Seriously bridey? Can you please wipe that stunned look off of your face? I mean, I can't.... I can't even get into this again with you. What is IT, you ask. Well, I am so fucking tired of talking in circles about something so simple, that I can hardly write about it. In a nutshell? READ, bridey, read! Read your contracts, read your Banquet Event Orders, read your emails... Seriously, I need you to read your brains out, bridey so that you aren't completely blindsided by the decisions you are making now. Yes, I know that reading can be somewhat of a tedious task, but it's critically important so that you're not shell shocked with the invoices start rolling in.
Bridey, even if you're working with a highly intelligent wedding planner (ahem); somebody who will steer you in the right direction with each of your wedding decisions, it's still important that YOU understand what's included (and what's not included) with every vendor you hire, and with every item purchased. I can only help you manage your expectations to a certain degree before I pass the baton and expect you to take a little bit of responsibility for your actions.
For example... I am working with a bride who is a bit of a flighty mess (which is why she hired me), and as we are closing in on her wedding day, she told me that she is "super disappointed with how it all worked out with the venue."