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Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Laid-Back and Lavish Beach Party Wedding with the Coolest "Cake" I've Ever Seen!

Judging solely on the shoes, you can already tell that the B+G are pretty laid-back and pretty cool, right? Right! And, because we already know how cool these two are, I bet it wouldn't surprise you if I told you that Kimberly and Thomas' families are close friends, would it? Because, that's pretty fucking fabulous, right? Aaaaanddd.... as if that wasn't awesome enough, all the B+G really wanted on their wedding day was for their family and friends to have a good time; a big party! I mean... They even hired Mike Freas, the photographer, because, "...we really enjoyed your personality and we had a feeling that if you were just hanging at our wedding as 'a friend', that you would totally fit in." 

It was a difficult task, but Kimberly and Thomas meticulously weeded their guest list down from 300 so that could have only their "closest people" attend the wedding. LOVE IT! Aside from their FAB story, there are some gorgeous deets to inspire you as you plan your own wedding, bridey. Oh! And, OMG... Just wait until you see their "cake"!! Enjoy!
STUNNING dress. It's even better on the bride!!
Love the shoes and the bouquet!
I love that the B+G invited the president to their wedding!!
Love the hair. Love the makeup. Love the bouquet. Obsessed with the dress.
That's "Pops", Thomas' father, and apparently, the life of the party.
I want to hug Thomas too!! Amazing reaction to seeing Kimberly!
So so so cute! Nice cleave too, Kimberly! You're 100% OWNING that wedding dress!Beautiful shot.
STFU with that dress!! I may be a l'il obsessed!
Such a lovely, passionate kiss!
How cool is this venue!!???
I love how Thomas rolled up his sleeves!
Meanwhile...
So, what do you think of the B+G's cake? HE'S ROLLING IT!!!! Look down!
Shut the FUCK up! That's gorgeous! That's amazing! That's all of my favorite adjectives combined!
Thank you Kimberly and Thomas for sharing your fantastic wedding with Bitchless Bride!! 

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Foto By Freas
Caterer: Catered Affairs of Key West
Transportation: Conch Tour Train
Bakery: Cupcake Sushi
Floral Designer: Duarte Floral Design
Equipment Rentals: Eventfully Yours Rentals
Ceremony & Event Location: Fort Zachary State Park
Officiant: Rev. Steve Torrence
Hair & Makeup: Studio Marie-Pierre

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ ***FLASHBACK*** Quit Your Bitchin, Bridey

I wrote this article for the Huffington Post in 2012, and I was inspired because of a particularly difficult bride I had the joy of working with, who literally drove me the brink of insanity. The reason I am sharing it with you today? Well, because in the last week I have heard several stories of brides behaving badly. Whining, complaining, and simply irritating the fuck out of everybody around them. I don't know if people tell me these stories because they know what I do, or what, but either way, I thought a simple reminder to QUIT BITCHIN' was in order... So, read up ladies!!

September, 2012:

After an amazing weekend filled with rehearsal dinners, beautiful weddings, “morning after” brunches, everything hurts; everything aches; everything cracks. I feel like an old lady hobbling around looking for my cane. But, the worst pain? My head. And my head hurts from too much thinking, and over thinking, and even MORE thinking, and not from drinking (like I’m used to). Seriously... The funny thing? My head doesn’t hurt because of the lovely bride and groom from the wedding this past Saturday... It hurts from the endless emails and texts I received from my UPCOMING clients that either ask or say the most ridiculous crap. Simply whining about everything because they feel “so taken advantage of”, and their “patience for this wedding stuff is running thin”. Really?

If you missed my post last week on Bitchless Bride, I mentioned that I had an addiction. That I couldn’t stop “using”, and that no matter how hard I tried, I was simply “addicted to yes“. And while I openly admitted to my horrendous compulsion, to enabling my brides, and to just “making it happen”, I must state for the record that I hate that I do it. I hate that it’s EXPECTED for me to continue to “use”. But, I do have my limits, and because it’s only the beginning of the fall wedding season, I have to pace myself. But, I need your help brideys.

Seriously, I need for you to quit whining... Quit whining about all of the aspects of planning your wedding that we have no control over. Certain prices are fixed. Certain aspects are truly non-negotiable. And emailing me every second of the day isn’t going to change that. Because even I can’t “yes” my way to changing the industry “norm”.

Like your wedding dress alterations? Yeah, they’re expensive, and oftentimes non-negotiable. You know why? Because you’re literally paying somebody to rip apart your very expensive wedding dress (yeah, the one that you only get to wear once), put it back together, and make it perfect for your perfect wedding day. Okay? This won’t be cheap. And I’m sorry, but if you want those unbelievable flowers on your wedding cake that “look so incredibly real”, then yes, you have to pay extra for them. And no, you are not being punished.... You’re simply paying for a service. You’re paying for a product. And you’re paying for time. So get over it or don’t get it. 

