when you’re trying to lose weight. You can’t expect a successful outcome if you’re not willing to commit to making it happen, right? So, commit to the wedding planning process. And, sometimes that means doing shit you don’t want to do or taking a half day here and there with your sig other to plan details that need to be done during regular business hours. Whatever the case may be, by committing to the process, you’ll save yourself a ton of unnecessary aggravation and stress.

2. This leads me to my next recommendation… Get organized. Get your shit together, bridey. Believe me, I know it’s hard, but it will make you feel better. I’m going to need you to visualize with me for a sec. Imagine a closet. Now imagine this closet full of stuff, with things hanging off of the shelves, items knocked over and tangled, and the floor a mess with garbage. Now picture the closet ads you see from the Container Store. You know, the ones with the clothes hanging just so, the shoes spaced exactly an inch apart and a floor you can see? Which one feels better to you? The cluttered mess of a closet or the clean, neat and organized closet? See where I’m going? Wedding planning will feel better to you if you’re organized, so just do it.

3. Slow down. That doesn’t mean you get to go back to your unorganized, filthy closet. It just means that you don’t have to do your wedding planning all at once. Enjoy being engaged, and go at your own pace. Agree on the date, solidify the venue and hire your entertainment. BREAK + BREATHE. Take a beat and then fill in the blanks. The date, venue and entertainment are the most important (as far as availability), and once those are determined, the rest will fall into place (after the proper research, of course!).

4. A “one-of-a-kind” or “unique” wedding does not exist, so quit trying to make it happen. Because I can assure you with absolutely certainty that it’s all been done already… However, you know what IS one-of-a-kind, bridey? Something personal to you and your sig other that you choose to share with your guests. For example, if you two are enormous Kermit the Frog fans, then rock a green cake with FAB cake toppers and give Kermy favors. Love poetry? Then incorporate it into your vows and even into your menu. Share what is unique to YOU TWO with your guests instead of striving for “being different”.

5. Have fun! It doesn’t have to be all business all of the time. I mean, some of your appointments include tasting piles of cake and entrées and booze. Pretty fucking fantastic, right? So, don’t ruin it with mundane conversation about every single logistical detail of your wedding. Make your selections. Enjoy the food. And, most of all enjoy each other!!

Bridey, you’re getting married and that’s awesome! Just remember to keep it all in perspective. No matter what happens, you have each other, and when it’s all said and done, that’s what’s important, right?

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Five REAL Reasons Why Nobody Wants to Come to Your Wedding

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Does anybody else think it’s ironic that nobody wants to come to your wedding, while concurrently, you’re secretly hoping they don’t? Really think about that. I mean, I know you want certain people to come to your wedding and certain people actually do want to come to your wedding, but what about the majority? Oftentimes, you don’t want them and they don’t want you. Strangely enough, sometimes, it’s for very similar reasons. You want to save money, and they don’t want to spend it. You don’t want to be surrounded with people you don’t care about on your wedding day, and they don’t want to be there out of obligation. To them, your wedding is a hassle; an interruption to an otherwise lovely weekend. So where’s the happy medium? And, what about the other reasons people don’t want to come to your wedding? Is it always about the money? No, it’s not, and some of the reasons will surprise you…

Bridey, last month I wrote a post titled, Please Don’t Come to My Wedding… How Cutting the Guest List Can Mean Cutting the Cord. That article was more about you, bridey, relieving yourself of toxic relationships simply by cutting certain people from your guest list, your budget and ultimately from your life, but how about some insight as to why people don’t want to come to your wedding (that has nothing to do with money). What other reasons could there possible be? Several actually… And, you better sit down because the truth hurts.

1. Perhaps they don’t like you as much as you like them. Whoops! Maybe I shouldn’t have started with such a doozy. But, please don’t kill the messenger, because it’s true. Just a stab in the dark, but this could be their way of cutting the cord with you in the same way not inviting somebody to your wedding is your way of cutting the cord with them. It goes both ways, it’s just hard to be on the receiving end.

