Posts tagged Venue
Fantasy Friday ~ A Replacement Venue, An Almost Replacement Heart and a Love Story

Damn. Jen and Daniel are one hell of a couple. Seriously. Talk about having to deal with their fair share of shit even before becoming husband a wife... These two strong individuals certainly make one solid couple! During the wedding planning, Jen found herself in the hospital for weeks with heart failure. Thankfully, she pulled through even without a transplant (which is absolutely AMAZING!) as her heart began to slowly heal itself. Daniel refused to leave her side, and then took on the bulk of the planning so that Jen did not have to endure the stress. And, bridey? Besides the emotional roller coaster of heart failure (oh my goodness!), they lost their wedding venue due to the asshole owners shutting their doors, and taking their money with them. WHOA... Because that's not stressful... WTF???

Being the amazing (and quite handsome) guy that Daniel is, he reached out to Brooke of Brooke Taylor Studios, and wrote the following absolutely heartwrenching (no pun), and sincere letter: Good evening, my fiancé and I have been dealing with having to find a new venue for our wedding that we had already sent out the save the dates to. In April, my fiancé Jen got sick and ended up at UW Hospital with heart failure. She was at the top of the transplant list but her heart slowly ended up healing itself. A few weeks ago, she finally got out of the hospital and we started up planning our wedding again. I am trying my best to make sure she does not have to do much or stress since her heart is still healing. It would mean a great deal to us if you were able to do the photography for us. Our wedding date is planned to be on October 5, 2014 and will be somewhere around the greater Seattle area once we narrow down the replacement venue. Thank you so much for offering this opportunity.

Stunning wedding dress, and truly beautiful bridesmaid dresses (you don't hear that too often!)...
I mean... Holy shoes!!!
Passing notes...
I think dogs in weddings is on the rise. How cute is this pooch?!

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The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Five Ways to Avoid Being a Micromanager on Your Wedding Day

Bridey, I can handle a lot of things, but the one thing I cannot stand is to be micromanaged. Period. So, please don’t micromanage me. And please don’t micromanage your vendors. The funny thing is that I’m not talking about now; the wedding planning process. I’m talking about on your wedding day. Seriously, don’t you have enough on your mind? Like, oh, I don’t know… your wedding vows, your reception and how basically every single person you love will be in the same room at the same time… That’s a big deal, bridey. HUGE actually, and I hate to say it, but that will most likely only happen one other time in your life. Yeah, I’ll let you figure that one out yourself.

As I was saying, this is our job. We, your vendors, do this most every weekend throughout the year (more or less), and hopefully you will only do this once. And when you take a step back, who has more experience? I’ll give you a hint, it ain’t you babe! So, please, just enjoy your wedding day because not only do you deserve to be utterly happy, but we have worked incredibly hard making it happen for you.

Look, I know that it’s easier said than done, so I thought I would give you a few pointers on how to prevent your bridey ass from turning into a micromanager on your wedding day:

1. I know this is simple, but just resist the urge to micromanage. Every time you feel it bubbling up, think about the big picture and all of the professionals you have hired to do their jobs. Bridey, you are not on the clock today. You should literally just sit there looking pretty and enjoying yourself.

2. Remember how I said that you hired professionals? Well bridey, give yourself a round of applause because there is a reason why you hired WHO you hired, right? So let go of all your Type A mannerisms and allow said professionals to do the job you hired them to do.

3. On that note, let them (your vendors) do their job their way. Perhaps you’ve dabbled in photography or were an MC in college. That’s great, but please don’t begin suggesting amazing shots that your photographer just “has to take” or making turntable recommendations to your DJ. They’ll figure it out! They always do. Bridey, unless there is something specific that you forgot to communicate to one of your vendors or the venue prior to your wedding, ease off and just relax!

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The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ I'm Not Going to Say, "I TOLD YOU SO!!!!"

Yeah, I'm feeling kinda ranty today. Honestly, I'm fucking exhausted. I'm so tired of being the shrink, mediator, personal assistant, and hand holder. This wedding season has been awesome and brutal all at the same time! Seriously, I feel completely bipolar because one day, I am absolutely elated; lovin' life and my clients, and the next, I am down in the dumps wishing I had a chosen to do something else with my life. Something that didn't require so much brain power; something where my "product" wasn't dependant on people and their ever-changing ideas and opinions.

This wedding season, I've had some truly amazing clients who really understand that there is life beyond their wedding day, and then I've also had some clients who are so self absorbed and seem to have some serious issues with sharing. That's an odd thing for me to say, huh? I guess it is... Why don't I explain with a story...

Recently, I worked with a client who was absolutely OBSESSED with the fact that her gorgeous and extremely popular venue had the nerve to have another event booked in their ballrom prior to her big day. Outrageous, right? I mean, how could they have the audacity to maximize their profit on a busy Saturday in June? Yeah... hoping you're picking up on my sarcasm... Anyway, almost every single conversation we had either started with or ended with a diatribe, asking me if "I could believe that they had another party ending so close to the beginning of her wedding." Perhaps I am somewhat immune to a tight turn (meaning that the venue and vendors have a short period of time to flip an event space from one party to the next), but a two hour window is nothing; easy peasy. In fact, there are plenty of us (vendors, wedding planners, etc.) who have turned a room in an hour! But, no matter how hard I tried to explain this to my client, she would not HEAR me. And goddamn if I wasn't annoyed.