I mean, let’s get real people. I refuse to believe that you’d walk into Valentino or Burberry and ask WHY the amazing dress in the window is so expensive when you could just make it yourself. Or HOW COME the sunglasses don’t come with the dress. Really? Come on.... Please. So why are you constantly surprised when the wedding industry demands to be paid for quality and time? I’m tired of apologizing for what every other industry “gets away with”. 

Brideys, the minute you got engaged, you signed on an invisible dotted line, and although you might not have realized it, you signed up for all of the shenanigans that go with planning your wedding. But seriously, like you didn’t know your wedding was going to be expensive? I don’t care if your budget is $10,000 or $100,000. A wedding is not cheap. Seriously, look at the numbers... The wedding industry is a 55 BILLION dollar industry (in the US)… PER YEAR. It didn’t get to be that way because everybody is working for free. It got that way because you are buying an experience; you are buying talent; you are buying memories. And you know what? It’s fucking expensive. That’s it. PERIOD THE END. 

So quit whining about it! It is what it is. Just resign yourself to the fact that you’re part of it now. Resign yourself to the fact that you don’t have to like it; you just have to stop complaining about it.

Image via YouQueen

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Truly Beautiful, Tented and Fabulous, Australian Wedding

OMG. Is that a field of lilacs? Probably not, because lilacs don't grow in fields, but whatever they are, they're purple and gorgeous, and so are the B+G, Lauren and Chris (well, the B+G are not purple, but... You know what I mean!). Bridey, I wish I attended this wedding. Not only was it in Australia, a country I haven't visited, but every single detail is dazzling! Like, jaw-droppingly gorgeous. When you see the tent, bridey, you literally won't know which end is up. Look up, and you'll gaze at the dangling flowers cascading from the "ceiling". Look down, and you'll see a beautiful, soft palette of magnificent flowers.

Lauren and Chris clearly worked with an incredibly talented group of vendors focused on bringing their dream to life. Bridey, if you hire the right vendors, and trust them, then your wedding will be amazing too! So, enjoy this stunner, and go get some inspiration!
Lovin' everything about this bouquet...
Seriously? These bridesmaids are stunning. Like, it's almost not fair!! Dammmmmnnnnn, girls!
Hi Chris. You're handsome.
The décor for the ceremony is so elegant and beautiful.
Love the way the B+G are beaming!! 
Again... Such a lovely looking bridal party! 
Love this shot...
I'm seriously such a sucker for how couples look at each other... But, I mean... Aspire to that, bridey!
Holy.Shit. with the fucking incredible décor.
WOW! Amazing... 
The upside-down bouquets are so awesome!
GORGE!

FAB dessert table! I want to dive right in!!!
True story. Thank you for sharing your beautiful wedding with Bitchless Bride!!!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Blumenthal Photography
Venue: Sault Restaurant
Event Styling & Planning: A Lavish Affair
Wedding Gown: Suzanna Harwood
Groom’s Attire: Vera Wang
Flowers: Victoria Whitelaw
Cake: Cake Face
Invitations & Stationary: Adorn Wedding Invitations

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ The BEST Advice from the BEST Wedding Vendors in Boston!

Bridey, today's post is like hitting the jackpot of wedding planning. SERIOUSLY. If you are recently engaged or are in the midst of planning your wedding, stop what you're doing, and focus because you are about to be educated by the BEST in the wedding biz! I asked some of my absolute FAVORITE vendors in the Boston area to share the best piece of advice about planning a wedding, and these peeps? Well, they completely spilled the beans. I mean... There is so much wedding planning goodness in this post, that I could fucking chew it!!!

I rarely say cheesy shit like this, but this is a must read!! So, are you ready to learn? Ready to say, "Thank you, Bitchless Bride!!" Good! You're welcome! 

Wedding Planners:

When you are newly engaged, you tend to become inundated with information overload and it can be daunting to say the least.  My advice to newly-engaged couples is to forgo the route of hiring all of your vendors until you’ve secured the right, professional, experienced wedding planner. Some couples feel it’s best to hire a “day of” coordinator and do the rest themselves, only to learn how much money could have been easily saved by avoiding costly mistakes and uneducated decisions along the way. The right planner should be your guide, your educator, your confidant, your representative along the way and you need to put your trust into this person as they do this every day and truly look out for your best interests from the start. 

Paula Marrero ~ Marrero Events 

My advice to new brides: Don't panic, it's all overwhelming at first but it's important to book the top 3 first-top priorities (if you're not working with a planner) are to find your venue, photographer and band--then breathe!  I also advise brides to wait to design the space until about 6 months before the wedding... You'll be able to have a couple months thinking about ideas, pinning on Pinterest , etc... I find that so many of my clients go in with one idea and once they've relaxed and see what is out there or trending in their wedding year they change their idea of what their wedding looks like--so ultimately they get what they want instead of what they thought they wanted--big difference! 