2. Maybe they don’t like your who you’re going to marry, and don’t think you’ll be a together in the long run. Why go to a wedding to celebrate a couple who, in their opinion, has no chance of making it? And, if this IS the case, then I’m guessing that on some level, you, bridey, already knew this and therefore the RSVP shouldn’t come as a surprise.

3. Did you go to their wedding? No? Well, what goes around comes around. Sure, it’s childish, but they’re getting even with you. Even if you had a valid reason, they’re obviously still pissed off, and consider not going to your wedding as retaliation. This person isn’t married? Are they engaged? Because if they are, perhaps you’re not on their guest list, so it’s only fair if they don’t go to your wedding.

4. It’s possible that their RSVP has nothing to do with you, bridey. Maybe they’re just in a shitty place personally, and the idea of being around happy people, happily celebrating and just being happy is the last thing they want. I mean, we’ve all been there and it sucks, and feeling depressed in a big crowd of people makes it worse.

5. Two words: Vacation Time. Or lack thereof… Using those precious and limited vacation days for your wedding isn’t exactly the vacation they had in mind. Because your day can’t compete with a week in sunny and fabulous destinations like Barbados, St. Thomas, Cabo…

Bridey, we’ll never really know why people do the crazy shit they do or what makes them tick. And, sadly, this list could have been ten deep, but the five listed above are the most “popular”. However, I’ve been doing this long enough to tell you that if they don’t want to come to your wedding, then you’re 100% better off without them there. So, please, try not to dwell on the people that aren’t coming, and focus on the people that are coming to your wedding! Got it?

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Too Tired to Write, Too Tired to Post and Too Tired to Care

Bridey, when I wrote Why You Should Act Like Your Mother is Your Wedding Planner, I referenced that I was moving. Well, suddenly, it's upon us (two weeks until we are out of our house), and I'm fucking stressed. And while writing about and posting fabulous weddings would probably be a welcome distraction to the craziness that is my life right now, I am so tired at the end of the day (I mean... I AM turning 40 this summer (OMGF!!), and between my age + kids + work) I cannot get my shit together this week(s); hence, no new posts. But, don't worry bridey, I promise, I will be back to myself soon and the posts will be juicy. But, for now, I just want to get through the week, one day at a time. BBS!!

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***FLASHBACK*** Does Hiring a Wedding Planner Really Save You Money? The Real Answer to That Burning Question...

"Does hiring a wedding planner save you money?" Bridey, this is probably one of the most asked questions in the entire wedding industry. "Does hiring a wedding planner save you money?" Well, and this one, "Why are wedding planners so expensive?" And, you know what? There really isn't a "clean" answer to these burning questions. Just a bunch of industry professionals feeling like they have to justify why they are 100% necessary in the grand scheme of your wedding. So, I thought I would jump in and explain it. No bullshit. No smoke and mirrors. Just plain ol' facts. Ready?

Quite honestly, asking if a wedding planner will save you money is somewhat of a loaded question. Do wedding planners know all the right people in a world that you don't? Yes. Will that save you tons of time, and anguish as you narrow down your wedding vendors? Absolutely! Think about it... We have spent years cultivating relationships with our vendors, which should make you (bridey) more comfortable with our referrals. Because not only do "our" vendors not want to disappoint you, but they definitely don't want to disappoint us. Sounds so badass, right? But, it’s true. Personally, I have vendors who I LOVE LOVE LOVE, and who LOVE LOVE LOVE me back. And it’s not because of the money, it’s because of our history and relationship.

Think about it like this… A wedding planner will bring the right vendors, to you, as opposed to you having to do extensive research, and find them on your own. You will choose from a short, tried and true, list of vendors, instead of a long, quite possibly, shitty, list of vendors that you found from several different websites. Right there? That's time back in your life. Time that you didn't waste looking for the right fit because it was delivered to you. Plus, your planner will then sweat the nitty gritty and make sure you’re not getting taken for a ride. Ted Bauer said perfectly, "It's no longer 'time is money.' Now time is literally the new money." I couldn't have said it better myself (so I didn't!).

