I love this wedding, and I have a couple crush on Cindy and Dane. (Seriously, how could I not? Look at that dress! And, the dude's name is Dane. Total crush.) You know why, bridey? Because I heard that they were awesome to work with, insanely in love, super in sync and nice people. From a vendor perspective, it really doesn't get much better than that. Jackpot! Seriously, if wedding planners and other wedding vendors knew ahead of time what it would be like to work with each couple prior to the planning, the world would be a much nicer place. Working with lovely people who are genuine and genuinely nice is what it's all about, right? Or it should be for that matter!
Anyway, outside of the serious couple crush I am rockin', there are so many fab deets to share with you, bridey. I mean, the dress is total kickassery, but there is so much more! So, kick back, relax and enjoy the post!
I'm lovin' the subtle mint green Badgley Mischka shoes!I feel warm inside.Cindy, your wedding dress is absolutely incredible! I love the beading and the cut! You look amazing!This should be in a glossy... Cindy is GORGE and this pic is so FAB!!The "ring" boxes. Hell yeah! That's a great shot!!Such a fabulous way of politely saying, get off you're fucking phone during the ceremony. Such cuties!!
Bridey, one of the most difficult parts of planning your wedding is choosing the right venue. I mean, there are so many factors to consider, and people to please that what used to be a fun experience has turned into more of a daunting task. Sorry, but true story! So, rather than let it get the best of you (and quickly), get your shit together before you start your journey so that you don't end up wasting a ton of your time, and that of those trying to help you. How? Well, let me help you get started before you lose your mind!
First of all, bridey, do your homework. I know that it's super exciting to start the process of searching for the right venue, but before you can even begin researching potential venue sites, you and your sig other need to sit down and determine a few important factors. Do your homework! Because, now is not the time to be impulsive. Outside of the down payment for your house, this is going to be the next biggest expense of your life. So, don't fuck it up by being impulsive and reckless. Determine your budget (give or take). Determine an approximate number of guests so that you know which venues will work, and which ones won't. Determine reasonable accommodations and concessions for your guests... Etc. Etc. Etc.
1. Budget: I know that this is difficult, but bridey, it's the most important factor when choosing your venue. At the very least, try to figure out what you have to spend overall (wedding venue, wedding dress, flowers, transportation, etc.), and what you have to spend on your venue (where you'll spend approximately 50-60% of your total budget). Have a 'worst case scenario', and a 'best case scenario' mapped out, and be honest. Better to overshoot than undershoot when it comes to your budget.
2. Number of Guests: While there is no way to know the exact number of guests this early in the game, at the very least try to figure out an approximate number. Why? Well, if you begin visiting sites without knowing how many people you're going to have at your wedding, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. You'll fall in love with a place that will either be too cavernous or too small, and ultimately, you will need to start your search over. Why put yourself through that, bridey? So, chat with your sig other, poll your parents, and set some boundaries (based on budget)... Then go look!
3. Aesthetic + Reality: Really pretty basic, no? Are you an ocean side bride or a hotel bride? Are you a rustic bride or modern bride? What do you see when you daydream? Narrow it down. Start where you think you will end. Got something brewing? Great! Well, now compare what you know about your aestheic against your budget (aka, reality). For example, I know I like modern furniture, but I also know that it tends to cost a shitload more than "normal" furniture. Ohhhhh..... yeah......
Okay, it's your turn, bridey. Want an outdoor wedding at a your parent's house? Sounds lovely! But, stop and think for a sec... Think about renting every.single.item. from forks to bathrooms to power generators (for the DJ, caterer, lighting, etc.)... Yup! Your guests will need to pee,
Damn. Jen and Daniel are one hell of a couple. Seriously. Talk about having to deal with their fair share of shit even before becoming husband a wife... These two strong individuals certainly make one solid couple! During the wedding planning, Jen found herself in the hospital for weeks with heart failure. Thankfully, she pulled through even without a transplant (which is absolutely AMAZING!) as her heart began to slowly heal itself. Daniel refused to leave her side, and then took on the bulk of the planning so that Jen did not have to endure the stress. And, bridey? Besides the emotional roller coaster of heart failure (oh my goodness!), they lost their wedding venue due to the asshole owners shutting their doors, and taking their money with them. WHOA... Because that's not stressful... WTF???