Amy Kimball ~ Amy Kimball Events 

Invitations:

Invitations are the introduction of your wedding to your friends and family; they set the tone for the event. You can’t just get a quote as there are a lot of factors to consider such as quantity, quality, type of inserts, type of print, etc. There is a lot more involved then most people realize. So, plan accordingly.

Mara Weiner ~ Allure Invitations

Cake:

Be your own "bride" ...don't worry about what family, in-laws, friends & co-workers want for YOUR WEDDING. Follow what YOU have wanted & dreamed about. 

Paula Kirrane ~ Icing on the Cake

Entertainment:

Once your venue is booked, the next step is to lock in your entertainment. In order to get the best DJ or band out there, you have to book well in advance. Remember, first and foremost? Your guests are going to remember if they had a good  time. That’s why good entertainment is vital.

Always ask your entertainment vendor about their other recommended services. This is how you get the best deals without making a laundry list of phone calls. They may already have what you need and could save you time and money without sacrificing quality.

Mike Amado ~ Entertainment Specialists

Photographers:

Lately couples are asking me if they should do the "first look". My answer is always YES! The first reveal is always so sweet. The moment is far more emotion and allows for a more intimate/private moment with just the couple. 

Some brides envision this grand moment when they are walking down the aisle, and the groom is sobbing… However, in reality, in a traditional formal setting with 200 people looking at you… The groom often looks like a deer in head lights. Not at all the magical moment you think it will be! So yes, do a first look! 

Lauren Killian ~ Person + Killian Photography

Don’t do a winter e-session! People look freezing, and are super uncomfortable. Nothing like having dirty snow and branches coming out of everyone's heads! Wait until the spring when the temperatures are higher, and the trees start to bloom. I highly suggest April-November.

~ Anonymous Photographer

Cinematography:

1. Make sure that your photographer and videographer work well as a team. Even better, choose a team where your photographer and videographer have worked together and enjoy the experience.

2. Ask your prospective wedding film maker how they operate during the wedding day. Will they have lights on their cameras? Will they be on the dance floor circling the couple during the first dance? Will they stand behind the officiant during the ceremony - Or will they stake out spots based on experience and fade into the decor?

3. Ask your toasters to limit toasts to under 5 minutes. 3 is even better. There’s not much they can say (that won’t be dumb or embarrassing) after a couple of minutes.

4. Invite your guests to leave their phones and cameras in their pockets or purses. You’re paying for pros to document your wedding - don’t let the amateurs get in the way!

5. When considering wedding cinematography, check out the sound  as well as the images of potential pros. Capturing pristine sound of your grandfather’s blessing and knowing how to integrate it with music and image, is a complex art form. Don’t settle for pretty pictures if you already have a photographer you love. When it comes to film making, sound is 60% or more.

6. If you desperately want a top notch film maker to capture your wedding, and have a limited budget, consider one of the following:

a. Grab pics from the HD / 24 Frames per second of the video capture and forego the photographer.

b. Hire the film maker you want and see if you can work out a payment plan that works for you.

c. Opt for the best film maker you can afford, ask them to produce a short highlights now, and wait until you’ve financially recovered to have them edit the feature film.

Naomi Raiselle ~ Generations Cinemastories 

Florist:

The Best way to trim your budget is to trim you guest list (it literally makes every line item more affordable - period, the end)! (AMEN!!!!!!)

If you "absolutely love and have to have peonies" - know that you absolutely MUST select a wedding date in May or early-June!

Bring as few people to each and every appointment that you book ... the less opinions, the less stressed out you will be!

~ Anonymous Florist

And there you have it... You're welcome, bridey!!! Now, all you have to do is listen to the professionals trying to help you.

Image via The Perfect Job

Fantasy Friday ~ Historic, Simple and Stunning... Welcome to Tori & Cory's Wedding

I never open with a pic of a wedding cake (no matter how much I want to because of my obsession with cake), but this shot really seemed to encapsulate the feel of Tori and Cory's wedding day (I know, right?! They rhyme!). It's warm, elegant and beautiful; completely reflecting how I felt while browsing these photographs. Bridey, please note the ease to T+C's wedding day as it should be a lesson to all brides-to-be. 

The B+G were married in Bramwell, a very historic part of West Virginia. And even though it rained on and off throughout the day, the sun seemed to shine at all of the right times (Shit! Now I'm rhyming!!). I mean... Who cares if it rains?! You're getting married! And, that's what counts! So, bridey, enjoy this totally inspirational wedding, not just for the color palette, cake or flowers, but for the loveliness of the B+G.
I cannot get enough of this bouquet!! It's absolutely stunning!Gorgeous shot!