But, here's the thing that really gets me upset. Accountants, realtors, and even used car dealers do shit for people all of the time without justification. But, wedding planners? We always seem to have to justify our professional existence. What the fuck? Right? I mean, for years, I did my taxes myself, and you know what? For years, I fucked them up! (Seriously, I don't know who I thought I was to be responsible for my taxes!!) And, that was something that was annual, not a once in a lifetime event!! But, when I hired an accountant, not only did he fix all of my previous mistakes, he showed me where else I could be doing better. Same goes for realtors... I could sell my house by myself, but why would I, when I could pay somebody who knows what the hell they're doing, to do it for me? And you know what? No justification necessary. Just get 'er done! Sell it!

So, will a wedding planner save you money? Yes! But, probably not the total cost of their fee. But, they will save you a tremendous amount of time (the new money), and all of your sanity… How can you put a price tag on that?

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Bitchless Bride is on the Best Wedding Blogs of 2017!!!

I know... A blurry pic, but it's the best my hungover ass can do at the moment! Seriously, I'm so fucking thrilled to be on WeddingBlogs100 list (again and again and again)! Thank you, brideys, for nominating me! I feel so loved! Here's to a fucking fantastic, life-changing and amazing 2017! I couldn't have asked for a better way to start!

THANK YOU!

XO,
BB

What Happens When a Bride Doesn't Come Back from Bridal Entitlement?

You know what’s crazy? My dad got me thinking about this topic. I know, right? Every so often my father and I have a few glasses of wine and start chatting about why people are the way that they are, and what makes them tick. And considering my background, these conversations usually lead to talk of entitled and bitchy brides. And we all know that when it comes to brides, some have an affinity to the dark side, and take on multiple personalties during wedding planning, something I fondly deemed as Bridaldemia, an affliction in which a “normal”, sweet bride turns into a crazy, entitled bitch. Usually, she comes out of the haze after her wedding day, but what happens when a bride doesn’t come back from bridal entitlement? What happens if she can’t shake that alternate personality after she says “I do”? By our third glass of Cabernet, my dad told a story about a women he worked with many years ago who never “recovered” from of her entitled, bridal ways. 

What’s interesting to me is that this lovely woman, turned into a nasty bitch bride before it was considered “acceptable” behavior, like it is now. Seriously, bridey, you’ve heard me whine a gazillion times about how I feel like our society applauds and encourages, and even celebrates bad bridal, ‘zilla behavior, and how it makes me want to pull my hair out. But, thirty-five years ago? Not so much. More often than not, a bride’s mother would plan her wedding with little buy in from the bride. So, hearing that this sort of behavior started decades ago, was definitely shocking to me! But, what’s even more worrisome is that this chick never went back to who she was before she got the rock. Then it hit me! I 100% know her type. I have worked with at least a dozen women over the years who were completely different people when they walked down the aisle as opposed to when they hired me, and never quite shook the entitlement after their nuptials.

The problem? These brides got used to the entitlement and they liked it. They liked it so much that they decided not to go back to the people they were before. And, when you think about it, why the fuck would they? We all fight for position, and when you’re a bride, your position immediately moves up. As a bride, you’re treated with kid gloves, and for the most part, you get whatever you want because you use your new position and demand it. And, what’s worse?People give it to you. So, why would a bride want to go back to her previous position as a plain, average woman when she gets so much more by being entitled? Right? In a fucked up way, who could blame her?

But, here’s the thing. If the wedding/hospitality industry stopped bending over for these demanding bitchy brides who are simply using their new position to be miserable and make everybody else miserable, then the problem or the entitlement would go away; the problem would cease to exist. But, until we as a whole (industry) stop being so fucking afraid to say “no” and accept entitled piss-poor behavior, then we will stay broken, and brides will continue to stay entitled. And, some won’t come back from it because they were taught that the more noise you make, and the more misbehaved your are, the more you get.