Being the amazing (and quite handsome) guy that Daniel is, he reached out to Brooke of Brooke Taylor Studios, and wrote the following absolutely heartwrenching (no pun), and sincere letter: Good evening, my fiancé and I have been dealing with having to find a new venue for our wedding that we had already sent out the save the dates to. In April, my fiancé Jen got sick and ended up at UW Hospital with heart failure. She was at the top of the transplant list but her heart slowly ended up healing itself. A few weeks ago, she finally got out of the hospital and we started up planning our wedding again. I am trying my best to make sure she does not have to do much or stress since her heart is still healing. It would mean a great deal to us if you were able to do the photography for us. Our wedding date is planned to be on October 5, 2014 and will be somewhere around the greater Seattle area once we narrow down the replacement venue. Thank you so much for offering this opportunity.
Stunning wedding dress, and truly beautiful bridesmaid dresses (you don't hear that too often!)...
I mean... Holy shoes!!!
I think dogs in weddings is on the rise. How cute is this pooch?!
This post is tough because I TOTALLY get it. I really do. I get it because I deal with it EVERY.FUCKING.DAY. And, I'm telling you that I get it before I even explain what the hell "it" is JUST to cover my ass... So, here it goes. Bridey, shit is going to change. Your wedding plans are going to change. Your guest list will go up and down eighteen fucking times based on family dynamics or lack of guest list control (usually because of your mom BTW...). Your flowers will change a bazillion times based on personal preference, availability and design. Your wedding dress will be taken in and out or scraped completely, but the most irritating, never ending change that for some reason is expected to be "no big deal"? Guess... Duh, look up!
The menu. Bridey, there comes a point when it is up to you to get your shit together, and simply be done with your menu. The most annoying thing in the whole wide world is a bride who continually changes her menu all the way down to the week before her wedding. Be it the passed hors d'oeuvres, stations during the cocktail hour or even the damn salad before entree, it's coo coo. Many chefs, venues and caterers will try to accommodate (particularly if your numbers go UP), but there comes a time when it's just not okay to keep changing your fucking mind. When you're a week away from your wedding, all anybody in "the industry" cares about is the number of guests and how many of each...
So you saw "something really cool" at an event you were at last week. Forget about it. Somebody suggested "that you ought to do blah, blah, blah..." FORGET ABOUT IT! Seriously, don't go busting balls at the venue or with your caterer because now that stupid Philly cheese steak egg roll is "a must".
You gotta love a great sense of humor, right? Odds are, if you enjoy my blog, then you most certainly do! Well, bridey, all you have to do is look at these awesome photographs to see that Nicole and Shawn are definitely a fun couple who love to laugh (and so does their bridal party)! These two got married in New Orleans, because why the hell not, and rocked out all night! While it wasn't Mardi Gras (sorry kids, there are no boobs in this submission), it didn't stop this group from partying like it was!
What I love about this wedding besides the gorgeous details, silly pics and cool ass cake topper, is that every single person is having a great time and it shows. Friends and family flew from across the country to celebrate with Nicole and Shawn, and they did just that! CELEBRATE!! This is what it's all about, bridey! Getting married to the love of your life and having a fucking fabulous time in the process!
Nicole, you look beautiful. What an A MAZ ING wedding dress!!Nicole, what are you looking at in this picture??? Please, do tell!!My kind of girls!I can tell where the humor comes from on Nicole's side...We did it!! Woot! Woot!
I'm not gonna lie... I get excited by a good old fashion cake-face-smash. I know I shouldn't, but I really do! In fact, I have a WHOLE conversation with each of my B+Gs about how they are going to handle feeding each other wedding cake, because it's an absolutely important conversation to have! Sooooo... when I get to see pics of one, I get excited. I get excited because most of my clients choose not to "smash". They end up playing it safe (and when there is a wedding dress involved, it's understandable!), but not Joy and Ron! Just wait! When you scroll down, you will see how brilliant Joy is! She made it out of the cake cutting unscathed! Seriously, she's my new hero!
Anyway... Joy & Ron were married at the University Place Hilton in Charlotte, North Carolina. The ceremony was stunning; overlooking a beautiful water fountain and a boardwalk. The reception followed with food, drinks, and a ton of dancing!
WOW! Holy hell! This is a GORGEOUS wedding dress!So cute. I love those little dresses!YES!!So lovely...I can't even handle how awesome Ron is! Oh yeah!!!The bride's two young sons... Can you say adorable?