Covered train station during the rain... How perfect is that?

Ummm.... Can we just talk about Tori's nails? LOVE!Here we go!! Let's get married!What a cutie!! Super excited!!No more rain... 
Um... that's a great kiss! Just sayin'...Real men hold the train...This is a FAB cake topper! And the cake? Love the beautiful simplicity!Check out the faces on these two!!Tori and Cory, you are way too cute. Thanks for sharing with Bitchless Bride!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer: Jasmine Rose Photography
Floral Designer: Brown Sack Florist
Reception Venue: David's at the Club

Fantasy Friday ~ More Than Just a Rainbow Connection... An Intimate, Backyard Wedding

Holy shit with Claire's hair, right? Fucking amazing! Not only is it a perfect rainbow, but it's ombre too. I mean, that takes talent! And, it takes the right kind of girls to pull that kind of thing off, right?!! Anyway, welcome to Claire and Lane's Las Vegas wedding. Hosted in the backyard of a private home, these two did a fabulous job keeping their wedding day about the two of them. Claire and Lane knew they wanted a small backyard ceremony followed by an informal celebration, rockin' awesome food, drink and family. So... that's exactly what they did! 

Bridey, if you're looking for ways (and examples) to have a beautiful, simple wedding, then browse the pics. The cool-ass hair inspiration? Well, that's a freebie for those of you have the balls to pull it off. Enjoy!
Got to have a "before and after" wedding dress! OMG, I LOVE both of them and how different they are.Let's get a closer look at this stunning Pnina Tornai gown. I am obsessed with the corset!There's nothing like mama love!Lane, you look quite dapper yourself!The gold and royal blue look so elegant.I mean... That's utter happiness.

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Monkey in the Middle... It's a Real Bitch!

Bridey, I gotta ask you a question... Who's in charge? Who's wearing the pants? And, I'm not talking about your relationship with your sig other. Not only is it none of my business, but I don't give a shit. (I mean... For the sake of womankind, I hope it's an equal partnership, but again, none of my biz.) How you manage your relationship is your business, but what is my business is managing the details of your wedding. So, when your soon-to-be MIL calls me (or the venue, or the florist, or DJ, or the band, or the caterer... you see where I'm going with this), and wants to make significant changes to items we've worked hard putting in place, I get a li'l nervous. Therefore, I need to know, who's in charge?

Yesterday, I was boozy brunching with a friend of mine (God I missed mimosas while I was pregnant!), and when I told her about Bitchless Bride, she starting sharing some crazy-ass stories with me (that's usually the reaction I get when I tell people about BB). Anyway, she told me how a friend of hers had some serious issues with her MIL as she was planning her wedding. You're gonna want to sit down, bridey... Trust me.

So, this poor woman's MIL had the audacity to call the bakery and change the flavor and design of the fucking wedding cake. OMG! What the fuck is that about? Right? And, for some of you, the cake is like Holy Grail. It's the one thing you care about the most. You've invested tons of time and energy selecting the particulars, and then this bitch makes a single call and ruins it.

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Fashion-Forward, Super Stylish, Super Glam NYC Wedding

I've had the privilege of working with Ed from Zorz Studios, and as you are about to see, his work is positively sensational. His shots are unique, his perspective eccentric and his demeanor, lovely; something that emanates out of each and every photograph. That coupled with a truly electrifying and cool couple is a recipe for a some spectacular images!

Bridey, I have said it over and over again... Lighting changes everything! And, Dana & John's wedding is no exception. Yes the décor is beautiful, but it is eye-popping with the lighting. Trust me, you won't want to miss anything as you scroll. So, get ready for some fantastic inspiration, some holyshitINEEDthose shoes, and a ton of fun as you take in Dana & John's wedding!
The invitation? A mockup of New York Weddings magazine designed and printed for this kickass couple!OMG. Fucking GORGEOUS pic! Dana, your legs look A MAZ ING, and those shoes? WOW!CLB for men... LOVE IT!Dying over the look on her face!OMG... Dana totally looks like a princess! Totally beautiful!The B+G grew up on the same block and have known each other their whole lives. I love that they stopped for a drink before the reception!Amazing shot of the World Trade Center...Gotta have a few shots in Brooklyn where they had their very first kiss!That champagne thing really works!!Stunning!I love everything about the venue, décor and vibe! And as you know, bridey, I am particularly obsessed with the lighting! Completely changes everything!

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ From Microeconomics Class to an Amazing, Intimate, San Francisco Wedding

It all started in freshmen microeconomics class at Ohio University... And five years later? Dongli and Chengyuan are married in fabulous San Francisco! Their relationship took them across the country beginning in Ohio, then New York, and finally landing in California. 

