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The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ FLASHBACK: Five Crucial Wedding Appointment Etiquette Guidelines

***You'll never guess why I'm posting this one again, right? Well, I was having a rather heated conversation with an industry friend the other night, and a few cocktails later, we came to the conclusion that brides are just fucking rude when it comes to the unwritten rules of wedding planning. When suddenly, I had an overwhelming sense of déjà vu, and then I remembered that I had written the rules in 2013! Check it out!***

February 12, 2013:

I feel like I need to piggyback off of our Vendor Vent for today... It's an important topic, so if you haven't read it, bridey, then check it out. It's a touchy subject for the industry because we are really tired of being taken advantage of, particularly when it comes to appointments... Making them, keeping them, and fucking around with our time. Therefore you need to know the rules of engagement (sorry, couldn't help it!). Ready?

Wedding Appointment Etiquette ~ Five Crucial Guidelines to Follow:

1. Here's my absolute favorite... Bridey, don't ever just "walk-in" to a hotel, bakery, dress shop, photography studio, etc. expecting to be seen, and then get pissed off if you have to wait or are turned away because they can't see you. If you've purchased my wedding planning guide, then you know that this is a big no-no. I mean, you would never just "walk-in" to your doctor's office demanding to be seen, would you? No. And if you did, then the nice lady behind the counter would most likely put you in your place. So please, pay us the same courtesy and phone first. Make an appointment so that we can be prepared for your arrival versus feeling annoyed because you assumed that you could be seen simply because you walked in. 

2. Once you make an appointment, keep it or cancel it with plenty of notice. Going back to the doctor's office example... In most cases you are required to cancel 24-48 hours ahead of time or else you will be charged. Actually, it's becoming more and more common for restaurants, salons, etc. to charge you for not canceling your reservations, appointments, etc., and honestly, I'm surprised we haven't started following suit! Because if you knew that you'd have to pay for our time lost due to no-showing, then I'm sure you'd call to cancel. Right?

3. If you are running late, then please call to let us know particularly if your appointment is scheduled after normal business hours. If you are running early, fantastic! But, don't expect to be seen just because you are a half hour earlier then expected. We may be with another client or we may just need to clear our desks before the meeting...

4. Don't bring an entourage to your appointment. We are interested in your thoughts, your needs and your expectations. When you bring more people to your appointment, then you bring more opinions. So please, give us the opportunity to hear it from you and not everybody else. Because you are the one we are trying to please.

5. Respect our time. I can tell you right now that no wedding vendor needs to sit with you for three hours during an initial consultation. This is especially true (and quite painful) if your meeting started at 6 PM. I'm not saying that you shouldn't discuss everything that is important to you, I'm simply saying that you don't need to talk about your who's coming to your wedding, how much weight you want to lose, your crazy MOH, etc. We care, but after three hours, our excitement starts to wane.

Bridey, you know that I am a straight shooter, and this information is important when you are planning your wedding. I know you want to be respectful, so if you follows these five rules of engagement, then you should be all set. Got it?

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The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Don't be a Bitch! Keep Your Consultation Appointments

Written by The Other Hot Pink Planner

Dear Brides,

As vendors we absolutely love scheduling consultations because to us, it means that people interested in our services and we get excited to meet with a new bride and/or groom! Actually, we love them so much that we offer FREE consultations for our clients (just so you know, not every vendor offers a free consultation, and now I can now understand why)... so when we offer FREE consultations, we greatly appreciate that you hold your end of that bargain and make it to your appointment, and on time. If you're not going to make the appointment, with respect for the other party involved (aka, me, your vendor) please call to say you won't be making it (with more than 20 minutes notice).

You see, many of us don't have a store front (which is how we are affordable to you) therefore we don’t have set hours. This makes it easy for us to schedule and work around YOUR schedule and therefore putting our personal and family time on the back burner. So, please, brides and grooms, if you schedule a vendor consultation... Please don’t just NOT show up! If you found a different vendor for the service, fantastic! We completely understand and are happy for you! But, please respect our time and call to cancel rather than just not show up.

The truth? It sucks because just like you, we have lives. We have families. But what we don't have? Time to spare! So, be considerate to others, especially your vendors (and your potential vendors). Just because you are a bride doesn't give you the right to be inconsiderate! You're not the only ones in the world getting married. You aren't better than the next bride, and you don't get special treatment because you're getting married! And bare in mind, if you chose to have a no call/no show to a vendor appointment and you happened to really like that vendor's work, don't be surprised if they're now 'booked' for your wedding day.

(I HAVE to add my two cents... The other side of this equation? Make an appointment with your vendors. Don't just walk into a hotel, florist, DJ, etc. and think that because they are in the service industry, that you will be seen, and immediately. Just like you, your vendors maintain a schedule, and also schedule appointments with other brides. I mean... Would you ever just walk in and expect to see your dentist or doctor? Probably not, because you know that they don't give a shit that you were "just in the area"... So, let's go back to the basics, brideys... PHONE FIRST!!)

Thank you, 

The Other Hot Pink Planner*

*Check out another vent from The Other Hot Pink Planner here

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The Truth Hurts Tuesday ~ Five Crucial Wedding Appointment Etiquette Guidelines

I feel like I need to piggyback off of our Vendor Vent for today... It's an important topic, so if you haven't read it, bridey, then check it out. It's a touchy subject for the industry because we are really tired of being taken advantage of, particularly when it comes to appointments... Making them, keeping them, and fucking around with our time. Therefore you need to know the rules of engagement (sorry, couldn't help it!). Ready?

Wedding Appointment Etiquette ~ Five Crucial Guidelines to Follow:

1. Here's my absolute favorite... Bridey, don't ever just "walk-in" to a hotel, bakery, dress shop, photography studio, etc. expecting to be seen, and then get pissed off if you have to wait or are turned away because they can't see you. If you've purchased my wedding planning guide, then you know that this is a big no-no. I mean, you would never just "walk-in" to your doctor's office demanding to be seen, would you? No. And if you did, then the nice lady behind the counter would most likely put you in your place. So please, pay us the same courtesy and phone first. Make an appointment so that we can be prepared for your arrival versus feeling annoyed because you assumed that you could be seen simply because you walked in.