In case you didn’t know, purple is the color of good judgment (I know! Right??), and as it turns out, radiant orchid is the Pantone wedding color for 2014. How cool is that?? So bridey, if you’re incorporating purple into your wedding day, then clearly you have some seriously fantastic judgment! Recognizing that a purple color palette is a fantastic way to express oneself, some splendidly creative and talented wedding vendors teamed up with a cool venue in Dover, Massachusetts, The Connors Center, and rocked this radiant orchid palette so hard that I can hardly stand it! When I was done picking up jaw off of my desk, I immediately jumped at the chance to share this shoot with you. (Psst! Hey Boston brideys! Look to your right... Bitchless Bride is coming to Boston!)
Bridey, there is so much to look at in this post, that I am about two shakes away from freaking out! I mean from the grounds of The Connors Center, to vases of allium and viburnum on the place card table, to the remarkable Indian inspired linen, to the bride’s STUNNING bouquet to the awesome purple wedding cake with a big-ass antique gold flower… OMG, the list goes on and on! Like, there’s even a purple wedding dress with a freaking tutu and then a costume change into a gorgeous white wedding gown. And the fact that I am jealous of the flower girl’s dress might mean that there is something truly wrong with me. Anyway, I think I am officially write/rambling, so I will let you get to it! Scroll away! Enjoy this one! Um, I think it’s clear that I did. Seriously, I think I need a cold shower…
Holy moly! Look at this place! Hi. I need this dress. That's all.Lovely costume change! And the grounds of The Connors Center are perfect for a wedding!I cannot get over the amazing florals in this shoot! Absolutely incredible!I mean... I can't... The gold tutu, the purple shoes and the overall cuteness is going to throw me over the edge.Hypnotiq is one badass drink... Look it up. I bet it's delicious with Prosecco. Definitely a "dazzler"!
While Michelle and Gavin didn’t quite elope, they did what I would have LOVED to do if my family situation was a bit more peaceful; they took eight guests to Port Douglas, Queensland Australia and got married. I mean… It really doesn’t get much better than that, right? Bridey, if you’re not the kind of girl that wants a big bash, then this is the way to go! Find a fabulous location, grab a few friends and family members, and get married! Oh, and get some hot red Jimmy Choo’s like Michelle did while you’re at it! (Scroll down, bridey, and you’ll be drooling like I was!! Seriously, it was all I could do not to open the post with those fucking A MAZ ING shoes!)
Anyway… A cool ‘lil tid bit? Gavin, the groom, is wedding photographer! Although this time, he found himself on the other side of the camera, and he couldn’t quite let go of his desire to capture the moment. Apparently, he and Michelle scouted locations together and found the perfect ceremony location based on the best light. Gavin even directed a few of the location shots himself. Go see for yourself! Enjoy!
Michelle, you are a truly beautiful bride...
Um. Yeah. O.M.G. Holy Jimmy Choo!
So, so, so pretty! I am in love with this wedding dress! Now, look down! Check out the back! Holy shit! Absolutely incredible!
Perfect hair and make up, and simply stunning bling with that crazy awesome dress!
Can't go wearing those on the beach now, can you?
Budget. It’s a dirty word, but somebody’s GOT to talk about it. Here’s the thing, bridey, when your guest list grows, then your budget needs to grow with it. PERIOD. THE END. Really, it’s as simple as that. Because it’s not fair for you to expect your vendors to adhere to your much smaller budget simply because you want to invite more people, and now you can’t afford the previously agreed upon menu/concept/bouquet/etc. In fact, you should be calling your vendors telling them that they have to provide MORE of whatever it is they are providing, not LESS, because your numbers have increased.
I’m currently working with a bride who has about zero control over her guest list. And frankly, it’s starting to really piss me off. We’ve gone round and round and round regarding her fucking guest list, and I have had it. Bridey, if you can’t afford to invite the free world, then don’t. I know what etiquette says about whom you should invite, and who you shouldn’t feel obligated to invite to your wedding, but you know what etiquette doesn’t tell you, bridey? That your budget has to take precedence over stupid etiquette. I mean sure, invite everybody you know, but I hope they like the cash bar, one passed hors d’oeuvre and vegetarian meal. Because that’s what they are going to “enjoy” that evening. Not to mention that their table will stripped of anything resembling a centerpiece and MUZAK will be the entertainment because the DJ wouldn’t drop his prices.
Okay, perhaps I am being a bit melodramatic, but you get what I am saying, right?