Dongli's parents were visiting from China, and so that they could attend the wedding ceremony, she moved up the date. Because that's not stressful... OMG! Next year there will be a big reception in Napa Valley, although this reception seemed pretty fucking awesome to me! Bridey, just wait until you see the beautiful outdoor ceremony, stunning long supper table and incredible venue! I can only imagine what the larger reception will be like in Napa! Enjoy!!

Hell of a view of San Francisco!Um... Can we talk about how gorgeous this bouquet is? Holy shit!Looks like a fun group of maids and men!Love this pic...Stunning outdoor ceremony space! Awwwwww.....I am completely in awe of this stunning table! I LOVE the ghost chairs, the amazing flowers and lovely charger plates!

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Stunning & Sexy Wedding in a Brand New Space

I love this picture of Dominique and Jhade. It's sexy and delicious all at the same time, and it truly encapsulates who Dominique and Jhade are as a couple. Not to mention that I am absolutely in love with the pink uplighting. I feel like I constantly preach to my clients about the importance of uplighting, and as you scroll down, bridey, you'll see why. Lighting has the power to change the entire atmosphere of your wedding. It truly dictates how you're supposed to feel while enhancing the decor you have spent hours on perfecting.

Anyway, if you ever want to test your patience and trust, then be the first to get married in a new space. That's exactly what Dominique and Jhade did. They had the very first wedding in Tre Bella's new room, Blu Cielo! And it is STUN NING! Soft and delicate with exposed brick and tremendous beauty. So, if blush and pink are your colors, bridey, then I would advise you to prepare to be inspired!

I love the embellishments on Dominique's wedding dress!The exposed brick, the beautiful bouquet, the blue garter... Oh my!!WOW! Here's to the first wedding in Tre Bella's new room, Blu Cielo... And holy shit is it beautiful!Love how Jhade is checking Dominique out!! I really can't get over how raw and beautiful the space is...This kiss was FAB, but the they way they're looking at each other here? Fucking priceless!I love the pink uplighting!!

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Five Truly Unique Ideas for Your Wedding... Go Ahead, Bridey (or Groomy), Dazzle Me!

So, the other day, a friend of mine showed me the most incredible wedding video. And it wasn't incredible because of some over the top, ridiculously gaudy bullshit or super lavish decor; it was incredible because it was unique and completely unexpected... for the bride and for the guests. What was it that has me so dazzled? Well, in the middle of the ceremony (right before saying "I do"), the adorable (and ballsy) groom broke out into song. Yup! This guy grabbed the mic from the officiant and started singing! And the coolest part? Well, let's just say that the groom wasn't the most talented singer I've ever heard. Honestly? I would say that his performance barely a step above karaoke, but that's not the point. The point is, he did something so fabulous, and so unexpected that nobody in attendance will ever forget it!

Oh, but it gets better, bridey! How? Well, about four or five of the guests stood up in their seats and sang with him. I mean, obviously this was planned, and probably practiced (did I mention the saxophone player?!), but what a fantastic surprise! Right? And the bride was absolutely floored! She just stood there watching with the most beautiful look on her face. Who knows? Perhaps she was horrified, but I have a hunch she was entranced and touched. Wouldn't you be?

Look, I'm not saying that you (or your groom) have to break out into song to have your wedding stand out from all of the others (although, it's a super awesome idea!); all I am saying is that if you are interested in doing something different, then it's time to color outside of the lines. Here are a five quick ideas to make your wedding a bit more unique:

1. Screw the classical music! Bridey, walk down the aisle to something fabulous... like a song with words! Stumped? Some of my faves are "Hallelujah" by Jeff Buckley or "Skinny Love" by Bon Iver (one of my favorite songs ever!) or the almost overdone, but still FAB "Marry Me" by Train.

2. Candy bouquets. Who said you need to walk down the aisle with flowers? Get whimsy! Grab a bunch of those twisty lollipops, tie them together and trot down the aisle!

3. Lose the traditional wedding food. Shock your guests and DON'T feed them chicken or beef. I mean, aren't we all a bit sick of fucking chicken and beef???!!

"Real" Wedding Wednesday ~ A Little Romance, A Little Elegance and Very Little Drama

The talented group of vendors that created this stunning styled shoot said that their inspiration was "romantic elegance". And holy shit did they achieve it!! But, my inspiration? Stunning photographs minus the drama. I wanted to show you a glimpse of what hiring amazing vendors (and trusting their ability) can do for your wedding, bridey, but I didn't feel like the drama today. Because this planner needs a break from the reality of wedding planning even if it is for just one post... I need a break from discussing wedding budgets, complicated family dynamics and overbearing MOBs (mother of the bride). I need a break from being needed. And, I bet I'm not alone. Your vendors probably could use a break too...

