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The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Time to Educate Your Rude Guests, Bridey!

I want to stand up and shout, "HELL YEAH"! I want to applaud until my hands hurt because now there is proof; now there is evidence of just how fucking rude people can be. Let me fill you in... Read this article on Distractify, but in a nutshell, a popular restaurant in NYC hired a firm to help them determine why a common complaint was slow service, or that it took too long to get seated. They had done everything in their power to increase service standards, and even though they serve approximately the same number of guests as they did ten years ago, they are receiving mediocre service scores. The culprit? The patron AND THEIR PHONE! Shockingly, there is a direct correlation to slow service, and not because of the servers or a slow kitchen, but because of the guest! People are so obsessed with their goddamn phones that it's actually creating a kink in the service industry! And now there's proof!!!

You're probably thinking, "That's great, BB, but what does this have to do with planning my wedding?". FAB question, bridey. This affects you in the same way that it affects restaurants (probably all over the world). Huh? How?

1. Your rehearsal dinner is at a restaurant. So, after reading the article on Distractify, I'm guessing that you are now mentally fast forwarding to your lovely prenup dinner, and praying that your guests put their phones down and leave the servers alone so that their meals are served promptly and hot. Am I right? 

The solution? Place a tent card on each table asking that your guests take their own pictures, and let the servers serve; not to be confused with a photographer!

2. Getting to your wedding day... How about we start with your ceremony, shall we? Part of my new(ish) MO is to walk up and down the aisle and politely (no really, I can be polite) remind your guests to turn their phones to silent or airplane mode. Listen, I certainly don't have the audacity to ask your peeps to turn their cherished phones all the way off... Because I mean, I know how uncomfortable that can be, but sadly, more so than ever, I need to remind people not to be rude! And that means silencing their phones as you exchange your vows!

The solution? If you're providing ceremony programs, at the bottom of the page, place a friendly reminder to silence all phones. Not providing progams? Then have the officiant remind your guests to silence their phones before beginning the ceremony.

3. You know how many times I have seen servers put down their trays (filled with delicious passed hors d'oeuvres) to take photographs of guests? Let's just say that if your cocktail hour is just that, an hour, I would say that a good 15 minutes is spent with servers, trays down, and your guest's iPhones in hand. And who do you think will complain that they "didn't even see a passed hors d'oeuvre"? Every single elderly relative (who doesn't get the whole phone thing), will ultimately blame the bride

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ What's a Bridey to do When a Vendor isn't Responding?

Hello BB!

I’ve been a follower of your blog for a while now, even prior to getting engaged (I knew it was coming…)! 

BB, I swear that I’ve followed much of your advice about how to be the best bridey I can be. That said, here's my story... I’m planning a destination wedding in Florida, and outside of a few hiccups along the way, wedding planning has been for the most part, okay.

Except for one thing… Getting the person who is handling my reception at her restaurant to email me back in a timely manner. And I promise that I’m not that bride who writes an email at 7 am, and expects a reply by 7:05. I just want her to respond within the week. Is that too much to ask? I mean this has been going on for literally months. MONTHS! 

Let me explain.

The restaurant/venue is booked. The next time we are in Florida is for Thanksgiving week, and that is the last time prior to the wedding. Here’s everything that is outstanding:

1. I have asked in previous emails about getting pricing for a musician to play during the reception, (the restaurant has a guy that plays Spanish guitar); she told me she would get a name and number to me, and has not.

2. The menu at the venue changes with the change of seasons. Knowing that, I’ve been asking which menu we will be using, winter or spring (my wedding date is March 1st). No response.

3. I swear that every email I have sent, (which really hasn’t been that many – 4 tops) I have always been cordial and always say something to the tune of that I appreciate your time and help, and so on.

So, now summer goes by, and I send an email asking for the info I need and if we could set up an appointment to finalize things while we are there prior to the Thanksgiving holiday (as we are going to be in town). I sent that email a week ago… No reply. 

I know I’m not her only client, but damn this is so frustrating! And it’s not like this is her first time at the rodeo, as I know they have several weddings, rehearsal dinners, etc. booked, and somehow that makes it even worse. My patience is starting to wearing the fuck out.

Please help me in regards as to how to address her so that I can rectify this situation. All I really want to do is get things wrapped up. And at the same time, I don’t want her wishing she never booked me. 

Help!!

Sincerely,

"Trying Not to Lose it"

***VENDORS, WEDDING INDUSTRY FOLKS AND BRIDEYS WHAT DO YOU THINK? PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT WITH ADVICE FOR "TRYING NOT TO LOSE IT".***

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And They Lived Unhappily Ever After...

I am completely dying right now... I just got off of the phone (literally, like 2 minutes ago) with a Mother of the Groom (MOG), and not only did the conversation begin with her crying, but it ended with her saying, "I just want to do this for them (the rehearsal dinner), and then I want them to get divorced." Right? What the fuck???