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The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Effective Negotiation or Ineffective Mediation?

Today I'm struggling with an email I received from a bride who I KNEW I shouldn't have taken on, but I did because I just haven't learned my lesson! Actually, I can honestly say that I took it for the money. She's got a lot of it, and not only is that enticing for me personally, but oftentimes it makes for a super fun planning experience too. Well... USUALLY it does.

Anyway, recently, we visited several venues and received several proposals with the hopes of solidifying a space quickly so that we could move on to the fun stuff; decor! However, enclosed in her email was a wish list of sorts based on the spaces we saw. And it was shocking. Actually, it was undeniably, borderline horrifying. Because this wasn't just any wish list. This was a genie in a fucking bottle wish list. This was an "I'm smoking the fuck out of this crack pipe" list. As a matter of fact, it was more like an "I want everything for free, and I'm totally entitled to it because, I know you want my business, so fuck off" kind of wish list.  

Seriously, I stood at my computer completely shocked. Because although I knew this bridey was going to be a bit of a challenge (code for what we industry peeps call a total pain in the ass), cheap wasn't really what I had expected. I mean, it's one thing to negotiate, but it's a whole other ball game to expect that you are exempt from paying for shit because you're getting married.

So, bridey, based on this ridiculous email, I thought I'd share with you a few secrets about negotiation:

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It's Real Wedding Wednesday Y'all.... Texas Style

{Couldn't you just bust?! I cannot get over this photograph!}

You thought a long distance relationship was difficult? Well, think again bridey! You know what's more difficult than a long distance relationship? Long distance wedding planning!! It's adds a whole other kind of stress to the planning experience. You are forced to have to depend on the other people to help you, and when you do make your way in town for a weekend, it's all about the wedding plans. And trust me brideys, that sucks! But, take the advice from our GORGEOUS bride, Jacqueline, and really TRY not to sweat the small stuff.

And you know what brideys? Jacqueline had a rather big issue she had to deal with (um, see question #7... WTF?!!), and if you look at these amazing photos, she listened to her own advice, and she didn't let it get to her! I mean, look at how amazing this wedding is! I am completely obsessed and amazed by this black, white and red wedding! Take notes my dears!!! 

1.Bridey, how did you meet your spouse? (The short and sweet version please.)

My hubby and I met during recess on the basketball courts in sixth grade (11 years old). My best friend and his best friend were playing basketball against each other for a bet to see if he would date me! Haha! Long story short my best friend lost, so I ended up dateless. After the game was over, the guy’s best friend (my hubby), approached me and introduced himself, and said “Man, that was a close game! My name is Travis!” And that is how it all started…

2. How long were you together before you were engaged?

9 years

3. What was the length of time between the engagement and the wedding?

9 months

4. Where did your wedding take place? (venue, city and state)

Wedding Ceremony: Sacred Heart Catholic Church, Sinton, Texas
Reception/Dance: San Patricio County Fairgrounds, Sinton, Texas (small town of less than 6,000)

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The Big C... It's Not What You Think

{Image via www.ovca.com}

This post will make you angry. This post will upset you to your core (at least I hope it will). This post will piss you off. But, most of all this post will open your eyes to everything I have been saying since BB's inception... Brides can be a real bitch! Seriously brideys, if you feel nothing after reading this, then you are in desperate need some help and fast! I feel passionately that this story will move you, and help put your world of wedding planning into PERSPECTIVE! And if it doesn't, then please... lose my number.

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Bride + Planner = BFF?

Because Bitchless Bride received several well thought out and in depth comments about our “She’s Always a ‘Lady’ to Me” post, I thought I would respond with a few simple rules based on these amazing comments from the assigned wedding planners, vendors and brides.

Please note, when BB refers to the “assigned wedding planners” I am speaking of the hard working, often underpaid employees assigned by the venue to help you plan your wedding. This is NOT the person you, as the bride, hire as an outside consultant to assist you with all of the other details (aka: wedding planner).

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Venue Ready?
It’s fucking 9 AM. Why is this day different from all other days? On all other days we go about our business, but today it’s 9 AM on your wedding day (for those of you who caught onto my “spiel” good for you!). You wake up, announce to your bridesmaids sharing your honeymoon suite, “Oh my God! It’s my wedding day! Let’s go check out the space!” STOP. Stop right there.
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Lights, Camera, Actionless
You booked your wedding in a fucking warehouse. Well, basically… If you have chosen a cavernous, vast open space, then you know what? It needs lights. And not the overhead florescent ones, or else we might as well be at an AA meeting, sitting in a circle drinking burnt coffee and eating stale donuts… Specialty lighting, lighting that can transform the look and feel of the space into a spectacular event. Ladies, I’m sorry to have to say it, but if lighting is not in your budget, then this is not your venue.
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Budget
Can we have a real conversation about budget please? Seriously… outside of purchasing a house, your wedding is probably the next biggest item you will ever “purchase” in your life. So don’t fuck it up. Each time you say, “what’s another hundred dollars… what’s another thousand dollars, what’s another…?” you know what it adds up to? A big fucking mess.
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Choosing Your Venue
Let’s talk about where your wedding will be… When it comes to choosing the venue for your wedding, be sure you can afford it. Usually, the venue is where you will spend the bulk of your wedding budget, so be sure you don’t fall in love with a place you know you cannot afford. You can certainly try to negotiate the food and beverage minimum or rental fees, be careful not to over do it.
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