That's why I decided to show you a cool ass styled shoot rather than a real wedding today. I wanted some eye candy without the side of hysteria. I wanted to see and share pretty pictures without being involved emotionally. I wanted to show you what a group of amazing vendors can do without limitations and micro management. So, bridey, I invite you to breathe in these gorgeous pics, let go of the drama in your life (even if it's for just a bit), enjoy the creativity of these imaginative vendors and be inspired!
I swear, this royal blue is sparkling! I am OBSESSED with the tree! Look down...
The royal blue linen, the pattered accoutrements and even a striking table number. Oh my!
I love the glittery ribbon around the base of the centerpiece.
I didn't expect the rustic garden chairs, but I love how they complete the look!
Holy shit with the cake. Need some close-ups? Look down...

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ Up Up and Away... An "Up" Inspired Styled Shoot with a Real Couple

Guillaume + Michelle, Michelle + Guillaume, OMG, could ya' bust over this "Up" inspired styled shoot? I mean... It's exactly what I needed. So, today, I chose to show you something else besides a real wedding, because when I saw these pics, I instantly became happy. And honestly, even though you would never know it (because I'm fucking fantastically gifted at masking my melancholy with a smiley face), I'm kinda going through a bit of a rough time personally, and I was desperate for a smile. Needless to say, when I saw all of the rainbows, and eye candy, I couldn't resist. 

As you browse these spectacular photographs (side note... spectacular is my dad's favorite word; true story...) I think you will agree with me when I say that Michelle + Guillaume are adorable. Seriously, you'll see it in every.single.photograph. And, Michelle is totally my kind of girl. This chick can hardly stop laughing throughout the shoot, and even though I wasn't there, it's obvious that she is having the time of her life, and it's heartwarming (see, I'm totally mushy right now...). Anyway, before I start crying, I'll shut up. Enjoy!

LOVE the balloons and all of the color!!Michelle is so trying not to laugh, right?Amazing save the date. Amazing dress. Amazing jewels.All of the color and the cake are absolutely kickass!!Look at that kiss!! Michelle, I LOVE YOU!! You are too funny trying supress that laugh!Utter happiness... So quirky and cute!Um, gorgeous jewel toned flowers (dying over the butterflies!) and beautiful tea length dress!I can't even...Guillaume + Michelle, Michelle + Guillaume you are fabulous! Thank you for "up"lifting BB's spirit!

Industry Peeps:

Photographer:  Samantha Marie Photography
Floral Designer: Flowers by Chelsea
Transportation: Gangster For Hire
Invitation Designer: Little Bee Impressions
Cake Designer: Nana and Mama's Sweet Tooth
Beauty: Oasis Salon
Dress Store: Pancsofar's Bridal Boutique
Etsy Designer: Sally Bateau
DIY or Handmade Goods Designer: Simply Sisters Boutique
Beauty: The Nail Artistry

Fantasy Friday ~ A Passion for Purple... A Deliciously Decadent Styled Shoot

In case you didn’t know, purple is the color of good judgment (I know! Right??), and as it turns out, radiant orchid is the Pantone wedding color for 2014. How cool is that?? So bridey, if you’re incorporating purple into your wedding day, then clearly you have some seriously fantastic judgment! Recognizing that a purple color palette is a fantastic way to express oneself, some splendidly creative and talented wedding vendors teamed up with a cool venue in Dover, Massachusetts, The Connors Center, and rocked this radiant orchid palette so hard that I can hardly stand it! When I was done picking up jaw off of my desk, I immediately jumped at the chance to share this shoot with you. (Psst! Hey Boston brideys! Look to your right... Bitchless Bride is coming to Boston!)

Bridey, there is so much to look at in this post, that I am about two shakes away from freaking out! I mean from the grounds of The Connors Center, to vases of allium and viburnum on the place card table, to the remarkable Indian inspired linen, to the bride’s STUNNING bouquet to the awesome purple wedding cake with a big-ass antique gold flower… OMG, the list goes on and on! Like, there’s even a purple wedding dress with a freaking tutu and then a costume change into a gorgeous white wedding gown. And the fact that I am jealous of the flower girl’s dress might mean that there is something truly wrong with me. Anyway, I think I am officially write/rambling, so I will let you get to it! Scroll away! Enjoy this one! Um, I think it’s clear that I did. Seriously, I think I need a cold shower…

Holy moly! Look at this place! Hi. I need this dress. That's all.Lovely costume change! And the grounds of The Connors Center are perfect for a wedding!I cannot get over the amazing florals in this shoot! Absolutely incredible!I mean... I can't... The gold tutu, the purple shoes and the overall cuteness is going to throw me over the edge.Hypnotiq is one badass drink... Look it up. I bet it's delicious with Prosecco. Definitely a "dazzler"!