It’s painfully clear that things have to change for us to get our brides back from bridal entitlement. As an industry, we have to stop enabling and celebrating bad behavior. We have to take care our brides without letting them trample and take advantage of our good intentions. In a sense, we have to “raise” them to be good brides so that they don’t become entitled, and then we won’t have to worry about getting them back after the wedding. Essentially, we have to eliminate the problem before it starts. But, I can’t do it alone. Brides and vendors alike have to make a conscious effort to stop the bridal entitlement before it starts! Who’s with me?! Good! Stay Bitchless! 

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**FLASHBACK** ~ The Lone Bride... Why Getting Married Can Sometimes Make You Feel Incredibly Lonely...

So, I had an epiphany the other day while catching up with an old friend of mine. You see, bridey, she’s getting married, so of course we were discussing her wedding plans, annoying family drama (which inevitably presents itself during the process), and the seriously stupid shit people say when they hear you’re getting married. Like, “We were wondering when you were finally going to met the right one.” Right? BRUTAL! My friend is my age (just about 39), and comments like that are just dumb. But, what struck me the hardest was when she said, “It’s strange, planning my wedding has made me feel incredibly lonely.” Whaaaaaa? Lonely? “Why lonely?” I asked. Her answer stopped me in my tracks and literally made me need to sit down (I totally pace while I’m on the phone).

“Because, I’m 100% in it alone. Everybody else has already gotten married, had kids and is dealing with their own shit. They don’t care that I’m getting married. I mean, they’re happy for me, but they just want to show up on my wedding day, and be done.” she sniffled. WHOA… I never thought about the “lone bride”. I mean… I just wrote about why getting married in your 30s is so much better than getting married in your 20s because you’re smarter, and stronger and more resilient to the bullshit. And, while all of these things still hold true, this kind of conversation definitely shed some light on what it feels like to be the last 30-something standing. Complete isolation.

I mean… Does she not deserve to have her big day simply because she waited too long? That seems entirely unfair. But, do people really not care as time ticks by? I tried to put myself in the position of the married chick with kids dealing with her own shit… Oh wait! I’m actually that girl. I have two kids, been married over a decade, and yet, I’m still excited for my friends who are getting married now. Perhaps it’s because I am more tuned in due to the wedding-world I live in, but to not be happy or care that one of my friends is getting married? No. Absolutely not. 

Buuuuuutttt… If I’m completely honest, I probably don’t care the way I would have cared like 10 years ago. Because too much has happened since I walked down the aisle. Too much has happened since I said “I do”. Two kids, illness, hospitalization(s), job loss, new jobs,  buying a house, work, etc… All huge life events that make my actual wedding day, and planning that went with it, seem far away and small. Kind of like a mirage dancing in the distance. It’s still important, but certainly not the most important moment in my life.

Bridey, you know what I said to her? I uttered my favorite fucking word on the planet… Perspective (seriously, read the link)! I reminded her that while her friends and family love her, and want her to be happy, their perspective has changed since they got married. They have had experiences that have changed them, and changed their thinking about weddings and wedding planning. Does that mean that they don’t care? Absolutely not. But, they aren’t about to get wrapped up in the minutiae or give advice on which flowers to select. What they will give you, is advice. They’ll tell you to stop obsessing over the details, and enjoy the dude and the day. They’ll tell you everything they would have changed about their wedding if they didn’t get in their own way, and allow every.single.detail. to get under their skin. They’ll tell you how fast your wedding day goes, so enjoy every second, even if it’s raining. They’ll tell you a bunch of shit… So, listen, and learn.