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ What I look for in a Bride...

Recently, one of my brides asked, "BB, what do you look for in a bride?" Really, she did. And you know what? I was fucking floored. Because as an event planner, usually I am the one grilled with questions about my role in the wedding planning process, how my fees work, and basically, if I am worth it. So, to have the tables turned caught me a bit off guard. To be safe, I asked her exactly what she meant by "what do I look for in a bride" because, frankly, I didn't want to risk offending her if I put on my Bitchless Bride hat, and actually told her the truth. But when she said, "I want to keep my friends at the end of this thing..." I thought I would go big or go home. So here's what I told her:

1. Remember to stay true to yourself. Create the wedding that is right for you and your sig other and forget everything else. I say it all of the time, but it's worth repeating. Ignore the noise. Politely nod when you receive unsolicited advice and move on. I mean, if you actually took every piece of advice given to you during your engagement, then your wedding would literally be about everybody else except you (two)!!

2. Be kind. Be kind to your bridesmaids. Be kind to your family. Be kind to your vendors. Most of all? Be kind to your fiancé. Bridey, I can assure you that you will get so much more joy (and help for that matter) if you're kind those around you. Remember, talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words. So show the people who are important to you that they are in fact important to you.

Let your bridesmaids off the hook. Give them a color and let them pick out their own dresses or throw a party for them as opposed to a bachelorette party.

Fantasy Friday ~ A Stunning, Southern California Wedding... Rustic, DIY, and Succulents... Oh My!

Brideys, do me a favor. I want you to scroll down and take a look under "Industry Peeps" specifically, the event designer. Notice anything? Yeah, the bride designed this beautiful wedding. Not an industry peep, but the bride!! And I cannot get over all of the kickass details she incorporated into her wedding! Seriously, I love the framed photographs you see in the opening pic, but I also love how they are hanging from the tree. 

Soooo... Erika and Nathan got married at their private residence in Southern California. And not only do I love that they got married at their home, but I love how they took so many steps to create a marriage between their home and their wedding... Pretty fucking fantastic, right? Between the lovely DIY elements (thank you Erika) all the way down to the rustically AWESOME wedding cake, I just cannot get enough of this wedding. And neither will you.

Gorgeous bouquet!And a gorgeous bride!Erika! I LOVE your stunning veil!!I'm sorry, but could you bust? Amazing first look pics and amazing kiss!If it weren't weird, then I'd totally hang this in my house. FAB centerpieces! Just FAB!!!

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ Timeless Beauty, Amazing Wedding and a Cake to Die For...

Wow. I mean... just look at Angela... She is STUN NING LY beautiful. Her dress, her flawless skin, her amazing figure... Seriously, some girls just have it all, right? And that strapless dress looks like it was absolutely made to fit her body. Talk about a bride who can wear a strapless dress and own it!! If you missed the post I wrote about strapless dresses, then go educate yourselves, brideys. Because Angela is absolutely fabulous in strapless. 

But, besides her amazing figure and her amazing wedding dress, this is a beautiful wedding. But, I would be lying if I said that outside of the dress, the babe and the cool deets of this post, I was particularly drawn to the cake. It's unbelievable. Like, totally breathtaking. And if you know me at all, then you know that I am a sucker for cake. So I invite you to breathe this one in, bridey. Because it's pretty fucking fabulous. Enjoy!

Would you check out the jewels... I love sapphires. I've seriously been considering a new wedding band, and this time around, it's GOT to have sapphires in it!Absolutely LOVE the headpiece this little girl is rockin'.Pin-up or what? Angela, you really are gorgeous!I cannot get over this pic.Unadulterated happiness.

The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Why You Should do "The Lift" from Dirty Dancing

I hear it all the time, "BB, I just want my wedding to be different, ya' know?" Duh... Of course I know, bridey, I hear it all the time! And I agree with you, but the problem is that everything has been done before, right? So the best way to keep your wedding different? Figure out what's unique about the two of you, and build your wedding around it. For example, take three minutes out of your day to watch the YouTube video. It's funny. It's unique. It' the lift. The lift from Dirty Dancing? You picking up what I'm putting down, bridey? And I love it! C'mon, I don't care how old you are, you totally know what I am talking about and if you don't, then check out the scene from Crazy, Stupid Love with Ryan Gosling and Emma Stone where they emulate it: 

Clearly, this particular couple seems to have a knack for dancing (and so do Ryan and Emma), but even if you don't dance (or don't want to), just allow yourself to be inspired by it. Because, if you DO choose to do the lift, your guests will be talking about it for years to come, and who knows... you may end up a YouTube sensation! But, here's the thing, bridey, part of having a different wedding than all of the others, is actually having the balls to be different, and frankly most of you end up succumbing to the pressure of "the norm" when push comes to shove. Sorry, but it's true... The cool thing? You don't have to go SO over the top to have a unique wedding; you just have to have to incorporate some cool shit.