Bridey, if you’re a 30-something bride feeling lonely, recognize that you’re not alone. Know that your friends and family DO care, and they love you. They just have their hands full with their own lives and their own perspective. It’s not personal, it’s literally just life. And, they will be there to celebrate with you (and your hus), and to love you, just leave them out of the plans…

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5 Completely Unoriginal, Yet Completely Unique Wedding Ideas

As a wedding planner, coach and founder of Bitchless Bride, a common question I get asked by almost every bride I talk to is, “What have you seen or done at a wedding that’s totally different or out-of-the-box?” And, the funny thing is by simply asking me that question, the originality looses its meaning. I mean, if I tell you what’s original, then it’s no longer original, right? So, rather than tell these eager brides what I have seen that’s so different or so original, I tell them what was original about the couple, and how they incorporated that into their wedding day. The truth is, bridey, is that there is really nothing you can do at your wedding that hasn’t been done before, and probably like a million times (this year alone!). But… don’t fret! I’m sure that you and your sig other rock some pretty original and unique attributes that you can easily fuse into your wedding! And, more often than not? That’s the shit your guests will love! So, I’ll share my top five unoriginal, yet completely unique wedding ideas with you based on real couples and real weddings that have graced the pages of Bitchless Bride.

1. Goofball wedding. This bride and groom could hardly keep a straight face the whole day, and I love them for it! Connie and Tim are probably one of my favorite weddings ever… Aside from the awesome Star Wars and Futurama references and nods, this B+G are funny people who made funny faces throughout their entire wedding day, and ensured that their guests would have a fantastic time attending their wedding. They stayed true to who they are (complete goofballs), and when I published their wedding, I wrote that the bride and groom will, “absolutely look back on their wedding day and see themselves smiling back. Not some contrived, weddingy version of themselves.” See, that’s the thing, bridey. All of the “stuff” that makes a wedding “original” tends to be trendy bullshit that will come and go. But, dropping hints of your inner geek and showing your guests who you are as a couple? That is timeless!

2. Zombie wedding. Bridey, zombie weddings have totally been done before, usually on or around Halloween, but it’s the bride and groom’s vision that makes it unique. And Allison and James? Holy shit! I fell in love with Allison the minute I learned that she took a scissors to the bridesmaids dresses! Certainly no pressure to wear those dresses again! But, what I really loved was all of the detail and thought the B+G put into the plans. From the red uplighting which totally set the mood (both romantic and spooky) to the bride’s black and white wedding dress to the black linen to the creative guest costumes and insanely FAB makeup (um, definitely not your typical wedding makeup!), it was wonderfully unique, while at the same time still quite elegant.

3. Retro-Inspired wedding. Retro weddings are super fucking cool for a variety of reasons. First of all, the décor, if done well, can blow the wedding away! Secondly, the photographs are totally exquisite. Take Denise and Jeremy… They had such a sensational retro wedding in Arizona that I was completely distracted by all the eye candy as I tried to write up their wedding. The furniture, the lighting, and even the overall feel of the space was completely over the top! And, for two people who have a retro flare? Why not incorporate it into your wedding? The possibilities are endless when it comes to favors, décor, entertainment and even the cake!

4. Super Glam Wedding. If money is not a thing, bridey, and you and your sig other have an affinity for the finer things in life, then glam it up girl! Go crazy with the flowers and décor! Let the gold and Moët flow! Take Kristi and Steve… This fabulous Australian couple literally made my jaw drop when I saw the pictures of their STUNNING wedding. Everything from the five tiered, gold wedding cake (OMFG!), to the deep red and pink flowers to the black dance floor, and just the way the uplighting reflected off of their cake (Yup! You read that right!)… It was truly beautiful! And the B+G loved every second. If glamorous is your style, then go for it!

5. Rustic Wedding. Nothing new here, bridey, but putting your own unique spin on something that has become super trendy? Now, that’s pretty awesome! Personally? It all comes down to the venue and the details. A lovely barn with a tent, long tables with mismatched China or napkins, tons of DIY and usually a lot of booze make a rustic wedding so rustically fantastic. But, when you make it your own like Gloria and Maggie did, then it becomes completely unique, and about the two of you. A distinctive take on a familiar idea.

So, bridey, what’s your unoriginal wedding going to look like? How are you going to make it your own? What will you and your sig other bring to your wedding day that reflects more about who you are as a couple instead of the next BIG thing?

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