Like what? What I have seen or executed? Well, check out 5 of my faves: 

1. So, you and your fianće love the movies? Well, I am a big fan of having your guests enter via a red carpet. Depending on where you are in the country, it's not a big ticket item, and it certainly sets the tone for an extravagant experience. Even if you hate the movies, your guests will love the red carpet, so go for it!

2. Bhangra dancers. Nothing gets a party started like some Bhangra dancers. And you don't have to be Indian to appreciate just how awesome and energetic this kind of dancing is. It's a fantastic way to get your guests excited, and off of their asses and onto the dance floor.

3. I scream, you scream, we all scream for ice cream! Seems like the only time I see an ice cream sundae bar is at a Mitzvah, and you know what? Adults love a good sundae bar.

Real Wedding Wednesday ~ A Beautiful Harmony

I really, really, really love that Melissa and Robert met on eHarmony. I mean, it feels like yesterday, when I first started planning weddings, that people still met in bars... Just kidding (I mean I met my husband in a bar, but we all can't be that lucky now can we?), but seriously? I do remember when meeting online was somewhat of a faux pas. And now, it's totally commonplace. Seriously, today I'm like a walking advertisement for online dating sites! Just read what Melissa had to say about meeting Robert, and the rest of the deets!

Rachel: "Robert & I met on eHarmony. We actually both remember looking at each other’s profiles. After he saw that I viewed his, he emailed me. We started communicating around Thanksgiving in 2010 and just talked for a few weeks. We went on our first date on 12/11/10 at Cuba Cuba in Denver (Robert is ½ Cuban). We hit it off on our first date and the rest is history!"

Yeah... Wedding Paper Divas! Truly stunning invitations, don't you think?I know that I shouldn't tell you this, but I am really proud of how my little mash up of photographs turned out. I am a wedding planner, not a web designer, and I'm pretty proud! Just sayin'...So honest. So lovely.Loving the purple!!Such a proud papa!! Melissa is barely holding it together...

Super Stylish Sunday ~ A Fabulously Extraordinary Vintage English Wedding

I'm kind of obsessed with photographer, Charlene Morton. A few weeks ago, I featured another one of her FAB weddings here on Bitchless Bride, and when I saw that she had submitted another wedding, I was absolutely overjoyed! Not only are the bride and groom, Laura and Andrew, super rad, but all of the intricate, well thought out details are such a fabulous treat. Not too mention the fucking awesome bridesmaids dress, adorable groomsmen, and delicious looking drinks! Seriously, I just couldn't stop when it came to the number of photographs I just HAD to share with you today... 

Brideys, I'll let Charlene take it away... ENJOY:

The morning of the wedding began at Laura and Andrews Bristol home, where the bridal party preparations were well underway. Hair and make-up artists had set up camp in the kitchen with boxes of rollers, brushes pots and powders. As we arrived the bridesmaids had their hair set and were all in coloured hairnets that held their curled and pinned hair-dos in place. The bridesmaids dresses were all vintage, and had been painstakingly sourced by Laura. Four long laced, prom style dresses (some of which had been hand-dyed pastel tones) were all authentic vintage, absolutely beautiful and were as if they were made to suit each of the girls. The addition of handmade flower corsages tied the bridesmaids together seamlessly. Laura had also sourced matching coloured vintage costume jewelry for each of her bridesmaids that were presented as gifts in dainty handbags she had hand sewn!

Laura’s 1940’s vintage dress had been sourced from America, and was found in a dusty trunk that had not been opened since the wartime. A really incredible find! The dress had been shipped to the UK and altered to reduce the skirt size to a more A-line shape to modernise slightly, and fit Laura perfectly; the delicate long lace arms and a high-laced neck. Preparations were a wholly relaxed morning of fun, smiles and friends.

We headed off to Leigh Court ahead of the Bridal Party. Guests had arrived and convened on the entrance steps, framed against vast sandstone pillars, and soaked them selves in the sun awaiting the arrival of the bride.

The grooms party arrived, each with flashes of 1940’s inspiration, from the quiffed fringes, to contrast brogues and black braces. Even the guests had joined in on the fun, with 1950’s style prom dresses, red lipstick and feathered hats. This wedding really was vintage done well.

Vintage cars transported the bridal party to Leigh Court and they were whisked away to an upstairs room to prepare for the ceremony. (Elements of the day like this created a really traditional feel to the proceedings, and including a greeting line after the ceremony). The sun was well and truly shining and remained bright well into the evening, allowing guests the pleasure of sitting outside and enjoying their pimms – probably for the first time this year!

Completely in LOVE with this kick ass dresses!!! I especially love that they don't match!